How to Embrace Losing to See What Truly Matters in Life

embrace losing to see what truly matters in life

That’s a guest post I wrote for DumbLittleMan. You can read the whole article here.

It’s a bit more philosophical, and in a few paragraphs I try to give my opinion about what causes loss, how to go beyond attachment and see what’s really important in life, how letting go frees us from the burden of everyday life and we can finally enjoy each and every day.

What’s wrong with being a loser? And aren’t we all?

After all, everything is temporary outside of us and eventually we’ll lose it.

Losing is basically having less, but you actually gain more freedom. The more you let go, the freer and happier you become.

Here are a few things about losing you should consider:

•it comes from attachment – we get attached to so many things, people, places, activities, memories, etc. And the moment we do that we start paying too much attention to them, thinking they make us happier and life is unthinkable without them, that they give meaning to our days and we put all our energy and focus into that.

And when we lose what we hold on to, the pain is indescribable.

•in the end we lose it all – the material stuff we have becomes someone else’s belongings, our wealth goes somewhere else, someone else takes our position at work, and eventually we lose our life

•letting go of attachment will prevent us from losing – reducing desires, realizing that we don’t need another person to feel complete and we ourselves are good enough and seeing objects just as temporary things we own, is what can save us from the devastation we feel when we lose something that’s important to us.

Practicing letting go of attachment will help you not to become a wreck when someone you love leaves you, you lose a relative, or money, or your job.

See also:

Love life, not stuff
The philosophy of winning and losing

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4 Tips for Newlyweds to Manage Their Finances Flawlessly

4 Tip for Newlyweds to Manage Their Finances Flawlessly

June is around the corner!

What does it remind you?

Isn’t it the smell of champagne and roses?

Yes! It’s again the time to rejoice the cheerful wedding bells. So, if you are planning to tie the knot soon, congratulations!

Howbeit, preparations for the wedding day might be making you worried over these months. Whether it is about picking up the wedding dress or booking a caterer for the wedding feast, your finance is moving upside down!

But, wait!

Don’t think that such monetary hotchpotch will come to an end after the wedding day. There’s still a long way to go! You and your partner are going to spend your entire life together. So, both of you have to practically start thinking about how to manage money.

No! I am definitely not scaring you! It is just that the approach in which you’ve been handling finance till now have to change now. After marriage, it’s not just you, it’s about you and your partner living together.

So, it is required for you to understand the basic know-hows effectively.

Read on to get an idea. 

1. A Serious Talk on Pecuniary Goals and Habits

You both are staying together, it’s essential to know each other’s financial point of views. Especially, you can remind your parents in such a situation. For example, how your parents used to manage money, when they used to pay the bills, what have been their successful financial decisions, and so on. It will let you both curate your financial life perfectly.

Also, you need to discuss your habits when it comes to managing money. Whether you are a saver or spender, how you usually decide on purchasing something, what your reaction will be if there is a sudden financial loss etc.

Once you are done with understanding each other’s habits, figure out a suitable way to manage money, and that’s it!

2. Stick to Your Budget.

When it’s about spending money, be cautious and stick to your plan. Let no any indulgence drive you towards unnecessary expenses. You and your partner both should cultivate this habit to save remarkably.

Moreover, you’ve to always look for smarter ways to save your hard-earned dollars. For example, learn how you should use things limitedly for household chores, how you can save on shopping etc.

One of the smartest ideas could be grabbing the lucrative discounts and coupons while purchasing everything, whether it is a small household stuff or any prominent furniture or jewellery. Additionally, there are a number of such exhilarating websites now which can let you always fetch the right discount at the right time!

Browse through the websites like Dealslands and many such others present around, you’ll definitely start believing in what I mentioned above. 

3. Numbers Are Important.

When it comes to managing finances together, you and your partner should share every related information. You should start with tallying up your asset and debts. Next, just subtract the debts from assets to determine your self-worth. Most importantly, don’t hesitate to inform your income to each other.

The conversation between you both should be open and honest. There should remain no scope for any hidden fact. The more transparently you will talk, the more perfect your financial plan will be.

4. How Do Your Budgetary Habits Differ from Your Partner’s?

It is very important for you to figure out the difference between how you and your partner think about money.

Try to find out the agreeable amount of saving for you both. You should understand what his/her priority is when it comes to paying off the debts or spending on quality things, what money saving traditions that he/she thinks are absolutely non-negotiable, and so on.

Once you have a clearer idea, an impeccable plan for managing your bucks will be ready! 

This is how you need to start planning your finances together to attain unparalleled results. Initially, it might be quite unnatural for you to understand the aforementioned facts. Well, it’s nothing wrong with that! You are new to this life.

However, don’t lag behind in following these tips in future. Thus, to manage finance as a family will not be tough at all!

About The Author

Arina is the marketing manager at DealsLands, coupons and discounts provider company. She is passionate about fashion, make-up, beauty treatment and lifestyle. In addition, Arina also supports non-profit agencies that provide healthcare solutions to handicapped and disabled people.

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