What Would You Do If You Weren’t Afraid 341

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“Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.”
Judy Blume

The questions we ask ourselves are often the most important ones.

As this way we can get to know ourselves better, reach a higher level of consciousness and find secrets, answers, conclusions and revelations that can later turn into life-changing decisions and steps to take.

And even if you don’t find a particular answer, it’s going to be one great journey.

So set aside a few minutes now to contemplate on one question. Ignore everything else around you. The world can wait for a while.

Focus on imagining in details a life without fear.
What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

The thing is that we’re often afraid of so many things that it’s hard to even imagine doing them.

But what if you weren’t afraid? What if you could go out there and conquer the world, do whatever you want, try every challenge you’ve ever thought of, speak up, be direct, take risks, etc.?

I bet you would be successful, happy, free; there wouldn’t be any limitations any more. Because fear is our biggest barrier to achieving things in life, to changing, trying new stuff and feeling alive.

Actually, it’s often so ingrained in us, that we don’t believe that there’s any chance for us to achieve something big, to live the good life, to have adrenaline in our days.

But here’s something you should know:

There are two types of fear. The rational one – that keeps you alive, and the irrational one – that prevents you from living.

And if you make it a habit to notice the second type each time it occurs (such as fear of failure, of people’s opinion, of public speaking, etc.), you’ll be able to say to yourself “Hey, wait a minute! That’s absolutely ridiculous. And I can’t say ‘no’ to such an idea/opportunity just because my mind tells me it’s scary.”

Here’s what Peter Scott from Design a Fearless Life says here:

“I’ve gone skydiving, and I enjoyed the hell out of it, but I would NEVER jump out of a place without a parachute.  That’s a rational fear that serves to keep me alive.

Most fears are irrational.  But in reality, as human beings, we often convince ourselves that our irrational fears are rational.

As a practical action step…find something that you’re afraid of that is an irrational fear…something that’s not going to cause you physical harm, drain your bank account, or destroy your relationship.  And then do something to prove to yourself that it’s irrational.

Once you’ve found this irrational fear, make the commitment to get over that “fear” today by doing the thing you fear.

You need to do something that is a radical shock to your comfort zone.  It needs to make your knees shake, your palms sweat, and put your heart in your throat.

And when you go to bed tonight you will have done something different, and you will wake up tomorrow with a new past.  You repeat that for a couple of days, and you’ll realize that the shit that you’re afraid of is an illusion.  IT DOES NOT EXIST.

You need to realize that if you haven’t faced your fears, you haven’t truly lived. And that’s so much wasted potential.

You owe it to yourself, to society and the world in general, to get out there and do every single thing that you don’t want to do, feel uncomfortable with, makes you anxious, or else.

And as all successful people that are living a fearless life have discovered, the only way is to simply do it.

Having time to analyze it gives you the chance to play different scenarios in your head, often the worst possible ones, to worry and think of excuses. And if you do that for some time, you give up. And you keep living in your comfort zone.

So get out there today and face your fears!

Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.
Dorothy Thompson

See also:

Fear is the root of your problems
Let go of fear by stopping the stories in your head
Active fear, passive fear
5 ways to destroy the illusion of fear

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What the Richest People in the World Have in Common 4

What the Richest People in the World Have in Common

Getting rich is something everyone dreams about.

For those facing financial hardships, getting rich seems the only way out to tide over shortage of money. For the bourgeoisie – the working class – getting rich conjures up visions of stuff they want to buy for luxury or higher social status. Millionaires also wish to get rich: they want to become billionaires and enter Forbes List of the world’s wealthiest people.

Unless you inherit a fortune or get lucky at lottery or sweepstakes, getting rich can be quite tough.

Yet, there are countless rags-to-riches stories around the world. Enterprises such as Amazon, KFC, Facebook or SpaceX have become runaway successes within a short span. The reason: their founders have several things in common, which is rare among other people.

Here we look at various traits that the world’s richest and most successful entrepreneurs have in common.

The Common Traits of The World’s Richest People

The Common Traits of The World's Richest People

1. Serving People.

“If your only goal is to become rich, you will never achieve it,” said John D. Rockefeller, who laid the foundation stone for America’s giant petroleum industry and his own enterprise, Standard Oil. The same adage holds good today.

Facebook, for example, was launched by Mark Zuckerberg and his roommate, Eduardo Saverin to allow Harvard University students to share profiles and pictures

There are countless such examples of ordinary people striking rich. However, they share one thing in common: serving people. The main objective of launching these enterprises was to make life easier or enjoyable for people rather than earning money.

2. Reading Books.

Microsoft founder Bill Gates, celebrity TV show host Oprah Winfrey, SpaceX and Tesla CEO Elon Musk, Berkshire-Hathaway CEO Warren Buffet and several other extremely rich people of the world have one more thing in common: they are avid readers.

Bill Gates reads at least 50 books every year – an average of nearly four and a half books per month.

Elon Musk owes his success at SpaceX, the project to open space tourism to his love for books and the knowledge he gained from them about rocketry. Oprah Winfrey attributes her success to dozens of books, including some 70 top titles she read on her way to success while Warren Buffet spends about 80 percent of his day reading books.

3. Long-Term Financial Strategies.

A report by CNBC states, all wealthy people depend upon long-term financial strategies rather than short-term gains. They utilized their earnings and savings to invest in safe stocks that would assure gains in the long run rather than indulging in risky trading that can offer high returns.

Such financial planning and decisions ensured they do not lose money. Further, they invested money in their enterprises without the hope of immediate returns.

These wealthy people first focused on building a brand, offering value for people to identify with the brand. And later, popularize the brand through word-of-mouth publicity, which is more effective than traditional advertising.

4. Never Say Die.

Yet another common character trait shared by the world’s richest people is, they are not quitters.

Like every other human on Earth, these wealthy folks also witnessed ups and downs in life. Some of these were so overwhelming most ordinary people would have called it quits and gone in search of easier ventures.

Brian Chesky, Joe Gebbia and Nathan Bleckharczyk, founders of Airbnb, the world’s largest hotels and accommodations aggregator were plagued with financial problems.


Heavily encumbered with debts, bankruptcy was staring at these entrepreneurs in the very eye. Yet, they did not budge. They innovated their service that made Airbnb the world leader in its field today.

Another excellent example is Colonel Harland Sanders, whose recipe for fried chicken was rejected as many as 1,009 times before it was accepted. Col. Sanders is the founder of global chain Kentucky Fried Chicken or KFC.

5. Accepting Criticism.

Most people flee from criticism of any sort. Rather than learning from negative comments arising out of their behavior or work, they take umbrage rather quickly. Yet, they do not bother to amend their behavior or work pattern.

All wealthy people, however, are different. They are willing to be criticized for introducing new ideas or thoughts.

Jeff Bezos, founder of Amazon, rightly says that those who will try and do something new must be willing to draw criticism.

Steve Jobs, founder, Apple, Inc. puts it in even stronger words: “If you want to make everyone happy, do not become a leader; sell ice cream instead.”

The success of Amazon and Apple proves their founders were right when it came to accepting criticism.

6. Out of The Box Thinking.

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Thinking outside of the ‘box’ or a typical mindset is often impossible for most people. Understandably, because everyone draws their mindset from factors and circumstances they are raised and educated in.

This mindset eventually becomes a formidable fetter for anyone wanting to become an entrepreneur. Generally, most people follow the flock and take professions they falsely believe as best suited for their skills. Others try to follow footsteps of their parents.

The wealthiest people in the world never followed flock or took lucrative professions of their parents.

Mark Zuckerberg’s father was a dentist and mom – a psychiatrist. Bill Gates’ dad was a banker father while his mother was a lawyer.

Despite coming from wealthy families, they chose to follow their passion rather than confine their thinking to the proverbial boxed mindset. Col. Sanders had lost his parents at a young age of six years and had to shoulder responsibilities of his siblings.

Other Examples of What The Wealthiest People Have in Common

As we can see, these qualities or personality traits are common to the world’s richest people. It sets them apart from others. Most of them launched small enterprises with the sole purpose of bettering the lives of people. Their products or services gained popularity because money was never their consideration. Widespread use of their technology, products, and services eventually led them to become wealthy.

These traits are not typical to the US or the western world, as one may mistakenly come to believe. A glance at some richest people in India and elsewhere also reveals, they share the same characteristics with their American counterparts. This amply proves that richest people around the world share something in common, regardless of where they live and flourish.

Another common trait that all rich people share in common is philanthropy.

Since childhood, they believe in giving back to the society and helping the underprivileged. They practiced charity when they were not so rich and continue to donate money for the betterment of the society even after becoming billionaires.

These richest people on the planet never waited to become wealthy. Instead, they were philanthropists since childhood – a trait most other people pathetically lack or try to foist upon themselves to gain popularity.

In Conclusion

It is not easy to become wealthy. Or everyone would become a millionaire. People who do make it to the top have a different way of thinking combined with an undying zest for learning new things and educating themselves.

They do not consider conventional learning at universities as the end of their education. Instead, they try and acquire new skills every day and find ways and means to become better humans rather than focusing on fattening their purses.

The world’s wealthiest people also share one common trait: they are not people pleasers, despite their generosity and willingness to serve the society. Because they know, trying to please everyone will get them nowhere and could mean possible failure.