A Shooting Star and The Importance of Knowing What You Want 391

shooting star meaning

Imagine it’s late at night and you’re looking out of the window because you can’t go to sleep.

You see a shooting star. For the first time in your life.

You have no more than a few seconds to make a wish.

But you’ve got… nothing. Even you yourself are surprised by what’s going on in your head. You are trying to choose the best thing, the one you need the most. But still… nothing.

Should you ask for health for yourself and your family? For money? For happiness?
Or should it be something in the short term, something you need now? Like to get accepted in a good university? To find the dream job? Your diet to work out this time? To make someone like you? To finish your book?

And the moment is gone.

The shooting star is long gone and you are still standing there wondering what just happened. Because you realized that you don’t know what you want the most in your life. Or at all.

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The Problem

It’s a common thing these days for people not to know what they want and how to define it, not to say how to get it.

We have so many desires, such a wrong perception of happiness, so little motivation to evolve and achieve more, and get used to mundane life so easily, that we no more know what exactly it is that we want.

And without knowing it, we will never get it. And we will wander in the dark with no direction, no purpose and no path to follow.

This happens for a few reasons:

  • Too many goals at once;
  • No goals at all;
  • No motivation to improve ourselves;
  • We follow the crowd;
  • We haven’t defined what a good life means to us;
  • We don’t have priorities (and thus don’t know which of the things we want comes first on the agenda).

The Solution

Something needs to be done if we want to progress and level up in life. And the first step to transformation is understanding and defining our deepest desires.

Most people these days just wander around purposelessly. They think they are busy having their daily worries, commitments and tasks to do, but nothing is actually important and has any impact in the long term.

The thing is that we rarely stop to see the bigger picture and thus miss the real meaning of life. We no longer want value, we just want denial, relief, instant pleasure and easy and fast solutions.
But living this way means never changing and getting out of our comfort zone, which also means we’ll never see what life has to offer.

We can achieve anything we set our mind to and almost nothing is impossible with the opportunities we have.
But we need to have a clear vision of the things we want the most first.

A purpose is our personal mission statement, it’s what makes everything else count and gives meaning to every day of our lives. Once we’ve found it and started working on it, we will feel like never before. We will have our ‘why’ and our actions and decisions will be deliberate and conscious.

 To find it you need to carefully think of:

  1. what you wanted as a child;
  2. the things you enjoy doing the most;
  3. the things you care about;
  4. people you look up to and why;
  5. what is your passion;
  6. what do you want to change in your life;
  7. what will it take to make these changes;
  8. where do you see yourself a year or two from now;
  9. notice how you feel while doing different things;
  10.  when was the last time you felt really happy.

This is all it takes to find your true purpose and have a direction in life.

It may take some time and you need to be honest with yourself. I know most people don’t enjoy confronting their desires, regrets and facing the things they don’t like in their life, but this is the surest way to be happy and live the life you deserve.

Do this now so that you can spent the rest of your life going after your dreams and enjoy the process while doing it.

All the successful people in the world, the ones that have found what makes them happy and surrounded themselves with it, have started from defining what they really want.

This is what your passion looks like and if you define it and dedicate your time and energy to it, you will never have to work a day in your life. And you will probably be making much more money and have more satisfaction than you are in your current situation. Once you make your passion your lifestyle, career and hobby, your life will change tremendously.

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7 Tactics to Build Increased Motivation and Fulfill Your Goals 98

7 Tactics to Build Increased Motivation and Fulfill Your Goals

Sometimes, the simplest things to do can also be the hardest.

Something as simple as getting out of bed and getting your chores done, or going to work on time and meeting your deadlines; all of these might seem like tasks that any functional adult should not find hard to do. However, we can find ourselves in a tough spot every now and then, when the motivation is lacking and we don’t have the drive to keep moving forward.

What can the reason for this lack of motivation be?

It can be lethargy, fatigue, stress, mental instability, or even just a serious lack of passion and enthusiasm to do something. And, keeping all factors in mind, it really is quite normal for you to be feeling this way. A lot of people face this, and we are only human after all, so no one is perfect.

Stress is something that you need to be wary of as it can make you feel defeated and unmotivated. There are several factors in everyday life that can aggravate you. Here is an infographic that can help you reduce stress:

Rising Levels of Anxiety In A Digital World

Before you go ahead with trying to achieve your goals, ask yourself these questions:

Are my goals defined?

Do I have a solid plan to move forward with?

What are the problems that bother me the most?

Do I have my priorities lined up right?

What are my flaws?

This is why it is essential for us to work on building motivation for ourselves.

How? Let’s take a quick look:

1. Write down your goals.

Making a list of your goals and ambitions is a great way to give you that extra push to keep going. A list is not just a reminder of what tasks need to be fulfilled, but also a way of letting yourself prepare properly for any upcoming opportunity or task at hand.  

2. Meditate.

Meditation is a wonderful tool that really helps with getting your thoughts and mind together, in sync, and taking your potential to a whole other level. When your mind and ideas are working with each other in harmony, there’s no stopping your progress graph.

Even your goals then become clearer and more defined, leaving you feeling more monetarily satisfied and secure too.

3. Exercising regularly.

Once your thoughts have been directed to the right channels, it’s time to focus on your physical health and fitness.

Fitness is not just about looking good, it’s also about feeling great and healthy. Your exercise regime, if followed regularly, can instantly spike your response rate and also your performance levels both at home and at work.

4. Learning to de-stress.

You know yourself better than anyone else does. Which is why it’s vital for you to understand what types of scenarios are stressful for you. Try your best to either stay away from them or learn how to accept your situation and make the most of it.

Whether it’s playing a friendly sport or visiting a spa, make sure you de-stress amply and take your mind off all the serious stuff.

5. Take inspiration from others.

There is always someone you look up to. A close friend or maybe a family member who you admire; who inspires you through their own stories of achievement and success. These are the people whom you should be around more, and draw as much learning and lessons that you can from them. Ask them questions, learn about their journey, and take notes while you do so!

6. Learn from your mistakes.

It’s okay to err, to make mistakes and stupid blunders too because we all do that. The most important thing here is to make sure that you learn something from it and grow as an individual.

You should come to a stage where you know you won’t repeat a stupid mistake like that again. And you’re also drawing pointers on how you can improve your outcome in a similar situation in the future.

7. Don’t lose hope.

Even if things aren’t going away, giving up is never an option. You have to keep trying to reach your goals, despite any obstacles or failure that might come in your path. I

t is this hope and inner confidence that will push your forward and take you through your journey, whilst also molding you into a more mature, experienced individual who is not afraid to take up a challenge.

There are a lot of factors to consider when it comes to life goals and objectives. It’s never an easy path or ride, but the journey is a very knowledgeable and interesting one. There’s always two outlooks – a positive one and a negative one. A positive outlook will make things easier for you because your optimism allows you to look past shortcomings and be hopeful for better results in the future.

You are your best motivator, there is no denying that. Being fully aware of your own strengths and weaknesses puts you in a favorable position because it translates to you being your best critique and teacher as well.

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Luke writes about mental wellness and benefits of brain supplements at Nootrina. He’s a big fan of Yoga and mindfulness and feels that these two are the real key to mental well-being. Being a foodie, Luke loves cooking and brings several cuisines to bear at his dinner table. He’s looking to improve the awareness about mental health issues and share ways to handle them among people of all ages.