Refinding Magic: Lessons from Alice in Wonderland 1296

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You may or may not have heard of the theory that Lewis Carroll wrote Alice in Wonderland – a book we all love and have grown up with – while on drugs, and Alice was a girl he was secretly in love with regardless of her young age.

We’ll never know if that’s true but once we look at it from another point of view – now that we’re adults and have seen and experienced a lot – we realize it’s quite likely to be true.

This changes the sweet memory of our childhood and reminds us once again of the cruelty we live in, and how nothing is as it seemed to be back then.

I guess this is one of the things we just need to accept and let go. Because after all, it doesn’t matter how the author wrote his book. It’s still a masterpiece and the story is still beautiful in so many ways.

Some people may say that the magic is lost now that you know the reasons.

Many prefer to live in an illusion and imagine that each of the books we love has been written in unusual surroundings, the idea struck the author spontaneously when he least expected it and the main characters are inspired by even more magical events.

But you can never know who actually wrote the book in your hands, how he did it and what the real idea behind it is.

Writers are mysterious people with a complex personality and a fountain of feelings and emotions in each moment. We can never truly grasp what they are telling us unless they make it simple and clear.

What I want to say with this post is that the magic is not lost.
You can still live with the same excitement, inspiration and joy you had when you were a child. It’s up to you!

Because even if Lewis Carroll was that kind of person and wrote Alice in Wonderland not for the reasons we’ve imagined, the book still has a great story to tell, with a new reality we can dive in whenever we feel like, and incredible characters.

And if we are still willing to focus on the good and magical part of it, we can even learn some lessons.
A great way to do that is to learn from what you love most about the characters you enjoyed throughout the book.

So here are a few lessons we can draw from Alice in Wonderland that will help us live a little more courageously, will bring inspiration back into our life and will remind us of all the beauty and enchantment around us:

 1.“Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.”

Most people I know are serious, responsible, have many things to do all the time, plan their days in detail and calculate everything.

They put too much pressure in that, worry constantly and consider everything out of the ordinary impossible.

Actually they frown every time they hear an unusual idea, speak to a creative person or see something that can’t be explained. They aren’t open-minded, or looking for new and exciting things. They think life equals mediocrity and everything that belies it must be destroyed.

But in Alice in Wonderland we see the impossible.

Most of the characters, events, things that are done and said just don’t make any sense. They are so extraordinary that people in real life can’t even imagine them. But who said it’s impossible?

I think we should consider more things possible. That will bring the magic, hope and belief back and we’ll be happier.

Everything will look much more exciting.

Life will be bearable only if we start thinking that all the possibilities around us, and all the things we dream of, are likely to happen, and we have all it takes to achieve them.

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2. “Alice: Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?
The Cheshire Cat: That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.
Alice: I don’t much care where.
The Cheshire Cat: Then it doesn’t much matter which way you go.”

We are directionless and purposeless. And we still wonder why we don’t get anywhere …

This simple, unusual answer the cat gives is so precise that it makes us wonder whether we know where we’re going right now.

Because we need to know the way, see the path, make steps and know what the next one has to be. Otherwise, we’ll get somewhere eventually, but it won’t be the right place and nothing good will ever happen there.

We’re wasting our potential by not having a direction. We just wander, go to different places, but never feel like it’s where we belong and never actually leave a mark.
This makes our journey pointless.

So I urge you to find your path and follow it no matter what.

In fact, I wrote a whole book about it. Check out Finding The 1 Thing You Were Born to Do

The final destination may be far, but the journey is what matters. And throughout it you’ll feel more and more like yourself and will get closer to your true identity.

And who knows, eventually it may turn out that where you need to go is not a place, but a better version of yourself.

3. “Alice: How long is forever?
White Rabbit: Sometimes, just one second.”

Time is a relative concept, especially in Wonderland. The difference between then and now, a second and a day, a long and a short period of time, can be intangible.

A moment can last forever if it’s experienced with your whole being, and at the same time it may take years to realize you’ve spend your time in the worst way possible.

The best use we can make of it is to be in the present, to focus on what we’re doing right now and appreciate this very moment. And hopefully, make it last forever.

4. Alice Kingsley: Do you think I’ve gone round the bend?
Charles Kingsleigh: I’m afraid so… you’re mad. Bonkers. Off your head… but I’ll tell you a secret… all of the best people are.

We’ve all got our issues, we’re all crazy somehow and we’ve all experienced life-changing moments.

We act like mad sometimes, we are full of brilliant ideas and if we put our mind to something, we can get it.

People are amazing creatures and we tend to forget that. Daily life is slowly killing the magic in us and we start to keep away from the creative and inspired souls around us.

But what we should do is cultivate this brilliance and power we have inside us and use it for the greater good. We shouldn’t be afraid of our insanity, bursts of emotions, deep realizations or spontaneous actions. We have to trust our nature and go with the flow every now and then, listen to our instincts and be grateful for all that.

Alice in Wonderland can give you many more lessons, but only if you’re willing to take them. It can be your reminder of the impossible, the beautiful and the magical in this world and deep inside of you.

Never stop dreaming. Never stop believing. Never consider something impossible.

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9 Ways to Handle Change in Your Life [Infographic] 20

9 Ways to Handle Change in Your Life [Infographic]

When a big change happens in your life, it doesn’t have to be a negative change to have a huge impact on you.

Change causes uncertainty and our brains and bodies react to uncertainty by trying to protect us with the release of fight or flight chemicals and hormones.

The downside to this is that living with these for an extended time results in elevated heart rate and affects your digestion, immune systems and blood flow.

But there are ways you can regain control over your life even in the midst of big changes.

The first is to take a step back and reflect on what’s actually happening and what your involvement is, which will help you to understand and find perspective on the situation. Hopefully, this will enable you to find the opportunities that every change in your life brings, rather than obsessing over any short-term negative impacts.

It may also help you to allow yourself a transition period where you adjust to the changes. But with a firm deadline by which you expect to have moved on and settled into the new routine. Even if it doesn’t quite work out that way, it will still push you towards visualizing the end of the uncertainty, which will prepare you to make it happen sooner rather than later.

On a more basic level, you need to remember to look after yourself during this time of change and the related stresses.

It can be too easy to fall into bad habits like neglecting your own simple needs, like a good night’s sleep and staying active and eating right when you are going through something like this. Having a day in your pajamas eating ice cream out of the tub is fine. But your body needs sleep, exercise and nutrition to keep you healthy.

Routine can be a comfort when it feels like everything in your life is changing.

So try and stick to some simple ones like walking your dog every morning or going to a regular gym class to give your life some stability and consistency.

You also need the help and support of those around you. And having a strong support network is crucial when it comes to coping with big changes in your life. This means family and friends, but you could also seek out people going through similar experiences by looking online. There may well be communities who you can talk to and get helpful tips from.

Most importantly of all, you need to be aware of when you need more than just the love and support of other people to help you cope with stress and uncertainty. If you start to feel like your mental health is really suffering, or you have been feeling the symptoms of stress for more than a couple of months, you need to go and talk to a health professional to get the help you need to bounce back.

You can read more practical tips about dealing with change and the symptoms it causes in this infographic from Pounds to Pocket.