All the problems we have come from us not being okay with something and discontent with the way things (or we ourselves) are.
We seek happiness in external sources (food, alcohol, other people, etc.) We don’t trust ourselves, we don’t believe we’re good enough or that we deserve a great life and are able to change.
We’re not confident with our body, appearance, behavior and performance. We expect events to turn out in a certain way and people to act as we expect them to. And when that outcome doesn’t happen, we’re sad, disappointed and even get angry.
We’re always comparing, wishing we were somewhere else and never happy with what we’re doing right now.
We sabotage our success because we’re not sure we deserve it, or we doubt ourselves and don’t even try.
All these are common problems we all have today and are the root of our discontent with life.
These are also the things I write about in my book The Tao of Happiness.
I think that in order to be happy we need to stop judging and comparing, let go of ideals and expectations. We should trust, love and appreciate ourselves and realize that everything around us is a reason to be grateful.
It’s something we can all do at any given moment only if we decide and allow ourselves to be happy.
In the book I explain how all the things on our mind that we should let go of are stopping us from moving forward and experiencing life right now. Because how can you be here and enjoy the present consciously if you’re having regrets about the past and worries about the future…
The solution then is to be happy with the way things are. This is the Zen way and it’s the path to contentment.
You can still try to improve yourself but this time it will be after you’ve accepted yourself for who you are and are okay with that. You can make changes but you don’t need that in order to be happy because it’s something from the outer world. And you don’t have anything to do with it when it comes down to your happiness… because everything happens inside of you.
Having found joy from within means that no matter how things turn out, you’ll find a way to make the best of the situation and find its positives.
And before you set goals, before you want to go somewhere else or change the person you are in order to live better and be happier, before you strive for success and want more in your life, stop for a while.
Slow down and look around. Maybe there are things you haven’t noticed before. And often what you take for granted is the actual reason for your happiness, you just need to open your eyes for it.
Then try to stop interfering and just go with the flow. Life is beautiful the way it is and letting things be is natural. That’s how we embrace simplicity and bring peace and emotional freedom in our life.
These are the things I want everyone to realize because many remain blind for them. Those who have so much, whose days are filled with abundance, don’t see it and want to change it all, wishing that what they’re looking for will be better. They expect things, don’t appreciate the ones they have now, and thus live a life full of regrets, doubts, fears of missing out, plans and ungratefulness.
I want to remind you that this isn’t the way life should be. Instead, we can all be happy, all the time. A little change in the mindset is all we need to fix our problems and once we look at things from another perspective, the same world we live in starts to look amazing. And we live every next day to the fullest.
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