What Makes You Average (And How to Change That)

what makes you average

Being average is like a disease.

It takes years of living in mediocrity to see the bad effects it has on your health, relationships and spiritual and mental life. But the results are quite depressing.

To recognize it as a disease you need to let go of conventional wisdom and get out of the crowd. Only then will you be able to see the bigger picture.

The truth is that we live ordinary lives, where nothing new and exciting happens, and everything is predictable and expected.

We usually don’t see it because there are plenty of distractions to help us not to think about that. So we focus on little daily worries, things we “need” to do and problems we need to pay attention to. There’s also TV, the Internet and all the technologies, gadgets and stuff around us.

And the bad thing about that truth is that we will never see ourselves become the person we are meant to be and achieve all the greatness we can.

We are practically wasting our potential and powers so that we can do things of little importance that make no difference at all.

But if you are okay with that, then this is what you need to do to be (and stay) average:

1. Have a 9-5 job;
2. It’s better if you hate it;
3. Get a mortgage;
4. Get a loan to go to university;
5. Study business (or something similar), if you don’t know what you want to study;
6. Then work so that you can pay the loan;
7. Watch as much TV (especially commercials) as you can;
8. Be on every social medial and spend a lot of time there every day;
9. Never speak up;
10. Be always worried about the things you need to get done;
11. Procrastinate;
12. Never actually get anything done;
13. Be in a relationship just because you don’t want to be alone;
14. You don’t need to travel – it’s safer at your place;
15. You don’t need to learn new languages;
16. Work a lot so that you can have a great pension once you retire;
17. Then when you retire, regret having worked so much and never figure out a proper way to spend your money;
18. Think about making a big change in your life every few weeks, but never do anything about it;
19. Then feel even more disappointed;
20. Never find your purpose;
21. Make things as complex as you can;
22. Have strong convictions and don’t let new ideas and conceptions distract you;
23. When you have a deep insight and ask yourself “What am I doing with my life?”, immediately start doing something ordinary so that it can go away;
24. Buy a lot of stuff you don’t need;
25. Live in clutter;
26. Make New Year’s resolutions every December and ditch them a week or two after that;
27. Set many goals at once, but never be specific;
28. Have a bad attitude towards life;
29. Be always in a hurry and keep yourself busy;
30. Play a certain role in front of people – never be yourself;
31. Dress and behave the way you’re supposed to;
32. Do stuff the way other people do it;
33. No spontaneous decisions allowed;
34. Think about changing;
35. Then decide it’s too risky and scary;
36. Then feel bad and go watch TV;
37. This is how you want your life to be – repeat that statement a few times every day;
38. Start your morning with coffee and a cigarette, in a hurry and being late for somewhere;
39. Give up after you fail;
40. Or don’t try at all;
41. Seek security;
42. Whatever you do, make sure it feels safe and comfortable;
43. Spent a lot of time each day analyzing why other people’s lives are so great (meanwhile look at their profiles in Facebook);
44. If you are in doubt, write it in Google. You’ll get an answer;
45. Don’t learn new things after school;
46. Never try a new sport or an exciting hobby.

That can go on for hours. But, basically, this is the life of any ordinary person (although if you become one, you should never admit it).

Here is what you’ll get:

• security (or an illusion of it);
• control (at least that’s what you’ll be thinking);
• no risk;
• no change;
• nothing new;
• no excitement;
• lost potential;
• wasted time;
no productivity;
• probably bad health;
• stress;
• retirement plan;
• diploma.

And you can live like that for the rest of your life.

Or there’s another option. To become someone better, to do something meaningful with your life, to be happy, peaceful and open-minded, to travel, explore, learn and grow.

To have that chance, you need to do exactly the opposite of what an average person does and thinks.

Only then will the world offer you its unbelievable opportunities and you’ll reach greatness. Just get out of the crowd, follow your dreams and think for yourself.

See also:

126 ways to to lead an extraordinary life
How to be unremarkably average
5 ways to stop being average
The decision to be remarkable
17 things extraordinary people do every day

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from TheWaystoWealth.com

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called GenYWealth.com (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea GenYwealth.com was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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