How Giving Up My Favourite Food Helped Me Overcome a Weakness 48

What’s My Word for 2017 and Why You Should Have One Too

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time. ”
Thomas A. Edison

Will is one of the most wonderful characteristics a human being can have. It develops over time and can be trained as a muscle. Every desire we resist, every time we make a decision and stay with it or we break a habit, is like lifting weights to build muscles.

A successful person is one who never stops challenging and improving himself and as a result his will power strengthens.

The bigger it becomes, the more we get from life and the more satisfied we are with ourselves.

“It’s just not happening. I’m like that!” is not an excuse. Science and history make it obvious to us that we are physically and mentally prepared to improve everything in us and build qualities and a character.

A great difficulty for my will, and I guess most of you will agree, was making getting up early a permanent thing. That means that every single day in the morning I make myself resist the urge to lie for “just 5 more minutes”.

Believe me, I want to stay in bed more than that, but I know how disappointed I will be later. The real battle is with my mind, because my body is still asleep, but after a little stretching can be ready to get up and start the day.

My mind, though, doesn’t always share my opinion.

Then I remember how the previous mornings I did so many things after beginning the day so early, how proud of myself I was. And that is the delicate moment (refers to every similar situation where will is needed) when you just have to trust yourself.

Your mind and body feel comfortable in the warm bed and want to make it last longer, but you just have to do it.
I say that to myself and get up and I know that 15 minutes later I will be glad I did it. And so I am.

When I speak about resisting an urge, we just can’t ignore one important aspect – food.

A lot of advice on how to make our diet perfect has been given, but we still feel like little kids in the face of a simple chocolate/cookie/etc.

It is all about will, persistence, priorities… and many other things. The answer is to just remove the obstacle, accept that other things are more important than this and move on.

I don’t crave junk food that much, chocolate or meat (I’m a vegetarian).

My one and only favorite food is bread (including pizza and hamburgers, but mostly bread). Or at least it was. I loved it so much and – as you can guess – I consumed it too much.

I combined bread with many other things and thus my meals became even bigger. Actually it never satisfied my hunger, because it wasn’t real. I was just feeding my brain. It was pure gluttony.
Every time after that, even a few minutes after the meal, I felt guilty. Of course I’ve tried to take it out of my menu many, many times. I did it for a  month or two once, but then it all started again.

I knew my body didn’t even need that food and it was always making my stomach full. Then, day after day, I started realizing that it has been just a weakness of mine.

The real decision was taken on November 9, 2012 – when I said to myself that bread is just not an option for me anymore. I gave it up and simply replaced it with other foods I love, like pasta, potatoes, rice, salads, etc. until I got used to the change.

And here I am now, 5 months later, not having eaten a single bit!

I know it’s not that much time, but according to my previous reactions to habits, I am sure it is a permanent thing.

Now bread just doesn’t bother me. If I’ve decided to have a cheat meal, I’ll just eat something I like other than it.

The first 3 days after my decision, I constantly repeated to myself that it was just for these 3 days, because they are the hardest.

Then I said to myself the same thing, but for a week. And when I had made it to day 7, it would have been silly of me not to make them 10. Then half a month, then a whole one.

What I actually did was to trick my mind. By that time, I was so proud of myself that there was nothing that could tempt me anymore.

I will say it again – I wasn’t on a diet or anything. That’s why nobody noticed a difference in me, but I knew I had fought a weakness. And now I am ready to make other changes in my eating plan, but most importantly – I know I can do it!

Let’s summarize what you need to do in order to give up your biggest weakness once and for all:

  • Realize how weak it makes you.
  • Take the final decision.
  • Find substitutes.

For food here it’s easier because you can easily eat  something else until you get used to the lack of the first one. In other cases you will have to change the whole habit though. For example if you were badly addicted to shopping, you will have to start doing something else instead that will keep your mind busy.

  • Trick yourself.

Use different techniques to set your mind to just do something else.

  • Be proud of yourself.

Take this as an evidence that you can achieve everything you want.

So, what is your biggest weakness?

Update (May, 2017): Bread is still not an issue for me :)

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7 Tactics to Build Increased Motivation and Fulfill Your Goals 104

7 Tactics to Build Increased Motivation and Fulfill Your Goals

Sometimes, the simplest things to do can also be the hardest.

Something as simple as getting out of bed and getting your chores done, or going to work on time and meeting your deadlines; all of these might seem like tasks that any functional adult should not find hard to do. However, we can find ourselves in a tough spot every now and then, when the motivation is lacking and we don’t have the drive to keep moving forward.

What can the reason for this lack of motivation be?

It can be lethargy, fatigue, stress, mental instability, or even just a serious lack of passion and enthusiasm to do something. And, keeping all factors in mind, it really is quite normal for you to be feeling this way. A lot of people face this, and we are only human after all, so no one is perfect.

Stress is something that you need to be wary of as it can make you feel defeated and unmotivated. There are several factors in everyday life that can aggravate you. Here is an infographic that can help you reduce stress:

Rising Levels of Anxiety In A Digital World

Before you go ahead with trying to achieve your goals, ask yourself these questions:

Are my goals defined?

Do I have a solid plan to move forward with?

What are the problems that bother me the most?

Do I have my priorities lined up right?

What are my flaws?

This is why it is essential for us to work on building motivation for ourselves.

How? Let’s take a quick look:

1. Write down your goals.

Making a list of your goals and ambitions is a great way to give you that extra push to keep going. A list is not just a reminder of what tasks need to be fulfilled, but also a way of letting yourself prepare properly for any upcoming opportunity or task at hand.  

2. Meditate.

Meditation is a wonderful tool that really helps with getting your thoughts and mind together, in sync, and taking your potential to a whole other level. When your mind and ideas are working with each other in harmony, there’s no stopping your progress graph.

Even your goals then become clearer and more defined, leaving you feeling more monetarily satisfied and secure too.

3. Exercising regularly.

Once your thoughts have been directed to the right channels, it’s time to focus on your physical health and fitness.

Fitness is not just about looking good, it’s also about feeling great and healthy. Your exercise regime, if followed regularly, can instantly spike your response rate and also your performance levels both at home and at work.

4. Learning to de-stress.

You know yourself better than anyone else does. Which is why it’s vital for you to understand what types of scenarios are stressful for you. Try your best to either stay away from them or learn how to accept your situation and make the most of it.

Whether it’s playing a friendly sport or visiting a spa, make sure you de-stress amply and take your mind off all the serious stuff.

5. Take inspiration from others.

There is always someone you look up to. A close friend or maybe a family member who you admire; who inspires you through their own stories of achievement and success. These are the people whom you should be around more, and draw as much learning and lessons that you can from them. Ask them questions, learn about their journey, and take notes while you do so!

6. Learn from your mistakes.

It’s okay to err, to make mistakes and stupid blunders too because we all do that. The most important thing here is to make sure that you learn something from it and grow as an individual.

You should come to a stage where you know you won’t repeat a stupid mistake like that again. And you’re also drawing pointers on how you can improve your outcome in a similar situation in the future.

7. Don’t lose hope.

Even if things aren’t going away, giving up is never an option. You have to keep trying to reach your goals, despite any obstacles or failure that might come in your path. I

t is this hope and inner confidence that will push your forward and take you through your journey, whilst also molding you into a more mature, experienced individual who is not afraid to take up a challenge.

There are a lot of factors to consider when it comes to life goals and objectives. It’s never an easy path or ride, but the journey is a very knowledgeable and interesting one. There’s always two outlooks – a positive one and a negative one. A positive outlook will make things easier for you because your optimism allows you to look past shortcomings and be hopeful for better results in the future.

You are your best motivator, there is no denying that. Being fully aware of your own strengths and weaknesses puts you in a favorable position because it translates to you being your best critique and teacher as well.

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Luke writes about mental wellness and benefits of brain supplements at Nootrina. He’s a big fan of Yoga and mindfulness and feels that these two are the real key to mental well-being. Being a foodie, Luke loves cooking and brings several cuisines to bear at his dinner table. He’s looking to improve the awareness about mental health issues and share ways to handle them among people of all ages.