Life Skills: Why You Need to Choose Just 3 and Master Them

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I’ve been meaning to write about skills for a long time now, as there’s either a wrong perception of that, or people just don’t think too much about it, don’t have a strategy and end up wasting their talent, hard work and future.

First, let’s make a few points clear:

• we all have the ability to excel at whatever we’re interested in;
• getting good at something is just a matter of daily commitment and focus;
• we concentrate on too many skills at once and want to be the best at everything. The result: we end up being mediocre, which makes our efforts meaningless;
being okay at something means nothing, we’re all okay at many things;
• when a skill is mastered, the person has the chance to live a fulfilling life and make a lot of money doing what he enjoys;
every single thing you do throughout your day affects your skills (or is the reason you lack any).

So let’s talk about each a bit more now.

We’re All Capable of Getting Good at Any Skill

Yes, that’s true.

Talent is a factor too, as are many other things – like having the money to afford equipment that will help you exceed, or knowing the right people, or already having other skills the combination of which will let you move forward faster.
These just make things a bit easier, but don’t change the fact that you need to go all the way and do all the hard work if you want to master a skill.

How can knowing that help you?

Well, if you’re really interested in something, think a seemingly impossible idea can work, or want to try something new really bad, but think you don’t have the talent, consider it too hard, or else – you should know that you can still do it.

So don’t give up, almost always it’s better to give it a try. If the passion lasts, then it’s worth investing even more time.

But the important thing is that you have inside of you all it takes to excel at that thing. And with the right mindset, dedication and after some time of hard work (often years), you can become so good that you’ll either make money from that, break records, teach others, turn it into your own business, or all of these.

Why Choose Between 1-3 Life Skills

We live in the era of distractions, and opportunities.
The former is bad, the latter is usually great, but in this case – just another distraction.

The thing is, we’ve got many desires, want to try everything, to have results fast, to then jump onto another adventure. And we end up having started many projects, set many goals and dreams, but never actually complete anything, or excel.

Which means that all the time spent on them is pointless. And although there are lessons and experience in everything we try, we’ve still lost time that could have been invested in a more profitable way and could have gotten us ahead of others in a certain niche.

No need for regrets, of course. But it’s a good thing to keep in mind, especially if you’re easily impressed and tend to change your mind and decisions often, and try many different stuff.

So what you need to do is be clear about what you want.

Experiment in the beginning, that’s great. After all, you don’t want to end up getting better at something you’ll soon hate.

So try things out for some time, but then decide what you really want, make a plan, have a vision, and set goals.

Up to 3 things like that are the right number, in my opinion.

Some people prove that we can achieve much more in life. But considering that you still want to enjoy your days, have fun, spend time on side projects, hobbies and with family, 3 is a good number and can still bring you unbelievable results.

Why We Need to Master The Skill We Choose

Again, being okay at something doesn’t matter. It means you’re average.

You may be able to cook, write, feel like dancing comes to you naturally, have an interest in astronomy and find it easy to code, but if you don’t decide to focus on one of these and keep the rest at their current level, you’ll just have a few things you’re okay at.
No results can really come out of that, no one would be impressed, you won’t make money, won’t grow and improve yourself.

And while you can still spend your free time doing all of these, imagine what will happen if you concentrate only on coding, for example. Imagine dedicating 3-4 hours daily, for a start. You’ll soon see progress, will know much more and opportunities will open to you. Ideas will be generated on how to improve even more, what projects to start, how to invest that, how to help others do the same, etc.

So that’s why a skill needs to be mastered.

Only then can you leave a mark in the world, can you be known for that, become a professional in a field, offer value, contribute and test your limits.
Also, only then will you unleash your hidden potential. Otherwise, you would never see the best you can be.

Everything you do affects your skills

Here’s a great picture that says it all:


Spend all your days reading and writing, and you’ll get good at it without doing anything else.
But spend them procrastinating, trying to figure out what to do first and to deal with writer’s block, and you won’t get any further.

These are the things that make skills so important.

It’s not about your resume, it’s not about bragging or landing that job, it’s about becoming the best version of yourself, doing what you love, leaving something behind and doing meaningful work.

And being a skilled player is always an advantage, in any game.

What about you? What are your skills?
What level are you at? And what are you doing to level up?

See also:

Life is a game. This is your strategy guide.
How to succeed when you have no special skills
10 skills you need to succeed at almost anything
How to become a progress fanatic
Leveling up in the game of life

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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Check out my interview with R.J. from TheWaystoWealth to see how he entered the finance niche, started making money blogging, began bringing traffic from Pinterest and monetizing it with affiliate marketing, and is now making $10,000/month from his online business. #blogger #interview #blogtraffic #incomeideas #income