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1. There’s no such thing as not being a creative person. All human beings are.
If you can build a world of your own, with all those expectations, ideals, fantasies, dreams, goals, plans, regrets, memories, opinions, values, visions, questions and answers, then you can also build anything else. You just haven’t decided to bring it to the physical world yet.

2. I can never be bored as in each moment I discover something new about myself, a deeper layer of my own universe. And to find another person that interesting, who has such deep content, would be an awfully big adventure.

3. We’re all secretly searching for meaning, seeking it in every outer source, until one day we realize it’s always been right in front of our eyes – on the inside.

4. Some things just sound good. Traveling the world can make you the loneliest person, money can make you lose your soul, being brave, confident and admired as the person you look up to may turn your life into a constant battle with yourself. Keep that in mind.

5. The deepest sorrow can become your most valuable lesson and the best thing that has ever happened to you. Just give it a chance.

6. I should never say never, I know. But there’s something I’m sure about – there’s never going to be a day in my life when I’ll have nothing to write about.

7. Having a weakness and the chance to do something about it and improve yourself is another thing that gives our lives a meaning and makes us feel like we’re doing something.

8. Stop asking for opinion. Whatever they tell you and however good and objective they’re trying to be, what they say has nothing to do with your own world and who you are.
The only opinion that matters is yours. So start asking yourself about all the stuff you need and try to be as honest as you can.

9. It doesn’t matter where you come from. But lately, I’ve come up to the conclusion that it also doesn’t matter where you go. Too many people focus on these two destinations and ignore the only one that’s essential – where you are. So look around, be awake and feel alive.

10. You may say that you don’t like change and are not really good at it, but let me tell you a secret – you already changed a few times since the beginning of this sentence. As in every moment we are different from who we were in the previous one. And it’s neither good, nor bad. It’s just life.

Why We Don’t Get Things Done

That’s a guest post I wrote for Time Management Ninja.com. You can find the whole article here.

Being (or not being) productive is one of the many things we stress over. Often at the end of the day we feel exhausted, and unsatisfied with our performance and results, even though we’ve completed many things.

Instead of simplifying our daily routine by doing our tasks and getting done what needs to be done, we prefer to worry about it, to fear the possibility of failing, to anguish over where to start, over-think the process and so on.

You know all the things you should be doing.  But do you know why you aren’t doing them?

Here are 10 reasons why, despite your efforts, you still don’t get things done:

  1. You Don’t Trust Yourself.
    You’ve failed to change your habits many times, and now even you yourself don’t believe that your next attempt is going to be different. It’s time to really do it this time.
  2. You Have Too Many Distractions
    A lot of things prevent you from focusing on your activities and goals. Stuff like browsing the Internet, too much information, people entering the room, problems, worries, plans, and notifications on the phone. The only solution is to eliminate them.
  3. You Have No Purpose
    We can’t really achieve anything if we don’t consider it important. We need to have goals to keep us motivated. It will also give us drive, a reason to keep going and not give up in hard moments. We’ll have a vision of what we want and will know that the only way to get it is to take small steps each day.
  4. You Over Think It
    It’s ridiculous how much time we waste thinking about what needs to be done, rather than actually working on it. It’s time to let go of what didn’t work out in the past or what might go wrong in the future and focus on the present moment – it’s just you and the task.
  5. You Focus on Non-Essential Tasks
    Most of the things we have on our to-do lists are not important. Nothing will actually happen if you don’t complete them. So eliminate them and focus on the essential. After all, only 20% of the things you do give you 80% of your results. That’s the key to productivity.

Simple Ways to Deal with Anxiety During The Holidays and Make the Best of Them

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The holidays are almost here.

They are the time of the year for spending time with the family, enjoying the comfort of your home, preparing delicious meals, resting and not thinking about the hectic everyday life.

But here are the things most people actually do during these days:

  • shopping;
  • trying to find the best gift, which is also the expensive one;
  • having to visit relatives and friends they see once or twice a year;
  • decorating;
  • buying a Christmas tree;
  • overeating;
  • feeling nostalgic about their childhood with all this Christmas atmosphere;
  • New Year’s resolutions;
  • plans for the next year;
  • getting depressed about what they didn’t achieve in this one.

And all this makes us anxious and brings stress.

Not only do we miss out on the rest we’re supposed to have, but we are even too busy and have too many things to think about than usual.

And the holidays become a complicated and stressful experience, rather than the peaceful family-oriented series of events they actually are.

So here are a few simple ways to deal with this anxiety and make the best of this winter’s holidays:

  1. Let go of the need to have the perfect holiday.

Many people try to reach a level of perfection by gathering all the family members (which means having to have awkward silence on the table as some of them are just too distant or listening to arguments between others), preparing and serving as many meals as they can, buying a lot of stuff, having a great Christmas tree and impressive decoration, etc.

And it almost never makes up for all the money that is spent, the lost time, efforts, stress and expectations.

Instead, why don’t you just invite over the ones (no matter if they are family or just friends) that make you feel good, that have been there for you and you love spending time with?
Why don’t you make a small number of meals, but make them with love?
Or just give these people your presence, the nice atmosphere of your home, a warm welcome and gift cards instead of fancy presents?

  1. You don’t need to go to any special place.

Stop worrying about choosing a great restaurant to take your partner to, or saving for the most famous destination to visit.

You don’t actually need to go anywhere else if you don’t feel like it.

Just staying at home, not thinking about everyday life (like projects at work, stuff you need to do next month, money problems) and enjoying your family’s company, can make you much more contented than going to a luxurious hotel.

  1. The Christmas atmosphere is not that hard to have.

Stop wasting so much money on all the things you see others buy.

Have a small decorative Christmas tree, bake some cookies that will make your place smell nice, light the fireplace, lie on the sofa with your loved ones and watch a Christmas movie.
That is more than enough to give you a pleasant holiday experience.

  1. Say no more often.

Say no to an invitation for a party or else if you don’t want to go.

Say no to cooking so much only because everyone else is doing it.

Choose only a small part of the decorations you usually put up and the shopping you do.

  1. Stop planning, start experiencing.

You can spend all December planning how you’ll celebrate Christmas and New Year’s Eve, what you’re going to do after that to get back in shape and work flow, what your goals for the next year will be and what you want to be different.

But during that time you’re missing out on what’s important.

So let’s focus on making your kids happy, smiling more, giving presents instead of waiting to receive some, enjoying the snow instead of complaining how cold it is.

These are the simple ways I’m offering that may just be solution that will make your holidays more pleasant, full of great moments and unforgettable.

Here are some posts you may find useful:
Simplify your life during the holidays
Simple, but special gift ideas
Decoration that brings joy
Clever Christmas Hacks

 

 

How To Be Successful Without Having Stress in Your Life

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This is a guest post I wrote. It was originally posted here.

You already know what it really takes to succeed, you know it’s simple but not easy as it requires time, dedication, focus and consistency.

But I’ve noticed that once people start leveling up in life, they also bring more stress into their daily routine. And instead of enjoying the benefits of their career, bigger salary, relationships, new habits and lifestyle, personal successes and wins, they become more stressed and exhausted than ever.

Here is what to do about it:

1. Let go of the past.

The main problem is that you carry a significant part of your past with you and relive even the bad moments, which makes you upset and depressed.

You can’t really be here and perform well if your thoughts are in the past.

Not only do you need to let go of what has already happened, but you need to do it right after that. The point is to have a clear mind and be able to focus on your current task, be creative, think of great ideas and not to waste time and energy on regrets, analyzing past events, or else.

2. Learn from the successes, not the mistakes.

If you think about the past, at least focus only on the good parts.

That works better in every area of life – personal development, relationships, business, sport, education, marriage, etc.

If you follow that rule, you’re following a principle of Buddhism, psychology, business, and one that all successful people out there believe in.

We tend to focus on what went wrong when things aren’t working out. That discourages us. We feel bad, guilty and hopeless. We start blaming and judging and everything fails even more.

So the next time the project you’re working on doesn’t look good, try to remember what has gone right so far, what led you to it in the first place and how you felt at the time. This will motivate you and you’ll be more likely to repeat that behaviour.

The mistakes we made are in the past, there’s nothing you can change about them and they certainly have no place in your present moment. Reminding ourselves of failures only brings more pain.

Instead, think about your achievements, no matter how small. Don’t be afraid to admit your successes and feel good about them. They will remind you that things can work out, and that having succeeded once means you can do it again.

3. Know how to rest.

We don’t really know how to rest properly.

We think about the next task on the list, worry about not having done things right, or not having enough time.

And after that “break” we feel even more exhausted and overburdened than before.

Relaxing is meditation, actually. It means emptying your mind and focusing on the present moment, not thinking about anything that has happened or may happen later.

You can rest only when you leave work, other people’s problems, your worries and thoughts behind. Then you’ll be able to just breathe deeply, be here, and do nothing. And that’s not going to be boring, it’s going to be your peaceful time.

4. Focus.

Another thing that brings us stress on the way to success is our inability to focus. Because then we don’t do things well and we need to do the task all over again.

The point is to be mindful of the activity, to be present while doing it and not to let any thoughts connected to other stuff into your mind.

Don’t think about what you’re doing right now, just do it. That takes away the stress, and there’s so much wisdom in that simple technique.

5. Let go of the fear of failure.

That’s probably the biggest source of stress.

Let’s stop thinking about the result, about what’s right or wrong. Accept whatever happens. It’s not bad, it’s just different from what you’ve expected.

Failure is a part of your past. It doesn’t matter now. But it also shows that you’ve tried. And that puts you ahead of others who are still planning and not doing anything.

Remember one thing: you can never fail if you know you’ve done your best.

Be okay with the way things turn out and know for yourself that you did what you had to. There will be another chance to try again.

These simple, but powerful things are all you need to know and focus on so that you can eliminate stress and be able to enjoy the fruits of your hard work.

Inspiring Steve Jobs Quotes on Passion, Life and Technology

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Steve Jobs changed the world.

Most of us enjoy his legacy every day, but what more we can do is learn from what he had to say, read his thoughts on important stuff and try to think about it, pay attention to what truly matters and see life, death, time and technology through his eyes.

Here are some of the deepest, wittiest and wisest things Steve Jobs has said about the world we live in:

  1. Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.
  2. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on.
  3. Older people sit down and ask, ‘What is it?’ but the boy asks, ‘What can I do with it?’.
  4. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
  5. Everyone here has the sense that right now is one of those moments when we are influencing the future.
  6. For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: ‘If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?’ And whenever the answer has been ‘No’ for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
  7. And it comes from saying no to 1,000 things to make sure we don’t get on the wrong track or try to do too much. We’re always thinking about new markets we could enter, but it’s only by saying no that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.
  8. The design of the Mac wasn’t what it looked like, although that was part of it. Primarily, it was how it worked. To design something really well, you have to get it. You have to really grok what it’s all about. It takes a passionate commitment to really thoroughly understand something, chew it up, not just quickly swallow it.
  9. The system is that there is no system. That doesn’t mean we don’t have process. Apple is a very disciplined company, and we have great processes. But that’s not what it’s about. Process makes you more efficient.
  10. Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower.
  11. You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
  12. My favourite things in life don’t cost any money. It’s really clear that the most precious resource we all have is time.
  13. Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works.
  14. Creativity is just connecting things. When you ask creative people how they did something, they feel a little guilty because they didn’t really do it, they just saw something. It seemed obvious to them after a while. That’s because they were able to connect experiences they’ve had and synthesize new things.
  15. That’s been one of my mantras – focus and simplicity. Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains.
  16. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.
  17. Stay hungry, stay foolish.
  18. It’s not a faith in technology. It’s faith in people.
  19. I have a great respect for incremental improvement, and I’ve done that sort of thing in my life, but I’ve always been attracted to the more revolutionary changes. I don’t know why. Because they’re harder. They’re much more stressful emotionally. And you usually go through a period where everybody tells you that you’ve completely failed.
  20. And no, we don’t know where it will lead. We just know there’s something much bigger than any of us here.
  21. To turn really interesting ideas and fledgling technologies into a company that can continue to innovate for years, it requires a lot of disciplines.
  22. Japan’s very interesting. Some people think it copies things. I don’t think that anymore. I think what they do is reinvent things. They will get something that’s already been invented and study it until they thoroughly understand it. In some cases, they understand it better than the original inventor.
  23. These technologies can make life easier, can let us touch people we might not otherwise. You may have a child with a birth defect and be able to get in touch with other parents and support groups, get medical information, the latest experimental drugs. These things can profoundly influence life. I’m not downplaying that.
  24. It’s hard to tell with these Internet startups if they’re really interested in building companies or if they’re just interested in the money. I can tell you, though: If they don’t really want to build a company, they won’t luck into it. That’s because it’s so hard that if you don’t have a passion, you’ll give up.
  25. You know, my main reaction to this money thing is that it’s humorous, all the attention to it, because it’s hardly the most insightful or valuable thing that’s happened to me.
  26. Things don’t have to change the world to be important.
  27. Technology is nothing. What’s important is that you have a faith in people, that they’re basically good and smart, and if you give them tools, they’ll do wonderful things with them.
  28. Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me. Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful, that’s what matters to me.
  29. Design is a funny word. Some people think design means how it looks. But of course, if you dig deeper, it’s really how it works.
  30. When you’re a carpenter making a beautiful chest of drawers, you’re not going to use a piece of plywood on the back, even though it faces the wall and nobody will ever see it. You’ll know it’s there, so you’re going to use a beautiful piece of wood on the back.

The Happiness Formula: How to Choose to Be Happy

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Happiness is a choice.

At each moment of the day, you make a decision, whether you realize it or not. It’s the result of your attitude towards life. And whatever it is—positive or negative—it affects all the events, people, relationships, and basically whatever it is that you encounter in your life.

So, if you’re living a complicated life with so many things to do and no time for yourself, it’s your fault.
If you have exactly what you’ve wanted and are thankful for it every day, you’re the one to blame.
If you’re surrounded by negative people, have a job you hate and can’t even sleep at night because of the many thoughts that pop up in your head constantly, no one else is responsible for that but you.
If you’re doing what you love, work hard but still find time for yourself and those you love, it’s due to a choice you’ve made at some point.

But there’s good news. Whatever your situation is, you can change it.

Happiness is absolutely possible at any time, it’s free, doesn’t depend on age, looks, career or income. Everyone deserves it and it doesn’t need to be found, reached, created, or anything else that requires effort.

Here is the happiness formula:

Letting Go + Acceptance + Gratitude

Call them skills, processes, qualities, goals, or else. They don’t really need to be defined. But these are three of the best things you can do with your life—let go of what was and will be, accept what is and be okay with it, thank for it and appreciate it.

That will make you the happy, contented person you’ve always wanted to become. You’ll find peace, will free yourself from the burden of the past and anxiety of the future, will start living in the present moment and will see all the beauty and abundance in your life by focusing on what you have and being grateful for it.

Now let’s discuss each element of the happiness formula separately.

This is a guest post I wrote for Lifehack. Read the rest of it here.

The Power of The Present Moment

At this moment tens of thousands of people are lonely. Some regret what they did or didn’t do yesterday, while others hope that tomorrow is going to be better.

At this moment innocent people die in accidents, others get robbed.

Right now someone somewhere is crying, while someone else a few kilometers away is laughing.

A woman gives birth to a child and at this same moment a child says a final goodbye to his parent.

Some go to bed, others wake up.

Many people are falling in love, meeting someone new, feeling insecure or having doubts. Many more others are sleeping and dreaming right now, or just watching TV or browsing the Internet.

Some are writing, others are reading.

And what’s the only thing they have in common?

The present moment.

There is nothing that powerful, with so many opportunities, that can change a life in a matter of seconds, so fleeting and yet with a lifetime of consequences, like the present moment.

The power of now is unbelievable. And the best thing is that it’s given to you and you decide what to do with it.

Why do we take it for granted then, never make the best of it and then regret that?
Maybe because we have so many of these little gifts, literally millions.

But often, in the end, we realize we never made even one of them count. And that means our life remains unlived. This is so sad.

I’m here to tell you that you can change the course of your life right now.
By catching this brief moment and making it last forever.

By experiencing it, being aware of it and appreciating it. By being right here, right now, and realizing it’s the best place to be and you don’t need anything else.

Now is where you’re supposed to be and thinking about the past or future prevents you from living this moment, which is the only thing you truly have. And if you can’t live this one, you’ll miss out on many more. And having in mind that life is made of moments like that, you don’t live at all.

But if you take control and focus on your current activity, on the people around you, on how you feel right now, if you look around and breathe deeply, you might just feel like the happiest person in the world.
And no one is able to take that from you. Because this moment is your present.

This moment is yours.

Lately I’ve been spending my days thinking and writing about that, practicing mindfulness, appreciating the now and letting go of past and future, realizing the importance and power of this moment.
And I’ll be publishing a book on the subject. In a month or two.

I think we can all benefit from a reading like that.

Its purpose is to remind you of the beauty around and that everything that’s going on is nowhere else but in the present moment. That you need to fall in love with it, pay attention to it and truly experience it. That it’s the only place where you can find the peace and happiness you’ve always been looking for.

Stay tuned.