When You Feel Lost 327

do you feel lost?

When was the last time you felt like yourself?

I notice how people, including myself, often feel lost. Sometimes we just feel that everything is pointless, we lose hope and track of time and we let desperation, regrets and sadness take control.

It’s an awful place to be at and getting there can have permanent damage on us. We may ditch important projects, take a serious decision and make a drastic change while feeling that way and that will have consequences. We may go many steps back in our self-improvement or go back to old habits.

So something must be done on order not to feel like that anymore.

First, it’s important to analyze why you had that feeling the last time. The reason may be one of these:

  • you’ve been doing something you don’t like for years – a job maybe;
  • you aren’t following your dreams;
  • you’ve given up on something important to you;
  • you live by someone else’s standards;
  • you live unconsciously;
  • you’re always busy;
  • there’s too much stress and anxiety in your life;
  • you spend too much time with people you have nothing in common with;
  • you’re in a bad relationship;
  • you’re not sure if you’re doing the right things.

Then it’s time to start noticing the details. Be aware of each time you don’t agree with someone but pretend to, do something you don’t enjoy, feel bad or sad, have regrets and doubts.

Now think again about the last time you felt like yourself. Visualize it. Who else was there? What were you doing? What was different?

Answering these questions will give you the answers you need. You know what really makes you happy but sometimes you tend to forget. So remind yourself of all the activities you enjoy, the people you like spending time with, the hobbies you once had, the little things you loved that made you smile and the way they made you feel.

Happiness is a state of mind. And you’ll never be contented with your life if you don’t let yourself be who you really are.

Most people have jobs they don’t like, colleagues they can’t stand and play a role in front of others. They leave their dreams behind so that they can have time for their daily commitments and tasks. They are prisoners of their own mind and full of fears and regrets and pretend to be someone else in order to avoid facing the real problem.

Living that way is harmful because your mind and soul need more freedom, inspiration, time for yourself, things that make you laugh, people that love you and happy moments. What they need less of is stress, bad choices, wrong people, caring too much about what others say, great expectations and unfulfilled dreams.

So don’t wait for the next time you feel lost to do something about that. Act now. Happiness is here, you just need to embrace it. Enjoy the present moment and start living more consciously.

Once you realize how beautiful things are right now and accept yourself for who you are, things will get better. There’s so much to be grateful for and so many possibilities around you. Focus on that!

See also:

Feeling lost and how it can help you find yourself
7 tips to find yourself when you’re feeling lost

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Signs You’re Stuck in a Rut (and How to Get Out) 17

signs you're stuck in a rut and what to do about it

Life has its ups and downs for all of us, but sometimes those downs creep up and take hold without us noticing. All of a sudden we look around and realize that we’ve found ourselves stuck deep in a rut. If you don’t know you’re in a rut, it can be very difficult to get out and this can lead to lasting negative effects on your health and happiness.

So how do you know when you’re in a rut?

And, more importantly, what can you do to get back on track?

One of the biggest red flags that demonstrate that you might be drifting listlessly through your own life is that you spend most of it daydreaming of being somewhere else.

It’s perfectly normal to spend some time in the office wishing you were lying on a beach instead, but if this is a permanent state of affairs, it’s a sign that you’re dangerously bored. Try adding some spontaneity into your life to liven things up a bit, at least until that next vacation.

If you don’t have an exotic location to jet off to, you need to make sure you still have some things to look forward to. If the only thing you have any anticipation for is getting into bed at the end of every day, then you’re definitely in a rut and need to start finding enjoyment in the little things in life, appreciating all of the things that come in between waking up and going back to bed again.

Social media is a great tool for lots of things in our lives. But it can also have a very damaging effect on your mental health because it’s easy to be fooled by the edited highlights of their lives people put on there. This can leave you feeling envious because the day to day reality of your life doesn’t look like what you assume everyone’s life is, so stop obsessing over other people and shift your focus back to yourself.

Doing this shouldn’t come at the expense of actually ever seeing other people or doing anything, of course. So if you’re finding that you are spending all of your time at home rather than getting out and seeing friends, or claiming that you don’t have time to do anything (when the reality is quite the opposite), these are all also signs that you need to think hard about changing your habits.

Nobody ever wants to get stuck in a rut, but in a world where work-life balances are getting ever more hard to maintain and technology is eating into face to face interactions, it’s easy to find yourself wondering where your life went. These tips from NetCredit will help you identify whether you are living yours in a rut and will help you start to find your way out again.

More tips on how to get unstuck:

How to Get Your Motivation Back
How to Boost Your Energy and Vitality for a Successful Life
How to Embrace Acceptance in Life
How to Deal with Indecisiveness