What to Do in The Face of Hopelessness: 7 Ways to Free Yourself from It 99

freeing yourself from hopelessness

Hopelessness is something we all have to deal with at some point. But first, we need to recognize it, stop and think about it, and then do something in order to get the happiness and contentment back in our life.

Many experience a period in their life when they think nothing good will happen, that there’s no reason to even try new and different stuff. And even if things change for the better, is there really any point?

That’s the feeling of worthlessness, despair, loss.

Do you recognize it?

It’s when you forget about all the good things that happened to you, and focus only on that one current mood. When you’re sure life is purposeless.
So you just want to give up and leave all important things behind. There’s no motivation, excitement, or hope inside you.

That’s how hopelessness looks like.

And it’s an awful place to be at.

Here are some side effects of it:

  • sadness;
  • negativity;
  • feeling depressed;
  • losing point in everything;
  • feeling trapped and stuck;
  • you stop taking care of yourself (sometimes even neglecting personal hygiene);
  • sleeping too much simply because you don’t want to get up and face the day;
  • mood changes;
  • losing interest in doing the stuff you love;
  • then feeling even worse for not doing anything;
  • and the worst: taking actions that may hurt you, thinking about death, wanting to end your suffering, etc.

It’s a kind of depression, yes. But it’s also a state we all go through when we face challenges, a big change in our life, get lost and have no purpose.

Often because of one of the following reasons:

– losing your job;
– money problems;
– incident;
– bad relationship;
– losing a loved one;
– divorce;
– failing at something big;
– monotony.

And something needs to be done.

You feel like nothing will ever make a difference again, but that’s not true.

There are things you can do to get back on your feet and keep living the life your deserve as a happy person.

Here they are:

7 Steps to Freeing Yourself from Hopelessness

1. Doubt it.

When feelings like these occur, try to stop and notice them. To ask yourself whether they are realistic, to wonder why you feel this way.

They are a deep emotional state that is never real, it’s just your mind wanting to give up trying because it’s easier.
But tell it that what it feels is not true.

2. Eliminate.

You probably know what the thing that causes such a depression is. And there’s nothing better, and simpler, than just getting rid of it.

If it does that to you, it doesn’t have any place in your life. Be it a person, job, or else, just eliminate it. (In case it’s another thing, keep reading.)

3. Focus on what you’ve got.

Hopelessness makes you feel like you have nothing.

But look around!

See all the people that love you, the opportunities, the things you love doing and the chance to practice them daily, the great memories from the past, the dreams for the future, your good sides and qualities, etc.

Forget about everything else, and concentrate on that. Thank for it, appreciate it. And soon you’ve feel abundance.

4. Change your point of view.

See things from a different angle.

I’m sure many people like certain things about you or your life that you don’t often notice. So focus on that.

5. Find a direction.

Many just don’t have a purpose, have no idea what to do with their lives, and – as a result – feel stuck.

That’s normal.

It’s also a sign that it’s time to sit down, take a pen and paper and face all your dreams, goals, big desires, values and things you care about.

And don’t stand up until you have turned these into specific goals and steps to take.

That’s your ‘why’. That’s your path to follow.

6. Be present.

Often hopelessness is caused by deep regrets for the past or too much stress and fear for the future. Uncertainty, big expectations…

Things like that ruin your present moment. And the only solution is to let go of them.

That’s the freeing process of eliminating thoughts about what was and what might be, so that you can be mindful in the present moment and fully experience it.
I wrote a book on that subject actually.

7. Try something new.

If you feel a void inside, if your life gets boring to the point where you start hating it, then it’s time for a change.

The beauty of life is that you can start over whenever you want.

You can always move somewhere else, quit your job and look for one in another field, leave your partner, travel the world, dedicate time and energy to your body and looks, start working on a personal project, etc.

Whatever it is that you choose to do about the way you feel, always remember that you yourself are more than enough. You don’t need anyone else, or to live by someone else’s standards.

You’re free to do whatever you want in life without feeling guilty about it.

Opportunities are everywhere around you. So figure out what you really want and go get it.

Have you ever felt hopeless? Why? And what did you do about it?

See also:

9 types of hopelessness and how to overcome them
Hopeless situations
Restoring hope

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Hunt Down Your Goals and Become Fearless Like a Lion 12

Hunt Down Your Goals and Become Fearless Like a Lion

To be fearless is to dare yourself to think new thoughts, take risks, fail and find the courage to start again.

In order to change, you must face the uncomfortable, because fear is not supposed to run you. Instead, it is a call to action.

We all have fear and we must never let it paralyze our dreams. If 2017 was an unsuccessful year, hopefully, this article will inspire you to take action.

I know how it feels when you are tired of listening to those inner voices of doubt. Slowly, the anger builds up inside. Despite those feelings, you can channel fear and anger in the right way and start to hunt for your dreams. Throughout my life, I felt a renewed hunger and drive to succeed when I simply let go of denial, accepted full responsibility and took affirmative action.

“Everybody wants to eat but a few are willing to hunt”

In today’s cold reality humans do not like to see anyone other than themselves succeed. Most will never take the next step to improve their life or the lives of their future generations to come. We are pushing towards survival of the fittest.

Tell me, when a lion hunts does it care what is in its way? No. The lion is in pursuit because it is relentless.

You must become the king of the jungle. All the things that make up our lives are in intricate balance and you must fight to protect your dreams.

1. Be fearless like a lion.

A lion has no fear of any challenge, so how do I become fearless?

My simple answer to overcoming fear is that I wake up with the burning desire in my heart. The burning desire is created by repeating positive affirmations like I CAN and I WILL.

Hidden somewhere deep down within you, there is that courage to dare yourself.

Ask yourself who is really stopping you? Go out there and let loose and you will learn what great lengths you are capable of going to.

Your first job before you start hunting is to find the fighter within you.

2. Know your limits and then defy them.

You’ve reached a certain limit but just can’t seem to go that extra mile. Once you become fearless, you become limitless.

A mind that is fearless has the urge to take more action and that is where you become defiant. Try your best to understand what you are doing wrong as sometimes it is easy to give up hope. So focus your attention on studying the obstacle in detail.

As you achieve one goal, you have the mental capacity, maturity and experience to face a new challenge. Therefore, your hunger and appetite for more success increase. Keep pushing no matter what and you will eventually break through.

I know for sure it is difficult at first, but now you’ve successfully defied the odds.

3. Think of a plan, visualize it and execute it.

A lion stalks its prey from a distance and seldom charges as it grows closer and closer displaying deadly predatory behaviour.

Never rush to execute a plan as it takes careful selection. Be clear what you want just as the lion calculates timing. 

Visualization is a vital tool to programme your subconscious mind in order to create that bridge of what is non-existent into reality, which is capturing your goal.

4. Be willing to accept failure.

Failures are what propel anyone forward their current success. We can certainly learn from our failures, but our intentions should be to succeed in accomplishing our goals! Failure is then a learning process, not a reason to accept defeat. You are the king, show no remorse!!!

Motivation from Will Smith is perhaps one of my favorites. Here’s one speech:

5. Have a winning attitude every day.

To keep the cycle of motivation in constant momentum you must work hard too.

The winning attitude is created by approaching your life with discipline and putting in the hours of practice.

I like to perform a reflective practice and personal development, which enables me to identify areas where I am falling down and thus need to pay more attention to.

6. Don’t allow criticism to defeat you.

We are afraid what others think of us, what we have or what we are going to do. It is you that must make that self-promise to finish what you started.

Every once in a while, a lion must remind everyone what he is capable of.

You are the king of the jungle. Own it!

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This article was written by Usman Mahmood. Besides working in the field of science helping patients through genetic testing, his purpose is to empower and inspire people in life with motivational videos, messages, articles, and stories from around the world. He loves to engage creative and ambitious minds on his Facebook page.