Here’s How We Die Every Single Day (And What to Do About It) 63

here's how we die every single day

There are many times in life when we feel alive, we’re grateful for what we have, feel good, and even dare to dream bigger.

The rest of the time we prefer to take everything for granted, be unhappy with what we have and focus on what’s missing instead, complain about stuff, and basically wish things could be different and that we were more like someone else.

That brings disappointment, suffering, deep regret and depression into our days.

But that’s not the biggest problem.

After being on this planet for some time we come to a point where we realize that this will end some day.
We don’t know when or how. But there’s no if. We know it will happen.

And because of the other bad mental habits we’ve already developed – like being negative, not enjoying the moment, worrying about what might happen, not thinking long term, choosing instant gratification every time and then hating ourselves even more, losing hope, not knowing why we do what we do, not having a direction, and so on – this too becomes one of them.

And from this moment on there’s a new addition to our daily existence – the thought of dying.

And we start some of the following:

• thinking about death;
• analyzing it;
• imagining different scenarios of how our last day will look like;
• fearing this day;
• letting it prevent us from living the present moment;
• questioning happiness and the meaning of life;
• thinking it’s all unfair;
• losing point in doing anything big;
• referring to important things as meaningless.

…or the slightly better version:

• we want to leave a legacy;
• we fear there won’t be a mark left after us;
• we feel depressed about the possibility of a world in which we never existed;
• we turn our life into a quest to leave something behind;
• we’re anxious about not having enough time left;

etc.

And we start dying every day until it actually happens. And when it does, it’s a relief that saves us.

Stop here.

When did we get to that fatal end?

The big picture always does sound quite serious. But, in fact, it was something that our negativity, fear of uncertainty and decision to hold onto attachments and never let go caused things to go that way.

Have you ever thought about the fact that we’re the only beings that have the ability to imagine their own non-existence?

Ridiculous, right!

Then why do we keep doing it when we know it’s ruining our days and preventing us from feeling even remotely happy?

Maybe because we’ve turned the idea of death into another thing that gives us comfort.

We get attached to it, make it bigger every day by focusing our energy on it, and eventually it becomes more powerful than us and takes control.

Here’s what Mark Manson says in this post describing a thought-provoking book about death:

“Humans were given the gift of being able to imagine the future and who we want to be, but the price we pay for this gift is the realization that we will one day die.

This knowledge of our own inevitable death leads to a kind of ever-present “terror” that underlies everything we do. Becker argues that this terror inspires us all to take on what he calls a “hero project,” where we attempt to immortalize ourselves through our deeds and actions, to create something bigger than ourselves that will live beyond our own lives.

It’s when people’s hero projects contradict one another that we get conflict, violence, bigotry, and evil. It’s when hero projects fail that we fall into deep despair and depression because we’re once again confronted with the inevitability of our own death and meaninglessness of our lives.

Notable Quotes:

“Man cannot endure his own littleness unless he can translate it into meaningfulness on the largest possible level.”

“The irony of man’s condition is that the deepest need is to be free of the anxiety of death and annihilation; but it is life itself which awakens it, and so we must shrink from being fully alive.”

So for those of you who didn’t find it too hard to read that and leave the blog, here’s what we need to do about all that.

Life is beautiful. And although pain and misery are inseparable parts of it, it has its own unique way of giving them to us in small doses and letting us choose what to focus on, how to deal with it and whether or not to let the thought of death make us lose our ability to enjoy life, or just the contrary – to become more active, enthusiased and curious, and to make each minute count.

Yes, humans are the only species that can think about what it would be when they are gone.
But we are also the only ones who can learn to let go.

To let go of attachment, of needing others in order to feel complete, of fake needs and desires, of expectations, ideals, comparison, judgment, fear of failure, worries, regrets, etc.

It’s a skill that can be practiced. And – in time – it becomes a habit.

Letting go is the magical process of freeing ourselves from the burden of the past and the worries for the future, of letting out all negative feelings and fears.

And instead, letting in emotional and spiritual freedom, pure joy and contentment, and peace.
And with peace comes happiness.

Not the one that depends on external sources – like objects, people, goals, plans, achievements, etc. But the happiness that’s within.

That’s been there all along. And just needed to be uncovered.

And by letting go of all these, we become okay with all that is. With who we are, what we’ve done and how things turn out.

And we can enjoy, appreciate and take action upon our future.

And with all that, the fear of death goes away. It vanishes, slowly making room for the desire to enjoy this moment that’s given to us.

And while still keeping in mind that it’s fleeting, we grab it, we fall in love with it, and spend it the best way possible.

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10 Things Uber Successful People Do in the Morning 15

10 Things Uber Successful People Do in the Morning

Who doesn’t want to be successful? Whatever our purpose in life may be, we want to achieve success with it. Although success is usually perceived as career growth, it also encompasses personal growth. These two things go together.

So what can we do to reach the personal and professional growth of uber successful people? Maybe we can imitate some of their habits. Their morning rituals, in particular, set the pace of the day.

Did you know that the way you start your mornings affects your entire day?

You probably felt that, but guess what: science proves it as a fact, too.

In a study called “Waking up on the wrong side of the bed: start-of-workday mood, work events, employee affect, and performance,” researchers found that whatever the mood of workers was during the morning, they preserved it throughout the entire day.

So if you start off in a good mood, you have greater chances of having a great day. That’s why morning routines are so important.

Let’s learn from the ultra successful people, shall we? How do they start their mornings?

What The Most Successful Do in The Morning

1. Spend Time with the Partner.

relationships

As we said, success is not only about professional achievements. It also means having the right person by your side.

Take Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan as an example. They are both crazy successful, and they are definitely happy to have each other.

Waking up next to the person you love makes every morning special. Appreciate that moment. Have a coffee together. Talk. Be glad you’re there for each other.

2. Mindfulness.

Yes; mindfulness is a habit.

Successful people are always busy. Can you imagine a hectic morning with dozens of urgent email messages, business partners calling, and the kids yelling? And they are still in their pajamas! That’s why they practice mindfulness.

Researchers from The University of Sydney found that mindfulness reduces work-related stress and improves the mood at work. That’s why successful people always seem ready to deal with any situation.

So how do you practice mindfulness in the morning?

Just wake up. Take few deep breaths. Be aware of the present moment. Be aware of the responsibilities the day ahead will bring. Relax, and tell yourself that you’re ready.

3. Plan the Day.

A good plan will set you on the right track.

Plan your tasks for the day in the morning. When you have such an outline, it will be easier to handle all responsibilities. You’ll know you’ll have time for all tasks.

If you realize there’s not enough time, you should plan how to outsource. If, for example, you cannot complete a business report, you can hire assignment masters to write or edit it for you.

4. Exercise.

I know; it’s a cliché. However, it’s also an activity that works.

Physical exercise makes you fitter, but it also makes you happierWhen you’re done with your morning exercise ritual, you feel at ease, and things start to clear up.

Most successful people exercise. Hillary Clinton does yoga. Obama works out for 45 minutes six days per week. Mark Cuban does cardio fitness. Follow their example!

5. Practice Patience.

Too many things ahead? If your schedule is busy, you’ll be eager to get things done ASAP. The morning is the period of the day when you should practice patience. Relax.

You already made a plan. There’s time for everything. You’ll get through the day. For now, cherish this precious moment of morning relaxation.

6. Juice Up.

How to Win The 9-to-5 Battle by Staying Healthy at Work letsreachsuccess.com

It’s no wonder why so many celebrities are into the latest juice detox trend. Healthy juices give you valuable nutrients and make you feel more energized.

Have a different juice every single morning. Sure, the juicer will take some cleaning after, but the juice will certainly give you enough energy for that.

7. Eat Breakfast.

You saw this coming, didn’t you?

Uber successful people know that the breakfast is the most important meal of the day. It’s even better when it’s healthy.

Yes; the juice can be your breakfast, but it won’t make you feel full for long. If you don’t intend to have a standard breakfast, pack some fruit for work. A banana and an apple are mandatory!

8. Hydrate.

Have a glass of water as soon as you wake up. Hydration is essential for the way your entire system functions.

9. Be With the Right People.

In Tools of Titans, author Timothy Ferriss refers to a so-called “five chimps theory” in zoology. According to that theory, you can predict the behavior of any chimp if you analyze the five chimps they usually hang out with.

There’s a lot of wisdom in that theory. When you surround with nervous people, you’re nervous, too. When you surround yourself with positive characters, you reflect good vibes, too.

The first people you contact in the morning will set the mood for your day. Choose them carefully.

10. Celebrate Achievements.

When you wake up with a positive mindset, you’ll boost your chances of spending a good day.

Instead of thinking about all obstacles ahead, you should take time to think about all achievements you’ve made towards your current goals. This appreciation will convince you that you’re on the right track.

When we sum things up, all these morning habits of the ultra successful people seem pretty simple, don’t they?

However, it takes tons of persistence and commitment to stay true to them. Start by making small steps. Pick few of these activities and repeat them every day, until they turn into habits.   

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Cathy Baylis is a personal growth expert who writes insightful articles that motivate and challenge others. She has worked as a writer for a little over a decade now, and owns several blogs that she updates on her free time.