10 Things to Let Go Of to Free Yourself 72

things to let go of to find freedom and be happy

I often mention letting go. Almost in every new piece of content I put on the blog.

That’s because it’s one of the best things we can do in our life. It’s the process of letting things be – the ones we can’t change, of eliminating the thoughts that shouldn’t be on our mind, of removing negative feelings.

And the result is that we feel free, contented and peaceful.

We make room for inspiration, joy and gratitude because we let out the worries, negativism and judgment.

But what exactly is the stuff we need to free ourselves from so that we can have a life of freedom and purpose?

Here they are:

Things to Let Go of to Bring Happiness and Freedom in Your Life

1. Regrets.

Having regrets about the past is pointless, if you think about it. But most people do have them.

They bring pain, they make us stop living in the now and just relive past moments and suffer again.

But if you realize that it’s all gone and there’s nothing you can do about it, you’ll understand that the only logical behavior is to live in the present moment. After all, it’s where you create your future. And what’s happened before has nothing to do with it.

2. Blaming.

People often blame others for what they did. But that only makes things worse.

Instead, take responsibility for your own actions. You did what you did. Now move on, learn from it and do it right next time.

3. Possessions.

Some of us are too attached to objects. And, in the end, the stuff we own controls us.

The more material things we care about, the harder it is to throw them away. And they bring memories from the past back to us, often making us feel sentimental and sad.

I say throw away what you don’t use. There’s no point in letting it take space in your home and your mind, you just need to take care of it, clean it and fix it.

4. Doubt.

It has a tendency of appearing when we need to take a decision, even if it’s one we do daily. And it brings insecurity in us. We stop thinking rationally and end up making the wrong decision.

So be sure in your opinion. Stay focused. Let go of doubt.

5. People’s opinion.

That’s a big one.

We spend too much time worrying and analyzing other people’s behavior, trying to make them like us, looking for their approval and craving their attention.

If all that energy is spent in improving ourselves and trying to analyze our own behavior, we’d succeed a lot more in life.

Stop caring about what people think of you. No matter what you do, someone will always disagree. It’s better to let it go now and move on with your life.

6. Being right.

You don’t really need to be right all the time. After all, communication is all about learning, sharing opinion, listening to others, making compromises.

And if you always try to win in relationships, you’ll lose a lot more.

So let go of the need to be right. See what others have to say. Maybe it’s worth it.

7. Worries about the future.

Some people choose to spend their life in the future. Not visualizing their success and planning adventures, but fearing what might happen tomorrow.

They play all these negative scenarios in their heads, and imagine the worst that can happen. Always expect things to go wrong and never actually enjoy the present moment.

Needless to say that almost nothing of this actually happens. But still, they ruin their life living this way.

The solution is to accept that you don’t know what will happen tomorrow. Be prepared if it helps you, but don’t make it your priority. Choose to live now.

8. Comparing.

What’s the point of comparing your life to those of other people?

It only makes you see things they have that you don’t, and that makes you unhappy.

Realize that no two people are alike. We’re all individuals and have been through different stuff so that we could become who we are today.

And instead of concentrating on other people’s lives, why don’t you try to find the reasons to be grateful for what you already have?

9. Judgment.

Also, stop judging others. You can never know what they’ve been through. And most of the times there’s a much deeper explanation for the way they behave.

So be compassionate. Let go of judgment and be kind to everyone.

10. Anger.

Here’s how I deal with it.

That’s some of the stuff we need to let go of in order to live a fulfilling life, smile and be able to enjoy the now and make the best of what we have.

Letting go can become a habit if you practice it long enough. It starts with the deep realization that each of these 10 items hurts us, and is something we don’t need in our life. And it’s so easy to just remove it.

Take your time. Get to know yourself better and be mindful of moments when you show anger, compare yourself, want to be right or blame someone. Just noticing when you do it and telling yourself to stop is a big step in your personal development process.

Start today. Start small.

Breathe deeply and let go.

What other things can you add to the list? There are so many other negative habits and emotions we care with us that should be eliminated.

See also:

8 important reasons to let go of people who no longer play an important part in your life
Let go of attachment: You can be happy even if things change
40 ways to let go and feel less pain
8 effective ways to let go and move on

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10 Things Uber Successful People Do in the Morning 15

10 Things Uber Successful People Do in the Morning

Who doesn’t want to be successful? Whatever our purpose in life may be, we want to achieve success with it. Although success is usually perceived as career growth, it also encompasses personal growth. These two things go together.

So what can we do to reach the personal and professional growth of uber successful people? Maybe we can imitate some of their habits. Their morning rituals, in particular, set the pace of the day.

Did you know that the way you start your mornings affects your entire day?

You probably felt that, but guess what: science proves it as a fact, too.

In a study called “Waking up on the wrong side of the bed: start-of-workday mood, work events, employee affect, and performance,” researchers found that whatever the mood of workers was during the morning, they preserved it throughout the entire day.

So if you start off in a good mood, you have greater chances of having a great day. That’s why morning routines are so important.

Let’s learn from the ultra successful people, shall we? How do they start their mornings?

What The Most Successful Do in The Morning

1. Spend Time with the Partner.

relationships

As we said, success is not only about professional achievements. It also means having the right person by your side.

Take Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan as an example. They are both crazy successful, and they are definitely happy to have each other.

Waking up next to the person you love makes every morning special. Appreciate that moment. Have a coffee together. Talk. Be glad you’re there for each other.

2. Mindfulness.

Yes; mindfulness is a habit.

Successful people are always busy. Can you imagine a hectic morning with dozens of urgent email messages, business partners calling, and the kids yelling? And they are still in their pajamas! That’s why they practice mindfulness.

Researchers from The University of Sydney found that mindfulness reduces work-related stress and improves the mood at work. That’s why successful people always seem ready to deal with any situation.

So how do you practice mindfulness in the morning?

Just wake up. Take few deep breaths. Be aware of the present moment. Be aware of the responsibilities the day ahead will bring. Relax, and tell yourself that you’re ready.

3. Plan the Day.

A good plan will set you on the right track.

Plan your tasks for the day in the morning. When you have such an outline, it will be easier to handle all responsibilities. You’ll know you’ll have time for all tasks.

If you realize there’s not enough time, you should plan how to outsource. If, for example, you cannot complete a business report, you can hire assignment masters to write or edit it for you.

4. Exercise.

I know; it’s a cliché. However, it’s also an activity that works.

Physical exercise makes you fitter, but it also makes you happierWhen you’re done with your morning exercise ritual, you feel at ease, and things start to clear up.

Most successful people exercise. Hillary Clinton does yoga. Obama works out for 45 minutes six days per week. Mark Cuban does cardio fitness. Follow their example!

5. Practice Patience.

Too many things ahead? If your schedule is busy, you’ll be eager to get things done ASAP. The morning is the period of the day when you should practice patience. Relax.

You already made a plan. There’s time for everything. You’ll get through the day. For now, cherish this precious moment of morning relaxation.

6. Juice Up.

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It’s no wonder why so many celebrities are into the latest juice detox trend. Healthy juices give you valuable nutrients and make you feel more energized.

Have a different juice every single morning. Sure, the juicer will take some cleaning after, but the juice will certainly give you enough energy for that.

7. Eat Breakfast.

You saw this coming, didn’t you?

Uber successful people know that the breakfast is the most important meal of the day. It’s even better when it’s healthy.

Yes; the juice can be your breakfast, but it won’t make you feel full for long. If you don’t intend to have a standard breakfast, pack some fruit for work. A banana and an apple are mandatory!

8. Hydrate.

Have a glass of water as soon as you wake up. Hydration is essential for the way your entire system functions.

9. Be With the Right People.

In Tools of Titans, author Timothy Ferriss refers to a so-called “five chimps theory” in zoology. According to that theory, you can predict the behavior of any chimp if you analyze the five chimps they usually hang out with.

There’s a lot of wisdom in that theory. When you surround with nervous people, you’re nervous, too. When you surround yourself with positive characters, you reflect good vibes, too.

The first people you contact in the morning will set the mood for your day. Choose them carefully.

10. Celebrate Achievements.

When you wake up with a positive mindset, you’ll boost your chances of spending a good day.

Instead of thinking about all obstacles ahead, you should take time to think about all achievements you’ve made towards your current goals. This appreciation will convince you that you’re on the right track.

When we sum things up, all these morning habits of the ultra successful people seem pretty simple, don’t they?

However, it takes tons of persistence and commitment to stay true to them. Start by making small steps. Pick few of these activities and repeat them every day, until they turn into habits.   

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Cathy Baylis is a personal growth expert who writes insightful articles that motivate and challenge others. She has worked as a writer for a little over a decade now, and owns several blogs that she updates on her free time.