Defining What You Don’t Want In Life and The Path to The Ideal Lifestyle

define what you don't want in life

It’s worth spending hours, days and weeks to figure out what you want in life, to make an action plan, to set specific goals and analyze the things that may come your way.

That’s a great thing to do as so many people live their whole life without ever having defined their biggest desire, without a direction and a path to follow.

And, of course, such life ends nowhere. No mark is left in the world after this person is gone.

So saying out loud the things you want, accepting them as your definite goals and doing something about them each day gives your life a sense of purpose.

And purpose-driven people are the ones that have the chance to achieve great things. Or, at least to lead the ideal lifestyle.

And that’s the kind of a lifestyle I want to talk about right now.

It’s worth defining exactly how you want your days to look like in the future, and to slowly start implementing habits, changing things, eliminating people, improving qualities and skills so that you can become the person that will manage the success and responsibilities that go with it.
But another thing that’s also key, is being aware of what you don’t want.

Here’s what I mean by that:

  • the things you do now that you don’t want to do (a job you don’t like, having to deal with your finances by yourself, cleaning your apartment, having people telling you what to do, working for someone else, having to get up too early, etc.);
  • the things about yourself you don’t like (not being fit, not finding the willpower to go to the gym at least a few times each week, spending too much time on social media, being dependent on your phone, and other bad habits and qualities);

All these are different for each person.

The one thing in common, though, is that we don’t want to be that person, to think like that or to do these things when we imagine our ideal lifestyle.

What to do then?

Simply start working on these.

Start building good habits, kicking bad ones, and developing discipline. That takes a lot of time, but has mind-blowing results in each area of your life.

Then, start noticing your negative thoughts. Learn how to let go of them and focus on your goals, instead.
Find ways to get rid of the activities you don’t enjoy and the people you don’t like.

Having things you don’t want in your life right now is a good thing. It gives birth to your desire to get rid of them, to change, to do something about reaching the life you want.

And analyzing the things you don’t like that you currently do or have, is a great start. It lets you know what needs to be changed, and that’s how your transformation begins.

So appreciate it!

And go do something about it today.

Once you know what is necessary to live the kind of life you want, bold action is required. Take your time thinking about these matters, but don’t be slow in acting on them – once you’ve thought things out.
Harry Browne

Here’s what Rob from Making It Anywhere says about that here:

“Your life is the way it is now because of the accumulation of thousands of decisions that you made over time because you thought they would make you happy. If you ended up somewhere that you don’t want to be, it’s far more effective to just cut yourself free rather than try to gradually unpick the knot of your life so far.

Browne says that if you use your current life as the starting point, it’s all too easy to rationalise every part of it as essential and unchangeable. Instead, you should start with your dream life as the standard – and eliminate any part of your current life that doesn’t fit the dream.

Start by imagining yourself stripped of all responsibilities and constraints – starting from scratch with everything up for grabs. Think about what you would do if you were in this position: where you’d live, what you’d do, who you’d be with.

Then think about your life as it is now. Everything that’s in your current life that doesn’t appear in your dream life needs to go – making space for what you dream of having in its place. For each item you need to remove, there will be a price to pay – whether it’s money, time or social standing – but the sooner you pay the price and move on, the cheaper it will be.”

Are there such things in your life? Activities, people, qualities, thoughts? Do you think that getting rid of them will clear your path to the ideal lifestyle?

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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