What Would You Do If You Weren’t Afraid

stop being scared and live life to the fullest

“Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.”
Judy Blume

The questions we ask ourselves are often the most important ones.

As this way we can get to know ourselves better, reach a higher level of consciousness and find secrets, answers, conclusions and revelations that can later turn into life-changing decisions and steps to take.

And even if you don’t find a particular answer, it’s going to be one great journey.

So set aside a few minutes now to contemplate on one question. Ignore everything else around you. The world can wait for a while.

Focus on imagining in details a life without fear.
What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

The thing is that we’re often afraid of so many things that it’s hard to even imagine doing them.

But what if you weren’t afraid? What if you could go out there and conquer the world, do whatever you want, try every challenge you’ve ever thought of, speak up, be direct, take risks, etc.?

I bet you would be successful, happy, free; there wouldn’t be any limitations any more. Because fear is our biggest barrier to achieving things in life, to changing, trying new stuff and feeling alive.

Actually, it’s often so ingrained in us, that we don’t believe that there’s any chance for us to achieve something big, to live the good life, to have adrenaline in our days.

But here’s something you should know:

There are two types of fear. The rational one – that keeps you alive, and the irrational one – that prevents you from living.

And if you make it a habit to notice the second type each time it occurs (such as fear of failure, of people’s opinion, of public speaking, etc.), you’ll be able to say to yourself “Hey, wait a minute! That’s absolutely ridiculous. And I can’t say ‘no’ to such an idea/opportunity just because my mind tells me it’s scary.”

Here’s what Peter Scott from Design a Fearless Life says here:

“I’ve gone skydiving, and I enjoyed the hell out of it, but I would NEVER jump out of a place without a parachute.  That’s a rational fear that serves to keep me alive.

Most fears are irrational.  But in reality, as human beings, we often convince ourselves that our irrational fears are rational.

As a practical action step…find something that you’re afraid of that is an irrational fear…something that’s not going to cause you physical harm, drain your bank account, or destroy your relationship.  And then do something to prove to yourself that it’s irrational.

Once you’ve found this irrational fear, make the commitment to get over that “fear” today by doing the thing you fear.

You need to do something that is a radical shock to your comfort zone.  It needs to make your knees shake, your palms sweat, and put your heart in your throat.

And when you go to bed tonight you will have done something different, and you will wake up tomorrow with a new past.  You repeat that for a couple of days, and you’ll realize that the shit that you’re afraid of is an illusion.  IT DOES NOT EXIST.

You need to realize that if you haven’t faced your fears, you haven’t truly lived. And that’s so much wasted potential.

You owe it to yourself, to society and the world in general, to get out there and do every single thing that you don’t want to do, feel uncomfortable with, makes you anxious, or else.

And as all successful people that are living a fearless life have discovered, the only way is to simply do it.

Having time to analyze it gives you the chance to play different scenarios in your head, often the worst possible ones, to worry and think of excuses. And if you do that for some time, you give up. And you keep living in your comfort zone.

So get out there today and face your fears!

Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.
Dorothy Thompson

See also:

Fear is the root of your problems
Let go of fear by stopping the stories in your head
Active fear, passive fear
5 ways to destroy the illusion of fear

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from TheWaystoWealth.com

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called GenYWealth.com (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea GenYwealth.com was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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