How to Take The Future More Seriously (And Make the Best of It) 39

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One of the most precious things we have is time.

Now we have only that moment, nothing else is actually given to us, and we decide how to spend it.

The worst use we can make of it is to simply pass it, as it is something we can always get back to. Or worse – to spend it thinking about missed opportunities in the past moments.

Our time here is limited, but we get to realize that when we’ve lost it.

Every single day is a gift, and yet we pay more attention to those who are already gone. We forget to look the other way – the many more days ahead of us. And even if we start living in the present moment, we can also miss something crucially important…

Let’s get back to one of our days at school.

We were all there, sitting at our desk, looking at the teacher who was trying to explain the new grammar lesson to us, maybe even listening carefully.
He did his best to make it easier for us to understand the subject. And we did, or at least we thought so.

To this day we still use it in one of every three sentences we say/write/hear, but more often in the wrong way.

I’m talking about Future Simple Tense

It is used when a spontaneous decision is made, when we have a plan or intention and to promise something. I’m sure we all know that. We also use the right auxiliary verb and word order. What we forget though is to actually do what we’ve said. At the moment of speaking we are absolutely sure that we will do something, but half an hour later we either forget, make an excuse or just occupy ourselves with something else.

Another mistake we do is the lack of planning.

One of the most important strategies in business, personal life, politics, writing and many many other activities and spheres. It’s one of the things that separate us from animals and makes us productive and responsible beings.

It’s high time we learn that lesson, correct those mistakes and start thinking about our future.
Only then will we be able to take control of our actions and get one step closer to success.

Forget what your parents, teachers, society, friends, etc. have told you and start analyzing your own life.

Every advice you’ve ever received, no matter how good it was, is the understanding and perception of the person who gave it to you. They don’t know what your dreams and sacred desires are, so their word isn’t worth it in this situation.

Sit down, think carefully and decide what is best for you.
Then take some decisions, make a plan and stick to it.
Take responsibility for your own words and once you’ve promised something, stay true to it.

Remember that you are doing this for your happiness and for the sake of others, because they too want you to be happy.

Set some goals and accomplish them.

Become a person of your word.

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If you talk too much but don’t do anything, soon people just stop listening to you.

A long time ago I realized I was going that way, so decided to keep my word and make less promises. It was hard, like building a new habit, and a big challenge.

I started with small steps – like saying to myself that I will write every day for a week, go to the gym NOW, do this, stop saying that and so on.

I was the only one in charge of the process, so I was the only one disappointed after that as well.
After too many disappointments I got too tired of that and started taking it seriously.

You can practice that all your life and with everything you do, you will feel more satisfied and in harmony.

If I did a mistake, I would take responsibility for it. Yes, it was my fault but I would do it right next time.

Once I was proud of my progress, I started including other people. For example, I would tell my mother I will do something, and then I would go and do it. At first, nobody believed me but after seeing results, they had no other option.

One evening, five years ago, at a family dinner I told everyone I wasn’t going to eat meat anymore. Of course everyone thought it was just a whim of mine which wouldn’t last long. But as time went by, they saw how I was always ordering something else or skipping the main course.
And to this day I haven’t eaten meat in any form (I’m not talking about fish and seafood). Then I gave up other things, acquired new ones and soon people started listening to me. Even admiring me.

The fact that others took part in my self-improvement made me take it more seriously, but still the one person I wanted to impress the most was myself.

Now I can set a bigger goal and give it a deadline, and I can be sure that it will be accomplished.

How to use the future tenses correctly

I’ll try to summarize what I’ve said so far so that we can benefit from the future:

How are you dealing with your future? Do you plan ahead?

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4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health 20

4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health

While most people pay the most attention to their physical health and work hard to achieve a healthy body, they often overlook the potential mental health issues that may have been well tucked away.

Understanding and paying sufficient attention to your mental health issues is an action that should be prioritized in every situation. What could seem like the simplest mental health problem to you might actually be affecting your life in more ways that you can imagine.

Here are just a few reasons why you shouldn’t ignore the signs.

1. It Is Way More Common Than You Believe.

You might think that mental illness is not present in many situations but the truth is that almost everyone has or is facing such an issue.

In fact, one in five Americans suffers from some type of mental illness. The saddest part about this though, is that very few of them seek treatment.

The person affected by the illness can even be one of your family members. Sadly, symptoms are easy to hide and even people who are severely depressed can mask their health issues from their families and avoid getting help.

2. It Can Also Affect Your Physical Health.

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It is known from a long time ago that the connection between the mind and the body is strong. Any sort of physical distress can have a huge effect on your capability to work or focus on things around you. Following this same rule, any sort of mental problem can easily affect your physical health too.

The first few things that a mental illness will affect are your mood, energy levels, sleep cycles, appetite and quite possibly your sex drive. Along with these problems and as a result of them, your immune system can also be affected and that can lead to more often colds and an overall impairment of your physical health.

People who face mental illnesses are often left unmotivated and drained of energy.

The illness blurs your mind so much that you have no energy left to function properly in your everyday life. Ask any person that has faced a major depression and they will tell you just how much they let themselves go and how they stopped caring about simple everyday things, such as brushing their teeth or taking a shower.

Physical symptoms won’t take long to appear and you will simply keep increasing your risk factor of a number of health problems such as heart disease or heart palpitations, insomnia and fatigue. It is very important that you ask for help if you feel such symptoms arising. Make sure that you consult a board-certified practitioner to be certain that a mental problem is not the cause of them.   

3. It Plays an Important Role in Your Success.

One of the most frequent symptoms of a mental illness is the lack of motivation. You just feel so tired of everything, you find that you are not interested in what others are doing and you just end up losing interest in things you used to love.

The lack of mental health can, therefore, play a huge role in your success. No matter if you are a college student, an employee or a working parent, you can easily lose sense of what’s important to you and hinder your success in whatever role you might have.

In whichever situation you might be, you will definitely need to be able to be creative and productive. Your success in your studies or your workplace might be your only source of stability and income.

An untreated mental illness can be the reason behind your reduced productivity, your lack of creativity and your overall negative attitude towards your work.

Keep in mind that a large number of homeless people are those who are suffering from a mental illness but sadly left it untreated.

Looking for help and letting the mental health professionals guide you can take a lot of weight off your shoulders. It can help you see things from a different perspective and give you the courage and motivation you need to get back on track and find yourself again.

4. It Can Affect Your Relationship with Your Peers.

Most people who face a mental illness find themselves intimidated by social situations. Even spending time with friends or family can seem like a very tiring or pointless task and they will often opt out of it. It is important to remember that this does not apply only to depressed people, as many might think, but to a large area of mental issues.

Anxiety disorders can alienate a person from their circle because of the constant fear of something going wrong, of someone not liking them or of an overall new situation. It is very common for the solution to your mental health issue to be holding the key to you getting back your behavioral health.

Mental illness can also affect your relationship with your family.

Apart from losing contact with people you probably care about, you might even end up harming them more than you think. It is not rare to see a person struggle both financially but also emotionally when it comes to helping family members that are battling mental illness.

Another very important reason to not take your mental health lightly is for the sake of your children. It is very often reported that children of people who struggle with a mental illness are abused or neglected. That can play a huge role in their lives and affect their entire lives, from childhood to adulthood.

Make Your Mental Health an Everyday Goal!

There are many places to turn to for help. The National Alliance on Mental Illness, otherwise known as NAMI, can be a great place to start. Through it, you can find a suitable medical center that will provide you with the suitable health services to help you regain your mental health.

It is important that you are not ashamed of your personal struggles or mental issues. Everything is part of the human nature and the fact that there are so many people available to help comes to show just how human this situation is and how much attention we, as a society, should be paying to this important issue.


Leona Henryson is a professional writer and passionate blogger. Her goal is to help people achieve their personal self-development and mental wellness.