The Path to a Free, Happy and Simple Life 108

live happily, have freedom and peace

Some time ago I realized something really important. Simple, and yet so powerful, that it completely changed the way I see things.

I understood that I am responsible for everything in my life. That in each moment I choose whether to be happy or not. And that with every decision of mine I can change the outcome.

The thing is, the happy, simple and stress-free life we’re all wishing for is out there, waiting for us to start living it.

Here are some things I’m working on that can help anyone be more satisfied, live freely and easily, reach peace and feel joy.

You’ll find most of the statements too obvious as it’s stuff we should all be doing. But the truth is that we’re not doing it no matter how easy it is.
Instead, we’ve decided to complicate our lives and stick to that.

But I don’t need to follow the crowd. I choose to be happy. You can too.

Here they are:

  1. When people don’t like you, accept it. There’s nothing you can do. And whoever you become, there will always be someone to disapprove and disagree. As long as you’re okay with yourself and have people who support you, you’re alright.
  2. If you like someone, tell him. Even if he doesn’t like you, you don’t lose anything.
  3. The future is uncertain. Stop trying to predict it.
  4. Whatever has happened, learn from it and move on. There’s no place for your past in your present.
  5. If you make a mistake, don’t feel bad, lose hope or analyze it too much. Now you know what not to do and can try again. All successful people have been there.
  6. If you don’t like something, get rid of it.
  7. If you don’t like your job, quit and find something else.
  8. If you’re in doubt, just choose one of the options and try to make the best of it. Whatever happens, you’ll know you’ve tried.
  9. Stop comparing yourself and your life to those of others. It makes you feel awful and is never true as everyone is at a different level, dealing with different stuff and nothing is as it seems.
  10. If you want something, now is the right time to do it.
  11. You don’t need others to believe in yourself, actually you don’t need any help. All you have to do is see yourself for the amazing being you are with all those abilities, powers and potential you have. And do something about it.
  12. No regrets.
  13. The only thing that matters is the present moment. Enjoy it, or you’re missing out on what’s important.
  14. If you find someone special, try to make things work out.
  15. Don’t pretend to be someone else. It makes things too hard and never ends good. Embrace who you are and appreciate yourself.
  16. Choose to focus on the things you have. The rest will fall into place.
  17. You don’t need to change things. They are perfect just the way they are.
  18. If you want to cry, let your feelings out.
  19. If someone doesn’t appreciate you, take it as a sign from the universe that you shouldn’t waste any time on him.
  20. Better things are coming.
  21. The right person is out there.
  22. If you think about something every day, don’t give up on it. It’s worth it.
  23. There’s always an easier, simpler and faster way to do what you want to do. Find it.
  24. Wake up and thank for the day. That will make you appreciate it more and start it with a smile.
  25. Instead of trying to guess what someone else thinks of you, what his plans are or else, just ask him.
  26. If you don’t like the book you’ve just started, leave it. Life is too short for bad books.
  27. Don’t try to change people. Accept them as they are.
  28. Living life is easy. Thinking about it too much makes it hard, though.
  29. Don’t be afraid to talk about your accomplishments.
  30. Divide your big goals into tiny steps. And start acting on them now.

These are just some of the things we should start or stop doing that will transform our lives.

There are many more.

But once you get used to choosing less over more, being happy over not being satisfied and simple over complicated, you’ll develop such an attitude towards life. And soon all your decisions will be taking you to the right direction.

Further reading:

Simple Living Manifesto
Tips to Live Simple, Happy and Free
The Simple Life
Live Stress-Free
Building a Happier Life

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Alternatives to The Twelve-Step Program 45

Alternatives to The Twelve-Step Program

For those suffering from addiction, the Twelve-Step Program is the world’s most famous method of recovery. It was introduced back in 1939 in The Alcoholics Anonymous ‘Big Book’ as it’s come to be known.

It’s since helped many more than one hundred men (and women) and has been only slightly adapted over the years. Regardless of small changes, the core principles of admitting alcohol/narcotic dependency, believing that God can restore health, and making amends to others hurt during one’s addiction are retained.

While this program has had many successes in helping thousands across the world to overcome their addictions, there are two main criticisms:

  • It doesn’t work for everyone, and;
  • It is founded on faith in a Higher Power.

Some people try this famous program, lauded as the ultimate key to sobriety, only to be disappointed and feel a sense of hopelessness that something that has worked for so many hasn’t worked for them.

Others are put off that belief in God is required to truly embody the program, which some people simply don’t align with.

It’s important to remember that the Twelve-Step Program is far from the only addiction management and recovery method out there. Every individual is different; therefore, a one-size-fits-all approach to addiction (or indeed anything) is impossible.

Here are some other recovery programs that have facilitated recovery from addiction for many people around the globe.

SMART Recovery

This organization focuses on cognitive behavioral therapies that help addicts to adapt their reactions, thought processes and dependencies into healthier habits. It helps those with alcohol and drug dependency recognize the emotional and environmental factors behind their problems and learn to manage addictive behaviors. SMART is committed to evolving its program as scientific knowledge evolves; remaining active rather than static where addiction treatment is concerned.

If this sounds like something you’d like to try, there are over 635 groups in the US and 613 international groups – it’s more than likely that there is one in your vicinity.

Women for Sobriety

If you are a woman who feels she would be more comfortable supported by a group of women, this is offered by WFS.

The group was founded in the 1970s by Jean Kirkland, who developed her own way of overcoming addiction and dependency. It centers on bolstering women’s self-value and addresses the individual emotional issues that lay behind each person’s addiction. 

S.O.S.

If Twelve-Steps hasn’t worked or isn’t something you want to try, but you’re open to getting support from a secular organization, then S.O.S. could be an option to explore.

They work on an abstinence-based approach and their groups are free to anyone who wishes to be free from addiction. They are a non-profit organization and cover running costs with donations, which are greatly appreciated by anyone who uses the service or other supporters.

Meetings generally begin with celebrations of sobriety and abstinence anniversaries, followed by discussions and group activities. They aim to create a positive, buoyant atmosphere through which to motivate members. Sharing of advice and strength is promoted and members are encouraged to offer their utmost support to others. 

Besides these examples, there are hundreds, if not thousands, of rehabilitation facilities all over the world that have developed their own recovery programs – it’s down to the individual to choose one that they think will benefit them best. This rehab website from NJ gives details about the SOBA College Recovery which integrates addiction rehabilitation with treatment for coexisting mental health disorders and return to education for young adults.

There are a multitude of options out there – some simple research is sure to find a path right for you.

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This article is not certified medical advice. If you or a loved one is struggling with addiction, please consult your doctor for medical advice about how it is best for you to begin to change your lifestyle.