What Makes You Average (And How to Change That) 67

what makes you average

Being average is like a disease.

It takes years of living in mediocrity to see the bad effects it has on your health, relationships and spiritual and mental life. But the results are quite depressing.

To recognize it as a disease you need to let go of conventional wisdom and get out of the crowd. Only then will you be able to see the bigger picture.

The truth is that we live ordinary lives, where nothing new and exciting happens, and everything is predictable and expected.

We usually don’t see it because there are plenty of distractions to help us not to think about that. So we focus on little daily worries, things we “need” to do and problems we need to pay attention to. There’s also TV, the Internet and all the technologies, gadgets and stuff around us.

And the bad thing about that truth is that we will never see ourselves become the person we are meant to be and achieve all the greatness we can.

We are practically wasting our potential and powers so that we can do things of little importance that make no difference at all.

But if you are okay with that, then this is what you need to do to be (and stay) average:

1. Have a 9-5 job;
2. It’s better if you hate it;
3. Get a mortgage;
4. Get a loan to go to university;
5. Study business (or something similar), if you don’t know what you want to study;
6. Then work so that you can pay the loan;
7. Watch as much TV (especially commercials) as you can;
8. Be on every social medial and spend a lot of time there every day;
9. Never speak up;
10. Be always worried about the things you need to get done;
11. Procrastinate;
12. Never actually get anything done;
13. Be in a relationship just because you don’t want to be alone;
14. You don’t need to travel – it’s safer at your place;
15. You don’t need to learn new languages;
16. Work a lot so that you can have a great pension once you retire;
17. Then when you retire, regret having worked so much and never figure out a proper way to spend your money;
18. Think about making a big change in your life every few weeks, but never do anything about it;
19. Then feel even more disappointed;
20. Never find your purpose;
21. Make things as complex as you can;
22. Have strong convictions and don’t let new ideas and conceptions distract you;
23. When you have a deep insight and ask yourself “What am I doing with my life?”, immediately start doing something ordinary so that it can go away;
24. Buy a lot of stuff you don’t need;
25. Live in clutter;
26. Make New Year’s resolutions every December and ditch them a week or two after that;
27. Set many goals at once, but never be specific;
28. Have a bad attitude towards life;
29. Be always in a hurry and keep yourself busy;
30. Play a certain role in front of people – never be yourself;
31. Dress and behave the way you’re supposed to;
32. Do stuff the way other people do it;
33. No spontaneous decisions allowed;
34. Think about changing;
35. Then decide it’s too risky and scary;
36. Then feel bad and go watch TV;
37. This is how you want your life to be – repeat that statement a few times every day;
38. Start your morning with coffee and a cigarette, in a hurry and being late for somewhere;
39. Give up after you fail;
40. Or don’t try at all;
41. Seek security;
42. Whatever you do, make sure it feels safe and comfortable;
43. Spent a lot of time each day analyzing why other people’s lives are so great (meanwhile look at their profiles in Facebook);
44. If you are in doubt, write it in Google. You’ll get an answer;
45. Don’t learn new things after school;
46. Never try a new sport or an exciting hobby.

That can go on for hours. But, basically, this is the life of any ordinary person (although if you become one, you should never admit it).

Here is what you’ll get:

• security (or an illusion of it);
• control (at least that’s what you’ll be thinking);
• no risk;
• no change;
• nothing new;
• no excitement;
• lost potential;
• wasted time;
no productivity;
• probably bad health;
• stress;
• retirement plan;
• diploma.

And you can live like that for the rest of your life.

Or there’s another option. To become someone better, to do something meaningful with your life, to be happy, peaceful and open-minded, to travel, explore, learn and grow.

To have that chance, you need to do exactly the opposite of what an average person does and thinks.

Only then will the world offer you its unbelievable opportunities and you’ll reach greatness. Just get out of the crowd, follow your dreams and think for yourself.

See also:

126 ways to to lead an extraordinary life
How to be unremarkably average
5 ways to stop being average
The decision to be remarkable
17 things extraordinary people do every day

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4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health 13

4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health

While most people pay the most attention to their physical health and work hard to achieve a healthy body, they often overlook the potential mental health issues that may have been well tucked away.

Understanding and paying sufficient attention to your mental health issues is an action that should be prioritized in every situation. What could seem like the simplest mental health problem to you might actually be affecting your life in more ways that you can imagine.

Here are just a few reasons why you shouldn’t ignore the signs.

1. It Is Way More Common Than You Believe.

You might think that mental illness is not present in many situations but the truth is that almost everyone has or is facing such an issue.

In fact, one in five Americans suffers from some type of mental illness. The saddest part about this though, is that very few of them seek treatment.

The person affected by the illness can even be one of your family members. Sadly, symptoms are easy to hide and even people who are severely depressed can mask their health issues from their families and avoid getting help.

2. It Can Also Affect Your Physical Health.

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It is known from a long time ago that the connection between the mind and the body is strong. Any sort of physical distress can have a huge effect on your capability to work or focus on things around you. Following this same rule, any sort of mental problem can easily affect your physical health too.

The first few things that a mental illness will affect are your mood, energy levels, sleep cycles, appetite and quite possibly your sex drive. Along with these problems and as a result of them, your immune system can also be affected and that can lead to more often colds and an overall impairment of your physical health.

People who face mental illnesses are often left unmotivated and drained of energy.

The illness blurs your mind so much that you have no energy left to function properly in your everyday life. Ask any person that has faced a major depression and they will tell you just how much they let themselves go and how they stopped caring about simple everyday things, such as brushing their teeth or taking a shower.

Physical symptoms won’t take long to appear and you will simply keep increasing your risk factor of a number of health problems such as heart disease or heart palpitations, insomnia and fatigue. It is very important that you ask for help if you feel such symptoms arising. Make sure that you consult a board-certified practitioner to be certain that a mental problem is not the cause of them.   

3. It Plays an Important Role in Your Success.

One of the most frequent symptoms of a mental illness is the lack of motivation. You just feel so tired of everything, you find that you are not interested in what others are doing and you just end up losing interest in things you used to love.

The lack of mental health can, therefore, play a huge role in your success. No matter if you are a college student, an employee or a working parent, you can easily lose sense of what’s important to you and hinder your success in whatever role you might have.

In whichever situation you might be, you will definitely need to be able to be creative and productive. Your success in your studies or your workplace might be your only source of stability and income.

An untreated mental illness can be the reason behind your reduced productivity, your lack of creativity and your overall negative attitude towards your work.

Keep in mind that a large number of homeless people are those who are suffering from a mental illness but sadly left it untreated.

Looking for help and letting the mental health professionals guide you can take a lot of weight off your shoulders. It can help you see things from a different perspective and give you the courage and motivation you need to get back on track and find yourself again.

4. It Can Affect Your Relationship with Your Peers.

Most people who face a mental illness find themselves intimidated by social situations. Even spending time with friends or family can seem like a very tiring or pointless task and they will often opt out of it. It is important to remember that this does not apply only to depressed people, as many might think, but to a large area of mental issues.

Anxiety disorders can alienate a person from their circle because of the constant fear of something going wrong, of someone not liking them or of an overall new situation. It is very common for the solution to your mental health issue to be holding the key to you getting back your behavioral health.

Mental illness can also affect your relationship with your family.

Apart from losing contact with people you probably care about, you might even end up harming them more than you think. It is not rare to see a person struggle both financially but also emotionally when it comes to helping family members that are battling mental illness.

Another very important reason to not take your mental health lightly is for the sake of your children. It is very often reported that children of people who struggle with a mental illness are abused or neglected. That can play a huge role in their lives and affect their entire lives, from childhood to adulthood.

Make Your Mental Health an Everyday Goal!

There are many places to turn to for help. The National Alliance on Mental Illness, otherwise known as NAMI, can be a great place to start. Through it, you can find a suitable medical center that will provide you with the suitable health services to help you regain your mental health.

It is important that you are not ashamed of your personal struggles or mental issues. Everything is part of the human nature and the fact that there are so many people available to help comes to show just how human this situation is and how much attention we, as a society, should be paying to this important issue.


Leona Henryson is a professional writer and passionate blogger. Her goal is to help people achieve their personal self-development and mental wellness.