There are some things we need to stop doing if we want to live more simply and happily.
Often we’re doing them unconsciously, but we end up hurting ourselves and others if we don’t do something about it. So here’s a list of 12 such things we’re doing to ourselves that ruin our peace and contentment, and how to eliminate each:
12 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself
1. Answering other people’s expectations.
Stop living by someone else’s standards. It’s something that never ends and you can’t win other people’s approval by changing who you are.
Instead, be authentic, find your own path and follow it. It will lead you to great places.
2. Lying to yourself.
Blaming is the easier option. Most people choose to blame others or life itself for anything that goes wrong with them. But no one else has anything to do with it.
It’s time to take responsibility for everything that happens in your life, good or bad, and always keep in mind you can improve it. That’s what successful people do.
4. Not believing in your potential.
If more people had the confidence to dream bigger and were sure that they could achieve more in life and change for the better, then the world would be a better place.
Unfortunately, most people are insecure in their abilities and afraid to fail. They prefer to go back to the past and overthink their mistakes. But nothing will ever happen there.
I say get back to the present and admit your achievements in life so far. Feel good about yourself and go reach your goals.
5. Not finding time for yourself.
6. Not going after what you want.
Leaving your dreams behind is an awful thing to do to yourself. You don’t deserve it.
And no matter who you are and what you do, you can get closer to your goals by taking a step towards them daily and staying true to your vision.
7. Thinking you’re not good enough.
8. Doing stuff you don’t like.
Life is too short to spend it in activities you don’t enjoy. So instead, go find your passion and follow it.
9. Missing opportunities.
Opportunities are everywhere around you. But it’s you who has to notice and grab them.
10. Focusing on your weaknesses.
How you live your life is a matter of a point of view. And at any moment you have two choices – to either focus on the good in you and around you, or to see only the bad.
Needless to say, the life of a positive person is much happier, peaceful and successful. So save yourself the regrets and worries and find your good sides and qualities and focus on them from now on.
11. Reliving the past.
Going back to the past is not only pointless, but brings pain and disappointment, and prevents you from experiencing the present moment.
So get back to the now. Free yourself from the past by learning from it and letting it be.
We can overanalyze things for days or weeks without taking any action. That’s one of the things that causes procrastination and kills our productivity, but it’s also what makes us play negative scenarios in our head. All that usually ends bad.
So stop overthinking and start living instead.
Which of these 12 are you doing to yourself? And what step can you take today to stop that behavior?