Who is Mark Manson and What Makes Me Print Out and Reread His Articles 129

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In an interview Mark Manson says that “Pretty much everything we think and know about ourselves or the world is likely wrong and that that’s actually a pretty liberating and healthy thing to accept.”

And if you want me to describe his way of thinking with one sentence, that’s it.

But it’s worth digging deeper into his approach to life, his career and writing, to see that he’s not just another self-help guru.

So who is Mark Manson and what does he do?

He’s a former dating coach, a writer, world traveler, entrepreneur and personal development consultant.

He helps people change their lives, and has prevented suicides, saved marriages and encouraged startups.

In an interview for Forbes he says that he got in the self-help business by accident and never really planned becoming this kind of business.

He’s also published books on the subject, his articles appear on some of the biggest sites, has worked with individuals from more than 30 different countries, and lives unconventionally doing what he loves.
He travels the world, meets people, is open to new experiences and keeps learning and shaping his view of life.

Nomadic lifestyle

Here’s what he shares:

“This is everything I own: A MacBook Pro, an iPad, an unlocked iPhone, seven shirts, two pairs of jeans, two jackets, one coat, one sweater, two pairs of shoes, a suitcase, a backpack, some gym shorts, bathroom stuff, socks and underwear. That’s it. Everything I own can be easily packed into a small suitcase and moved within 30 minutes. There is nothing that I want that I don’t already own. And this is despite owning a six-figure internet business.”

He’s also all about psychology. And that, together with his unique experience, interesting way of thinking, and unusual approach to life, makes a killer combination for a writer.

Life-changing articles

I read a lot, visit many blogs, and find out many other passionate unconventional people like Mark. But to this day, he’s the only blogger whose stuff I’ve printed out.

That’s because his writing is eye-opening. To me, his words are jaw-dropping. He makes me doubt what reality really looks like and want to dig deeper into the meaning of all areas of life.

Some posts raise hope, others make us feel desperate and out of control. But each thought and idea he presents to us is brilliant in its simplicity and truthfulness.

He unveils many of the lies we tell ourselves and the illusions we live in.

He writes about life, culture, relationships, self-worth, personal development and common problems of today’s lifestyle.

What makes him stand out, though, is that he’s not afraid to come up with titles like Fuck Yes or No and The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck.
And that says it all. But still, each article is a guide on how to live more freely, make wiser choices and keep moving forward. Plus a lot of psychology and philosophy to play with your mind, make you think and give you examples.

In many of the posts he shares reasons why we’re still single, why love isn’t something worth sacrificing ourselves for.
And he debunks the myths of being confident and happy.

He’s got a lot to say about death, the importance of negative experiences in our life and why we even need more of them, and other stuff we feel uncomfortable to even think about.

Here are the articles I keep coming back to:

Why some dreams should not be pursued

No, you can’t have it all

Find what you love and let it kill you

Your next big life-changing breakthrough is already happening

The ‘do something’ principle

The zen dilemma

Compatibility and chemistry in relationships

How I quit smoking for good

Shut up and be grateful

How to quit your day job and travel the world

Wise words

And here are some memorable quotes:

1. It’s all just a game that we’re playing, the game is called life. And I don’t mean in the business, climb-the-ladder analogy, but in the fact that ultimately everything that we are and do is just a cosmic interplay between seemingly separate manifestations of consciousness. Most people never realize it’s a game. As a result, they are slaves to the ebbs and flows of what’s played.

But there are people who slowly realize that it’s just a game. Some of these people find out by refusing to play. Some find out by simply stopping and paying attention. Some find out by almost being removed from the game. Some realize it by watching others being removed before their eyes. But in the end, for whatever reason, they realize it’s just a game. And because it’s just a game, they have no reason to be worried or afraid, ever, because it’s just a game. And whoever wins or loses doesn’t matter because it’s just going to start all over again.

2. Before you are able to be good at something and do something important, you must first suck at something and have no clue what you’re doing. That’s pretty obvious. And in order to suck at something and have no clue what you’re doing, you must embarrass yourself in some shape or form, often repeatedly. And most people try to avoid embarrassing themselves, namely because it sucks.

Great things are, by their very nature, unique and unconventional. Therefore, to achieve them, we must go against the herd mentality. And to do that is scary.

Embrace embarrassment. Feeling foolish is part of the path to achieving something important, something meaningful. The more a major life decision scares you, chances are the more you need to be doing it.

3. The less you care about others, the less you care about yourself. I know this may go against every perception you’ve ever had of a self-serving asshole. But people treat people the way they treat themselves. It may not be apparent on the outside, but people who are cruel to the people around them are cruel to themselves.

4. Someone recently emailed me and asked me what I would do if I woke up tomorrow with no money and no friends.

I don’t have a particular answer to that question. I don’t know what I’d do to get money that first day. I know it would be hard and lonely.

But I also know that I would eventually be fine. I would cry and complain and fret and struggle. But I would eventually be fine. Because on a long enough timeline, everything in our lives is eventually lost. Happiness is not preventing those losses. It’s learning to adapt to them.

It’s not the people and objects that fulfill the needs in my life that make me happy. I make me happy. And if those objects were all taken away, while I would mourn their loss, I would find new people and new objects, new activities and new passions, and build a new identity for myself, and live on.

5. Remember that quitting is mostly a mind game. It’s only as big of a deal or as difficult as you make it. The physical effects and withdrawal symptoms aren’t any worse than those of a common cold. The struggle is mental. And if you decide that the struggle is monumental, then it will feel monumental. Conversely, if you decide it’s just a temporary roadblock in your life that you must take a few weeks to overcome, then it will be.

6. So the better question isn’t when you’re going to die. It’s what are you choosing as your vehicle to get there? If everything you do each day brings you closer to death in it’s own unique and subtle way, then what are you choosing to let kill you?

7. And what Bukowski understood more than most was that doing what you love is not always loving what you do. There’s an inherent sacrifice to it. Just like choosing a spouse, it’s not choosing someone who makes you happy all the time, it’s choosing somebody who you want to be with even when they’re pissing you off.

8. Just like few of us experience love at first sight, few will experience passion and meaning at first experience. Like a relationship, we must build it from scratch, piece-by-piece, until after years of brick and sweat, it can stand on its own.

9. “Don’t compare yourself to others.” It’s up there with, “Just be yourself,” and “Act confident,” in terms of how useless it is.
Comparison and the drive for status are innate parts of our nature and that’s unlikely to change any time soon.
But what we can change is the basis of those comparisons.

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His views may not be what you’re looking for on the Internet. And I respect that.

But I believe that he opens our eyes for the stuff that’s in front of us one way or another, but which we prefer to remain blind for.

Let me know what you think in the comments below.

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Hunt Down Your Goals and Become Fearless Like a Lion

To be fearless is to dare yourself to think new thoughts, take risks, fail and find the courage to start again.

In order to change, you must face the uncomfortable, because fear is not supposed to run you. Instead, it is a call to action.

We all have fear and we must never let it paralyze our dreams. If 2017 was an unsuccessful year, hopefully, this article will inspire you to take action.

I know how it feels when you are tired of listening to those inner voices of doubt. Slowly, the anger builds up inside. Despite those feelings, you can channel fear and anger in the right way and start to hunt for your dreams. Throughout my life, I felt a renewed hunger and drive to succeed when I simply let go of denial, accepted full responsibility and took affirmative action.

“Everybody wants to eat but a few are willing to hunt”

In today’s cold reality humans do not like to see anyone other than themselves succeed. Most will never take the next step to improve their life or the lives of their future generations to come. We are pushing towards survival of the fittest.

Tell me, when a lion hunts does it care what is in its way? No. The lion is in pursuit because it is relentless.

You must become the king of the jungle. All the things that make up our lives are in intricate balance and you must fight to protect your dreams.

1. Be fearless like a lion.

A lion has no fear of any challenge, so how do I become fearless?

My simple answer to overcoming fear is that I wake up with the burning desire in my heart. The burning desire is created by repeating positive affirmations like I CAN and I WILL.

Hidden somewhere deep down within you, there is that courage to dare yourself.

Ask yourself who is really stopping you? Go out there and let loose and you will learn what great lengths you are capable of going to.

Your first job before you start hunting is to find the fighter within you.

2. Know your limits and then defy them.

You’ve reached a certain limit but just can’t seem to go that extra mile. Once you become fearless, you become limitless.

A mind that is fearless has the urge to take more action and that is where you become defiant. Try your best to understand what you are doing wrong as sometimes it is easy to give up hope. So focus your attention on studying the obstacle in detail.

As you achieve one goal, you have the mental capacity, maturity and experience to face a new challenge. Therefore, your hunger and appetite for more success increase. Keep pushing no matter what and you will eventually break through.

I know for sure it is difficult at first, but now you’ve successfully defied the odds.

3. Think of a plan, visualize it and execute it.

A lion stalks its prey from a distance and seldom charges as it grows closer and closer displaying deadly predatory behaviour.

Never rush to execute a plan as it takes careful selection. Be clear what you want just as the lion calculates timing. 

Visualization is a vital tool to programme your subconscious mind in order to create that bridge of what is non-existent into reality, which is capturing your goal.

4. Be willing to accept failure.

Failures are what propel anyone forward their current success. We can certainly learn from our failures, but our intentions should be to succeed in accomplishing our goals! Failure is then a learning process, not a reason to accept defeat. You are the king, show no remorse!!!

Motivation from Will Smith is perhaps one of my favorites. Here’s one speech:

5. Have a winning attitude every day.

To keep the cycle of motivation in constant momentum you must work hard too.

The winning attitude is created by approaching your life with discipline and putting in the hours of practice.

I like to perform a reflective practice and personal development, which enables me to identify areas where I am falling down and thus need to pay more attention to.

6. Don’t allow criticism to defeat you.

We are afraid what others think of us, what we have or what we are going to do. It is you that must make that self-promise to finish what you started.

Every once in a while, a lion must remind everyone what he is capable of.

You are the king of the jungle. Own it!

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This article was written by Usman Mahmood. Besides working in the field of science helping patients through genetic testing, his purpose is to empower and inspire people in life with motivational videos, messages, articles, and stories from around the world. He loves to engage creative and ambitious minds on his Facebook page.