The Journey of the Individual and Why Perspective is Everything 142

Journey-Perspective, Let's Reach Success

There are times when life seems unfair. When you feel like the universe is against you, others don’t understand you, and nothing you try seems to work.

I was like that too.

I think we all go through that phase. And when we come to certain realizations, have experience, learn from our mistakes and persevere, things turn out just fine.

Then we understand that everything that has ever happened was the right thing at that moment. It had a purpose, it was either a lesson, experience or a thing to go through so that we can get ready for something else.

And we start to accept things as they are. We become okay with them. And that’s when life begins.

From this moment on we know that it all comes down to perspective.
Simply because perspective is everything.

Once we think about and analyze our behavior, we see that maybe the problem wasn’t in the other person even if he started the argument, it’s in the way we reacted and the action we took after that.

Because in most cases the other person is not the problem. It’s you that has to do something else and look at things from another point of view. Then you can be compassionate and put yourself in his shoes, realize he’s just an outer stimulus and can’t affect your life, and also to let go of judgement and comparison and accept him for who he is, and be okay with the way he behaves.

It’s funny how when we think in the old way, we take things personally and that prevents us from being truly happy. We expect too much from others and when they don’t do, say or think that way we’re disappointed and feel bad.
We crave for attention and want to please everyone at the same time. All that is too much pressure and makes life complex and unpleasant while it’s supposed to be simple and full of joy.

But when we change perspective, we can smile, breathe deeply and slow down because we are okay with things, events and people and experience the present moment with contentment and a peaceful mind.

We start to see the beauty in little things, to notice the positives. We don’t take things personally anymore because we understand people, that they have their own fights and fears to overcome or may have just had a bad day.
So even if someone’s angry with us, we don’t get depressed or try to find out what’s wrong with us. Instead, we try to help him.

We also don’t seek attention from others anymore because we ourselves are enough. We let go of expectations and other people’s opinion and just go with the flow.

We become like water and instead of interfering and putting effort and pressure, we are at ease, make the best of what we have and appreciate it.

That’s how a happy person handles life. And that’s why simplicity, going with the flow and looking at things from another point of view is his philosophy.

I encourage you to give this a try. No matter what bothers you in life, try to change the way you see it. This way even the worst problem can become a temporary situation, a lesson or even a possibility.

By doing this you’ll also be freeing yourself from the burden of unnecessary worries, overthinking and trying hard to change things that are just out of your control.

Another thing you should do in order to live the life you deserve in the best and happiest way possible, is to let go of the need of control and security. They are both an illusion and the sooner you realize that, the better. Accept the course of events and try to benefit from the way things are. Not to change them.

Human beings are remarkable in their ability to change for the better once they put their mind to it. You’ve got all it takes to achieve everything you want but you often lose track and lead astray because of the many distractions we live in.
But once you have a purpose, a clear path to follow and have changed the way you look at things so that now you realize that everything is perfect just the way it is, beautiful things will come to your life.

 Further reading:

Why does purpose matter
Why have a life purpose
Letting go of attachment
Mind like water
Stop overthinking everything
Ways to find inner peace
Acceptance
The flexible mind
No expectations

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Everyone dreams about being successful. But what is success?

For you, it could be building a company, getting promoted at work, generating wealth, or more humble ambitions, such as being the best parent or partner. While success looks different to each person, we all have an innate desire to achieve.

No matter how you define success as an individual, here are some habits you can adopt to become more successful in everyday life.

1. Be Focused.

There are distractions all around us, from social media and smartphones to friends and family. While everyone needs some ‘me time,’ to be successful, you also need focus. As such, cut out distractions and set aside time to work towards your goal.

Remember: There is always something productive you can do.

2. Aim to Learn.

It can be easy to get hung up results but being successful is about more than the outcome. The key to being truly successful is about learning. This allows you to grow and adapt, changing your approach and leading to improvements. As such, make learning a goal. This will also help to keep you motivated, too.

3. Be Prepared.

Being prepared is essential to increase the chance of success. This can be applied to almost any situation. Whether you are expecting your first baby, have an upcoming exam or interview, or are considering CFD trading, all require research and preparation.

4. Stop the Excuses.

When something goes wrong, it can be easy to dig your head in the sand, but this is not a habit of a successful person. Instead, take responsibility. Stop your excuses, work on your weaknesses and make improvements. The onus is on you to be successful so step up, set challenges and drive yourself forward.

5. Be Happy.

You may be focussed on earning more money, or you may have a goal to buy a flash car. But if you’re working a job you cannot stand, putting in too many hours and sacrificing time with the ones you love, you could quickly start to feel miserable.

Increase your happiness and make it a marker of your success, even if it takes longer to achieve your goals.

6. Feel Grateful.

Success is often less about material possessions or goals than it is about changing our perceptions.

This is why it is important to start recognizing the good things around you. Recognise and feel grateful for what you already have and you will soon feel very successful indeed.

7. Start Failing.

This may seem counterintuitive, but failure is a big part of success. It helps to highlight the things we do not want and essentially provides clarity. A little failure never hurt anyone. After all, no one has ever become successful without first experiencing failure.