A Shooting Star and The Importance of Knowing What You Want

shooting star meaning

Imagine it’s late at night and you’re looking out of the window because you can’t go to sleep.

You see a shooting star. For the first time in your life.

You have no more than a few seconds to make a wish.

But you’ve got… nothing. Even you yourself are surprised by what’s going on in your head. You are trying to choose the best thing, the one you need the most. But still… nothing.

Should you ask for health for yourself and your family? For money? For happiness?
Or should it be something in the short term, something you need now? Like to get accepted in a good university? To find the dream job? Your diet to work out this time? To make someone like you? To finish your book?

And the moment is gone.

The shooting star is long gone and you are still standing there wondering what just happened. Because you realized that you don’t know what you want the most in your life. Or at all.

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The Problem

It’s a common thing these days for people not to know what they want and how to define it, not to say how to get it.

We have so many desires, such a wrong perception of happiness, so little motivation to evolve and achieve more, and get used to mundane life so easily, that we no more know what exactly it is that we want.

And without knowing it, we will never get it. And we will wander in the dark with no direction, no purpose and no path to follow.

This happens for a few reasons:

  • Too many goals at once;
  • No goals at all;
  • No motivation to improve ourselves;
  • We follow the crowd;
  • We haven’t defined what a good life means to us;
  • We don’t have priorities (and thus don’t know which of the things we want comes first on the agenda).

The Solution

Something needs to be done if we want to progress and level up in life. And the first step to transformation is understanding and defining our deepest desires.

Most people these days just wander around purposelessly. They think they are busy having their daily worries, commitments and tasks to do, but nothing is actually important and has any impact in the long term.

The thing is that we rarely stop to see the bigger picture and thus miss the real meaning of life. We no longer want value, we just want denial, relief, instant pleasure and easy and fast solutions.
But living this way means never changing and getting out of our comfort zone, which also means we’ll never see what life has to offer.

We can achieve anything we set our mind to and almost nothing is impossible with the opportunities we have.
But we need to have a clear vision of the things we want the most first.

A purpose is our personal mission statement, it’s what makes everything else count and gives meaning to every day of our lives. Once we’ve found it and started working on it, we will feel like never before. We will have our ‘why’ and our actions and decisions will be deliberate and conscious.

 To find it you need to carefully think of:

  1. what you wanted as a child;
  2. the things you enjoy doing the most;
  3. the things you care about;
  4. people you look up to and why;
  5. what is your passion;
  6. what do you want to change in your life;
  7. what will it take to make these changes;
  8. where do you see yourself a year or two from now;
  9. notice how you feel while doing different things;
  10.  when was the last time you felt really happy.

This is all it takes to find your true purpose and have a direction in life.

It may take some time and you need to be honest with yourself. I know most people don’t enjoy confronting their desires, regrets and facing the things they don’t like in their life, but this is the surest way to be happy and live the life you deserve.

Do this now so that you can spent the rest of your life going after your dreams and enjoy the process while doing it.

All the successful people in the world, the ones that have found what makes them happy and surrounded themselves with it, have started from defining what they really want.

This is what your passion looks like and if you define it and dedicate your time and energy to it, you will never have to work a day in your life. And you will probably be making much more money and have more satisfaction than you are in your current situation. Once you make your passion your lifestyle, career and hobby, your life will change tremendously.

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4 Tips for Newlyweds to Manage Their Finances Flawlessly

4 Tip for Newlyweds to Manage Their Finances Flawlessly

June is around the corner!

What does it remind you?

Isn’t it the smell of champagne and roses?

Yes! It’s again the time to rejoice the cheerful wedding bells. So, if you are planning to tie the knot soon, congratulations!

Howbeit, preparations for the wedding day might be making you worried over these months. Whether it is about picking up the wedding dress or booking a caterer for the wedding feast, your finance is moving upside down!

But, wait!

Don’t think that such monetary hotchpotch will come to an end after the wedding day. There’s still a long way to go! You and your partner are going to spend your entire life together. So, both of you have to practically start thinking about how to manage money.

No! I am definitely not scaring you! It is just that the approach in which you’ve been handling finance till now have to change now. After marriage, it’s not just you, it’s about you and your partner living together.

So, it is required for you to understand the basic know-hows effectively.

Read on to get an idea. 

1. A Serious Talk on Pecuniary Goals and Habits

You both are staying together, it’s essential to know each other’s financial point of views. Especially, you can remind your parents in such a situation. For example, how your parents used to manage money, when they used to pay the bills, what have been their successful financial decisions, and so on. It will let you both curate your financial life perfectly.

Also, you need to discuss your habits when it comes to managing money. Whether you are a saver or spender, how you usually decide on purchasing something, what your reaction will be if there is a sudden financial loss etc.

Once you are done with understanding each other’s habits, figure out a suitable way to manage money, and that’s it!

2. Stick to Your Budget.

When it’s about spending money, be cautious and stick to your plan. Let no any indulgence drive you towards unnecessary expenses. You and your partner both should cultivate this habit to save remarkably.

Moreover, you’ve to always look for smarter ways to save your hard-earned dollars. For example, learn how you should use things limitedly for household chores, how you can save on shopping etc.

One of the smartest ideas could be grabbing the lucrative discounts and coupons while purchasing everything, whether it is a small household stuff or any prominent furniture or jewellery. Additionally, there are a number of such exhilarating websites now which can let you always fetch the right discount at the right time!

Browse through the websites like Dealslands and many such others present around, you’ll definitely start believing in what I mentioned above. 

3. Numbers Are Important.

When it comes to managing finances together, you and your partner should share every related information. You should start with tallying up your asset and debts. Next, just subtract the debts from assets to determine your self-worth. Most importantly, don’t hesitate to inform your income to each other.

The conversation between you both should be open and honest. There should remain no scope for any hidden fact. The more transparently you will talk, the more perfect your financial plan will be.

4. How Do Your Budgetary Habits Differ from Your Partner’s?

It is very important for you to figure out the difference between how you and your partner think about money.

Try to find out the agreeable amount of saving for you both. You should understand what his/her priority is when it comes to paying off the debts or spending on quality things, what money saving traditions that he/she thinks are absolutely non-negotiable, and so on.

Once you have a clearer idea, an impeccable plan for managing your bucks will be ready! 

This is how you need to start planning your finances together to attain unparalleled results. Initially, it might be quite unnatural for you to understand the aforementioned facts. Well, it’s nothing wrong with that! You are new to this life.

However, don’t lag behind in following these tips in future. Thus, to manage finance as a family will not be tough at all!

About The Author

Arina is the marketing manager at DealsLands, coupons and discounts provider company. She is passionate about fashion, make-up, beauty treatment and lifestyle. In addition, Arina also supports non-profit agencies that provide healthcare solutions to handicapped and disabled people.

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