The 10 Worst Things We Put Up With and What to Do About Them

the worst things we put up with

What’s the thing you would never put up with?

Probably many things pop up in your mind right away.

I guess you’re doing everything you can not to have them in your life.

And it’s working… for now.

Then, I’ll ask you why do you put up with your fears and regrets? With a job you hate? With the relationship you’re in but don’t feel like it’s with the right person? With living by someone else’s standards? With doing things you don’t enjoy?

That’s exhausting.

Most people live terribly only because they think it’s easier for things to remain the same, even though they’re miserable, rather than fight for a change and be happy.

Here are some of the worst stuff we say ‘yes’ to every day and the action we can take to stop that:

10 of The Worst Things We Put Up With

1. A job we hate.

So many people these days are trapped in a working place they can’t stand, being with people they don’t like, in an environment that sucks the life out of them and, most importantly, they spend each day doing things they have no interest in and just pretend to be busy.

What you need to do is simply quit.

It takes courage and determination, and after that you’ll have to work hard on something you believe in so that you can make a decent income, but that’s the right thing to do.

2. Feeling inferior.

Our boss, teacher, parents, richer friends, authorities, famous people, etc. will keep acting like they are superior to us only if we keep thinking we are no one. This won’t stop until you take responsibility for your actions and realize the potential you have.

Believe in your abilities. Each person starts with an equal amount of potential.
But it’s your choice to decide how much of it you’ll use after that.

Remember that none of them can tell you what to do with your life. You are the only one who controls everything you do, say and think and no one can change that unless you let him.

3. Dreams.

Determine Your Value and Potential with This Skill Calculator - let's reach success

One day we’ll realize what we could have become and the things we could have achieved. We’ll just see that and it will be a sad day full of regrets.

Only then will we all understand that we should have worked on turning these dreams into reality.
It may take time, dedication, sacrifices, energy, efforts, or else, but it’s always worth it to give everything you have for what you believe in.

It’s high time we stop putting up with our dreams being only dreams and not doing anything about them.

What to do? Well, start right away.

If you have a dream, then it will take a bit of thinking and brainstorming before you take it any further, but beginnings can be small and simple. Stay focused on your goal and if you really want it and are ready to work for it, you’ll soon see progress.

4. Fear.

Now that is a serious issue. We live in fear. We’re scared of almost anything – losing our job, failing, being alone, talking to new people, trying new things, achieving our goals, showing our emotions, speaking out, following our passion, taking risks, making decisions, doing something wrong, ending up without a house, money, partner and so on.

The sad thing is that we put up with all these and they prevent us from living freely and happily, from becoming the person we’re meant to be and chasing our goals.

Dealing with fear is not an easy thing. Actually the steps are simple but not easy, and not many people are willing to take them.

But the ones who do, well, I think we’ve all heard of them because they all became successful and left a great legacy.

You simply need to do the things that scare you so that you can overcome fear. Or you can try to analyze it and understand how ridiculous it was in the first place. After that, let it go.

See these 3 posts:

Dealing with fear peacefully
Beating fear of failure the zen way
What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

5. Living in the past.

We keep going back to all the bad times, mistakes, failures and things we could have done differently. We’re slowly killing our future and definitely ruining our present by doing this.

So I suggest you let go of the past, accept it and take all the lessons with you.

6. Bad relationships.

Some people are so afraid of being alone, or think they don’t deserve much, that they stay in a relationship in which their partner treats them badly.

I know couples who don’t love each other but are staying together, pretending to be a family just because it’s easier this way. That affects their children and stands in the way of having a normal life.

So if you’re in a relationship like that – get out of it. It’s taking you nowhere.
Just let the person go and most importantly – let the idea of you two being together go.

7. Being average.

One of the worst things a person can be.

This is equal to being a part of the crowd, with no opinion, no desire to change, living in fears and worries. To never finding the right moment to do something different and have a life worth living.

And if you’re thinking of ways how not to be average, well just get out there, speak up and follow your dreams.
Or simply do what others are afraid of.

8. Waiting.

How to Get Things Done When You Have a Few Minutes to Spare

We wait. All the time. For everything. And the worst thing is that the right moment never comes.

Some people wait for the right time to quit their job, to have a baby or move somewhere else.
Others wait for the person they love to answer their feelings.
The writers that never get published wait for years before finishing their book, then even longer before they send it to a publisher.

The problem is that so many things are wasted this way and so many opportunities are missed.

The only thing you can do to get out of this constant waiting and the regrets that follow it is to act now.
Do whatever it is you have to do right away.

9. Comfort zone.

Another thing that is killing us. We can never experience something new or achieve a goal while doing the same old things in the same way and not moving forward.

Going out of the comfort zone can happen by doing new things, facing stuff you’re scared of and just trying everything that feels a bit uncomfortable.

10. Less.

I’m usually for the ‘less’ of everything.

We need less stuff, less information, less stress, less food and worries. But when it comes down to putting up with having less than we want, I say you must do something.

Poor people will hardly get any richer if they keep the attitude they have – they think money is for the lucky ones, it’s something bad, that they will always stay poor and so on. They settle for what the situation is and never do anything to change it.

Others live in small apartments only because they can’t even imagine they can live in a big house some day.

The thing is that you can have anything you want in the amount you want it.

What you need to do is believe you can have it, work hard and focus on that every single day.

***
These are just a small part of all the things we put up with.

Some people spend their whole life doing that and it never ends well.

I suggest you do what it takes to change things now so that you can live the rest of it in the way you deserve – being happy, contented and doing the things you love.

Does any of these 10 sound familiar to your?
What do you put up with? Why? What can you do about it today?

See also:

20 things to stop doing to yourself
Stop waiting for your life to begin
How to learn to say ‘no’

Image source

Get The Lifestyle Designer's Digest

Sharing my adventures in lifestyle design, building an online business, and growing this blog. Join me for weekly updates.

Previous ArticleNext Article

4 Tips for Newlyweds to Manage Their Finances Flawlessly

4 Tip for Newlyweds to Manage Their Finances Flawlessly

June is around the corner!

What does it remind you?

Isn’t it the smell of champagne and roses?

Yes! It’s again the time to rejoice the cheerful wedding bells. So, if you are planning to tie the knot soon, congratulations!

Howbeit, preparations for the wedding day might be making you worried over these months. Whether it is about picking up the wedding dress or booking a caterer for the wedding feast, your finance is moving upside down!

But, wait!

Don’t think that such monetary hotchpotch will come to an end after the wedding day. There’s still a long way to go! You and your partner are going to spend your entire life together. So, both of you have to practically start thinking about how to manage money.

No! I am definitely not scaring you! It is just that the approach in which you’ve been handling finance till now have to change now. After marriage, it’s not just you, it’s about you and your partner living together.

So, it is required for you to understand the basic know-hows effectively.

Read on to get an idea. 

1. A Serious Talk on Pecuniary Goals and Habits

You both are staying together, it’s essential to know each other’s financial point of views. Especially, you can remind your parents in such a situation. For example, how your parents used to manage money, when they used to pay the bills, what have been their successful financial decisions, and so on. It will let you both curate your financial life perfectly.

Also, you need to discuss your habits when it comes to managing money. Whether you are a saver or spender, how you usually decide on purchasing something, what your reaction will be if there is a sudden financial loss etc.

Once you are done with understanding each other’s habits, figure out a suitable way to manage money, and that’s it!

2. Stick to Your Budget.

When it’s about spending money, be cautious and stick to your plan. Let no any indulgence drive you towards unnecessary expenses. You and your partner both should cultivate this habit to save remarkably.

Moreover, you’ve to always look for smarter ways to save your hard-earned dollars. For example, learn how you should use things limitedly for household chores, how you can save on shopping etc.

One of the smartest ideas could be grabbing the lucrative discounts and coupons while purchasing everything, whether it is a small household stuff or any prominent furniture or jewellery. Additionally, there are a number of such exhilarating websites now which can let you always fetch the right discount at the right time!

Browse through the websites like Dealslands and many such others present around, you’ll definitely start believing in what I mentioned above. 

3. Numbers Are Important.

When it comes to managing finances together, you and your partner should share every related information. You should start with tallying up your asset and debts. Next, just subtract the debts from assets to determine your self-worth. Most importantly, don’t hesitate to inform your income to each other.

The conversation between you both should be open and honest. There should remain no scope for any hidden fact. The more transparently you will talk, the more perfect your financial plan will be.

4. How Do Your Budgetary Habits Differ from Your Partner’s?

It is very important for you to figure out the difference between how you and your partner think about money.

Try to find out the agreeable amount of saving for you both. You should understand what his/her priority is when it comes to paying off the debts or spending on quality things, what money saving traditions that he/she thinks are absolutely non-negotiable, and so on.

Once you have a clearer idea, an impeccable plan for managing your bucks will be ready! 

This is how you need to start planning your finances together to attain unparalleled results. Initially, it might be quite unnatural for you to understand the aforementioned facts. Well, it’s nothing wrong with that! You are new to this life.

However, don’t lag behind in following these tips in future. Thus, to manage finance as a family will not be tough at all!

About The Author

Arina is the marketing manager at DealsLands, coupons and discounts provider company. She is passionate about fashion, make-up, beauty treatment and lifestyle. In addition, Arina also supports non-profit agencies that provide healthcare solutions to handicapped and disabled people.

You and your partner need to discuss your habits when it comes to managing money. Once you are done with understanding each other's financial habits, you can figure out a suitable way to handle savings, expenses, budgeting, and more. Here are four great tips for newlyweds: #moneymanagement #newcouple #newlywed #moneytips