15 Traits and Habits Exceptionally Happy People Have in Common

habits and traits happy people have in common

A person that’s happy with who he is and the life he’s living can be recognized from afar. And it often makes us wonder what it is that he does differently.

That’s a sign that we ourselves aren’t satisfied with our current life and want to change something.

And the best way to do it is to simply start doing the things happy people do. Because all of them have common traits and habits that are the foundation of their contentment.

So here’s what happy people have in common:

  1. They start every day with a positive mindset.

I’m sure you’ve had days that started badly, and got only worse from then on. Well, how would you feel if you knew it was just a matter of choice?

How your days go is your decision. And it usually happens in the very beginning of each day.

So when you get up tomorrow try to choose to be happy and spend the day the best way possible. Even that little mindset trick will help you be happier in general if you do it long enough.

Here you can find positive things to start your day, and great quotes to wake up to.

  1. They live in the present moment.

Happy people realize that life happens only in the present. And they focus on it, experience it with their whole being, appreciate and enjoy it.

They are here, now, and nothing else matters.

  1. They follow their passion.

Joyful people are passionate souls. They have taken some time to find out the thing they truly care about, and made their best to include it in their days.

Spending time doing the things you’re passionate about can turn your life around. It will bring you pure joy, happiness, meaning, peace and spirit.

  1. They dare to dream big.

These days many people get so discouraged by the world we live in, that they stop believing in big things. But nothing has changed and everyone is still capable of achieving whatever he puts his mind to.
He just needs to want it bad enough and to be ready to make sacrifices and take action every day to get closer to it.

And even if you’re not ready to start that journey, make the first step in your mind now – start believing again. Dream big!

  1. They focus on the good in people.

Everyone has good and bad sides. That’s a well-known fact.

But what you decide to see is up to you, and it shapes your attitude towards that person, and even your whole relationship.

So open yourself for the good in people, and they will start showing it to you more and more.

  1. They accept failure and learn from it.

Happy people know they’ve failed before, but they are okay with that. They know that their mistakes helped them be the person they are today, and that’s a great thing.

Because of them, they learned how to move on, got stronger and found the courage to try again with a new approach.

  1. They know how to enjoy the little things.

While most people drink their morning cup of coffee in a hurry, while thinking of all the tasks they need to complete later in the day, and are afraid they won’t have enough time, happy people make time to drink their coffee in peace, while listening to music, reading a book or just enjoying the silence.

That’s a huge difference between these two types of people.

  1. They surround themselves with other happy people.

Who you spend your time with matters a lot. Other people affect you, even if you don’t see it.

Surround yourself with negative people, who are struggling to succeed, who have no ambition, are lazy, worried and stressed, and you’ll decrease your level of happiness significantly.

But if you’ve really decided to live a happier life, then you’ll need to spend less time with them, and instead – communicate with new people who are always smiling and positive.

  1. They are okay with who they are.

Happy people have learned how to appreciate, trust and love themselves for who they are.

And that doesn’t mean they don’t have goals and aren’t trying to change for the better. It just means they’re in peace with who they are, and that makes their days much brighter.

  1. They always have something to look forward to.

Be it the weekend, a trip, meeting an old friend, or else, they have a reason to smile even more each day as this thing excites them.

  1. They find time for themselves.

Busy people constantly state that they don’t have any time for themselves. And they still wonder why their days are so hectic and they feel overwhelmed and depressed in the end.

The truth is that you prioritize, and make time for the things that are important. And having time just for yourself is a key ingredient of a happy life.

It may be early in the morning, or late at night. When everyone else is sleeping and there’s nothing to bother you. Then you may decide to meditate, read or write, listen to music, plan your day, or else.
But whatever it is, you’ll know it’s time only for yourself.

  1. They live on their own terms.

Happy people don’t live by other people’s standards. They don’t try to answer their expectations and do what they are supposed to.

They have their own ambitions and dreams and aren’t afraid to admit that.

  1. They forgive.

Not forgiving means carrying the burden of something that has happened in the past and taking it with you in the future. And that’s a tough thing to do.

Instead, happy people forgive others, and themselves too. They accept failures, disappointments and mistakes, let them be and move on.

They try to spend quality time with the people they care about, to focus on the good in them, and that doesn’t include reminding themselves of how these people hurt them in the past.

  1. They are grateful.

They also concentrate on the good in their life. They wake up grateful for all the things they have. And it becomes more than enough once you feel abundant.

They thank for all this, appreciate it and make their days even more joyful this way.

  1. They help others.

Contented people aren’t egoistic. They know happiness is only real when it’s shared. So they try to encourage others, to help them when they can, to bring back hope and give advice.

They know that even the little acts of kindness can make a big difference.


So these are the most common traits of cheerful individuals that anyone can start practicing at any moment.

It doesn’t take effort, time or resources. It just requires mindfulness, a desire to be happy and to make the world a better place by starting with yourself.

It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness.
Charles Spurgeon

See also:

Pursuing happiness when it’s already within you
The key to dying happy

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from TheWaystoWealth.com

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called GenYWealth.com (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea GenYwealth.com was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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