The Real Face of Discipline: What is It and How to Get It 189

real face of discipline

Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment. ~ Jim Rohn

Discipline is the one skill you need to master that will bring you optimum results. Actually, things you’ve never imagined you may achieve will become the norm for you.

But it’s not easy to have it in your life.

It takes time, consistency, dedication, a definite desire and a vision, and sacrifices need to be made.

It’s worth it, though.

What I want to talk about first is not how to become disciplined, but what that really looks like.

Many can’t really define it, and have a completely wrong perception of what it is. And thus don’t achieve it.

The problem is that we’re raised in a world of authorities, where individuality is judged, and where a certain path must be followed so that you can live your life normally and be approved by society.

If that’s what you want, go ahead. You may still be happy, as comfort, security (although an illusion) and contentment (in the form of instant gratification) will keep you satisfied.

But if you want more – like following your passion and doing what you love for a living, making your own rules and living by them, spending your days the way you like, being financially independent and having a powerful mindset and great habits – you need discipline.

Most people associate it with control, obeying what authorities say, restricting yourself from doing certain things, etc.
Add to that punishment, guilt, not expressing your opinion, feeling inferior to others, etc.

That’s the meaning of the discipline that’s ingrained in us in childhood.

Does it feel right?

If it does, then where’s the freedom , independence and the right to speak up in this whole thing?

Aren’t these the things that separate us from what the world was like 50 years ago?

If you have felt, at least once, that we’re on this planet to do more than just obey and play by some rules (set by those who have their own views and plans), that there’s more to life than the mundane lifestyle we’re taught to want to sustain, that our mission is not to be in control and do what is expected, but to thrive on our own terms, then keep reading.

Discipline does exist.

But to achieve it, we first need to let go of that common belief. To clear our minds from what we were told once, and to embrace the real face of discipline.

What discipline really looks like

Discipline goes together with self-control, willpower, strictness and consistency.
But in a completely different way.

So what is it?

You can find discipline:

• not in getting up early because you need to be at the office in 40 minutes, but waking up before dawn in order to do your morning routine, have time for yourself, practice willpower, prepare for the day without being in a hurry, have a workout, or just to drink your morning coffee and do some reading and writing without anyone bothering you;

• not in listening to your teacher at school and doing exactly what she says, but doing homework and being interested in projects even when school is over;

• not finishing the work you’re paid for, but going the extra mile and investing more time and effort in it, exceeding your boss’s expectations and actually being productive;

• not in trying bungee jumping because you’ll look cool in front of others and there will be many likes on social media, but because you want to break your limits, face your fears and see what life out of the comfort zone is all about;

• not finishing a book because everyone else has read it, but actually reading between the lines, understanding the author’s message, highlighting phrases that grabbed your attention, and then coming back to it every now and then to read them;

• it’s not discipline when you say you’ll do it tomorrow, but it is when you do it right away, overcoming that barrier inside you that makes you want to put off.

These are just a few random examples, but you see where I’m going here.

Self-discipline is all about doing what we don’t want to do, but noticing that, stopping for a moment, defining why it’s important to us, and then simply doing it. Every day.

It may sound like a nightmare to some, but it’s actually the only way to have some control over your life.

You’re a teacher and a student at the same time, that’s why you need to figure out what you want in life and how to get it, teach yourself to stop listening to others, stop doing what others do and start building character and mastering consistency.

So now it’s your turn.

Let me know what your definition of discipline is, what you do to achieve it, and whether or not you agree with how I see things.
Share that in the comments below.

Happiness is dependent on self-discipline. We are the biggest obstacles to our own happiness. It is much easier to do battle with society and with others than to fight our own nature.
Dennis Prager

See also:

11 proven ways to increase willpower and self-discipline
The science of self-control and how to improve your willpower today
5 methods for gaining discipline
How to do what you don’t want to do

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5 Smart Ways to Incorporate Technology into Your Home 18

5 Smart Ways to Incorporate Technology into Your Home

A smart home was something we could only see in sci-fi movies just a few years ago. Today, smart technology is becoming more available in terms of prices and offers. Therefore, it’s not so surprising that many homeowners are choosing to introduce technology into their homes and make their lives more convenient, safe, cost-efficient and fun.

In fact, a recent report predicted that a global smart home platform revenue will increase from $4.2 billion (2017) to $39.5 billion (2026).

There is no doubt that the concept of a smart home will revolutionize our interaction with our interior, and impact various other aspects, such as the potential resale value of our properties. Knowing all this, it seems wise to start thinking about the ways to incorporate new technology into your home, today. Here are our top five.

Be smart – save energy

If there are two trends that have marked the previous year when it comes to home design, those are energy-efficiency and new technologies.

So, why not combine them and make smart technology work for you and help you save money on your electricity and heating bills? Your first step towards doing that is installing smart lighting. This change will enable you to remotely manage all the light bulbs in your home by using an app, so you won’t have to wonder whether you left your lights on ever again. The best way to use this technology is to pair it with LED bulbs and thus maximize your savings.

Another popular upgrade that helps you save money and automate your home is a smart thermostat. This device connects to your home Wi-Fi and allows you to set the desired temperature no matter where you are. Some models can even remember your habits and adjust the temperature accordingly.

An important safety upgrade

The times we are living in may be new and exciting, but they are still dangerous. That’s why you should do everything you can to make sure that your household is protected both from the unwanted guest as well as various hazards.

Smart home security takes care of that by offering state-of-the-art locks, high-resolution cameras, smoke detectors and motion-triggered alarms. Compared to the traditional security systems, smart security systems will not only alert everybody with a loud alarm but can also send an alert to your phone in case of emergency.

Comfort and convenience with smart furniture

Smart furniture is not being discussed enough, and we’re here to change that. It is set to completely change the way we live our lives.

Let’s start with a smart table or side table. These pieces can feature LED lights, Bluetooth speakers and wireless phone chargers.

The innovative smart sofas offer similar perks but with more coziness. Besides LED lights and speakers, they provide you with a convenient place to charge your phone, allowing you to have everything you need at your fingertips.

Other innovative pieces include color-changing wardrobes and TVs that can be “masked” into artwork, when turned off.

Make everything work together – smart hubs

You might find it difficult to control all your smart gadgets individually. A smart hub allows you to create a centralized system where all your devices are connected to the cloud, and you don’t need more than one app to manage all of them.

Additionally, smart hubs enable you to automate your devices. For example, this would mean that as soon as you unlock the door (using a smart lock, of course), the light in your entryway will be turned on and the thermostat will set the optimal temperature.

The only problem with smart hubs is that this new technology is still in its infancy, and there are too many manufacturers who do not collaborate. This makes pairing up devices from different manufacturers into one hub impossible. Until that changes, to avoid any problems, you should buy the products from the same brand.

A helping hand voice

If you are among those people who remember the Halloween special episode of the Simpsons on the mention of a smart home assistant, don’t be afraid. The assistants of the real world are nothing like Ultrahouse 3000 voiced by Pierce Brosnan. In fact, this technology can make your life a lot easier by helping you make the home automation run smoothly.

Just like Cortana and Siri are improving the smartphone user experience, smart home assistants will make your life easier.

They can be set to react to voice commands, which allows you to control various smart home features without having to use any app. Also, if you have a camera above your entrance and a smart lock, your assistant can unlock the door when they recognize your face.

It’s an exciting time to be alive, and we are sure that there are plenty other surprising smart home innovations on the horizon. Until then, try out these five, and see for yourself how they can change your life.

About The Author

Emma is a writer and a home décor enthusiast. She believes that good design can be found at the intersection between beautiful and functional. Her inspiration comes from traveling and exposing herself to new experiences.

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