Life Skills: Why You Need to Choose Just 3 and Master Them 153

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I’ve been meaning to write about skills for a long time now, as there’s either a wrong perception of that, or people just don’t think too much about it, don’t have a strategy and end up wasting their talent, hard work and future.

First, let’s make a few points clear:

• we all have the ability to excel at whatever we’re interested in;
• getting good at something is just a matter of daily commitment and focus;
• we concentrate on too many skills at once and want to be the best at everything. The result: we end up being mediocre, which makes our efforts meaningless;
being okay at something means nothing, we’re all okay at many things;
• when a skill is mastered, the person has the chance to live a fulfilling life and make a lot of money doing what he enjoys;
every single thing you do throughout your day affects your skills (or is the reason you lack any).

So let’s talk about each a bit more now.

We’re All Capable of Getting Good at Any Skill

Yes, that’s true.

Talent is a factor too, as are many other things – like having the money to afford equipment that will help you exceed, or knowing the right people, or already having other skills the combination of which will let you move forward faster.
These just make things a bit easier, but don’t change the fact that you need to go all the way and do all the hard work if you want to master a skill.

How can knowing that help you?

Well, if you’re really interested in something, think a seemingly impossible idea can work, or want to try something new really bad, but think you don’t have the talent, consider it too hard, or else – you should know that you can still do it.

So don’t give up, almost always it’s better to give it a try. If the passion lasts, then it’s worth investing even more time.

But the important thing is that you have inside of you all it takes to excel at that thing. And with the right mindset, dedication and after some time of hard work (often years), you can become so good that you’ll either make money from that, break records, teach others, turn it into your own business, or all of these.

Why Choose Between 1-3 Life Skills

We live in the era of distractions, and opportunities.
The former is bad, the latter is usually great, but in this case – just another distraction.

The thing is, we’ve got many desires, want to try everything, to have results fast, to then jump onto another adventure. And we end up having started many projects, set many goals and dreams, but never actually complete anything, or excel.

Which means that all the time spent on them is pointless. And although there are lessons and experience in everything we try, we’ve still lost time that could have been invested in a more profitable way and could have gotten us ahead of others in a certain niche.

No need for regrets, of course. But it’s a good thing to keep in mind, especially if you’re easily impressed and tend to change your mind and decisions often, and try many different stuff.

So what you need to do is be clear about what you want.

Experiment in the beginning, that’s great. After all, you don’t want to end up getting better at something you’ll soon hate.

So try things out for some time, but then decide what you really want, make a plan, have a vision, and set goals.

Up to 3 things like that are the right number, in my opinion.

Some people prove that we can achieve much more in life. But considering that you still want to enjoy your days, have fun, spend time on side projects, hobbies and with family, 3 is a good number and can still bring you unbelievable results.

Why We Need to Master The Skill We Choose

Again, being okay at something doesn’t matter. It means you’re average.

You may be able to cook, write, feel like dancing comes to you naturally, have an interest in astronomy and find it easy to code, but if you don’t decide to focus on one of these and keep the rest at their current level, you’ll just have a few things you’re okay at.
No results can really come out of that, no one would be impressed, you won’t make money, won’t grow and improve yourself.

And while you can still spend your free time doing all of these, imagine what will happen if you concentrate only on coding, for example. Imagine dedicating 3-4 hours daily, for a start. You’ll soon see progress, will know much more and opportunities will open to you. Ideas will be generated on how to improve even more, what projects to start, how to invest that, how to help others do the same, etc.

So that’s why a skill needs to be mastered.

Only then can you leave a mark in the world, can you be known for that, become a professional in a field, offer value, contribute and test your limits.
Also, only then will you unleash your hidden potential. Otherwise, you would never see the best you can be.

Everything you do affects your skills

Here’s a great picture that says it all:


Spend all your days reading and writing, and you’ll get good at it without doing anything else.
But spend them procrastinating, trying to figure out what to do first and to deal with writer’s block, and you won’t get any further.

These are the things that make skills so important.

It’s not about your resume, it’s not about bragging or landing that job, it’s about becoming the best version of yourself, doing what you love, leaving something behind and doing meaningful work.

And being a skilled player is always an advantage, in any game.

What about you? What are your skills?
What level are you at? And what are you doing to level up?

See also:

Life is a game. This is your strategy guide.
How to succeed when you have no special skills
10 skills you need to succeed at almost anything
How to become a progress fanatic
Leveling up in the game of life

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4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health 21

4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health

While most people pay the most attention to their physical health and work hard to achieve a healthy body, they often overlook the potential mental health issues that may have been well tucked away.

Understanding and paying sufficient attention to your mental health issues is an action that should be prioritized in every situation. What could seem like the simplest mental health problem to you might actually be affecting your life in more ways that you can imagine.

Here are just a few reasons why you shouldn’t ignore the signs.

1. It Is Way More Common Than You Believe.

You might think that mental illness is not present in many situations but the truth is that almost everyone has or is facing such an issue.

In fact, one in five Americans suffers from some type of mental illness. The saddest part about this though, is that very few of them seek treatment.

The person affected by the illness can even be one of your family members. Sadly, symptoms are easy to hide and even people who are severely depressed can mask their health issues from their families and avoid getting help.

2. It Can Also Affect Your Physical Health.

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It is known from a long time ago that the connection between the mind and the body is strong. Any sort of physical distress can have a huge effect on your capability to work or focus on things around you. Following this same rule, any sort of mental problem can easily affect your physical health too.

The first few things that a mental illness will affect are your mood, energy levels, sleep cycles, appetite and quite possibly your sex drive. Along with these problems and as a result of them, your immune system can also be affected and that can lead to more often colds and an overall impairment of your physical health.

People who face mental illnesses are often left unmotivated and drained of energy.

The illness blurs your mind so much that you have no energy left to function properly in your everyday life. Ask any person that has faced a major depression and they will tell you just how much they let themselves go and how they stopped caring about simple everyday things, such as brushing their teeth or taking a shower.

Physical symptoms won’t take long to appear and you will simply keep increasing your risk factor of a number of health problems such as heart disease or heart palpitations, insomnia and fatigue. It is very important that you ask for help if you feel such symptoms arising. Make sure that you consult a board-certified practitioner to be certain that a mental problem is not the cause of them.   

3. It Plays an Important Role in Your Success.

One of the most frequent symptoms of a mental illness is the lack of motivation. You just feel so tired of everything, you find that you are not interested in what others are doing and you just end up losing interest in things you used to love.

The lack of mental health can, therefore, play a huge role in your success. No matter if you are a college student, an employee or a working parent, you can easily lose sense of what’s important to you and hinder your success in whatever role you might have.

In whichever situation you might be, you will definitely need to be able to be creative and productive. Your success in your studies or your workplace might be your only source of stability and income.

An untreated mental illness can be the reason behind your reduced productivity, your lack of creativity and your overall negative attitude towards your work.

Keep in mind that a large number of homeless people are those who are suffering from a mental illness but sadly left it untreated.

Looking for help and letting the mental health professionals guide you can take a lot of weight off your shoulders. It can help you see things from a different perspective and give you the courage and motivation you need to get back on track and find yourself again.

4. It Can Affect Your Relationship with Your Peers.

Most people who face a mental illness find themselves intimidated by social situations. Even spending time with friends or family can seem like a very tiring or pointless task and they will often opt out of it. It is important to remember that this does not apply only to depressed people, as many might think, but to a large area of mental issues.

Anxiety disorders can alienate a person from their circle because of the constant fear of something going wrong, of someone not liking them or of an overall new situation. It is very common for the solution to your mental health issue to be holding the key to you getting back your behavioral health.

Mental illness can also affect your relationship with your family.

Apart from losing contact with people you probably care about, you might even end up harming them more than you think. It is not rare to see a person struggle both financially but also emotionally when it comes to helping family members that are battling mental illness.

Another very important reason to not take your mental health lightly is for the sake of your children. It is very often reported that children of people who struggle with a mental illness are abused or neglected. That can play a huge role in their lives and affect their entire lives, from childhood to adulthood.

Make Your Mental Health an Everyday Goal!

There are many places to turn to for help. The National Alliance on Mental Illness, otherwise known as NAMI, can be a great place to start. Through it, you can find a suitable medical center that will provide you with the suitable health services to help you regain your mental health.

It is important that you are not ashamed of your personal struggles or mental issues. Everything is part of the human nature and the fact that there are so many people available to help comes to show just how human this situation is and how much attention we, as a society, should be paying to this important issue.


Leona Henryson is a professional writer and passionate blogger. Her goal is to help people achieve their personal self-development and mental wellness.