Defining What You Don’t Want In Life and The Path to The Ideal Lifestyle 79

define what you don't want in life

It’s worth spending hours, days and weeks to figure out what you want in life, to make an action plan, to set specific goals and analyze the things that may come your way.

That’s a great thing to do as so many people live their whole life without ever having defined their biggest desire, without a direction and a path to follow.

And, of course, such life ends nowhere. No mark is left in the world after this person is gone.

So saying out loud the things you want, accepting them as your definite goals and doing something about them each day gives your life a sense of purpose.

And purpose-driven people are the ones that have the chance to achieve great things. Or, at least to lead the ideal lifestyle.

And that’s the kind of a lifestyle I want to talk about right now.

It’s worth defining exactly how you want your days to look like in the future, and to slowly start implementing habits, changing things, eliminating people, improving qualities and skills so that you can become the person that will manage the success and responsibilities that go with it.
But another thing that’s also key, is being aware of what you don’t want.

Here’s what I mean by that:

  • the things you do now that you don’t want to do (a job you don’t like, having to deal with your finances by yourself, cleaning your apartment, having people telling you what to do, working for someone else, having to get up too early, etc.);
  • the things about yourself you don’t like (not being fit, not finding the willpower to go to the gym at least a few times each week, spending too much time on social media, being dependent on your phone, and other bad habits and qualities);

All these are different for each person.

The one thing in common, though, is that we don’t want to be that person, to think like that or to do these things when we imagine our ideal lifestyle.

What to do then?

Simply start working on these.

Start building good habits, kicking bad ones, and developing discipline. That takes a lot of time, but has mind-blowing results in each area of your life.

Then, start noticing your negative thoughts. Learn how to let go of them and focus on your goals, instead.
Find ways to get rid of the activities you don’t enjoy and the people you don’t like.

Having things you don’t want in your life right now is a good thing. It gives birth to your desire to get rid of them, to change, to do something about reaching the life you want.

And analyzing the things you don’t like that you currently do or have, is a great start. It lets you know what needs to be changed, and that’s how your transformation begins.

So appreciate it!

And go do something about it today.

Once you know what is necessary to live the kind of life you want, bold action is required. Take your time thinking about these matters, but don’t be slow in acting on them – once you’ve thought things out.
Harry Browne

Here’s what Rob from Making It Anywhere says about that here:

“Your life is the way it is now because of the accumulation of thousands of decisions that you made over time because you thought they would make you happy. If you ended up somewhere that you don’t want to be, it’s far more effective to just cut yourself free rather than try to gradually unpick the knot of your life so far.

Browne says that if you use your current life as the starting point, it’s all too easy to rationalise every part of it as essential and unchangeable. Instead, you should start with your dream life as the standard – and eliminate any part of your current life that doesn’t fit the dream.

Start by imagining yourself stripped of all responsibilities and constraints – starting from scratch with everything up for grabs. Think about what you would do if you were in this position: where you’d live, what you’d do, who you’d be with.

Then think about your life as it is now. Everything that’s in your current life that doesn’t appear in your dream life needs to go – making space for what you dream of having in its place. For each item you need to remove, there will be a price to pay – whether it’s money, time or social standing – but the sooner you pay the price and move on, the cheaper it will be.”

Are there such things in your life? Activities, people, qualities, thoughts? Do you think that getting rid of them will clear your path to the ideal lifestyle?

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Should You Buy an Ecommerce Business? 10

Should You Buy an Ecommerce Business?

If you have the funds to make an investment, but you are not sure which is the best option, a good idea would be investing in an ecommerce business. They represent the businesses of the future, and it is already a known fact that they are very profitable.

With an online business you can choose to build it yourself, but that is not what we are recommending. In our opinion, buying an ecommerce business comes with more advantages and in this article we will talk about some of them.

You won’t have to deal with the tough work.

The first days are the hardest when you decide to start a business by yourself.

First of all, you have to decide exactly what kind of products you want to sell and then find the suppliers for them. You need to create a quality customer service, come up with marketing strategies, develop the site, SEO, and many other things.

But when you buy an online business you won’t have to deal with any of these. A business that has been around for a while already has all these things and this means that you won’t have to deal with them. However, you should make sure that you do a little bit the research before you buy the site. You need to make sure that everything matches your requirements.

Successful business model.

Quitting While You're Ahead! Understanding the Limits of Natural Business Growth

When you are just getting started it is hard to tell whether your business will make it or not.

In some cases, it might even be complicated to come up with a strategy that will sell your products. Nevertheless, this problem does not occur when you are buying an online business.

In this situation, you already know that the business existed for a few years, which means that it generates enough revenue. It also means that the traffic and customers are established already so there is almost no risk.

However, before you buy a website you will need to make sure that the financials are accurate.

You can choose to buy a business from an online marketplace such as Exchange by Shopify. This way, data such as traffic and financial reports will be delivered by the platform, not the seller, so you will know for sure that they are 100% real.

Cross-sell potential.

If you already own an ecommerce business it might be a good move to buy another one. By getting another one you will gain access to additional customers, email addresses and traffic, which could be really helpful for you.

If you analyze the metrics of the business a bit you will be able to tell how to cross-sell existing products. Tools like shopping cart data and Google Analytics should help you determine customer behavior, including the returning rate and how many items per order are there.

Cross promotion between email lists could be a great marketing tool if it is used correctly, and even using “competitive” discount could be a way to make customers move between the two businesses.