How to Succeed with New Year’s Resolutions Once And for All

How to Succeed with New Year's Resolutions Once And for All

Through the years we’ve all made our resolutions… and we’ve all failed at some point.

Let’s face it, we are tired of seeing how everyone is making their New Year’s resolution, reading articles about that everywhere, and mostly we are tired of us ourselves not being able to keep our promises and failing a month after we’ve made them.

But no matter how old-fashioned that is and how society and the media made it too big of a deal, we still think about it. And the closer 31 Dec. gets, the more we start making plans in our mind.

Because even if we fail a million times, even if we hate the idea of a New Year’s resolution and have decided not to do that anymore, we still have a little hope.

Even if that year wasn’t the best, or as we expected it to be, and even if we are not satisfied with the outcome of the last few years, we still believe that the next one can be different. Deep down we have that amazing quality that shows up only in dark moments. We have the hope that makes us try one more time. And who knows, maybe 2014 is going to be the change we’ve been waiting for and is going to bring us so many good things.

I also believe it can be so. And you should too, because this time we will analyze why things didn’t turn out for the best with the last resolutions we made and how to try a new strategy.

Why New Year’s resolutions usually fail?

The goals we set are too big.

Okay, we want a change. But it can’t happen all of a sudden. Big changes need time and it usually happens through achieving the small goals first.

We want too many things at once.

The number of our goals is the next problem that prevents us from succeeding.

We do it involuntarily.

Lately even making New Year’s resolutions has become a habit of ours. The fact that we’ve failed a few times already (didn’t keep our promises for the new year) makes it harder to do it right this time.On a subconscious level our mind has accepted the idea of failing again and won’t be surprised after the past disappointments. And everything that doesn’t engage our focus and isn’t done consciously, is meant to fail.

Everyone else is doing it.

The fact that everyone around us – and all the people on the Internet and TV too – is doing it again, is failing almost every year and doesn’t seem to be bothered by that, makes us take all this frivolously.The fact that we haven’t written our goals on a piece of sheet doesn’t mean we don’t plan any changes. We have them in our mind and this is often because the whole idea of becoming a new person in the new year is so popular. And even if it’s not that important to us, society makes us do it unintentionally.
So even if we want to do it right this time, we will still have the wrong idea of what the whole process means.

We aren’t motivated enough.

And without the stimulus and momentum we can’t achieve much.

We go back to our old habits not long after New Year’s Day.

After a month or so, when the holiday fever is gone and we are back to our everyday life, where everything seems so mundane and a big change just doesn’t fit in, we tend to slowly leave our new goals behind.

We do what we’ve always been doing. – We do the same things we did every time for the past few years and yet are disappointed when the result is the same.

Haven’t made a proper step-by-step plan. – Instead, we just rush into January expecting to have an extreme makeover and leave all our bad habits in the past year.

9 Reasons Why This Year Will Be Different

This can be the best year of your life so far only if you decide so. You can do these small changes and implement them into one big strategy:

1. Have a definite desire to change.

Want it bad enough to be ready to make sacrifices.

2. Have 1-3 big goals.

3. Make a well-planned step-by-step schedule.

For example, you can make a plan for each month of the following year and do your best to stick to it.

4. New source of motivation.

Find something new that will keep you constantly motivated and inspired. Obviously the stimuli you’ve used so far are not strong enough to keep you going.

5. A vision of success.

Spend time everyday visualizing your progress and the final result. Have a positive picture in your head and accept success on a deeper level first.

6. Engage other people.

Pay for a gym membership for the next 6 months or give money to a loyal friend and tell him to give them back to you month by month only if you stick to your plan. In a nutshell, make it hard for you to quit.

7. Keep a journal.

Write down all results, how you feel each day, your thoughts, etc.

8. Be mindful and aware.

When you reach your comfort zone and are close to your old habits, think of the reasons that made you start at the first place. Realize how important it is for you to finish what you’ve started.

9. Enjoy it.

It’s the biggest transformation you’ve made so far. And this is the best year of your life. Only happy days are ahead of you. Be grateful for everything and don’t forget to enjoy it.

Are you excited? What will your motivation be?
Share your thoughts, ideas and plans for the new year in the comments below.

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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