Why It’s Not So Hard to Succeed

Many people aren’t successful because they are afraid to fail. Or because they give up after some time, don’t find the power to try one more time, listen to the nay-sayers, don’t believe in themselves, aren’t confident or think they aren’t good enough.

Well, most people are wrong.

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Because success and happiness are possible. Every human being has the ability and potential to live a great life and do whatever he puts his mind to. But they simply choose not to do it. And they stay in their comfort zone – where nothing new, exciting or challenging will ever happen – for the rest of their life.

And if you start thinking about it and analyzing all the things that could go wrong, you can come up with a thousand reasons not to follow your dreams and work on your goals. But that is just ridiculous.

Remember that the only thing that prevents you from building the ideal lifestyle is your mind.

It will often play tricks on you and try to convince you that it’s not worth it. Your job it so recognize these thoughts, eliminate them and tell your mind that it’s all simple, easy and totally possible.

Soon you will have built the habit of positive thinking and will no longer have to fight your inner voice. Now it will be cooperating with you.

So you can think of many reasons to give up and consider success impossible. But here are a few that will tell you why it’s not so hard to turn your dreams into a reality and live happily.

  1. You can hack your life.

You can take control of every aspect of your life and find an easier and simpler way to do anything.

That may take a lot of time, experiments, failures and efforts. But the final result will be amazing. You’ll get in shape, be constantly motivated, full of energy, sleep well, train every day, become stronger, leaner, more intelligent, memorize better, become productive, outgoing, you’ll know how to make money and once you get that you’ll have the courage to start investing and starting new businesses, and so on.

Don’t forget that all the information you need is out there. Browse the Web for what you need and see how others have done it. Whatever you want in life, someone somewhere has already figured out how to get it. So instead of wasting a lot of time, follow his steps.

Watch videos on YouTube. Sometimes it’s priceless. Read books by people who have succeeded and take their tips. This way you’ll know what mistakes not to make.

  1. Most people are lazy and give up easily.

Of course, that’s awful statistics. But it’s true. And the best you can do is to benefit from it.

That fact is such a strong proof that success is reachable more than ever. Here is why:

The competition today is big. And it gets bigger every day. True. But only 5% of those who try succeed.

That happens for multiple reasons. People usually don’t even start their journey to success because they think they are too old/young/poor/weak/etc. or don’t have enough time/money/resources/potential. But when they do, most of them give up after one try, others lose hope and motivation. Some get easily distracted and lose track of what they do and eventually ditch it. Others may start doing something else instead. Or aren’t confident enough. Or don’t see any progress and after some time give up on their dream.

And that’s why only few make it until the end. They are the ones who are ready to dedicate a lot, to work hard, who stay persistent, concentrated and motivated.

Actually, as I think of it, this is a great natural selection. Because only the ones who are ready to handle success with all its side effects, and who will know how to react and behave with a lot of money, for instance, stay until the end.

So don’t give up now. You will succeed eventually.

  1. Opportunities are everywhere.

Another thing we take for granted are the countless opportunities we encounter each day.

Every next person you meet can offer you a position in his company that can lead you to your dream job. But for that you need to meet new people, know how to introduce and promote yourself and communicate easily.

At each moment you can think of a million-dollar idea. Your job is to notice it and start working on it so that you can make it come true.

Someone can offer you something you can’t turn down. For that matter you need to speak up, share your thoughts and make them public, try to reach influencers and so on.
You can start a blog, for example, and write about the things you’re passionate about. Soon someone can reach you, when you least expect it, with a great offer. It could be anything.

What I want to say is that the world is full of possibilities. And if we notice them and take them, great things will start happening.

So start going out more and talking with more people, start reaching people on the Internet, and whatever else you can think of.

That’s why it’s not so hard to succeed. What are your suggestions? What other reasons can you add?  

 

 

 

 

How to Live in a Non-Understanding World

Not long ago I was constantly feeling misunderstood. I blamed others, felt alone in my endeavors and thought it was unfair.
I was playing the role of a victim and often missed opportunities or got depressed because no one seemed to understand me.

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Some of you may have felt the same way at some point in their lives. Not being understood can be an awful thing once you focus on it and if you let it take control, it will prevent you from following your dreams.

But then I realized a few other aspects of life:

- there are all kinds of people and many won’t understand you the same way others won’t like you or approve your decisions;

- like-minded people are out there, you just need to look somewhere else;

- not having people with the same goals and desires doesn’t make you alone, they still love you, you just have another path to walk that is different from theirs;

- the world is definitely not responsible for that, neither are those who don’t understand you. It’s a natural thing and you don’t need to blame or judge;

- you’re not alone – many of the world’s geniuses, and the ones who created the masterpieces we admire today, had no one to encourage them and were often considered crazy. But that didn’t stop them;

- you can achieve whatever you’re after in life even without any support.

And here are the ways to deal with people who show no understanding:

  1. Walk in their shoes

Other people have problems too, often bigger than yours.
They have things to worry about, things to do, others to look after and many other things we don’t know about.

So instead of waiting for them to understand you, why don’t you try to understand them? To consider what’s going on in their lives, and help them.

  1. Ditch the expectations

You feel bad when you’re not understood simply because you expect others to understand you.

But think about it – who said that another human being, with its unique and totally different way of thinking, is supposed to agree with what you say or do, and even understand and support you.

When you get rid of expecting others to behave and treat you in a certain way, you will no longer be disappointed in their actions and reactions to what you do.

  1. Accept

I love acceptance. Once you see a situation through it, everything is okay.

Accept the people in your life as they are. Then you won’t expect anything from them.
If they don’t agree with you life choices, be okay with that. Because it doesn’t really matter even if they did.

After all, you want certain things, do something about them, and fail or succeed. And others have nothing to do with it.

Accept the fact that the world is a mixture of all kinds of people. Whatever you do, there will always be someone to disagree and many will not understand you.

  1. Stick to your beliefs

Under no condition, should you stop taking actions upon your dreams, passion and goals only because you’re not being understood by people in your surroundings.

Try to look at the bigger picture, visualize your dream as if it has already happened. Then you’ll remember why you started working on it at the first place and will see that it matters.

Also, most probably once you achieve it, others will see it has always been worth it.

  1. Understand yourself

As long as you do that, you won’t feel the need of others to understand you too. Your own approval is the only thing you need to keep going after your goals. You’re the only one who knows what is the right thing to do.

Having a good relationship with yourself consists of not lying to yourself, accepting, loving, caring for and appreciating who you are. If you can do that, you can also be in peace on the inside and that is all you need to succeed.
Inner peace is the highest happiness and no other person can do anything to ruin it.

  1. Compassion

Show compassion towards everyone you meet on your journey because you never know what he’s been through to get here.

Often the ones that don’t understand you are also not understood. Maybe they just need someone to tell them that everything is going to be just fine, to listen to them, send them love, appreciation and show them respect.
Once they feel understood, they’ll be able to open their heart, to be aware of other people’s desire for approval and to be more supportive.

  1. Let go

Letting go is a great thing to do as it sets you free and lets you experience life and enjoy it.

Let go of the need to be understood – because not meeting it causes you suffering, of the expectations, judging others, blaming the world or society, worries, fears, etc.

Instead, embrace simplicity, mindfulness and compassion. Be grateful for the people in your life because even if they don’t understand you, they are there for you. They love you and this is the ultimate understanding because they are not trying to change you.

Appreciate having them in your life and never feel alone again.

Life becomes better and simpler once you implement these things. Change your attitude and you’ll be unstoppable.

Dealing with not being understood this way is noble, beneficial to everyone and makes the world a better place.

The Reason You Wake Up

I met some friends at a café the other day and had a quality time.

Someone mentioned what time he got up this morning and that’s where the conversation headed. I said I went to bed at 4 a.m. and somehow managed to get up around 9. My sleep patterns have been a bit messed up lately but getting up at that time leads to going to bed earlier in the evening and eventually getting back on track.

Anyways, what stroke me was a thing one of my friends said. She said I’ve done a good job not sleeping in and then added that she can’t get up early if she doesn’t have something particular to do. And because she didn’t want to waste her last few days off from uni, she gathered with other friends earlier in the day so that she can have a reason to get up earlier and not spent half of the day sleeping.

And then I realized that some people needed to make something – whatever it is – their reason to get up. But if you summarize it, after a few years you come to the conclusion it was not worth it.

What I mean is that I have my ‘why’. I get up with purpose every morning. It may be to write, read some stuff, work on personal projects, go to the gym, or do something else that’s important to me.

The funny thing is that I probably won’t do it because of classes, to meet friends, or to just be up. Because most of the things we do in our days are non productive and time wasting activities that prevent us from living with a purpose.

That is why we need to identify what is the thing we’re ready to get up early for. What makes us start the day with an intention and excitement? What do we look forward to when we go to bed?

It’s also known as purpose. The driving force behind every action we take. Without it, it won’t last long and success won’t come. But by having it, and keeping it throughout the process, we manage to stay motivated and eventually achieve our goal.

Here is why having a purpose gives you a reason to wake up:

  • you can’t wait to start the new day so that you can work on your project/goal/plan or else again;
  • you are one step closer to your purpose;
  • you often start waking up early and having a healthy and powerful morning routine only because of your purpose;
  • it keeps you going throughout the whole day;
  • it gives meaning to everything you do;
  • you are full of motivation;
  • your actions are purposeful;
  • it gets you back on track after going through a tough period;
  • it makes your life challenging;
  • you never get bored;
  • you find great pleasure when doing something connected to your purpose;
  • you improve many other aspects of your life as a result;
  • you let go of other less significant projects that are wasting your time;
  • you become productive;
  • you are full of enthusiasm;
  • you are inspiration for those around you because they see you’re driven by a mighty power;
  • you live more consciously;
  • you focus easily;
  • it’s your goal number one;
  • it’s the first thing on your to-do list every day;
  • you visualize the success.

This can be about anything. Something you want to possess, the new person you want to become, the business you’re planning to start. It can be a personal or work project, a desire to become wealthy, to live in a bigger house, to become emotionally independent, to acquire new skills and habits.

A purpose is always connected with the thing you truly want, deep inside you. You may have not found it yet, but when you do, it will become your driving force and the reason you wake up every morning.

If you haven’t found what moves your hearth, however, you can’t say you have a purpose. You may have many plans and goals, but it’s not the same.

Steve Pavlina, one of the people whose writings have helped me a lot, shares how to discover your life purpose in about 20 minutes.

In a nutshell, he basically advises us to ask ourselves a few questions and to be as honest as we can.

So finding your purpose is one of the best things you can do now that will define the rest of your life. Everything changes for the better once you know it.

Of course there are people whose reasons to wake up are not good for the society and the world in general, and that’s why there’s no balance on the planet.
If we were all doing it for the greater good, things would be different.

I urge you to find your driving force, make it meaningful and for others – not only for yourself. And then follow it every single day.

 

 

 

When You Feel Lost

When was the last time you felt like yourself?

I notice how people, including myself, often feel lost. Sometimes we just feel that everything is pointless, we lose hope and track of time and we let desperation, regrets and sadness take control.

It’s an awful place to be at and getting there can have permanent damage on us. We may ditch important projects, take a serious decision and make a drastic change while feeling that way and that will have consequences. We may go many steps back in our self-improvement or go back to old habits.

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So something must be done on order not to feel like that anymore.

First, it’s important to analyze why you had that feeling the last time. The reason may be one of these:

  • you’ve been doing something you don’t like for years – a job maybe;
  • you aren’t following your dreams;
  • you’ve given up on something important to you;
  • you live by someone else’s standards;
  • you live unconsciously;
  • you’re always busy;
  • there’s too much stress and anxiety in your life;
  • you spend too much time with people you have nothing in common with;
  • you’re in a bad relationship;
  • you’re not sure if you’re doing the right things.

Then it’s time to start noticing the details. Be aware of each time you don’t agree with someone but pretend to, do something you don’t enjoy, feel bad or sad, have regrets and doubts.

Now think again about the last time you felt like yourself. Visualize it. Who else was there? What were you doing? What was different?

Answering these questions will give you the answers you need. You know what really makes you happy but sometimes you tend to forget. So remind yourself of all the activities you enjoy, the people you like spending time with, the hobbies you once had, the little things you loved that made you smile and the way they made you feel.

Happiness is a state of mind. And you’ll never be contented with your life if you don’t let yourself be who you really are.

Most people have jobs they don’t like, colleagues they can’t stand and play a role in front of others. They leave their dreams behind so that they can have time for their daily commitments and tasks. They are prisoners of their own mind and full of fears and regrets and pretend to be someone else in order to avoid facing the real problem.

Living that way is harmful because your mind and soul need more freedom, inspiration, time for yourself, things that make you laugh, people that love you and happy moments. What they need less of is stress, bad choices, wrong people, caring too much about what others say, great expectations and unfulfilled dreams.

So don’t wait for the next time you feel lost to do something about that. Act now. Happiness is here, you just need to embrace it. Enjoy the present moment and start living more consciously.

Once you realize how beautiful things are right now and accept yourself for who you are, things will get better. There’s so much to be grateful for and so many possibilities around you. Focus on that!

 

20 Things Life is Too Short For: Part 2

And here are some more things life is too short for:

11. Regrets

What’s done is done. It doesn’t really matter who did it or what it was. The past just loses its meaning in the present moment.

And in order for us to grow, we should learn from the past and our mistakes, accept them and move on by letting go and forgiving ourselves.

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12. Trying to please others

There will always be someone that won’t like you and trying to impress him or do anything to grab his attention is a waste of time.

Whoever deserves to be in your life, will find a way.

13. Thinking small

You may be in doubt, feel like now is not the right moment or you’re not ready, but life is too short not to play big.

So if you want something, go get it. Make that call, meet that person, write that book, take that job, and do whatever else you feel the urge to do.

14. Comparing yourself to others

Every person is an individual and that’s what makes him unique.

Don’t try to compare yourself to another human being just because it won’t be a fair play. Everyone’s had his own experience, way of thinking and seeing the world, dreams and fears, etc.

Even if someone seems to have more than you, stop for a while and think about the criteria you’re using. Most of the times the one you’re comparing yourself to is in a worse position.

15. Fooling yourself

We’re often afraid to be honest with ourselves and prefer to live in an illusion. But that usually ends bad.

It’s better to stop fooling ourselves and living in lies. Instead, admit your desires, decisions, dreams and doubts. And accept them. Then go and do something about it.

16. Worries

Worries are one of the most ridiculous things man has ever thought of.

First, because 90% of the times they don’t come true and things are never as bad as we imagine them to be. And second, worrying now about something that might or might not happen in the future is absolutely pointless.

17. Staying in a bad relationship

It’s so sad how some people stay with another person for years, or for their whole life, only because they feel comfortable, think they don’t deserve anything better and no one else will like them.

But a relationship like that is not love, or happiness. It’s just two people being comfortable with each other and afraid to go out there and start living again.

Don’t fall into this trap. Or if you do, be brave enough to just go away.

18. Thinking too much

We tend to go into details about events, other people’s lives and almost anything. We think that others have a certain opinion of us, we think something bad might happen and play every possible scenario in our heads. We think we’re not good enough, we think of yesterday, or something we miss.

We just think too much, and live too little. It’s time to start being here now and experiencing what is.

19. Not following your dreams

You may think you’re too young or too old to start a business, too fat or too skinny to be an athlete, that you lack experience for a certain job position, don’t have what it takes to be a doctor and save lives, or else.

The thing is that the only limitations that can stop you from achieving anything are the ones you put to yourself.

20. Not being happy

We put happiness off for later, like we do with many others things. But the truth is that happiness is happening now, we just need to see it.

It lies in the people we love, in the things we find great pleasure, in silence, simplicity, appreciation. It’s here, and now. And everything is perfect just the way it is.

Life is too short not to realize how beautiful things around you are, how many things you have that you should be grateful for, and that peace and contentment are hidden in the present moment.

The Root of Our Problems

All the problems we have come from us not being okay with something and discontent with the way things (or we ourselves) are.

We seek happiness in external sources (food, alcohol, other people, etc.) We don’t trust ourselves, we don’t believe we’re good enough or that we deserve a great life and are able to change.

We’re not confident with our body, appearance, behavior and performance. We expect events to turn out in a certain way and people to act as we expect them to. And when that outcome doesn’t happen, we’re sad, disappointed and even get angry.

We’re always comparing, wishing we were somewhere else and never happy with what we’re doing right now.

We sabotage our success because we’re not sure we deserve it, or we doubt ourselves and don’t even try.

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All these are common problems we all have today and are the root of our discontent with life.

These are also the things I write about in my book The Tao of Happiness.

I think that in order to be happy we need to stop judging and comparing, let go of ideals and expectations. We should trust, love and appreciate ourselves and realize that everything around us is a reason to be grateful.

It’s something we can all do at any given moment only if we decide and allow ourselves to be happy.

In the book I explain how all the things on our mind that we should let go of are stopping us from moving forward and experiencing life right now. Because how can you be here and enjoy the present consciously if you’re having regrets about the past and worries about the future…

The solution then is to be happy with the way things are. This is the Zen way and it’s the path to contentment.

You can still try to improve yourself but this time it will be after you’ve accepted yourself for who you are and are okay with that. You can make changes but you don’t need that in order to be happy because it’s something from the outer world. And you don’t have anything to do with it when it comes down to your happiness… because everything happens inside of you.

Having found joy from within means that no matter how things turn out, you’ll find a way to make the best of the situation and find its positives.

And before you set goals, before you want to go somewhere else or change the person you are in order to live better and be happier, before you strive for success and want more in your life, stop for a while.

Slow down and look around. Maybe there are things you haven’t noticed before. And often what you take for granted is the actual reason for your happiness, you just need to open your eyes for it.

Then try to stop interfering and just go with the flow. Life is beautiful the way it is and letting things be is natural. That’s how we embrace simplicity and bring peace and emotional freedom in our life.

These are the things I want everyone to realize because many remain blind for them. Those who have so much, whose days are filled with abundance, don’t see it and want to change it all, wishing that what they’re looking for will be better. They expect things, don’t appreciate the ones they have now, and thus live a life full of regrets, doubts, fears of missing out, plans and ungratefulness.

I want to remind you that this isn’t the way life should be. Instead, we can all be happy, all the time. A little change in the mindset is all we need and once we look at things from another perspective, the same world we live in starts to look amazing. And we live every next day to the fullest.

 

 

20 Things Life is Too Short For: Part 1

Most of us live like they’re going to live forever, but let’s face it – it probably won’t happen.

I’m an optimist but an important fact we should never forget is how mortal we are, and how short life is.

The point of you being reminded of it each day is to realize that our time is limited and it’s too precious to be wasted . Keeping that in mind will also make you appreciate things more, be grateful and enjoy the present.

So here are some things life is too short for (that, unfortunately, we spend too much time doing):

1. Holding grudges 

That’s so wrong. It’s harmful and you don’t win anything by doing it.

It means that you’re holding onto something bad someone has done to you in the past, you keep resentment in your heart, and probably a desire for a revenge.

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But whatever that person has done, it’s in the past. There’s nothing you can do about it. And instead of ruining your present moment by keeping this anger, why don’t you let it go and forgive that person?
This way you’re setting both you and him free and each of you can go on with their lives.

2. Having a job you hate

Everyone that has a job he can’t stand, with people he doesn’t like, a boss that is treating him bad, no motivation to work, low salary and that spends his all day thinking about its end, is slowly dying.

Come on, life is too short for that! Be brave, take control of your life and at least find another job.

3. Waiting for the perfect moment

If you’re doing that, I can tell you one thing – it will never come. Not because it doesn’t exist, but because you don’t know where to look for it.

The perfect moment is right now, right where you are. Nothing is more precious that the present and the sooner you realize it, the faster you’ll start experiencing it.

4. Hiding your feelings

If you don’t show them now, then when?

If you feel something, please express it as strong as you can. Your expectations may not be answered, but it’s better than keeping it all in yourself.

5. Not to travel

We live in a beautiful world. And whatever you think you’ve seen, there’s much more out there.

Life is like one big book and your place is just the introduction. So dive into the world of traveling and do whatever it takes to make money and time to go to some place far away.

6. Living the way others want you to

Seriously, life is too short for that. Everyone around you has so many ideas of what you show do, say and think, that if you let them take control, you’ll have no voice.

Living by someone else’s standards isn’t living at all. So do something about it.

7. Being a materialist

It’s not about the stuff you have, but about what person you become, what you do with your life, how you treat others and what you leave behind.

Belongings don’t matter. Money is needed so that you can have enough, not more than it. And everything else is just material stuff.

8. Stressing over things you can’t change

There is only one thing you can do about them – acceptance.

Seeing things as they are and realizing that’s the way they should be is a relief. It sets you free from unnecessary worries, stress and fears and lets you live happily and simply.

Remember that everything has its purpose. If you can’t change it, accept it, let it be and go with the flow.

9. Spending time with people you don’t like

Such a waste of time. You don’t need them, and they definitely don’t need someone that doesn’t like them. So just let everyone follow his path.

10. Not doing things you enjoy

Life is too short to do things you hate, but also not to do things you love.

For me, life is too short not to write. For you, it will be something else. Find your thing, dedicate yourself to it and feel the greatest contentment.