Tips for Moving with Young Children 105

moving with young children

This is a guest post by Christian Mills, a freelance writer and family man who just recently moved and thought it would be a great idea to share some ideas that helped him and his family through their move.

When growing up, kids enjoy things to be stable and steady. Sudden changes unsettle them, and, as a rule, they take more time to adjust to them than adults. Among the things most likely to upset children, moving house is one of the major kickers, especially for young children who have less experience in dealing with it.

They have to say goodbye to their old room, the garden they played in, the kitchen they ate in, and the comforting sight of their front door. Instead they’re dumped into a strange new building that smells odd, has none of their furniture, and their parents may be too busy to give them the attention needed to explain what’s going on. In cases where they’re moving to a new town, this is also compiled with leaving behind their school, their friends, and all places familiar to them.

Combined into one sum, moving sucks.

However moving is also one of those things that often happen in life, and parents often have little choice themselves. Thus many have found ways of helping their children cope with the confusion of moving and the distress of suddenly being uprooted.

1. Give Your Kids the Benefit of the Doubt.

Kids are a lot more rational and intelligent than many grown-ups give them credit for. If you explain things to them, they’ll generally accept any reasoning that seems plausible to them. So if you’re moving, tell your child about it in advance. If nothing else, it will give children time to adjust to the fact that they’ll soon have a new house. You should encourage your children to speak honestly about how they feel about the move too, as doing so will help them vent their emotions. Be honest about your emotions too. Be sympathetic, even if you cannot do as they wish.

Likewise, if you’re moving for a specific reason – such as a promotion – explain that to your kids too. Expressing excitement for a new job, for example, will make the move seem more positive, and will encourage your child to be excited about it as well.

One very helpful trick is to share your experiences of moving as a child with them as well. Tell them how you felt, and how the move affected you. Doing so will make the problem seem both relatable, and at the same time something that can be overcome. After all, if you moved and seem okay, then surely they can too.

2. Involve Your Children in the New House.

Before the move, you can help a child feel more at ease and enthusiastic about the new house by inviting them to help pick a new home. Allow them to mention something they’d like the new house to have (in reason) and promise to look for a house like that. Bring them with you to house viewings if you think they’d enjoy it, and ask them for their thoughts about the homes you visit. If you’ve settled on a house, let your kids help you with your room plans.

During the move, give your child something to do. For example, send them out to their new room and invite them to unpack some of their things. Keeping them busy will keep their mind off the move as a whole while also making them feel useful and a part of the process. This in turn gives them a sense of control over what’s happening, making the move more bearable.

3. Make the Most of Your Kids’ Bedtime.

It’s inevitable that some things will not make the move, and some of them may well be your children’s. Unfortunately, they may not always understand why something that’s “theirs” has to be thrown away, such as old kindergarten artwork or a toy that just won’t survive the journey and must be left behind. Even items they’ve not touched for months may suddenly become as precious as fresh water in Death Valley when they’re suddenly spotted in the trash can or a charity box. If these things are to be removed, do it when your kids are asleep and make sure to leave as few traces of their vanishing as possible.

4. Throw a Party for Friends.

One of the hardest parts of moving is leaving old friends behind. To help ease the pain, give your child a chance to properly say goodbye by hosting one last party for them in the yard. Use it as an opportunity to remind your child that “goodbye” doesn’t have to be forever, and that they can still keep in contact with friends if they want to. Towards this end, also make sure you collect contact details from parents so that your children can still communicate with each other over the phone, through letters, or online.

If they’re close enough, you could even talk with the other parents about potential weekend visits or joint vacations in the near future.

5. Let Your Child Get to Know Their New Home.

A short time into the move – certainly at least within the first few days – take your child out to explore the new neighborhood. Include the house in this. Investigate any strange cupboards, have a look around the backyard, and inspect the strange boxes the former homeowners left in the attic. Then take them out to check out surrounding landmarks, such as their new school, local cafes, urgent care, like Night-Lite, nearby parks and playgrounds, or anywhere else that catches your mutual interest.

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5 Smart Ways to Incorporate Technology into Your Home 18

5 Smart Ways to Incorporate Technology into Your Home

A smart home was something we could only see in sci-fi movies just a few years ago. Today, smart technology is becoming more available in terms of prices and offers. Therefore, it’s not so surprising that many homeowners are choosing to introduce technology into their homes and make their lives more convenient, safe, cost-efficient and fun.

In fact, a recent report predicted that a global smart home platform revenue will increase from $4.2 billion (2017) to $39.5 billion (2026).

There is no doubt that the concept of a smart home will revolutionize our interaction with our interior, and impact various other aspects, such as the potential resale value of our properties. Knowing all this, it seems wise to start thinking about the ways to incorporate new technology into your home, today. Here are our top five.

Be smart – save energy

If there are two trends that have marked the previous year when it comes to home design, those are energy-efficiency and new technologies.

So, why not combine them and make smart technology work for you and help you save money on your electricity and heating bills? Your first step towards doing that is installing smart lighting. This change will enable you to remotely manage all the light bulbs in your home by using an app, so you won’t have to wonder whether you left your lights on ever again. The best way to use this technology is to pair it with LED bulbs and thus maximize your savings.

Another popular upgrade that helps you save money and automate your home is a smart thermostat. This device connects to your home Wi-Fi and allows you to set the desired temperature no matter where you are. Some models can even remember your habits and adjust the temperature accordingly.

An important safety upgrade

The times we are living in may be new and exciting, but they are still dangerous. That’s why you should do everything you can to make sure that your household is protected both from the unwanted guest as well as various hazards.

Smart home security takes care of that by offering state-of-the-art locks, high-resolution cameras, smoke detectors and motion-triggered alarms. Compared to the traditional security systems, smart security systems will not only alert everybody with a loud alarm but can also send an alert to your phone in case of emergency.

Comfort and convenience with smart furniture

Smart furniture is not being discussed enough, and we’re here to change that. It is set to completely change the way we live our lives.

Let’s start with a smart table or side table. These pieces can feature LED lights, Bluetooth speakers and wireless phone chargers.

The innovative smart sofas offer similar perks but with more coziness. Besides LED lights and speakers, they provide you with a convenient place to charge your phone, allowing you to have everything you need at your fingertips.

Other innovative pieces include color-changing wardrobes and TVs that can be “masked” into artwork, when turned off.

Make everything work together – smart hubs

You might find it difficult to control all your smart gadgets individually. A smart hub allows you to create a centralized system where all your devices are connected to the cloud, and you don’t need more than one app to manage all of them.

Additionally, smart hubs enable you to automate your devices. For example, this would mean that as soon as you unlock the door (using a smart lock, of course), the light in your entryway will be turned on and the thermostat will set the optimal temperature.

The only problem with smart hubs is that this new technology is still in its infancy, and there are too many manufacturers who do not collaborate. This makes pairing up devices from different manufacturers into one hub impossible. Until that changes, to avoid any problems, you should buy the products from the same brand.

A helping hand voice

If you are among those people who remember the Halloween special episode of the Simpsons on the mention of a smart home assistant, don’t be afraid. The assistants of the real world are nothing like Ultrahouse 3000 voiced by Pierce Brosnan. In fact, this technology can make your life a lot easier by helping you make the home automation run smoothly.

Just like Cortana and Siri are improving the smartphone user experience, smart home assistants will make your life easier.

They can be set to react to voice commands, which allows you to control various smart home features without having to use any app. Also, if you have a camera above your entrance and a smart lock, your assistant can unlock the door when they recognize your face.

It’s an exciting time to be alive, and we are sure that there are plenty other surprising smart home innovations on the horizon. Until then, try out these five, and see for yourself how they can change your life.

About The Author

Emma is a writer and a home décor enthusiast. She believes that good design can be found at the intersection between beautiful and functional. Her inspiration comes from traveling and exposing herself to new experiences.

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