Fear controls us more than we think.
It’s probably better not to realize all the stuff we haven’t tried in life because of it. Otherwise, we’ll feel deep regret.
Fear prevents us from living life to the fullest, taking risks, making big changes and trying new things.
Unfortunately, all these are also the best things life can offer and often lead to the greatest happiness and success.
But there’s a solution – an easy, and peaceful way to handle fears.
In Seized by the thunderhold of fear, Leo from Zen Habits compares them to clouds:
“They float into our field of vision, unbidden and unwanted, like a dark stormy cloud. We get caught in the rainshower and thunder, and feel that this is our entire world. We immerse ourselves in this cloud, as if there’s nothing outside of it and it will never go away.”
And we start living in this reality controlled by fear only because we believe in it. Soon, we carry the burden of what scares us (all the worries, negative thoughts, expectations, bad feelings, uncertainties) wherever we go.
And it gets heavier and heavier.
But none of this is real.
It’s all in our heads.
Because even in a cloudy day, the sun finds the power to show up and shine as bright possible. And the clouds go away.
“The cloud floats away, like anything else. It’s nothing to run from. It’s just a passing cloud.
So watch the cloud of fear arise, acknowledge it, and watch it float away, like any other thought. Enjoy the chill of the shadow and the wind as it passes over you.
Then step into the sunshine of the present moment, beautiful and joyous now that the cloud has passed.”
So here’s how to overcome fear without putting any effort, causing pain of trying too hard:
How to Deal with Fear Peacefully
Accept the fear for what it is. Realize it’s something natural.
We need it in order to learn how to overcome it, to grow and evolve.
2. Observe it.
Notice when it arises (usually there’s a pattern) and try to figure out what causes it.
Also, notice how you feel once it appears.
3. Let it be.
Don’t put any effort into trying to make it disappear. Understand that there’s a deeper reason for its presence. And if you make it go away, this reason will still be there and the fear will show up again.
So just let it be for a while. No pressure, no fight.
4. Breathe deeply.
Calm down. Don’t let it make you anxious. Don’t stress over it.
Become one with it as it’s in your body now. Welcome it with peace. Know it’s there just for a brief moment.
5. Watch it pass.
Every time you exhale, imagine how it goes out of your body.
Do that not with the desire to make it go away, but by knowing that you just don’t need it anymore, as you’re at ease and in peace.
And each time you inhale, breathe some positive energy in.
And there you go. The fear is gone, it knows it has nothing to do there anymore and just moves on. So do you.
When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.
Have you tried this approach when being afraid? If not, are you going to?