How Life Makes Us Learn and Grow

how life makes us learn and grow

Do you think that life makes us learn and grow? For me, every single moment is a proof of that. Here’s why:

We are all happy when things go right.

It’s easy to be contented, in peace and grateful, when you do the things you enjoy, are healthy, have money, are in a good relationship, when there’s no stress in your days and you even have time for yourself.

But there are ups and downs in everything. It’s the nature of life.

So what happens when you face a hardship, have money problems, or health issues, your partner leaves you, you lose a relative, or have hundreds of tasks to do every day that make you stressed and grumpy?!

That’s when most people blame other people and circumstances, think life is unfair, stop appreciating the things they have and focus only on the negatives.

And that’s what they do wrong.

So wrong, that the next good time in life gets even further away.

Why is that?

Simply because that’s life’s way of teaching, of making us aware, letting us grow and become stronger.

True wisdom lies in finding experience in the troubles, learning how to accept the changes, how to live with loss, to move on after a break up.

When you learn how to find a lesson in every failure and peace when you have a disease or after you’ve lost something precious, you’ll understand what life is on a much deeper level.

You’ll then see yourself from another point of view – as the person who is stronger than he expected, can let go and move on, find meaning and knowledge in everything, and whose hope, belief and will are greater than the temporary defeats life throws at us.

So the next time something devastating happens, try to find its meaning.

When you’re on the verge of giving up, when you feel a giant void inside, or have lost direction and are confused, try to stop, look around and find the ‘why’ of all this.

Remember that everything has a purpose. And most of the time it’s learning.
Every single failure and defeat makes you learn, helps you grow, opens your eyes, expands your horizons.

Only then can you appreciate success; only then will you know that you can’t always win. But you’re okay with that.

Sometimes losing is much more important. You learn more from it.

Only by going through something bad, can you understand what grief is.
And then you’ll be blessed with appreciation and gratitude.

You’ll see the abundance you live in, and once focused on that, no troubles will stand in your way.
And that itself is a reason to be a happy person for the rest of your life.

You can’t truly recognize happiness, if you haven’t felt suffering.
After all, we wouldn’t see the light if it wasn’t for darkness.

So thank for everything that’s been harder in your life. Learn from it, find its meaning. And know that nothing can make you give up now.

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Signs You’re Stuck in a Rut (and How to Get Out)

signs you're stuck in a rut and what to do about it

Life has its ups and downs for all of us, but sometimes those downs creep up and take hold without us noticing. All of a sudden we look around and realize that we’ve found ourselves stuck deep in a rut. If you don’t know you’re in a rut, it can be very difficult to get out and this can lead to lasting negative effects on your health and happiness.

So how do you know when you’re in a rut?

And, more importantly, what can you do to get back on track?

One of the biggest red flags that demonstrate that you might be drifting listlessly through your own life is that you spend most of it daydreaming of being somewhere else.

It’s perfectly normal to spend some time in the office wishing you were lying on a beach instead, but if this is a permanent state of affairs, it’s a sign that you’re dangerously bored. Try adding some spontaneity into your life to liven things up a bit, at least until that next vacation.

If you don’t have an exotic location to jet off to, you need to make sure you still have some things to look forward to. If the only thing you have any anticipation for is getting into bed at the end of every day, then you’re definitely in a rut and need to start finding enjoyment in the little things in life, appreciating all of the things that come in between waking up and going back to bed again.

Social media is a great tool for lots of things in our lives. But it can also have a very damaging effect on your mental health because it’s easy to be fooled by the edited highlights of their lives people put on there. This can leave you feeling envious because the day to day reality of your life doesn’t look like what you assume everyone’s life is, so stop obsessing over other people and shift your focus back to yourself.

Doing this shouldn’t come at the expense of actually ever seeing other people or doing anything, of course. So if you’re finding that you are spending all of your time at home rather than getting out and seeing friends, or claiming that you don’t have time to do anything (when the reality is quite the opposite), these are all also signs that you need to think hard about changing your habits.

Nobody ever wants to get stuck in a rut, but in a world where work-life balances are getting ever more hard to maintain and technology is eating into face to face interactions, it’s easy to find yourself wondering where your life went. These tips from NetCredit will help you identify whether you are living yours in a rut and will help you start to find your way out again.

More tips on how to get unstuck:

How to Get Your Motivation Back
How to Boost Your Energy and Vitality for a Successful Life
How to Embrace Acceptance in Life
How to Deal with Indecisiveness