Focusing on The Right Reasons (and Getting Rid of Excuses) 173

Focusing on The Right Reasons, Let's Reach Success

Our brain does a phenomenal job when it’s looking for reasons not to do something we’re afraid of.
Or when there’s even the slightest need of going out of our comfort zone, taking a risk, speaking up, doing something different or facing hardships in order to achieve it.

Most of them are excuses, negative thoughts, our own limitations like fears and worries.

And I’m sure you’re perfectly aware of the fact that they aren’t true. And the best thing you can do at this moment is to act upon your desire, opportunity or goal, and not listen to your brain.

I’m not talking about ridiculous things or ones that put you in danger. I mean those that will take us to the life we deserve, the unique chances we need to take but which also requite hard work, time, the possibility of failing, breaking free from the comfort zone, making sacrifices and not listening to others.

It’s not easy and that’s why we’re looking for reasons not to do it at all.

Here’s an example.

I’ve always wanted to write and publish a book. And if I think about the reasons why I shouldn’t, I will eventually give up and my dream will never come true.

They are:

  • It will take a long, long time.
  • I can’t find that much inspiration and at some point I won’t have anything else to say.
  • People may not like it.
  • It may be a failure.
  • No one would probably even read it.
  • You should have built a name already and have a big audience to sell it. And I’m no one.
  • It may not look professional.
  • Writing it is not enough. There are many other things that need to be done – editing, formatting, promoting, etc.

But what if I focus on why I should write it:

  • People may actually like it.
  • I may inspire someone.
  • It will make me believe I’m a real author and give me the confidence to write better things.
  • I will feel more independent.
  • I may start making an income.
  • I will have a decent product on my blog.
  • I will start and finish a big personal project.
  • I will be proud of myself.
  • Other bloggers will take me more seriously.
  • It’s something I’ll eventually do, so it’s better to start now.
  • The feeling of publishing it will be amazing.
  • It will be a great experience. From then on, I’ll know my weak and strong sides, mistakes and unexpected problems throughout the writing process.

I can go on like that for the next hour. And I can also think of many more reasons not to do it.

I’m saying all this to remind you of how important what you focus on is.

It’s actually a matter of choice. When you have to take a decision, you’ll make a list in your head. And it’s crucial whether it will contain items in favor of or against doing the thing you want to do. Both lists can be quite convincing and will sound like the right thing to do.

In conclusion, I’ll say that whatever the situation is, you’ll do the right thing if you:

  • ignore the excuses your mind thinks of;
  • focus on the reasons why you should take action/start something new/ take a chance/ etc;
  • think of as many positive reasons as you can and remind yourself of them throughout the whole thing;
  • make the best of it.

So if you have an opportunity – take it, if you are secretly dreaming about something huge that takes courage – do it, if you have goals – start working on them right away. You won’t regret it.
This is what winners do, the way successful people think, how great ideas turn into reality and what you will wish you had done years from now.

P.S. I wrote this post almost a year ago. It was when I was trying to stay focused on finishing my first book “The Tao of Happiness”. It helped me stay motivated.

And now my second book is available – “This Moment”. It’s about living mindfully in the present moment and how to let go of past and future so that we can be right where we are and enjoy the now.

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4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health 13

4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health

While most people pay the most attention to their physical health and work hard to achieve a healthy body, they often overlook the potential mental health issues that may have been well tucked away.

Understanding and paying sufficient attention to your mental health issues is an action that should be prioritized in every situation. What could seem like the simplest mental health problem to you might actually be affecting your life in more ways that you can imagine.

Here are just a few reasons why you shouldn’t ignore the signs.

1. It Is Way More Common Than You Believe.

You might think that mental illness is not present in many situations but the truth is that almost everyone has or is facing such an issue.

In fact, one in five Americans suffers from some type of mental illness. The saddest part about this though, is that very few of them seek treatment.

The person affected by the illness can even be one of your family members. Sadly, symptoms are easy to hide and even people who are severely depressed can mask their health issues from their families and avoid getting help.

2. It Can Also Affect Your Physical Health.

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It is known from a long time ago that the connection between the mind and the body is strong. Any sort of physical distress can have a huge effect on your capability to work or focus on things around you. Following this same rule, any sort of mental problem can easily affect your physical health too.

The first few things that a mental illness will affect are your mood, energy levels, sleep cycles, appetite and quite possibly your sex drive. Along with these problems and as a result of them, your immune system can also be affected and that can lead to more often colds and an overall impairment of your physical health.

People who face mental illnesses are often left unmotivated and drained of energy.

The illness blurs your mind so much that you have no energy left to function properly in your everyday life. Ask any person that has faced a major depression and they will tell you just how much they let themselves go and how they stopped caring about simple everyday things, such as brushing their teeth or taking a shower.

Physical symptoms won’t take long to appear and you will simply keep increasing your risk factor of a number of health problems such as heart disease or heart palpitations, insomnia and fatigue. It is very important that you ask for help if you feel such symptoms arising. Make sure that you consult a board-certified practitioner to be certain that a mental problem is not the cause of them.   

3. It Plays an Important Role in Your Success.

One of the most frequent symptoms of a mental illness is the lack of motivation. You just feel so tired of everything, you find that you are not interested in what others are doing and you just end up losing interest in things you used to love.

The lack of mental health can, therefore, play a huge role in your success. No matter if you are a college student, an employee or a working parent, you can easily lose sense of what’s important to you and hinder your success in whatever role you might have.

In whichever situation you might be, you will definitely need to be able to be creative and productive. Your success in your studies or your workplace might be your only source of stability and income.

An untreated mental illness can be the reason behind your reduced productivity, your lack of creativity and your overall negative attitude towards your work.

Keep in mind that a large number of homeless people are those who are suffering from a mental illness but sadly left it untreated.

Looking for help and letting the mental health professionals guide you can take a lot of weight off your shoulders. It can help you see things from a different perspective and give you the courage and motivation you need to get back on track and find yourself again.

4. It Can Affect Your Relationship with Your Peers.

Most people who face a mental illness find themselves intimidated by social situations. Even spending time with friends or family can seem like a very tiring or pointless task and they will often opt out of it. It is important to remember that this does not apply only to depressed people, as many might think, but to a large area of mental issues.

Anxiety disorders can alienate a person from their circle because of the constant fear of something going wrong, of someone not liking them or of an overall new situation. It is very common for the solution to your mental health issue to be holding the key to you getting back your behavioral health.

Mental illness can also affect your relationship with your family.

Apart from losing contact with people you probably care about, you might even end up harming them more than you think. It is not rare to see a person struggle both financially but also emotionally when it comes to helping family members that are battling mental illness.

Another very important reason to not take your mental health lightly is for the sake of your children. It is very often reported that children of people who struggle with a mental illness are abused or neglected. That can play a huge role in their lives and affect their entire lives, from childhood to adulthood.

Make Your Mental Health an Everyday Goal!

There are many places to turn to for help. The National Alliance on Mental Illness, otherwise known as NAMI, can be a great place to start. Through it, you can find a suitable medical center that will provide you with the suitable health services to help you regain your mental health.

It is important that you are not ashamed of your personal struggles or mental issues. Everything is part of the human nature and the fact that there are so many people available to help comes to show just how human this situation is and how much attention we, as a society, should be paying to this important issue.


Leona Henryson is a professional writer and passionate blogger. Her goal is to help people achieve their personal self-development and mental wellness.