How to Turn Your Life from Negative to Positive 225

how to turn your life from negative to positive

Have you ever come up to the point in your life when you just can’t go on like that? When you aren’t satisfied with your results and performance?
When you don’t know what to do but are absolutely sure that this isn’t the right way to live? When you know that there is something more about life that has to be seen and experienced?

No matter what got you there, you have two choices now.

You can either start moaning, indulge in unhealthy living and keep wasting your time doing nothing, or rise like a phoenix from the ashes and use failure and disappointment as a motivation to move forward and actually achieve something.

Here I’ll talk about the second option.

You feel disappointment. You feel desperate. You think that things just can’t get worse. And I doubt that you realize how powerful you are at that moment.

You’ve got the chance to turn all those strong negative emotions into something beautiful. You can make them the reason why you will succeed, you can turn them into positive and use them as the momentum that will guide you through the way.

I’ve always admired and have been surprised by one human quality. It is our ability to turn failure into success and misery into happiness in a short period of time only because we’ve changed the way we see things and have found our motivation and inspiration. This is an incredible thing everyone is capable of and often happens after having a bad time in life.

So if you are disappointed and have failed, smile for that.
Because otherwise you wouldn’t have felt regret and despair and wouldn’t have done anything to change your life.

Now, when you’ve seen yourself in this bad condition, you can only get better. The only way from now on is up and forward!

Here is why that moment right after a painful experience or personal disappointment and regret is the perfect time for a change:

  • you’re a fountain of emotions and feelings that are waiting for their chance to get out and can use them in a positive way;
  • you feel powerful;
  • you can prove life and fate wrong by doing something great;
  • you can turn all that energy into reality by creating something beautiful;
  • the bad thing that happened can be your motivation to do something great with your life now;
  • you can focus on your strengths and see the possibilities around you;
  • you know people expect you to play the role of a victim but you choose to find your power, get out there and take control of everything;
  • you’d love to see yourself get back on track and perform better than ever;
  • you may inspire others to do the same and become a role model;
  • you will have realized important things about you and your life and that will affect your actions;
  • you know hopelessness is pointless and nothings will ever happen unless you get out there.

The next thing to consider is how to turn these dark feelings into something beautiful:

Follow your passion

Spend a lot of time doing what you love and you will feel great. Who knows, you may even find out a way to make it your job and start a career. Wouldn’t that be a perfect way to live life?

Be grateful

Focus on the things you have, on your good qualities, on all the possibilities, the time you have, the great world you’re living in. This will make you much happier and will affect your actions. Each day take some time to remind yourself of the beauty and gifts (people, events, objects, nature, etc.) that surround you.

Do something

After something bad has happened, the best things is to just take action and do something. It’s okay if you don’t know where to start, the point is to just do it.

Try new things

This will bring the excitement and adrenaline back into your life. Try new foods, go to new places, meet new people, try new sports and hobbies.

Surround yourself with inspiring people

It’s awful to be surrounded by people that are in the same mental state as you – depressed, feeling hopeless, with no direction in life and many regrets and worries. Instead, try to meet inspiring souls that are full of life, have great ideas and stories, are always looking for something new and exciting and never lose the magic of life.

Devote yourself to helping others

If you’re that stuck and think that there’s nothing you can do to feel alive again, devote your time to helping others.
Don’t think too much, just find a volunteering organization that helps an area you care about and join it. You may even go to a country of the Third World and spend a year teaching orphans or collecting money to help the poor.
This will be a life changing experience and seeing people in a worse condition, becoming their hope for life and putting a smile on their face, will change your view of life.

You can suggest other ways to turn the darkness inside of you into light in the comments below. I’d love to hear what you think.

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4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health 21

4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health

While most people pay the most attention to their physical health and work hard to achieve a healthy body, they often overlook the potential mental health issues that may have been well tucked away.

Understanding and paying sufficient attention to your mental health issues is an action that should be prioritized in every situation. What could seem like the simplest mental health problem to you might actually be affecting your life in more ways that you can imagine.

Here are just a few reasons why you shouldn’t ignore the signs.

1. It Is Way More Common Than You Believe.

You might think that mental illness is not present in many situations but the truth is that almost everyone has or is facing such an issue.

In fact, one in five Americans suffers from some type of mental illness. The saddest part about this though, is that very few of them seek treatment.

The person affected by the illness can even be one of your family members. Sadly, symptoms are easy to hide and even people who are severely depressed can mask their health issues from their families and avoid getting help.

2. It Can Also Affect Your Physical Health.

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It is known from a long time ago that the connection between the mind and the body is strong. Any sort of physical distress can have a huge effect on your capability to work or focus on things around you. Following this same rule, any sort of mental problem can easily affect your physical health too.

The first few things that a mental illness will affect are your mood, energy levels, sleep cycles, appetite and quite possibly your sex drive. Along with these problems and as a result of them, your immune system can also be affected and that can lead to more often colds and an overall impairment of your physical health.

People who face mental illnesses are often left unmotivated and drained of energy.

The illness blurs your mind so much that you have no energy left to function properly in your everyday life. Ask any person that has faced a major depression and they will tell you just how much they let themselves go and how they stopped caring about simple everyday things, such as brushing their teeth or taking a shower.

Physical symptoms won’t take long to appear and you will simply keep increasing your risk factor of a number of health problems such as heart disease or heart palpitations, insomnia and fatigue. It is very important that you ask for help if you feel such symptoms arising. Make sure that you consult a board-certified practitioner to be certain that a mental problem is not the cause of them.   

3. It Plays an Important Role in Your Success.

One of the most frequent symptoms of a mental illness is the lack of motivation. You just feel so tired of everything, you find that you are not interested in what others are doing and you just end up losing interest in things you used to love.

The lack of mental health can, therefore, play a huge role in your success. No matter if you are a college student, an employee or a working parent, you can easily lose sense of what’s important to you and hinder your success in whatever role you might have.

In whichever situation you might be, you will definitely need to be able to be creative and productive. Your success in your studies or your workplace might be your only source of stability and income.

An untreated mental illness can be the reason behind your reduced productivity, your lack of creativity and your overall negative attitude towards your work.

Keep in mind that a large number of homeless people are those who are suffering from a mental illness but sadly left it untreated.

Looking for help and letting the mental health professionals guide you can take a lot of weight off your shoulders. It can help you see things from a different perspective and give you the courage and motivation you need to get back on track and find yourself again.

4. It Can Affect Your Relationship with Your Peers.

Most people who face a mental illness find themselves intimidated by social situations. Even spending time with friends or family can seem like a very tiring or pointless task and they will often opt out of it. It is important to remember that this does not apply only to depressed people, as many might think, but to a large area of mental issues.

Anxiety disorders can alienate a person from their circle because of the constant fear of something going wrong, of someone not liking them or of an overall new situation. It is very common for the solution to your mental health issue to be holding the key to you getting back your behavioral health.

Mental illness can also affect your relationship with your family.

Apart from losing contact with people you probably care about, you might even end up harming them more than you think. It is not rare to see a person struggle both financially but also emotionally when it comes to helping family members that are battling mental illness.

Another very important reason to not take your mental health lightly is for the sake of your children. It is very often reported that children of people who struggle with a mental illness are abused or neglected. That can play a huge role in their lives and affect their entire lives, from childhood to adulthood.

Make Your Mental Health an Everyday Goal!

There are many places to turn to for help. The National Alliance on Mental Illness, otherwise known as NAMI, can be a great place to start. Through it, you can find a suitable medical center that will provide you with the suitable health services to help you regain your mental health.

It is important that you are not ashamed of your personal struggles or mental issues. Everything is part of the human nature and the fact that there are so many people available to help comes to show just how human this situation is and how much attention we, as a society, should be paying to this important issue.


Leona Henryson is a professional writer and passionate blogger. Her goal is to help people achieve their personal self-development and mental wellness.