The Root of Our Problems 305

the root of our problems

All the problems we have come from us not being okay with something and discontent with the way things (or we ourselves) are.

We seek happiness in external sources (food, alcohol, other people, etc.) We don’t trust ourselves, we don’t believe we’re good enough or that we deserve a great life and are able to change.

We’re not confident with our body, appearance, behavior and performance. We expect events to turn out in a certain way and people to act as we expect them to. And when that outcome doesn’t happen, we’re sad, disappointed and even get angry.

We’re always comparing, wishing we were somewhere else and never happy with what we’re doing right now.

We sabotage our success because we’re not sure we deserve it, or we doubt ourselves and don’t even try.

All these are common problems we all have today and are the root of our discontent with life.

These are also the things I write about in my book The Tao of Happiness.

I think that in order to be happy we need to stop judging and comparing, let go of ideals and expectations. We should trust, love and appreciate ourselves and realize that everything around us is a reason to be grateful.

It’s something we can all do at any given moment only if we decide and allow ourselves to be happy.

In the book I explain how all the things on our mind that we should let go of are stopping us from moving forward and experiencing life right now. Because how can you be here and enjoy the present consciously if you’re having regrets about the past and worries about the future…

The solution then is to be happy with the way things are. This is the Zen way and it’s the path to contentment.

You can still try to improve yourself but this time it will be after you’ve accepted yourself for who you are and are okay with that. You can make changes but you don’t need that in order to be happy because it’s something from the outer world. And you don’t have anything to do with it when it comes down to your happiness… because everything happens inside of you.

Having found joy from within means that no matter how things turn out, you’ll find a way to make the best of the situation and find its positives.

And before you set goals, before you want to go somewhere else or change the person you are in order to live better and be happier, before you strive for success and want more in your life, stop for a while.

Slow down and look around. Maybe there are things you haven’t noticed before. And often what you take for granted is the actual reason for your happiness, you just need to open your eyes for it.

Then try to stop interfering and just go with the flow. Life is beautiful the way it is and letting things be is natural. That’s how we embrace simplicity and bring peace and emotional freedom in our life.

These are the things I want everyone to realize because many remain blind for them. Those who have so much, whose days are filled with abundance, don’t see it and want to change it all, wishing that what they’re looking for will be better. They expect things, don’t appreciate the ones they have now, and thus live a life full of regrets, doubts, fears of missing out, plans and ungratefulness.

I want to remind you that this isn’t the way life should be. Instead, we can all be happy, all the time. A little change in the mindset is all we need to fix our problems and once we look at things from another perspective, the same world we live in starts to look amazing. And we live every next day to the fullest.

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Meditation Mentality: Why Meditation Helps Heal 157

Meditation Mentality: Why Meditation Helps Heal

Meditating has been a form of healing and self-care for thousands of years.

Every culture has indulged in meditation in some way, although the best-known approach stems from India and is an integral part of yoga. Yoga, meaning union or to yolk, is actually one of three Vedic paths to nirvana (or escaping the cycle of re-incarnation).

Yoga, as it’s well known in the west, is usually asana, or postures. These asanas were designed so that ancient yogis could sit in seated meditation for hours (after all, you don’t want your legs cramping up while you’re trying to meditate).

However, meditating for hours is rarely recommended. Instead, practicing mindful awareness while limiting distractions for up to 30 minutes is best. Otherwise, it’s nearly guaranteed that most westerners will get distracted.

Why does meditation heal and how can we bring it into reasonable daily practice?

Meditation is the practice of looking inward and acknowledging thoughts as they approach (they will) and sending them away.

Some light distractions, such as counting mala beads, can help. Others prefer candle gazing.

There are countless tools to meditation, and one of the most common is pranayama (breath control) which can also be common in western yoga classes.

Pranayama also comes in a wide variety. One of the most simple is three-part breathing where you practice equal parts inhale, holding, and exhaling. All of these tools are designed to increase the odds of a successful meditation practice. Remember: the goal of meditation isn’t a blank mind. That’s rarely possible, especially for prolonged periods of time. The goal is to lessen stimulation and look inward.

Meditation can help lower blood pressure because it’s a calming practice. Since high blood pressure is related to heart disease, the top killer of women in the US, that’s reason enough alone to add it into your daily rituals. Also, bear in mind that meditation doesn’t need to last 30 minutes – even one minute of mindfulness (preferably in a seated position so you don’t slip into a nap) can be beneficial.

Many addicts say meditation was a key part of their recovery.

It can help redirect the mind as is known as a means of easing cravings and dangerous habits. It takes regular practice of any habit, good or bad, for it to form (some say 30 days or another arbitrary number, but it can vary by weeks based on the person).

When pursuing refuge recovery, meditation can be a powerful tool for coping and taking control of one’s life.

Meditation is a stress relief tool, which is critical as many westerners are highly stressed and working around the clock. This can lead to breakouts, anxiety and depression, and a host of mental and physical conditions.

Most people can’t “check out” of modern society, but implementing some ancient tools of self-care can be a great option. Find out what meditation can do for you, and keep in mind you may need to try a few strategies before finding the right fit.