How to Turn Your Life from Negative to Positive

how to turn your life from negative to positive

Have you ever come up to the point in your life when you just can’t go on like that? When you aren’t satisfied with your results and performance?
When you don’t know what to do but are absolutely sure that this isn’t the right way to live? When you know that there is something more about life that has to be seen and experienced?

No matter what got you there, you have two choices now.

You can either start moaning, indulge in unhealthy living and keep wasting your time doing nothing, or rise like a phoenix from the ashes and use failure and disappointment as a motivation to move forward and actually achieve something.

Here I’ll talk about the second option.

You feel disappointment. You feel desperate. You think that things just can’t get worse. And I doubt that you realize how powerful you are at that moment.

You’ve got the chance to turn all those strong negative emotions into something beautiful. You can make them the reason why you will succeed, you can turn them into positive and use them as the momentum that will guide you through the way.

I’ve always admired and have been surprised by one human quality. It is our ability to turn failure into success and misery into happiness in a short period of time only because we’ve changed the way we see things and have found our motivation and inspiration. This is an incredible thing everyone is capable of and often happens after having a bad time in life.

So if you are disappointed and have failed, smile for that.
Because otherwise you wouldn’t have felt regret and despair and wouldn’t have done anything to change your life.

Now, when you’ve seen yourself in this bad condition, you can only get better. The only way from now on is up and forward!

Here is why that moment right after a painful experience or personal disappointment and regret is the perfect time for a change:

  • you’re a fountain of emotions and feelings that are waiting for their chance to get out and can use them in a positive way;
  • you feel powerful;
  • you can prove life and fate wrong by doing something great;
  • you can turn all that energy into reality by creating something beautiful;
  • the bad thing that happened can be your motivation to do something great with your life now;
  • you can focus on your strengths and see the possibilities around you;
  • you know people expect you to play the role of a victim but you choose to find your power, get out there and take control of everything;
  • you’d love to see yourself get back on track and perform better than ever;
  • you may inspire others to do the same and become a role model;
  • you will have realized important things about you and your life and that will affect your actions;
  • you know hopelessness is pointless and nothings will ever happen unless you get out there.

The next thing to consider is how to turn these dark feelings into something beautiful:

Follow your passion

Spend a lot of time doing what you love and you will feel great. Who knows, you may even find out a way to make it your job and start a career. Wouldn’t that be a perfect way to live life?

Be grateful

Focus on the things you have, on your good qualities, on all the possibilities, the time you have, the great world you’re living in. This will make you much happier and will affect your actions. Each day take some time to remind yourself of the beauty and gifts (people, events, objects, nature, etc.) that surround you.

Do something

After something bad has happened, the best things is to just take action and do something. It’s okay if you don’t know where to start, the point is to just do it.

Try new things

This will bring the excitement and adrenaline back into your life. Try new foods, go to new places, meet new people, try new sports and hobbies.

Surround yourself with inspiring people

It’s awful to be surrounded by people that are in the same mental state as you – depressed, feeling hopeless, with no direction in life and many regrets and worries. Instead, try to meet inspiring souls that are full of life, have great ideas and stories, are always looking for something new and exciting and never lose the magic of life.

Devote yourself to helping others

If you’re that stuck and think that there’s nothing you can do to feel alive again, devote your time to helping others.
Don’t think too much, just find a volunteering organization that helps an area you care about and join it. You may even go to a country of the Third World and spend a year teaching orphans or collecting money to help the poor.
This will be a life changing experience and seeing people in a worse condition, becoming their hope for life and putting a smile on their face, will change your view of life.

You can suggest other ways to turn the darkness inside of you into light in the comments below. I’d love to hear what you think.

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from TheWaystoWealth.com

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called GenYWealth.com (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea GenYwealth.com was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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