6 Common Goal-Setting Mistakes to Avoid - how to achieve anything in life

Great achievement is usually born of great sacrifice, and is never the result of selfishness.
Napoleon Hill

In order to get, you’ll have to give.

And that’s not bad. Just the contrary, it makes it all meaningful, lets us enjoy the reward, lets us deserve it.
But people don’t like to have ‘less’ of something. They feel they’ve lost this way.

And that approach gets them nowhere most of the times.

Truth is, sacrifices are just one of the steps on your way to achieving what you want in life that can’t be skipped.

Here are a few examples:

• in order to finish your book, you sacrifice all your time for a certain period;
• getting up early means not going to the party the night before (or at least going home before the best part starts, if you’ve got that amount of willpower);
• getting fit requires you to give up on your favorite foods;
• for a new business you invest all the money you have;
• before a test you sacrifice many nights of sleep;
• to be with your loved one you’re ready to say ‘no’ to every other person you can be with and to accept the chance of being hurt;
• in order to do your best on your current project, you stop working on many other things and pay your full attention to it;
• to become a doctor and make your dream come true, you invest most of your life in getting the right education and experience;
• saying ‘yes’ to one job opportunity means saying ‘no’ to many others;

and so on.

And the first thing you have to do is accept the sacrifices.

They’re a crucial part of your personal development.

And everyone who’s ever succeeded has done it.

Here’s what Mark Manson (one of my favorite bloggers) says in “No, You Can’t Have it All”:

“If you’ve ever taken an economics class, one of the first things you learn is a concept called “opportunity cost,” an idea often illustrated with the quote, “There’s no such thing as a free lunch.”

Opportunity cost means that essentially everything you do, no matter what it is, costs something, even if indirectly. The classic example is when someone takes you out for a free, hour-long lunch. Despite gaining the value of the lunch during that hour, you are still giving up all of the other productive activities you could have potentially been doing.

So you give up doing an extra hour of work. An extra hour of sleep. An extra hour of sales calls that could net you a new client. Or, as in the case with El-Erian, an extra hour with your 10-year-old daughter.

In our culture, we regularly celebrate people who become rich by doing exceptional things. But the nature of those “exceptional things” often requires extremely high opportunity costs. Bill Gates famously slept in his office five days a week and remained single well into his 30s. Steve Jobs was a deadbeat father to his first daughter. Brad Pitt can’t leave his house without being bukkaked by flashbulbs and cameras. The man has stated that he’s gone through periods of depression due to the social isolation caused by his extreme fame.

The point is that doing anything truly great requires some sort of inherent sacrifice that may or may not be immediately obvious.”

So are sacrifices necessary?

Absolutely. And they’re a great thing.

Here’s why:

5 Reasons Sacrifices Need to Be Made to Reach Your Goals

1. Balance is an illusion, we can’t have it all with all the opportunities offered these days.

So we say ‘no’ to at least a dozen of things, when we say ‘yes’ to something we want.

2. To make a dream come true, you need to be fully concentrated on it and focus all your energy and effort into doing something about it daily.

For that to happen, you need to give up on all the others things that are distracting you, and that you may like or enjoy, but which aren’t as important as this one dream.

3. They make you stronger, build your willpower and discipline, and help you grow.
4. Only by making sacrifices can you truly appreciate what you get.
5. If you decide to have it all, you don’t enjoy anything.

So many things will require your attention that you’ll end up being discontent and stressed.

So that’s why sacrifices are a necessity.

Next time you give something in order to get more of what you desire, don’t feel bad. Don’t feel like something’s being taken away from you.
Instead, know that you have a priority, know what you want in life, are working to get it, and are willing to give up comfort and stuff that gives you instant gratification in order to achieve it.

That’s the way to success.

What do you give in order to get more of something else? Do you invest time, sleep, effort and energy, or give up some of the stuff you’re used to and enjoy doing?

What sacrifices do you make?