Beating Fear of Failure The Zen Way

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Being afraid of failure is a problem we all share. And just like any other irrational fear, it exists only in our head, but often prevents us from taking any action and thus we never reach our full potential.

As I’ve mentioned here, there are two types of fear. Rational – that keeps us alive, and irrational – that scares us, but can’t really harm us.

The second one comes in many forms. And one of the most common is fear of failure.

It can make you so insecure about yourself and your abilities, so scared that what you want to try won’t work out, and so discouraged, that you can easily leave behind all your projects and never try anything new.

If it wasn’t for this fear, so many other forms of art would exist, so many more books would be published, ideas executed and goals achieved.

Being afraid to fail is much worse than it sounds. It can paralyze you once you start getting closer to your dreams. It can prevent you from sleeping at night, from living in peace, from having healthy relationships.

And if you don’t handle it on time, you will find yourself stuck in your comfort zone. And as we all know, nothing exciting ever happens there.

How to deal with fear of failure

  1. Notice it.

You’re afraid of failing. Accept that. It’s not good, but it’s not bad either because you can overcome it.

  1. Accept your mistakes.

It’s crucial to know how to be okay with your past failures. They are what made you the person you are today. And may have been more helpful than you realize.

So learn how to live with all your wrong choices. They are a part of you.

  1. Get to know the fear.

Notice when it occurs, how you feel, and what happens in your mind. Become familiar with it.
You need to know something inside out in order to deal with it.

  1. Imagine the worst case scenario.

What’s the worst thing that can happen? Try to analyze all the outcomes and see how far you can get.
Exaggerating can help you realize how ridiculous it all is.

If you fear that you might not succeed in something you want to do, then ask yourself what it is that you’re going to lose. Most of the times, it’s nothing. You just go back to the life you lived before having this idea or goal.

And if you get fired? Will that ruin your life? Or can you just find something else until you figure out what to do?

Most things just look scary. And we basically experience the fatal outcome itself in our heads all the time. Which makes us paranoid.

  1. Let go.

Once you get to know the phobia, you can just let it be and not get back to it anymore.

You can now be free to live your life, to say ‘yes’ to the things that previously scared you, and to expand your horizons.

The life you’re dreaming of is just on the other side of your comfort zone. It’s waiting for you, and will only be possible if you let go of the fear of failure and move on.

“The phoenix must burn to emerge.”
Janet Fitch

So what kind of failure are you afraid of? And is it really as possible to happen as you imagine?

See also:

Why you should never be afraid of failure?
Turn failure into success
Why we all have fear of failure
13 ways to overcome it

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5 Convincing Reasons to Start a Business in Your 20s and 30s

5 Convincing Reasons to Start a Business in Your 20s and 30s

Every day we hear about brilliant minds who have made their first million before the age of 25. There are even businessmen who reach success and experience the advantages of self-employment before they turn 21. This influx of young gifted entrepreneurs makes you think there is no room for startupers over a certain age in any industry. But is it really the case?

Seasoned business analytics and researchers say there is no ideal age to start a business. You can be a successful entrepreneur fresh out of high school, but it’s also not uncommon for people in their 40s to finally find their entrepreneurial path. However, 20s and 30s remain the most popular age for starting a business, and that’s what we’ll focus on today.

Why Start a Business in Your 20s and 30s

1. Risk-taking

The importance of taking risks and accepting the outcome of your decision doesn’t need any explanation for entrepreneurs. As a startup founder, you will face risks every day, and this is where a person with more business expertise can encounter their first difficulties.

When someone is over 40, they’ve likely already taken big risks and failed. It means that they’ll be much less inclined to do it again. This is how older businessmen think they avoid complications, but that is also how they miss opportunities.

People in their 20s and 30s normally don’t have that kind of experience. They understandably have qualms about risk-taking. However, in the end, they usually decide to make a risky move, and there is a very good chance the risk will pay off.

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2. Knowledge

Those who launch their business after 40, usually have certain business experiences under their belt. They may have taken part in starting their own business or witnessed the birth of a business of a friend or coworker.

When you’re in your 20s or 30s, you may not have the same real-life knowledge of how businesses begin. Nevertheless, you have something much more important: the knowledge and skills you received at college.

The importance of college education for launching a prospering business is often overlooked. Yet there are essential things you can only learn in college, and that’s exactly the foundation you need for building a viable business.

3. Responsibilities

By the time they are 40, people accumulate a lot of financial responsibilities. Families, mortgages, car payments, and medical expenses not only eat up a large part of your budget but also make you much less flexible.

It’s a popular thought that businessmen in their 20s and 30s have nothing to lose. That may not be completely true, as some people start families when they’re fairly young. However, when you’re under 40, you have more freedom for making choices.

If you’re a forty-something father of three, your business decisions will be dictated by the risks you’re able to take. Young people have fewer things restricting them from making bold decisions and, ultimately, succeeding.

Related: How to Start a Profitable Blog – This step-by-step guide to starting a blog is a must for everyone who wants to start earning online and become self-employed. Having your own blog is the first step to selling products, making money from affiliate marketing, building a name for yourself, getting traffic and monetizing that attention.

4. Resilience

How To Turn Fear into Power and Create Personal Breakthrough

If there is one thing experienced entrepreneurs would like every beginner to know, it’s that launching a business will be a journey filled with ups and downs. If you look at business success stories, you’ll see that each of them comes with their share of failures.

Impressionable young businessmen don’t react great to failures. Their initial reaction can differ, but it always includes disappointment, resentment, and even a desire to quit. If they’re lucky, their support system won’t let them quit. If they’re not, then the days of their startup are numbered.

It’s a different story with people in their late 20s and 30s. They arrive at the starting point of their business with an understanding that failures are bound to happen. It doesn’t mean that they’re completely immune to failures, but they are guaranteed to have a more mature reaction.

5. Technology

Technology is a vital part of launching a startup these days. There are thousands of businesses that only exist online. Even if your business is completely offline, technology can still be a valuable aid in the business development.

People over 40 may understand the importance of using technology in their business. They may even move their business online or take successful steps to foray into the digital world.

However, they will never have the understanding of technology of a 28-year-old.

Today’s 30-year-olds are not only fully familiar with technology – many of them are actually digital natives. These people have spent most of their lives with the digital world being an essential aspect of living. That is why technology-skilled young entrepreneurs are the future of business.


According to those who have a multi-faceted experience in business, starting a business at any age has its challenges. Entrepreneurs that are 20, 30, 40, or 50 years old have their strong suits and weaknesses. However, there are many reasons why the age between 20 and 40 is the golden age for launching a business. Take risks, learn as you go, use your forte, don’t let anything distract you, and soon your name can be part of the world business hall of fame!

About The Author

Christine Acosta is a content manager at App Reviews. She specializes in digital marketing and content creation. Christine is also passionate about startups and business development. She uses her degree from the Florida Institute of Technology to offer sound advice to those who launch their own business.

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