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things we do wrong when building new habits

The big transformation in life we desire usually starts with a permanent change in our behavior. We need to first focus on the things we do daily – our habits – so that we can see progress and get rid of the bad ones.

But the interesting thing is that the process of elimination comes first. So before trying to build new habits and make them stick, it’s smart to analyze what we do wrong and stop it.

So here are the 8 top mistakes we make when developing new habits:

That’s a guest post I wrote for Addicted2Success.
You can read the whole article here.

The 8 Things We Do Wrong When It Comes to Habits

1. We work on too many things at the same time.

That’s a sure way to failure. Our mind just doesn’t perform well when we focus it on building or quitting more than 1-3 habits at once.

So start small. Choose one thing and pay your full attention to it. Once you get used to it, move onto the next.

2. We start big.

That’s one of the main reasons New Year’s resolutions fail most of the time. We just make huge changes and expect ourselves to either succeed or fail.

But we’re talking about changing our lifestyle here, so we should start small, take tiny steps and see progress all the time instead of taking a leap and failing.

3. We aren’t consistent.

It won’t really matter if you do the new habit for a month and then stop. Consistency is what gives permanent results. And, unfortunately, it’s one of the things we do wrong.

4. We aren’t focused.

5. We don’t take it seriously.

Starting small and working on one habit at a time usually makes people think it’s not that big of a deal. And they often give up because of that.

But you need to take it seriously so that you can stay consistent and motivated until change actually happens.

6. We don’t know why we do what we do.

And without our why, we don’t see any point to keep going.

So find your purpose, be specific, get clear about it. Define the reason you want to change your lifestyle.

7. We wait for results from the start.

8. We give up after one failure.

Here it’s about dedication. But also about understanding failure.

We have a wrong perception of what it is, really. If we did understand how valuable it is, we wouldn’t fear it at all.

Failure is experience, knowledge and priceless lessons. But only if we’re open to learn from it. Once we do, we can try again and know what not to do this time.

So what do you think? Which of these are you doing wrong? What can you do about it?

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10 Things Uber Successful People Do in the Morning

Who doesn’t want to be successful? Whatever our purpose in life may be, we want to achieve success with it. Although success is usually perceived as career growth, it also encompasses personal growth. These two things go together.

So what can we do to reach the personal and professional growth of uber successful people? Maybe we can imitate some of their habits. Their morning rituals, in particular, set the pace of the day.

Did you know that the way you start your mornings affects your entire day?

You probably felt that, but guess what: science proves it as a fact, too.

In a study called “Waking up on the wrong side of the bed: start-of-workday mood, work events, employee affect, and performance,” researchers found that whatever the mood of workers was during the morning, they preserved it throughout the entire day.

So if you start off in a good mood, you have greater chances of having a great day. That’s why morning routines are so important.

Let’s learn from the ultra successful people, shall we? How do they start their mornings?

What The Most Successful Do in The Morning

1. Spend Time with the Partner.


As we said, success is not only about professional achievements. It also means having the right person by your side.

Take Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan as an example. They are both crazy successful, and they are definitely happy to have each other.

Waking up next to the person you love makes every morning special. Appreciate that moment. Have a coffee together. Talk. Be glad you’re there for each other.

2. Mindfulness.

Yes; mindfulness is a habit.

Successful people are always busy. Can you imagine a hectic morning with dozens of urgent email messages, business partners calling, and the kids yelling? And they are still in their pajamas! That’s why they practice mindfulness.

Researchers from The University of Sydney found that mindfulness reduces work-related stress and improves the mood at work. That’s why successful people always seem ready to deal with any situation.

So how do you practice mindfulness in the morning?

Just wake up. Take few deep breaths. Be aware of the present moment. Be aware of the responsibilities the day ahead will bring. Relax, and tell yourself that you’re ready.

3. Plan the Day.

A good plan will set you on the right track.

Plan your tasks for the day in the morning. When you have such an outline, it will be easier to handle all responsibilities. You’ll know you’ll have time for all tasks.

If you realize there’s not enough time, you should plan how to outsource. If, for example, you cannot complete a business report, you can hire assignment masters to write or edit it for you.

4. Exercise.

I know; it’s a cliché. However, it’s also an activity that works.

Physical exercise makes you fitter, but it also makes you happierWhen you’re done with your morning exercise ritual, you feel at ease, and things start to clear up.

Most successful people exercise. Hillary Clinton does yoga. Obama works out for 45 minutes six days per week. Mark Cuban does cardio fitness. Follow their example!

5. Practice Patience.

Too many things ahead? If your schedule is busy, you’ll be eager to get things done ASAP. The morning is the period of the day when you should practice patience. Relax.

You already made a plan. There’s time for everything. You’ll get through the day. For now, cherish this precious moment of morning relaxation.

6. Juice Up.

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It’s no wonder why so many celebrities are into the latest juice detox trend. Healthy juices give you valuable nutrients and make you feel more energized.

Have a different juice every single morning. Sure, the juicer will take some cleaning after, but the juice will certainly give you enough energy for that.

7. Eat Breakfast.

You saw this coming, didn’t you?

Uber successful people know that the breakfast is the most important meal of the day. It’s even better when it’s healthy.

Yes; the juice can be your breakfast, but it won’t make you feel full for long. If you don’t intend to have a standard breakfast, pack some fruit for work. A banana and an apple are mandatory!

8. Hydrate.

Have a glass of water as soon as you wake up. Hydration is essential for the way your entire system functions.

9. Be With the Right People.

In Tools of Titans, author Timothy Ferriss refers to a so-called “five chimps theory” in zoology. According to that theory, you can predict the behavior of any chimp if you analyze the five chimps they usually hang out with.

There’s a lot of wisdom in that theory. When you surround with nervous people, you’re nervous, too. When you surround yourself with positive characters, you reflect good vibes, too.

The first people you contact in the morning will set the mood for your day. Choose them carefully.

10. Celebrate Achievements.

When you wake up with a positive mindset, you’ll boost your chances of spending a good day.

Instead of thinking about all obstacles ahead, you should take time to think about all achievements you’ve made towards your current goals. This appreciation will convince you that you’re on the right track.

When we sum things up, all these morning habits of the ultra successful people seem pretty simple, don’t they?

However, it takes tons of persistence and commitment to stay true to them. Start by making small steps. Pick few of these activities and repeat them every day, until they turn into habits.   

Cathy Baylis is a personal growth expert who writes insightful articles that motivate and challenge others. She has worked as a writer for a little over a decade now, and owns several blogs that she updates on her free time.