12 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself Today

12 things to stop doing to yourself

There are some things we need to stop doing if we want to live more simply and happily.

Often we’re doing them unconsciously, but we end up hurting ourselves and others if we don’t do something about it. So here’s a list of 12 such things we’re doing to ourselves that ruin our peace and contentment, and how to eliminate each:

That’s a guest post I wrote for Steven Aitchison’s blog Change Your Thoughts.
You can see the original article here.

12 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

1. Answering other people’s expectations.

Stop living by someone else’s standards. It’s something that never ends and you can’t win other people’s approval by changing who you are.

Instead, be authentic, find your own path and follow it. It will lead you to great places.

2. Lying to yourself.

3. Blaming.

Blaming is the easier option. Most people choose to blame others or life itself for anything that goes wrong with them. But no one else has anything to do with it.

It’s time to take responsibility for everything that happens in your life, good or bad, and always keep in mind you can improve it. That’s what successful people do.

4. Not believing in your potential.

If more people had the confidence to dream bigger and were sure that they could achieve more in life and change for the better, then the world would be a better place.

Unfortunately, most people are insecure in their abilities and afraid to fail. They prefer to go back to the past and overthink their mistakes. But nothing will ever happen there.

I say get back to the present and admit your achievements in life so far. Feel good about yourself and go reach your goals.

5. Not finding time for yourself.

6. Not going after what you want.

Leaving your dreams behind is an awful thing to do to yourself. You don’t deserve it.

And no matter who you are and what you do, you can get closer to your goals by taking a step towards them daily and staying true to your vision.

7. Thinking you’re not good enough.

8. Doing stuff you don’t like.

Life is too short to spend it in activities you don’t enjoy. So instead, go find your passion and follow it.

9. Missing opportunities.

Opportunities are everywhere around you. But it’s you who has to notice and grab them.

10. Focusing on your weaknesses.

How you live your life is a matter of a point of view. And at any moment you have two choices – to either focus on the good in you and around you, or to see only the bad.

Needless to say, the life of a positive person is much happier, peaceful and successful. So save yourself the regrets and worries and find your good sides and qualities and focus on them from now on.

11. Reliving the past.

Going back to the past is not only pointless, but brings pain and disappointment, and prevents you from experiencing the present moment.

So get back to the now. Free yourself from the past by learning from it and letting it be.

12. Overthinking.

We can overanalyze things for days or weeks without taking any action. That’s one of the things that causes procrastination and kills our productivity, but it’s also what makes us play negative scenarios in our head. All that usually ends bad.

So stop overthinking and start living instead.

Which of these 12 are you doing to yourself? And what step can you take today to stop that behavior?

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from TheWaystoWealth.com

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called GenYWealth.com (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea GenYwealth.com was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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Check out my interview with R.J. from TheWaystoWealth to see how he entered the finance niche, started making money blogging, began bringing traffic from Pinterest and monetizing it with affiliate marketing, and is now making $10,000/month from his online business. #blogger #interview #blogtraffic #incomeideas #income