The Philosophy of Winning and Losing (And Why It’s Better to Be a Loser) 455

philosophy of winning and losing why be winner in life

People are too focused on winning, and too afraid of losing.

But have you ever analyzed both of these?

If you think about it, there’s no need to win. It’s wrong when we think we need to do it. You can have a beautiful life without it.
Moreover, winners are not as happy as we think.

What happens when you win? You have to achieve even more, you’re never good enough, or satisfied, others expect too much from you, and that’s just a lot of pressure.

But eventually there comes a time when you fail. Because, let’s face it, we’re all humans. Perfection is an illusion, and it’s out of reach even for the best in any area.

And having won and then lost destroys your world.

Also, winners become proud, feel invincible and superior to others, and thus make them feel bad. And even you winning means making someone else lose.
But what leader or role model are you if you make others feel bad?

Those who have a few victories usually become arrogant, think they’re in control, stop appreciating what they have and always ask for more.
This also makes them feel alone, ruins their relationships (as they want to win even there), others feel threatened by them.

So it turns out that you may win or reach the top of something, but you’re losing your soul.

Having this in mind, I can say that winners are the biggest losers.

And losers themselves are luckier. They are still happy, still down to earth, are keeping their hope and dreams alive. They don’t think they’re more than others and thus help, share, are compassionate and kind.

I’m saying all this because we tend to be focused on winning (and making others lose) so much in our daily life, that we can’t experience the beautiful days that are given to us.

And that doesn’t mean you should stop doing anything. No! Set goals, take action every day towards them and stay focused on the end result.
But do it for yourself, for the greater good. And not for society, to prove something or to win a competition. Because that’s where you lose direction and end up nowhere.

Also, there’s that misconception that failure is something awful.

But failing doesn’t mean you’re a loser. It means you try, do something about your life, take action.

Which puts your ahead of the majority of people that only do what society expects from them and never take the initiative or find the courage to speak up and set big goals.

We all need failure in our lives. It’s natural. It comes and goes and is an important part of our growing up and learning.

And when we accept every failure, just as we accept every success, we can find peace and finally enjoy whatever outcome there is.

Letting go of winning and losing means being free from striving.
Otherwise, you’ll always try to have, be or do something you’ll never reach.

Life becomes a race for triumph lovers. Always struggling to get to the top, always trying to be ahead of others, never enjoying life, never noticing the beauty around.

Don’t become that person.

That post is a bit controversial. There are many points of view. I’d love to hear yours. Share it in the comments below.

See also:

Beating Fear of Failure The Zen Way
10 Simple Steps to Benefit from Failure
Try Losing Some Moral Battles and Winning Some Real Ones
How to Embrace Losing and Find Out What Really Matters

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Going Minimalist in The Sharing Economy: Why It Makes Sense to Rent Our Belongings 13

Going Minimalist in The Sharing Economy: Why It Makes Sense to Rent Our Belongings

Last week, Jeremy Rifkin’s documentary “The Third Industrial Revolution: A New Sharing Economy” brought to public attention the importance that efficient sharing economies will have in coming years. The slowing of industrial productivity, coupled with the looming climate change crisis means that the game is up for the “take, make and dispose” model that we currently operate on.

This might seem a little inaccessible from the point of view of an individual. Most of us don’t have time to make lunch in the morning let alone contemplate changing economic models.

Yet the sharing economy is growing all around us, from Gumtree to Airbnb and most recently, stuff-sharing marketplaces like Fat Lama.

Born out of East-London in 2016, Fat Lama is a peer-to-peer rental platform where users can borrow items they need and rent out items that they don’t. It’s completely free to list items and operates out of your local area.

Put simply it’s a way for people to make money off their belongings and for others to gain access to equipment they might not otherwise be able to afford. However, the platform has the potential to become a lifestyle as much as a utility. Here are just a few of the benefits:

Saving The Environment

By 2022, the planet will have produced a staggering 50 million tonnes of e-waste.

This is by no means as harmless as it sounds. We are racing through computers, phones, cameras and cables at an alarming rate and worst of all, we recycle none of it.

By investing in the sharing economy and renting rather than buying, you can make a stance against the destructive and wasteful effects of linear consumerism.

To illustrate the paradigm, let’s take the example of a power drill, which, shockingly, is used for a grand total of 13 minutes on average in its life. It is a waste of money and is using up precious resources to buy such an item. Whereas if you rent from Fat Lama, the price of which is around $5 per day, you will end up saving yourself needless expenditure at no extra cost for the planet. This is not just true of drills, but Lawn Mowers, leaf blowers, cameras and projectors.

Go Local

One of the big downsides to living in an urban environment is the lack of community spirit. Cities can feel stiflingly disconnected and it is not uncommon for a resident to have never spoken to a single person on their street.

There has been efforts made to re-localize districts, with cafés bars and social hubs popping up in suburbs all over the world. However, if you are looking for something more personal, using Fat Lama puts you into contact with hundreds of locals living around you who often, given the circumstances, have the same interests as you do.

For instance, if you are looking to rent a surfboard or Kayak, chances are the owner will be an enthusiast as well. This could lead to at the very least a friendly interaction if not a friendship.

Save Money and The Planet

The other great strength of renting rather than buying that it will save you a packet.

The sharing economy is founded on the principle that limiting ownership reduces marginal costs because the cost of production storage etc. is mitigated from the equation.

To return to the power drill analogy, a low-end model will cost you around $100, which means that every minute of use is around just under $8. Unless your drill doubles up as a cocktail-maker, this seems like an enormous waste of money. In comparison, the average electric drill on Fat Lama will cost you less than $8; really it’s a no-brainer.

Make Some Moral Money

Aside from the obvious social benefits, you can turn your underused belongings into hard cash, with virtually no effort.

We have all made some questionable purchases. Whether it’s that DSLR you promised your parents you were going to use or that sound system that never get used because of you neighbours. Now they don’t have to be an ugly reminder of the lost money but active assets that can start paying for themselves. Often the money made from these items can far exceed their original price, with some users earning up to $5000 dollars a month, more than the minimum wage in any country.

These are just a few examples of the way in which renting can impact your life for the better.

Right now it’s the fastest growing sector but the possibilities are infinite. What I hope you take away from this is that being an ethical consumer doesn’t have to be a bleak future of Spartan self-control but rather a re-imagining of the way goods flow today. Clean consumerism is not a dream, it’s right in front of us.