10 Things to Let Go Of to Free Yourself

things to let go of to find freedom and be happy

I often mention letting go. Almost in every new piece of content I put on the blog.

That’s because it’s one of the best things we can do in our life. It’s the process of letting things be – the ones we can’t change, of eliminating the thoughts that shouldn’t be on our mind, of removing negative feelings.

And the result is that we feel free, contented and peaceful.

We make room for inspiration, joy and gratitude because we let out the worries, negativism and judgment.

But what exactly is the stuff we need to free ourselves from so that we can have a life of freedom and purpose?

Here they are:

Things to Let Go of to Bring Happiness and Freedom in Your Life

1. Regrets.

Having regrets about the past is pointless, if you think about it. But most people do have them.

They bring pain, they make us stop living in the now and just relive past moments and suffer again.

But if you realize that it’s all gone and there’s nothing you can do about it, you’ll understand that the only logical behavior is to live in the present moment. After all, it’s where you create your future. And what’s happened before has nothing to do with it.

2. Blaming.

People often blame others for what they did. But that only makes things worse.

Instead, take responsibility for your own actions. You did what you did. Now move on, learn from it and do it right next time.

3. Possessions.

Some of us are too attached to objects. And, in the end, the stuff we own controls us.

The more material things we care about, the harder it is to throw them away. And they bring memories from the past back to us, often making us feel sentimental and sad.

I say throw away what you don’t use. There’s no point in letting it take space in your home and your mind, you just need to take care of it, clean it and fix it.

4. Doubt.

It has a tendency of appearing when we need to take a decision, even if it’s one we do daily. And it brings insecurity in us. We stop thinking rationally and end up making the wrong decision.

So be sure in your opinion. Stay focused. Let go of doubt.

5. People’s opinion.

That’s a big one.

We spend too much time worrying and analyzing other people’s behavior, trying to make them like us, looking for their approval and craving their attention.

If all that energy is spent in improving ourselves and trying to analyze our own behavior, we’d succeed a lot more in life.

Stop caring about what people think of you. No matter what you do, someone will always disagree. It’s better to let it go now and move on with your life.

6. Being right.

You don’t really need to be right all the time. After all, communication is all about learning, sharing opinion, listening to others, making compromises.

And if you always try to win in relationships, you’ll lose a lot more.

So let go of the need to be right. See what others have to say. Maybe it’s worth it.

7. Worries about the future.

Some people choose to spend their life in the future. Not visualizing their success and planning adventures, but fearing what might happen tomorrow.

They play all these negative scenarios in their heads, and imagine the worst that can happen. Always expect things to go wrong and never actually enjoy the present moment.

Needless to say that almost nothing of this actually happens. But still, they ruin their life living this way.

The solution is to accept that you don’t know what will happen tomorrow. Be prepared if it helps you, but don’t make it your priority. Choose to live now.

8. Comparing.

What’s the point of comparing your life to those of other people?

It only makes you see things they have that you don’t, and that makes you unhappy.

Realize that no two people are alike. We’re all individuals and have been through different stuff so that we could become who we are today.

And instead of concentrating on other people’s lives, why don’t you try to find the reasons to be grateful for what you already have?

9. Judgment.

Also, stop judging others. You can never know what they’ve been through. And most of the times there’s a much deeper explanation for the way they behave.

So be compassionate. Let go of judgment and be kind to everyone.

10. Anger.

Here’s how I deal with it.

That’s some of the stuff we need to let go of in order to live a fulfilling life, smile and be able to enjoy the now and make the best of what we have.

Letting go can become a habit if you practice it long enough. It starts with the deep realization that each of these 10 items hurts us, and is something we don’t need in our life. And it’s so easy to just remove it.

Take your time. Get to know yourself better and be mindful of moments when you show anger, compare yourself, want to be right or blame someone. Just noticing when you do it and telling yourself to stop is a big step in your personal development process.

Start today. Start small.

Breathe deeply and let go.

What other things can you add to the list? There are so many other negative habits and emotions we care with us that should be eliminated.

See also:

8 important reasons to let go of people who no longer play an important part in your life
Let go of attachment: You can be happy even if things change
40 ways to let go and feel less pain
8 effective ways to let go and move on

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Signs You’re Stuck in a Rut (and How to Get Out)

signs you're stuck in a rut and what to do about it

Life has its ups and downs for all of us, but sometimes those downs creep up and take hold without us noticing. All of a sudden we look around and realize that we’ve found ourselves stuck deep in a rut. If you don’t know you’re in a rut, it can be very difficult to get out and this can lead to lasting negative effects on your health and happiness.

So how do you know when you’re in a rut?

And, more importantly, what can you do to get back on track?

One of the biggest red flags that demonstrate that you might be drifting listlessly through your own life is that you spend most of it daydreaming of being somewhere else.

It’s perfectly normal to spend some time in the office wishing you were lying on a beach instead, but if this is a permanent state of affairs, it’s a sign that you’re dangerously bored. Try adding some spontaneity into your life to liven things up a bit, at least until that next vacation.

If you don’t have an exotic location to jet off to, you need to make sure you still have some things to look forward to. If the only thing you have any anticipation for is getting into bed at the end of every day, then you’re definitely in a rut and need to start finding enjoyment in the little things in life, appreciating all of the things that come in between waking up and going back to bed again.

Social media is a great tool for lots of things in our lives. But it can also have a very damaging effect on your mental health because it’s easy to be fooled by the edited highlights of their lives people put on there. This can leave you feeling envious because the day to day reality of your life doesn’t look like what you assume everyone’s life is, so stop obsessing over other people and shift your focus back to yourself.

Doing this shouldn’t come at the expense of actually ever seeing other people or doing anything, of course. So if you’re finding that you are spending all of your time at home rather than getting out and seeing friends, or claiming that you don’t have time to do anything (when the reality is quite the opposite), these are all also signs that you need to think hard about changing your habits.

Nobody ever wants to get stuck in a rut, but in a world where work-life balances are getting ever more hard to maintain and technology is eating into face to face interactions, it’s easy to find yourself wondering where your life went. These tips from NetCredit will help you identify whether you are living yours in a rut and will help you start to find your way out again.

More tips on how to get unstuck:

How to Get Your Motivation Back
How to Boost Your Energy and Vitality for a Successful Life
How to Embrace Acceptance in Life
How to Deal with Indecisiveness