5 Reasons We Can’t Change Our Habits 244

why we can't change our habits and how to stick to them

You may have done your research, defined your goals, set your priorities straight and are now feeling ready to start working on your habits.

But the real magic happens when consistency is mastered.

So you won’t get anywhere until you learn how to stick to a habit. The results you desire can only be seen over a long period of time.

So here’s why we don’t stick to habits:

  1. You start many habits at once.

Many have tried, and almost all have failed.

I know we’re all impatient, and if we invest time and effort into changing ourselves, we want to see instant progress in many areas. But it just doesn’t work like that.

So focus on one thing. Work on one habit at a time. Choose just one activity, and concentrate on doing it every day.
That’s how you’ll succeed.

  1. You make big changes.

That’s a wrong approach.

The secret of starting and getting further is to start small.

You can’t go to the gym 6 times a week, for example, if you’re a newbie. No! You start by just making yourself get there, and having a quick workout. And setting the goal of doing it 2-3 times a week in the beginning.

That’s because your body and mind need time to adjust to the new behavior, to accept the idea that you’ll be doing that for a long time and intend to get more serious about it.

  1. Something else gets in the way.

That will happen, eventually. But if it’s in the first week or two, you’re much more likely to give up.

What may happen that can make you quit:

  • getting sick;
  • going on a trip;
  • new project at work;
  • having guests at home;
  • having an important decision to make;

These are big changes. And they will affect your plan to change yourself, too.

So you need to be strong. To realize that it has nothing to do with your habits and you can still work on them.
And if you don’t feel like it, put them off for a few days. But after that, get back to them immediately and start from day one.

  1. You miss a few days and give up.

The problem is that you feel like you’ve failed. And failure can be tricky if we don’t know how to benefit from it.

Understand that missing a few days doesn’t mean anything. Nothing stops you from trying again tomorrow.

It’s all about spirit here. If you believe you can do it, then you’ll try until you actually do it. Simple as that.

  1. You don’t enjoy it.

I don’t think there’s any point in doing that at all if you only bring stress, pressure and negative emotions in your days.

The whole point is for you to become a better version of yourself, to create a brighter future, to change, to fight your weaknesses, build character and willpower and make that the foundation of your future success.

So you’ll need to be aware of that at every step of the journey. And it’s going to be a long one.

Learn how to let go of what was (and thus not feel bad about mistakes and failures from the past), focus on the present (just take the tiny action connected to your habit) and look forward to the future (tomorrow you’ll be a step closer to where you want to get in life, and even if you aren’t – you can start again).

“Good habits are worth being fanatical about.”
John Irving

Do you find it hard to stick to new habits? Why do you think that happens? And how do you deal with it?

See also:

The smart way to stick to habits
How to create lasting change
Why is it so hard to form good habits

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5 Smart Ways to Incorporate Technology into Your Home 18

5 Smart Ways to Incorporate Technology into Your Home

A smart home was something we could only see in sci-fi movies just a few years ago. Today, smart technology is becoming more available in terms of prices and offers. Therefore, it’s not so surprising that many homeowners are choosing to introduce technology into their homes and make their lives more convenient, safe, cost-efficient and fun.

In fact, a recent report predicted that a global smart home platform revenue will increase from $4.2 billion (2017) to $39.5 billion (2026).

There is no doubt that the concept of a smart home will revolutionize our interaction with our interior, and impact various other aspects, such as the potential resale value of our properties. Knowing all this, it seems wise to start thinking about the ways to incorporate new technology into your home, today. Here are our top five.

Be smart – save energy

If there are two trends that have marked the previous year when it comes to home design, those are energy-efficiency and new technologies.

So, why not combine them and make smart technology work for you and help you save money on your electricity and heating bills? Your first step towards doing that is installing smart lighting. This change will enable you to remotely manage all the light bulbs in your home by using an app, so you won’t have to wonder whether you left your lights on ever again. The best way to use this technology is to pair it with LED bulbs and thus maximize your savings.

Another popular upgrade that helps you save money and automate your home is a smart thermostat. This device connects to your home Wi-Fi and allows you to set the desired temperature no matter where you are. Some models can even remember your habits and adjust the temperature accordingly.

An important safety upgrade

The times we are living in may be new and exciting, but they are still dangerous. That’s why you should do everything you can to make sure that your household is protected both from the unwanted guest as well as various hazards.

Smart home security takes care of that by offering state-of-the-art locks, high-resolution cameras, smoke detectors and motion-triggered alarms. Compared to the traditional security systems, smart security systems will not only alert everybody with a loud alarm but can also send an alert to your phone in case of emergency.

Comfort and convenience with smart furniture

Smart furniture is not being discussed enough, and we’re here to change that. It is set to completely change the way we live our lives.

Let’s start with a smart table or side table. These pieces can feature LED lights, Bluetooth speakers and wireless phone chargers.

The innovative smart sofas offer similar perks but with more coziness. Besides LED lights and speakers, they provide you with a convenient place to charge your phone, allowing you to have everything you need at your fingertips.

Other innovative pieces include color-changing wardrobes and TVs that can be “masked” into artwork, when turned off.

Make everything work together – smart hubs

You might find it difficult to control all your smart gadgets individually. A smart hub allows you to create a centralized system where all your devices are connected to the cloud, and you don’t need more than one app to manage all of them.

Additionally, smart hubs enable you to automate your devices. For example, this would mean that as soon as you unlock the door (using a smart lock, of course), the light in your entryway will be turned on and the thermostat will set the optimal temperature.

The only problem with smart hubs is that this new technology is still in its infancy, and there are too many manufacturers who do not collaborate. This makes pairing up devices from different manufacturers into one hub impossible. Until that changes, to avoid any problems, you should buy the products from the same brand.

A helping hand voice

If you are among those people who remember the Halloween special episode of the Simpsons on the mention of a smart home assistant, don’t be afraid. The assistants of the real world are nothing like Ultrahouse 3000 voiced by Pierce Brosnan. In fact, this technology can make your life a lot easier by helping you make the home automation run smoothly.

Just like Cortana and Siri are improving the smartphone user experience, smart home assistants will make your life easier.

They can be set to react to voice commands, which allows you to control various smart home features without having to use any app. Also, if you have a camera above your entrance and a smart lock, your assistant can unlock the door when they recognize your face.

It’s an exciting time to be alive, and we are sure that there are plenty other surprising smart home innovations on the horizon. Until then, try out these five, and see for yourself how they can change your life.

About The Author

Emma is a writer and a home décor enthusiast. She believes that good design can be found at the intersection between beautiful and functional. Her inspiration comes from traveling and exposing herself to new experiences.

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