The big transformation in life we desire usually starts with a permanent change in our behavior. We need to first focus on the things we do daily – our habits – so that we can see progress and get rid of the bad ones.
But the interesting thing is that the process of elimination comes first. So before trying to build new habits and make them stick, it’s smart to analyze what we do wrong and stop it.
So here are the 8 top mistakes we make when developing new habits:
The 8 Things We Do Wrong When It Comes to Habits
1. We work on too many things at the same time.
That’s a sure way to failure. Our mind just doesn’t perform well when we focus it on building or quitting more than 1-3 habits at once.
So start small. Choose one thing and pay your full attention to it. Once you get used to it, move onto the next.
2. We start big.
That’s one of the main reasons New Year’s resolutions fail most of the time. We just make huge changes and expect ourselves to either succeed or fail.
But we’re talking about changing our lifestyle here, so we should start small, take tiny steps and see progress all the time instead of taking a leap and failing.
3. We aren’t consistent.
It won’t really matter if you do the new habit for a month and then stop. Consistency is what gives permanent results. And, unfortunately, it’s one of the things we do wrong.
4. We aren’t focused.
5. We don’t take it seriously.
Starting small and working on one habit at a time usually makes people think it’s not that big of a deal. And they often give up because of that.
But you need to take it seriously so that you can stay consistent and motivated until change actually happens.
6. We don’t know why we do what we do.
And without our why, we don’t see any point to keep going.
So find your purpose, be specific, get clear about it. Define the reason you want to change your lifestyle.
7. We wait for results from the start.
8. We give up after one failure.
Here it’s about dedication. But also about understanding failure.
We have a wrong perception of what it is, really. If we did understand how valuable it is, we wouldn’t fear it at all.
Failure is experience, knowledge and priceless lessons. But only if we’re open to learn from it. Once we do, we can try again and know what not to do this time.
So what do you think? Which of these are you doing wrong? What can you do about it?