Feeling Hopeless? Here Are 14 Things to Remember to Stay Positive

what to do when you're feeling hopeless?

Do you often find yourself feeling hopeless? Like there’s nothing you can do anymore? We’re all equal in that. But there’s something you can do to always keep in mind that life  is good and things will get better eventually.

Here are some things to remember that can always lift you up:

That’s a guest post I wrote for Pick The Brain.
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What to Do When You’re Feeling Hopeless

1. Don’t forget that time heals everything.

We’ve all been through a lot in life. But even the hardest times in life can be overcome over time.

So no matter how bad and hopeless you’re feeling right now, keep that in mind. That single thought itself is what can keep you strong.

2. There are plenty of opportunities around you.

3. Find people who support you.

You don’t need to go through this alone. Share what’s on your mind with your loved ones and why you’re feeling hopeless.

They’ll encourage you and will assure you that things will be okay. Once you hear it from others, your perspective may change and you’ll start smiling again.

4. Embrace change.

Some of the reasons for your hopelessness may be the things you don’t like about yourself. But keep in mind that they can be changed at any time.

You can always improve yourself, build better habits, define your vision and go after it. It takes time, though. But only if you take it slowly, one step at a time, will the journey to a better you be successful.

So whenever you feel bad about yourself, depressed because you lack confidence or social skills, and upset because you aren’t productive enough, find comfort in the fact that change happens all the time. And it’s a matter of choice to embrace it.

5. Things are usually better than they look.

6. Life is actually simple.

But we tend to complicate it.

Just think about it. Right now you can be happy for the things you already have in your life and can take action upon achieving your goals and doing something about your future. But you simply stay there, overthink, play negative scenarios in your head and feel bad about something unpleasant that happened.

But if you change your perspective, your whole world changes too. So keep it simple. Be positive.

7. Happiness is already here.

So you don’t need to seek it in outer sources. It’s not a destination, and it won’t come when you reach another goal or meet a special person.

You need to open your eyes for it right now. And that can happen by doing good, appreciating yourself for who you are and enjoying your days without trying to change everything.

8. Failure is a great thing.

Don’t feel bad about it.

No successful person ever got to where he is without failing more times than he ever succeeded. It’s just that we can’t read about his failures everywhere.

9. It can only get better from here on.

10. Make time only for the important things.

Don’t worry if you don’t seem to be finding time for everything. It may look like you’re missing out on a lot, but you’re actually just focusing your precious time on what matters.

So get your priorities straight and dedicate your time to them.

11. Letting go will bring you peace and contentment.

A sure fire way to stop feeling hopeless is to learn to let go.

That means leaving things behind in the past, and to free yourself from the burden of overthinking and planning too much.

Then it will be just you and the present moment. And you’ll be able to experience it without expecting too much from it.

12. The universe isn’t against you.

In fact, it’s working in your favor. So don’t judge life itself by calling it unfair. Blaming something from the outer world can only increase the void inside you.

13. Tomorrow is a chance to start over.

So no matter how bad things are, you can just try again tomorrow or even start your transformation to becoming a better person.

14. At any moment you can meet that one person that will make you realize why it never worked out with others.

So what do you think? Keeping all these in mind makes feeling hopeless pointless, right?

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from TheWaystoWealth.com

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called GenYWealth.com (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea GenYwealth.com was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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Check out my interview with R.J. from TheWaystoWealth to see how he entered the finance niche, started making money blogging, began bringing traffic from Pinterest and monetizing it with affiliate marketing, and is now making $10,000/month from his online business. #blogger #interview #blogtraffic #incomeideas #income