From Disappointment to Healthy Relationships in 5 Easy Steps 481

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I’m good at disappointing the people I love the most.

I’ve always been amazed by this ability of mine as I can be great to strangers and people that are not so close or important to me and do everything to help them and make them happy. But at the same time, I disappoint the ones that actually matter.
My only relief is that I make it up to them at some point. But that doesn’t change the past.

But don’t think I don’t appreciate them. On the contrary, I thank for having them in my life every day. And I don’t forget that while in their company. I’m grateful and experience the time I spend with them. I just disappoint them often.

It shouldn’t come as a surprise that I’m not good at relationships.

And I think the main reason is that sometimes (more often than I want to) I disappoint myself. And when you haven’t fixed your relationship with yourself, you can’t really have any other good ones.

I love making lists and offering solutions to problems. So here is what you need to do about this one:

  1. be aware of the fact that you disappoint the people you love;
  2. try to figure out why;
  3. analyze your relationship with yourself first;
  4. then focus on making the people you love happy.

These are the main steps to take when in this situation. And I’ve done it. I know exactly what to do. And still there’s something missing because I keep doing the same thing.

At some point I realized there’s a piece of the puzzle that’s missing. A very important one.

People who disappoint family and friends have this one trait in common – they disappoint themselves first. So I think it’s better to improve your relationship with yourself first before you do that with others.

Here is how this can happen:

How to Form Healthy Relationships

1. Forgive yourself.

Whatever you’ve done in the past, forgive yourself for it. It doesn’t have any place in your future and can only affect your relationship with others.

2. Accept yourself.

You tend to focus on your mistakes, the things you don’t like about yourself, the bad things you say, your negative thoughts, the decisions you take and then regret. But what will happen if you just accept all this and see yourself for who you really are?

I think you will benefit a lot by making this little change.

3. Appreciate yourself.

Even if you see yourself as a bad person, someone who hasn’t achieved anything and will never become successful, you’re missing out on a lot.

You’re beautiful. As a human being you have your deep feelings and emotions, empathy and desire to make the world a better place, you have great qualities and abilities and can actually do whatever you want to.

You’re also a human magnet and have powers beyond imagination. You can create, become a great example for others and live a happy life. You can explore, build, change, destroy, get out there and become whoever you want to be.

4. Have a positive vision of yourself.

Delete the negative image of yourself in your head. Instead, expect the best to happen. Always think that you will do great in life, will achieve all your goals, have great relationships and be a wonderful person.

5. Let go.

In order to have a great relationship with yourself you’ll need to let go of a few things that are always holding you back.

Things like regrets, fears, worries, judging people, trying to please everyone, living by someone else’s standards, comparing yourself to others, wishing you were different and so on.

Now this is not some kind of a guide. And it may not work for everyone. I’m not saying that doing these 5 things (which actually sound much easier than they really are) will change your life and you will have great relationships for the rest of it.
It’s just what I’ve found to work so far.

But regardless of who you are and what you’ve done in the past, the relationships in your life will benefit from a little gratitude, appreciation and letting go. So give it a try.

What other steps can you add to the process of self-healing, getting familiar with your true self and self-understanding? What do you do to have healthy relationships?

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5 Smart Ways to Incorporate Technology into Your Home

A smart home was something we could only see in sci-fi movies just a few years ago. Today, smart technology is becoming more available in terms of prices and offers. Therefore, it’s not so surprising that many homeowners are choosing to introduce technology into their homes and make their lives more convenient, safe, cost-efficient and fun.

In fact, a recent report predicted that a global smart home platform revenue will increase from $4.2 billion (2017) to $39.5 billion (2026).

There is no doubt that the concept of a smart home will revolutionize our interaction with our interior, and impact various other aspects, such as the potential resale value of our properties. Knowing all this, it seems wise to start thinking about the ways to incorporate new technology into your home, today. Here are our top five.

Be smart – save energy

If there are two trends that have marked the previous year when it comes to home design, those are energy-efficiency and new technologies.

So, why not combine them and make smart technology work for you and help you save money on your electricity and heating bills? Your first step towards doing that is installing smart lighting. This change will enable you to remotely manage all the light bulbs in your home by using an app, so you won’t have to wonder whether you left your lights on ever again. The best way to use this technology is to pair it with LED bulbs and thus maximize your savings.

Another popular upgrade that helps you save money and automate your home is a smart thermostat. This device connects to your home Wi-Fi and allows you to set the desired temperature no matter where you are. Some models can even remember your habits and adjust the temperature accordingly.

An important safety upgrade

The times we are living in may be new and exciting, but they are still dangerous. That’s why you should do everything you can to make sure that your household is protected both from the unwanted guest as well as various hazards.

Smart home security takes care of that by offering state-of-the-art locks, high-resolution cameras, smoke detectors and motion-triggered alarms. Compared to the traditional security systems, smart security systems will not only alert everybody with a loud alarm but can also send an alert to your phone in case of emergency.

Comfort and convenience with smart furniture

Smart furniture is not being discussed enough, and we’re here to change that. It is set to completely change the way we live our lives.

Let’s start with a smart table or side table. These pieces can feature LED lights, Bluetooth speakers and wireless phone chargers.

The innovative smart sofas offer similar perks but with more coziness. Besides LED lights and speakers, they provide you with a convenient place to charge your phone, allowing you to have everything you need at your fingertips.

Other innovative pieces include color-changing wardrobes and TVs that can be “masked” into artwork, when turned off.

Make everything work together – smart hubs

You might find it difficult to control all your smart gadgets individually. A smart hub allows you to create a centralized system where all your devices are connected to the cloud, and you don’t need more than one app to manage all of them.

Additionally, smart hubs enable you to automate your devices. For example, this would mean that as soon as you unlock the door (using a smart lock, of course), the light in your entryway will be turned on and the thermostat will set the optimal temperature.

The only problem with smart hubs is that this new technology is still in its infancy, and there are too many manufacturers who do not collaborate. This makes pairing up devices from different manufacturers into one hub impossible. Until that changes, to avoid any problems, you should buy the products from the same brand.

A helping hand voice

If you are among those people who remember the Halloween special episode of the Simpsons on the mention of a smart home assistant, don’t be afraid. The assistants of the real world are nothing like Ultrahouse 3000 voiced by Pierce Brosnan. In fact, this technology can make your life a lot easier by helping you make the home automation run smoothly.

Just like Cortana and Siri are improving the smartphone user experience, smart home assistants will make your life easier.

They can be set to react to voice commands, which allows you to control various smart home features without having to use any app. Also, if you have a camera above your entrance and a smart lock, your assistant can unlock the door when they recognize your face.

It’s an exciting time to be alive, and we are sure that there are plenty other surprising smart home innovations on the horizon. Until then, try out these five, and see for yourself how they can change your life.

About The Author

Emma is a writer and a home décor enthusiast. She believes that good design can be found at the intersection between beautiful and functional. Her inspiration comes from traveling and exposing herself to new experiences.

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