What to Do (and What Not to Do) to Be Happy 214

what to do to be happy
“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.”
Denis Waitley

Happiness is one of the simplest things in life, and yet we complicate it so much.

To be happy is to decide to be happy. To let go of past and future, and simply be here. To appreciate what’s around you and thank for it every day. Happiness is in everything we do and have, and all the opportunities around us.
In other words, it’s already here, and we don’t need to try hard to reach it, look for it in outer stimulus, or change anything so that we can have it.

But if you still want to be a little more happy and enjoy life more, here are the dos and don’t of happiness:

That’s a guest post I wrote for Pick The Brain.
You can read the whole article here.

5 Things to Start (and Stop Doing) Today to Be Happy

  1. Be present.

Live in the now, don’t go back to the past or worry and prepare for the future. The former is gone and can’t be changed, the latter is uncertain and there’s nothing you can do but look forward to it and be positive.

2. Let go.

Unhappy people hold onto things, keep grudges, get too attached. But true freedom and contentment can only be found by letting go.

3. Surround yourself with happy people.

Spend time with negative ones, and you’ll become one. But if you want to focus on the good side of life, look for the passionate individuals that are smiling all the time.

4. Do what you love.

There are things you enjoy doing, and things you don’t. Do everything possible to only dedicate time to what you’re passionate about and believe in, and eliminate the rest.

5. Accept.

Life will be much easier if you’re alright with things the way the are, don’t try to take control of what can’t be controlled, and stop trying to change people.

What else makes you happy? And what will you do today to feel like that?

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Signs You’re Stuck in a Rut (and How to Get Out) 17

signs you're stuck in a rut and what to do about it

Life has its ups and downs for all of us, but sometimes those downs creep up and take hold without us noticing. All of a sudden we look around and realize that we’ve found ourselves stuck deep in a rut. If you don’t know you’re in a rut, it can be very difficult to get out and this can lead to lasting negative effects on your health and happiness.

So how do you know when you’re in a rut?

And, more importantly, what can you do to get back on track?

One of the biggest red flags that demonstrate that you might be drifting listlessly through your own life is that you spend most of it daydreaming of being somewhere else.

It’s perfectly normal to spend some time in the office wishing you were lying on a beach instead, but if this is a permanent state of affairs, it’s a sign that you’re dangerously bored. Try adding some spontaneity into your life to liven things up a bit, at least until that next vacation.

If you don’t have an exotic location to jet off to, you need to make sure you still have some things to look forward to. If the only thing you have any anticipation for is getting into bed at the end of every day, then you’re definitely in a rut and need to start finding enjoyment in the little things in life, appreciating all of the things that come in between waking up and going back to bed again.

Social media is a great tool for lots of things in our lives. But it can also have a very damaging effect on your mental health because it’s easy to be fooled by the edited highlights of their lives people put on there. This can leave you feeling envious because the day to day reality of your life doesn’t look like what you assume everyone’s life is, so stop obsessing over other people and shift your focus back to yourself.

Doing this shouldn’t come at the expense of actually ever seeing other people or doing anything, of course. So if you’re finding that you are spending all of your time at home rather than getting out and seeing friends, or claiming that you don’t have time to do anything (when the reality is quite the opposite), these are all also signs that you need to think hard about changing your habits.

Nobody ever wants to get stuck in a rut, but in a world where work-life balances are getting ever more hard to maintain and technology is eating into face to face interactions, it’s easy to find yourself wondering where your life went. These tips from NetCredit will help you identify whether you are living yours in a rut and will help you start to find your way out again.

More tips on how to get unstuck:

How to Get Your Motivation Back
How to Boost Your Energy and Vitality for a Successful Life
How to Embrace Acceptance in Life
How to Deal with Indecisiveness