The harsh truth is that there are toxic people in your life.
And no matter how used to them you are, no matter how many years you’ve known each other, you know very well that they aren’t the best company.
And if you’ve set some big goals that requite hard, focused work every single day, or if you just want to change your habits, improve, become a better person and fill your days with high priorities, you’ll have to ditch people like that.
And then, you’ll find new ones – optimistic, like-minded people, who are ambitious, talk about ideas, are creative, help and listen to others, and have a bright future and a great way of thinking.
And just by being around them, you’re more likely to succeed in your own endeavors and lead the lifestyle of your dreams.
So here are the types of people that you don’t need in your life:
Some people just complain. All day. Every day.
They think the world is unfair to them, the weather is awful, they won’t make it on time, they don’t feel like going out, they need a change but can’t do anything because of certain reasons, etc.
They focus on the negatives and don’t even notice the good stuff about life.
People like that rarely change.
Yes, it would be great if you could help them see the world for the beautiful place it is, full of opportunities and exciting places and people.
But what’s more likely is that you’ll just start complaining too.
2. The ones that are with you only in good times.
These are easy to recognize, as they stick around only when you’re thriving, when you have money, when you’re happy, look and feel good, etc.
And if you eventually get back to a state where you need some support, are depressed, need some help, lost your job, or have some issues, it’s hard to hear from them.
3. Those who don’t believe in you.
It’s okay if the people in your surroundings are realistic, don’t really think big, but also don’t say anything when you try new stuff. You can put up with that.
But there are also the ones that discourage you to such an extent that you’re sure you won’t succeed before you’ve even tried.
The reasons these people are like that can be many. Often, they don’t want to see you successful, are jealous, don’t care about you or are negative and don’t believe in anyone.
But one thing is sure – you don’t need them in your life.
You’re better off without them.
You can easily recognize them as they blame someone (or themselves) all the time, they are never understood, always miserable, feel like no one loves them and life is unfair.
They drag you into their own reality where no one takes responsibility for their actions and there’s always blame, judgement and comparison.
They only think about their mistakes, what they’ve lost, how bad their situation is. And the future looks even worse.
So don’t let them affect you, move on and continue your life without them.
5. People who gossip.
I mean the ones that are focused on other people’s lives. They talk about them – usually awful things, think about them, follow them online and discuss every new picture, comment, or event they see.
And the reason is mainly one – they do it out of jealousy.
Their life is not interesting enough, they envy those who are actually doing something, who are good people and respected by others, who spend their days doing stuff they love, and whose life seems exciting.
And you can be sure that they talk about you too, once you leave the room. It’s just who they are.
You can’t succeed around them. Because they speak about other people so often, that you can easily forget that there are things like ideas, events, opportunities, chances to grow and learn, etc.
So which of these do you have in your surroundings? And how do they make you feel?
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