Eliminating What is Holding You Back

eliminate the things holding you back in life and reach success

On our journey to success there comes a point when we need to get rid of the unnecessary, which is usually what is stopping us from moving forward.

There are so many things in our life that hold us back and don’t let us improve physically, mentally and spiritually.
And only by being aware of them, accepting them and letting go, can we free ourselves from the burden and unleash our hidden powers.

Sometimes these things are a big part of our daily life, it can be close people as well, or thoughts, objects and so on. We are often used to it so that means it will be hard to eliminate it once and for all. But this is the only way to make a big change and continue our growth on the path we’ve chosen.

The process

 The first important thing is to identify what is holding us back.

It may be important to you, you may have grown up near it, you may love it and will most probably miss it, but that is the price you need to pay in order to achieve more, to keep moving forward and to get rid of past things.

So try to be as honest as you can and decide what it is that stops you from changing, what it is that has been keeping you in one place for years.

Then you will need to accept and realize the fact that these things aren’t good for you. This will help you learn to live without them faster.

And last but not least, simply let go. Leave them in the past, where they should be. This way there will be more happiness, peace and space in your present and less stress, worries and negativism.

What to eliminate


It sounds harsh to tell you to just eliminate people from your life and never see them again. But sometimes that’s what you need when you’re stuck.

We often don’t realize how someone around us, that we spend time with almost every day, has a bad influence on us.

So look around and examine the people in your life. Is there someone that is complaining about everything all the time? What about the negative people who are such pessimists that you lower your energy level and become a bit depressed the minute you meet them?
There are also the material ones, who probably only use you for their own benefits. And the people who only share their problems and never take the time to listen to yours. Not to forget the ones that have no goals, no desire to change, are full of bad traits and you’ve never actually learnt anything from them.

Such people are holding you back. They may be people you know from your childhood, colleagues, even roommates you have no other choice but to live with, a relative, a friend of a friend and so on. It can be anyone.

And it takes courage and determination to cut that person out of your life. Eliminating sounds very severe when it comes down to people. So you can just try to spend less time with them, not to take advice from them or let them ruin your mood.

I have such people in my life and have often met similar to the ones I described. My situation is rather difficult because my father is probably the most negative person I know.
And it took me a lot of effort to learn not to let his opinion, comments and actions affect mine. But it can happen if you give it time.

I also have a roommate who I find far from someone that can help me succeed. And I became quite good at ignoring. I know it sounds childish and not the best way possible, but that’s how I handled the situation.

Of course, every now and then I also communicate with people who are not the best example, and they are my friends. But I never let them affect me in any way. Instead, I concentrate on their good sides and benefit from that.


Get rid of it!

I said that directly because I’m sure almost everyone lives in a place full of things he doesn’t use and need. So eliminate that and make free space in your life.

The more belongings you have, the more you need to take care of them, think about them, and handle unpredicted problems.

Be more of a minimalist and throw away, donate or give to acquaintances all the things you haven’t used lately or are saving for a rainy day.

Also, stop buying stuff you don’t need.


I won’t tell you to stop eating. I will, however, tell you to throw away and never buy again one third of the things you eat.

The reasons about junk food are clear. It’s just junk. But we are also not meant to eat everything that contains sugar (and it’s much more that most people think), processed foods and grains.

The only food our body needs is fruits, veggies, eggs, nuts, some seeds, meat (I’m a vegetarian, but am just mentioning it). I will add fish and dairy products because I like them, although there are many bad opinions about them too.

It sounds ridiculous for most people to eat only that and I myself am still working on eliminating all of the others. It’s a slow process but totally worth it.

The thing is, variety in the food industry is a big lie. If you imagine all the food in your local supermarket at one place, what is actually okay for eating is a really small part of it. The rest is bad and absolutely unnecessary for our organism.

So I encourage you to start working on getting rid of these foods step by step.


These are activities like watching TV, playing computer games, browsing the Internet for hours with no clear purpose, social medias, checking email every half an hour and so on.

I say ditch the TV, check your email once in the morning and once in the evening (except for those whose business depends on that, because I know many that do), delete most of your profiles in different social media platforms and keep one or two (I have more only because of my blog and use them rarely).

The problem with these distractions is that they sound so insignificant and minor compared to all the other things we do, but they really take a lot of time because we spend hours doing them without realizing.

They are one of the things holding you back. So be aware of that.

In your case, the activities may be of another kind. Everyone is different. These are just the most popular these days and the first that popped up in my mind.

Negative thinking

It’s such a bad habit.

Simply because you attract the things you think about the most, the things you worry about, imagine happening and fear.

The law of attraction works all the time and doesn’t make any difference between positive and negative things. It just gives you what you expect.

Many people are just used to expect the worst. They are negative all the time and full of doubts, fears and worries. That is why they have more and more of them.

And all this is so pointless. Nothing ever turns out to be that bad. And all the worries just ruin your present moment.

Negativism is definitely not something you can carry with you in your successful future. So get rid of it.

Instead, start thinking positively. Only this little change can help you achieve anything you want.

There are other things preventing you from moving forward. It’s your job to notice them and do something to eliminate them. Otherwise we can all stay in one place for the rest of our lives. It’s easy and comfortable. But nothing good will even happen there.

And outside, out of our comfort zone, is where the real magic happens.

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from TheWaystoWealth.com

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called GenYWealth.com (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea GenYwealth.com was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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