How to Feel Good About Yourself

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You may be considered successful, have many things to do, and friends, and a family, and a big house. But that doesn’t mean you like the person you’ve become, feel comfortable in your skin or have confidence.

I see so many people that look like they got it all, but when you notice the details, they don’t really feel good about themselves.
And that means they are not happy with their life.

Let’s not become them.

This is what you should do in order to have a great opinion of yourself (and thus change the way people look at you, how you perform at work, and boost your confidence):

13 Steps to Feeling Good About Yourself

1. Accept yourself.

You are who you are. You may change that soon, but at this very moment you’re that version of yourself. And before you accept it, you won’t be able to make any progress.

Accept your past, with all the mistakes and failures. They are a part of you but that doesn’t mean they will be repeated. Let what has already happened be. But it doesn’t have any place in your present.

2. Don’t let others put you down.

People will try to discourage you, talk you out of something you’re up to, tell you you’re crazy to think in a certain way, etc.

It’s your choice whether you’ll listen to them or go chase your dreams.

3. Focus on your positive qualities.

Everyone has good and bad sides. They are who you are, true. But the best you can do to feel better about yourself is to pay attention to the good ones – your skills, things you’re good at, things that others like about you and basically everything that’s optimistic and makes you feel good.

4. Give yourself compliments.

Instead of waiting for others to do that, why don’t you start noticing your good attributes and what you like about your appearance, character or way of thinking, and have it in mind more often?

5. Remember that what you think about yourself is most important.

Others don’t have a saying in this. It’s your life and your choices.

As soon as you realize that the only approval you need is yours, you’ll feel free as a bird, more confident, and will achieve much more.

Listening to others only makes you upset.

6. Work out.

Not only will you look better, but you’ll also be motivated, disciplined, live more healthy, and become confident and proud of yourself once you see results.

Find a sport you like and dedicate time to it. It’s absolutely worth it.

7. Constantly improve yourself.

Be okay with who you are but never stop challenging yourself and looking for ways to grow.

8. Wear clothes that make you feel good.

Appearance matters. And if you like what you see in the mirror, you’ll definitely have a better opinion of yourself.

Most people never realize that they’re wearing clothes that don’t show what they have, and make them look bad.

9. Don’t be afraid to talk about your accomplishments.

We’re taught not to brag, but these days people are afraid to even mention their successes because they may seem overconfident.

But what’s wrong with saying that you’ve worked hard on something, you’ve been promoted, lost weight, won a match?
Or even that you think you look better than you did a year ago, your muscles are bigger, you can run for miles without getting exhausted, have a lot of free time with your new job, have the perfect partner, etc.?

10. Personal hygiene.

That’s an important one. It always feels good to be clean and neat all the time. Don’t underestimate it.

11. Help others.

That will make you feel good about yourself too.

12. Learn new skills.

You’ll become more intelligent, open-minded, communicative and way more interesting if you learn new languages, try new sports, can play a musical instrument, hold a speech, cook, or else.

13. Work on your goals.

Last but not least, never stop doing something small every day in order to achieve what you’ve always wanted.

After considering some of these things, you can be sure that you’ll feel much better about yourself. And your life will change drastically.

Once I finished making this list I realized that these are just the things I’m doing with my life. Some of them I started recently, but just knowing that I’m working on some or all of these items makes me feel good about myself.
Hope you’ll feel this way too.

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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