12 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself Today 40

12 things to stop doing to yourself

There are some things we need to stop doing if we want to live more simply and happily.

Often we’re doing them unconsciously, but we end up hurting ourselves and others if we don’t do something about it. So here’s a list of 12 such things we’re doing to ourselves that ruin our peace and contentment, and how to eliminate each:

That’s a guest post I wrote for Steven Aitchison’s blog Change Your Thoughts.
You can see the original article here.

12 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

1. Answering other people’s expectations.

Stop living by someone else’s standards. It’s something that never ends and you can’t win other people’s approval by changing who you are.

Instead, be authentic, find your own path and follow it. It will lead you to great places.

2. Lying to yourself.

3. Blaming.

Blaming is the easier option. Most people choose to blame others or life itself for anything that goes wrong with them. But no one else has anything to do with it.

It’s time to take responsibility for everything that happens in your life, good or bad, and always keep in mind you can improve it. That’s what successful people do.

4. Not believing in your potential.

If more people had the confidence to dream bigger and were sure that they could achieve more in life and change for the better, then the world would be a better place.

Unfortunately, most people are insecure in their abilities and afraid to fail. They prefer to go back to the past and overthink their mistakes. But nothing will ever happen there.

I say get back to the present and admit your achievements in life so far. Feel good about yourself and go reach your goals.

5. Not finding time for yourself.

6. Not going after what you want.

Leaving your dreams behind is an awful thing to do to yourself. You don’t deserve it.

And no matter who you are and what you do, you can get closer to your goals by taking a step towards them daily and staying true to your vision.

7. Thinking you’re not good enough.

8. Doing stuff you don’t like.

Life is too short to spend it in activities you don’t enjoy. So instead, go find your passion and follow it.

9. Missing opportunities.

Opportunities are everywhere around you. But it’s you who has to notice and grab them.

10. Focusing on your weaknesses.

How you live your life is a matter of a point of view. And at any moment you have two choices – to either focus on the good in you and around you, or to see only the bad.

Needless to say, the life of a positive person is much happier, peaceful and successful. So save yourself the regrets and worries and find your good sides and qualities and focus on them from now on.

11. Reliving the past.

Going back to the past is not only pointless, but brings pain and disappointment, and prevents you from experiencing the present moment.

So get back to the now. Free yourself from the past by learning from it and letting it be.

12. Overthinking.

We can overanalyze things for days or weeks without taking any action. That’s one of the things that causes procrastination and kills our productivity, but it’s also what makes us play negative scenarios in our head. All that usually ends bad.

So stop overthinking and start living instead.

Which of these 12 are you doing to yourself? And what step can you take today to stop that behavior?

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10 Things Uber Successful People Do in the Morning 15

10 Things Uber Successful People Do in the Morning

Who doesn’t want to be successful? Whatever our purpose in life may be, we want to achieve success with it. Although success is usually perceived as career growth, it also encompasses personal growth. These two things go together.

So what can we do to reach the personal and professional growth of uber successful people? Maybe we can imitate some of their habits. Their morning rituals, in particular, set the pace of the day.

Did you know that the way you start your mornings affects your entire day?

You probably felt that, but guess what: science proves it as a fact, too.

In a study called “Waking up on the wrong side of the bed: start-of-workday mood, work events, employee affect, and performance,” researchers found that whatever the mood of workers was during the morning, they preserved it throughout the entire day.

So if you start off in a good mood, you have greater chances of having a great day. That’s why morning routines are so important.

Let’s learn from the ultra successful people, shall we? How do they start their mornings?

What The Most Successful Do in The Morning

1. Spend Time with the Partner.


As we said, success is not only about professional achievements. It also means having the right person by your side.

Take Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan as an example. They are both crazy successful, and they are definitely happy to have each other.

Waking up next to the person you love makes every morning special. Appreciate that moment. Have a coffee together. Talk. Be glad you’re there for each other.

2. Mindfulness.

Yes; mindfulness is a habit.

Successful people are always busy. Can you imagine a hectic morning with dozens of urgent email messages, business partners calling, and the kids yelling? And they are still in their pajamas! That’s why they practice mindfulness.

Researchers from The University of Sydney found that mindfulness reduces work-related stress and improves the mood at work. That’s why successful people always seem ready to deal with any situation.

So how do you practice mindfulness in the morning?

Just wake up. Take few deep breaths. Be aware of the present moment. Be aware of the responsibilities the day ahead will bring. Relax, and tell yourself that you’re ready.

3. Plan the Day.

A good plan will set you on the right track.

Plan your tasks for the day in the morning. When you have such an outline, it will be easier to handle all responsibilities. You’ll know you’ll have time for all tasks.

If you realize there’s not enough time, you should plan how to outsource. If, for example, you cannot complete a business report, you can hire assignment masters to write or edit it for you.

4. Exercise.

I know; it’s a cliché. However, it’s also an activity that works.

Physical exercise makes you fitter, but it also makes you happierWhen you’re done with your morning exercise ritual, you feel at ease, and things start to clear up.

Most successful people exercise. Hillary Clinton does yoga. Obama works out for 45 minutes six days per week. Mark Cuban does cardio fitness. Follow their example!

5. Practice Patience.

Too many things ahead? If your schedule is busy, you’ll be eager to get things done ASAP. The morning is the period of the day when you should practice patience. Relax.

You already made a plan. There’s time for everything. You’ll get through the day. For now, cherish this precious moment of morning relaxation.

6. Juice Up.

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It’s no wonder why so many celebrities are into the latest juice detox trend. Healthy juices give you valuable nutrients and make you feel more energized.

Have a different juice every single morning. Sure, the juicer will take some cleaning after, but the juice will certainly give you enough energy for that.

7. Eat Breakfast.

You saw this coming, didn’t you?

Uber successful people know that the breakfast is the most important meal of the day. It’s even better when it’s healthy.

Yes; the juice can be your breakfast, but it won’t make you feel full for long. If you don’t intend to have a standard breakfast, pack some fruit for work. A banana and an apple are mandatory!

8. Hydrate.

Have a glass of water as soon as you wake up. Hydration is essential for the way your entire system functions.

9. Be With the Right People.

In Tools of Titans, author Timothy Ferriss refers to a so-called “five chimps theory” in zoology. According to that theory, you can predict the behavior of any chimp if you analyze the five chimps they usually hang out with.

There’s a lot of wisdom in that theory. When you surround with nervous people, you’re nervous, too. When you surround yourself with positive characters, you reflect good vibes, too.

The first people you contact in the morning will set the mood for your day. Choose them carefully.

10. Celebrate Achievements.

When you wake up with a positive mindset, you’ll boost your chances of spending a good day.

Instead of thinking about all obstacles ahead, you should take time to think about all achievements you’ve made towards your current goals. This appreciation will convince you that you’re on the right track.

When we sum things up, all these morning habits of the ultra successful people seem pretty simple, don’t they?

However, it takes tons of persistence and commitment to stay true to them. Start by making small steps. Pick few of these activities and repeat them every day, until they turn into habits.   

Cathy Baylis is a personal growth expert who writes insightful articles that motivate and challenge others. She has worked as a writer for a little over a decade now, and owns several blogs that she updates on her free time.