Success in Disguise 241

success in disguise, it lies in small things

Before we truly want something, we need to define it, to understand its nature and thus figure out how to reach it.
The same applies to success.

We want to make big steps. To set a huge goal, achieve it and move on to the next one. To be ahead of others. To succeed by reaching the top of a career, winning the big money, having a big family…

We forget, however, that success starts small. It is real when it happens slowly. When we can enjoy it and experience it now, without aiming at the next thing on our list of desires.

For a success to be real, we should do a few things first:

  • let go of goals and plans;
  • let go of competition;
  • go slowly;
  • don’t always crave for more or ‘the most’ of everything;
  • learn how to reward ourselves;
  • enjoy the process;
  • connect with ourselves more instead of losing our identity under the pressure of a successful life;
  • let go of perfection.

Success is already here.

I’ve noticed that most people define success as something in the obscure future. And even if they achieve it, it still doesn’t feel like succeeding and they keep seeking what will make them happier, contented, successful.

But it never comes.

It never comes, because it’s already here.

Everywhere around us. Success lies deep into every good deed of ours, every positive person and thought we let into our life, into every inner realization, peaceful moment and simple act.

As I’ve said many times, it’s all a matter of perspective. We just need to open our eyes for the truth, beauty, inspiration, love and perfection around us.

That explains why people who have less are happier than those owning more. Why a zen monk is more contented than a teenager who has everything he wants. Why a poor writer is loved more by his humble wife than a rich businessman. Why a person with one book in his library has more knowledge than the one who doesn’t know who he is. And so on.

Happiness is an inner state. And so is success. We shouldn’t seek them outside, but cherish them inside of us, share them with others and feel blessed every day.

Thrive in a new way.

Many agree that we are born to thrive, to achieve more, to have goals. To reach new heights and to want to touch the sky. To become the best in everything.

I don’t.

Well, I did think so until a year or two ago, but not anymore. Because I didn’t find any contentment in all that chasing, all these goals most of which were never reached, all the disappointments, hardships. That kind of lifestyle just isn’t for me.

I still think we should get better, let’s just make it in small steps – let’s aim to get 1% better every day. And let’s make the process purposeful – if we find one or more good reasons to make any changes, we’ll be more motivated and it will be all worth it. So if you want to achieve something, do it for yourself, or to help others, to make the world a better place. Not to prove someone wrong, not to earn money, respect or fame.

Thrive more inwardly rather than outwardly. Do it by letting go of things that blur your clear vision of the world, by showing compassion and love, by forgiving yourself, understanding your desires and ignoring your fake needs. And stop trying to succeed by having more belongings, earning more money only so that you can buy more stuff, making others envy you, or too have a more luxurious life.

Only the inner improvements in your life can satisfy you. Becoming emotionally free, making peace with yourself, to love and be loved, to be inspired and create. This is what can bring harmony, contentedness and happiness in your life.

Things are perfect.

Stop looking for the perfect life! You got it already!

You’ll never have the best day in your life, until you realize it’s today. Until you see all the beauty, opportunities and magic the present gives you.

You’ll never look perfectly, until you realize you’re perfect just the way you are now.

You will never create the best work of your life, until you see the perfection in what’s in your hands right now.

What I’m trying to say is that things are perfect just the way they are. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to improve them. It just means that tomorrow they will be different. But still perfect.

Finding the success in disguise.

As I mentioned, it’s already here. It lies in:

  • all the things you’ve achieved so far;
  • hard work;
  • your experience;
  • the things you have;
  • the people who love you;
  • those you’ve inspired or made smile;
  • the things you’ve created;
  • your good deeds;
  • your positive attitude;
  • the hardships you’ve been through;
  • your belief;
  • your strengths;
  • your failures;
  • taking chances;
  • when you give something a try;
  • when you realize important things;
  • overcoming your fears;
  • not listening to your ego and egoistic desires;
  • every time you’ve won a little inner battle with yourself;
  • every time you made a compromise;
  • being grateful;
  • going out of your comfort zone;
    and so on.

My point is that you have more than 100 small successes each day. And if you notice every one of them, appreciate it and recognize it, you will no longer feel the need to prove yourself or to desperately seek fast success and happiness.

“Success in life is founded upon attention to the small things rather than to the large things; to the every day things nearest to us rather than to the things that are remote and uncommon.”
Booker T. Washington

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10 Things Uber Successful People Do in the Morning 15

10 Things Uber Successful People Do in the Morning

Who doesn’t want to be successful? Whatever our purpose in life may be, we want to achieve success with it. Although success is usually perceived as career growth, it also encompasses personal growth. These two things go together.

So what can we do to reach the personal and professional growth of uber successful people? Maybe we can imitate some of their habits. Their morning rituals, in particular, set the pace of the day.

Did you know that the way you start your mornings affects your entire day?

You probably felt that, but guess what: science proves it as a fact, too.

In a study called “Waking up on the wrong side of the bed: start-of-workday mood, work events, employee affect, and performance,” researchers found that whatever the mood of workers was during the morning, they preserved it throughout the entire day.

So if you start off in a good mood, you have greater chances of having a great day. That’s why morning routines are so important.

Let’s learn from the ultra successful people, shall we? How do they start their mornings?

What The Most Successful Do in The Morning

1. Spend Time with the Partner.


As we said, success is not only about professional achievements. It also means having the right person by your side.

Take Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan as an example. They are both crazy successful, and they are definitely happy to have each other.

Waking up next to the person you love makes every morning special. Appreciate that moment. Have a coffee together. Talk. Be glad you’re there for each other.

2. Mindfulness.

Yes; mindfulness is a habit.

Successful people are always busy. Can you imagine a hectic morning with dozens of urgent email messages, business partners calling, and the kids yelling? And they are still in their pajamas! That’s why they practice mindfulness.

Researchers from The University of Sydney found that mindfulness reduces work-related stress and improves the mood at work. That’s why successful people always seem ready to deal with any situation.

So how do you practice mindfulness in the morning?

Just wake up. Take few deep breaths. Be aware of the present moment. Be aware of the responsibilities the day ahead will bring. Relax, and tell yourself that you’re ready.

3. Plan the Day.

A good plan will set you on the right track.

Plan your tasks for the day in the morning. When you have such an outline, it will be easier to handle all responsibilities. You’ll know you’ll have time for all tasks.

If you realize there’s not enough time, you should plan how to outsource. If, for example, you cannot complete a business report, you can hire assignment masters to write or edit it for you.

4. Exercise.

I know; it’s a cliché. However, it’s also an activity that works.

Physical exercise makes you fitter, but it also makes you happierWhen you’re done with your morning exercise ritual, you feel at ease, and things start to clear up.

Most successful people exercise. Hillary Clinton does yoga. Obama works out for 45 minutes six days per week. Mark Cuban does cardio fitness. Follow their example!

5. Practice Patience.

Too many things ahead? If your schedule is busy, you’ll be eager to get things done ASAP. The morning is the period of the day when you should practice patience. Relax.

You already made a plan. There’s time for everything. You’ll get through the day. For now, cherish this precious moment of morning relaxation.

6. Juice Up.

How to Win The 9-to-5 Battle by Staying Healthy at Work

It’s no wonder why so many celebrities are into the latest juice detox trend. Healthy juices give you valuable nutrients and make you feel more energized.

Have a different juice every single morning. Sure, the juicer will take some cleaning after, but the juice will certainly give you enough energy for that.

7. Eat Breakfast.

You saw this coming, didn’t you?

Uber successful people know that the breakfast is the most important meal of the day. It’s even better when it’s healthy.

Yes; the juice can be your breakfast, but it won’t make you feel full for long. If you don’t intend to have a standard breakfast, pack some fruit for work. A banana and an apple are mandatory!

8. Hydrate.

Have a glass of water as soon as you wake up. Hydration is essential for the way your entire system functions.

9. Be With the Right People.

In Tools of Titans, author Timothy Ferriss refers to a so-called “five chimps theory” in zoology. According to that theory, you can predict the behavior of any chimp if you analyze the five chimps they usually hang out with.

There’s a lot of wisdom in that theory. When you surround with nervous people, you’re nervous, too. When you surround yourself with positive characters, you reflect good vibes, too.

The first people you contact in the morning will set the mood for your day. Choose them carefully.

10. Celebrate Achievements.

When you wake up with a positive mindset, you’ll boost your chances of spending a good day.

Instead of thinking about all obstacles ahead, you should take time to think about all achievements you’ve made towards your current goals. This appreciation will convince you that you’re on the right track.

When we sum things up, all these morning habits of the ultra successful people seem pretty simple, don’t they?

However, it takes tons of persistence and commitment to stay true to them. Start by making small steps. Pick few of these activities and repeat them every day, until they turn into habits.   

Cathy Baylis is a personal growth expert who writes insightful articles that motivate and challenge others. She has worked as a writer for a little over a decade now, and owns several blogs that she updates on her free time.