The Surprising Benefits of Knowing Your 2 True Missions in Life 52

knowing your 2 true missions in life

I know too many people who have no specific direction in life. And it doesn’t come as a surprise that they can’t get anywhere if they keep it this way.

Your mission in life is closely related to this direction, to your goals and dreams, passion and interests, ideal lifestyle, satisfaction, level of success, and even daily habits, having peace of mind and sleeping well.

It all starts with being aware of your purpose. Once you find it, you’ll know the answers to the following questions:

  • Why are we here on earth?
  • What is the best use of our time?
  • Do we have free will?
  • How can we leave a mark?
  • Is our existence meaningless?

and so on.

Yes, the answer to all existential questions, and the solution to all our doubts, problems and uncertainties, lies in knowing the why behind all this. And that can only happen by defining our true missions in life.

After a lot of contemplating, reading and writing, listening to others, and knowing from experience, I’ve come to the conclusion that we all have two of these.

The first is serving. The second is different for each person and it’s our job to find it out.

Here’s what Leo Babauta says in How to Build an Empire:

“How do you build an empire? You let go of the fantasy, and focus on your true mission in life. And if you don’t know what your mission is, then that’s your mission … figuring it out.

How do you build an empire? By serving. By connecting with others and caring. By helping others build their empires. By seeing that the empire that really matters is already here, in this moment, in your heart, in the goodness all around you, in the goodness in others. This empire cannot be taken away, will never crumble, and will fulfill you.

You build an empire by letting go of everything that doesn’t matter, of the fantasies, and seeing what’s here now. And then acting out of love.”

Mission #1: Helping others

helping others

Before anything else, we need to learn how to let go of our egoistic nature and open ourselves to the pain of others instead.

Not acting when someone around you needs help and there’s something you can do about it, is equal to the opposite of doing good.

Many people get serving others wrong. They think of the great causes of our generation and consider anything less meaningless. But that’s not true.

You don’t change the world by giving money to feed the children in Africa, or by being an aggressive environmentalist and starting arguments with politicians and turning people against each other.

True service comes in the simplest forms, and it’s part of our daily life. As anything else, it can become a habit. Once we make it our norm to give advice, share what we have, be a role model, give direction to those who need it, listen, smile, be polite, and so on – that’s when the world will become a happier place.

Another paradox of today’s world is this: Some individuals are being bad for too long, then have a deep realization, see themselves for who they really are, feel guilt and seek salvation. And they decide to make the world a better place. And they go out there and create chaos trying to save the planet.

What they should have done, however, is raised their children to be leaders and feed the hungry in their neighborhood first before they head to a Third World country.

Tim Ferriss talks about that too in this post:

Service to me is simple: doing something that improves life besides your own.

This is not the same as philanthropy. Philanthropy is the altruistic concern for the well-being of mankind–human life. Human life and comfort have long been focused on to the exclusion of the environment and the rest of the food chain, hence our current race to imminent extinction. Serves us right. The world does not exist solely for the betterment and multiplication of mankind.

Before I start chaining myself to trees and saving the dart frogs, though, I should take my own advice: do not become a cause snob.

How can you help starving children in Africa when there are starving children in Los Angeles? How can you save the whales when homeless people are freezing to death? How does doing volunteer research on coral destruction help those people who need help now?

Service isn’t limited to saving lives or the environment. It can also improve life. If you are a musician and put a smile on the faces of thousands or millions, I view that as service. If you are a mentor and change the life of one child for the better, the world has been improved. Improving the quality of life in the world is in no fashion inferior to adding more lives.

Service is an attitude.

Find the cause or vehicle that interests you most and make no apologies.”

Now let’s move onto the second one of your two true missions in life.

Mission #2: Finding your passion

finding your passion in life

Yes, the second thing you should do with your life other than helping others is doing what you love. The earlier you find what that is and dedicate time to it daily, the better.

The problem is we live in a world full of distractions, our mind wanders all the time, we get lost in the daily worries and other people’s issues, we jump from one project to another, have many goals at once, and so on.

Too many people spend months, years or a lifetime trying to find out what their passion is. But their approach is wrong.

According to Mark Manson – the accidental self-help entrepreneur, a man who has a strong opinion on just about anything, and one of my favorite writers on the Web, life is about not knowing. And that’s completely alright. This immediately makes complaining about not knowing what to do with your life pointless.

So much energy is wasted is comparing your life to those of others, living by someone else’s standard, working on one goal for years just to leave it after that. So enough with that.

Most of the times, you’ve already found your passion, You’re just ignoring it.

Mark is absolutely sure that in the 16 hours we’re awake daily, we do stuff, talk about something that amuses us, think of something else we care about. And if we analyze it, one idea always comes before anything else. Usually, that’s our passion.

“The problem is not a lack of passion for something. The problem is productivity. The problem is perception. The problem is acceptance.

The problem is the, “Oh, well that’s just not a realistic option,” or “Mom and Dad would kill me if I tried to do that, they say I should be a doctor” or “That’s crazy, you can’t buy a BMW with the money you make doing that.”

The problem isn’t passion. It’s never passion.
It’s priorities.”

And here’s a real-life example he gives:

“I have a friend who, for the last three years, has been trying to build an online business selling whatever. It hasn’t been working. And by not working, I mean he’s not even launching anything. Despite years of “work” and saying he’s going to do this or that, nothing actually ever gets done.

What does get done is when one of his former co-workers comes to him with a design job to create a logo or design some promotional material for an event. Holy shit, he’s all over that like flies on fresh cow shit.
And he does a great job! He stays up to 4:00 AM losing himself working on it and loving every second of it.

But then two days later it’s back to, “Man, I just don’t know what I’m supposed to do.”

I meet so many people like him. He doesn’t need to find his passion. His passion already found him. He’s just ignoring it. He just refuses to believe it’s viable. He is just afraid of giving it an honest-to-god try.”

So if you haven’t realized that, today is the right time. Tomorrow is a bit late, but still okay.
The point is to take action right away.

No need to ask people for opinion, to read about finding your passion, to expect things to be in a certain way, and so on. Just open your eyes for what’s already in front of you. And then do something about it.

“What most people don’t understand is that passion is the result of action, not the cause of it.
Discovering what you’re passionate about in life and what matters to you is a full-contact sport, a trial-and-error process. None of us know exactly how we feel about an activity until we actually do the activity.

So ask yourself, if someone put a gun to your head and forced you to leave your house every day for everything except for sleep, how would you choose to occupy yourself? And no, you can’t just go sit in a coffee shop and browse Facebook. You probably already do that. Let’s pretend there are no useless websites, no video games, no TV. You have to be outside of the house all day every day until it’s time to go to bed — where would you go and what would you do?

Sign up for a dance class? Join a book club? Go get another degree? Invent a new form of irrigation system that can save the thousands of children’s lives in rural Africa? Learn to hang glide?

What would you do with all of that time?”

The Happiness Formula

happiness

Once I spent enough time to realize things like that, to be honest with myself, to define what I really want and to make a step-by-step plan on how to get it, here I am.

Waking up with excitement, having a smile on my face while working, writing daily, inspiring people and being productive and disciplined without needing anyone to make me so.

And I’m still nowhere in terms of having my own business and stuff. My journey is just beginning. But it wasn’t until I found out my passion – personal development, combined it with the best way I can express myself and the right medium for me – writing, and read everything I could on how to turn that into something more.

Then, I found out that freedom and independence were more important to me than I realized. I did what I could to become self-employed, and am almost location independent now.

So barriers like country, having a boss, doing a job I don’t enjoy, being stuck in an office 8 hours a day, being told what to do, having to wake up at a certain time, and so on, just don’t exist for me anymore. Because I did what I could to remove them.

Elimination is one of the most beautiful processes in life. Defining what you don’t want in life turns out to be more useful than trying to figure out what you truly want. Removing the toxic people from your life is better than always looking for attention and approval by finding new ones.

So if you really don’t know what to do with your life, start by eliminating what you don’t like about it.
And don’t get others involved in that. It’s your path to walk. They have nothing to do with it.
I never share my goals with others, I just mention stuff every now and then once it’s achieved. That lets me stay focused and it doesn’t let other people’s opinion interfere.

You can do it too.

For me, it’s easy and pleasant to start by reading about everything related to my passion, field, or the people who’ve achieved what I’m after.
But if you’re not much of a reader, that’s absolutely fine.

You can also get out there and approach such individuals in person. Or simply start working on something and see how it goes.
Just do something.

That’s probably the best advice I can give you.

As for success and happiness, they’re inevitable once you’re on the right path. Stay consistent, and you’ll have the ideal lifestyle.

What do you think?

The Mark Manson’s articles I used as a reference:

Find what you love and let it kill you
7 strange questions that help you find your life purpose
Screw finding your passion

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What the Richest People in the World Have in Common 4

What the Richest People in the World Have in Common

Getting rich is something everyone dreams about.

For those facing financial hardships, getting rich seems the only way out to tide over shortage of money. For the bourgeoisie – the working class – getting rich conjures up visions of stuff they want to buy for luxury or higher social status. Millionaires also wish to get rich: they want to become billionaires and enter Forbes List of the world’s wealthiest people.

Unless you inherit a fortune or get lucky at lottery or sweepstakes, getting rich can be quite tough.

Yet, there are countless rags-to-riches stories around the world. Enterprises such as Amazon, KFC, Facebook or SpaceX have become runaway successes within a short span. The reason: their founders have several things in common, which is rare among other people.

Here we look at various traits that the world’s richest and most successful entrepreneurs have in common.

The Common Traits of The World’s Richest People

The Common Traits of The World's Richest People

1. Serving People.

“If your only goal is to become rich, you will never achieve it,” said John D. Rockefeller, who laid the foundation stone for America’s giant petroleum industry and his own enterprise, Standard Oil. The same adage holds good today.

Facebook, for example, was launched by Mark Zuckerberg and his roommate, Eduardo Saverin to allow Harvard University students to share profiles and pictures

There are countless such examples of ordinary people striking rich. However, they share one thing in common: serving people. The main objective of launching these enterprises was to make life easier or enjoyable for people rather than earning money.

2. Reading Books.

Microsoft founder Bill Gates, celebrity TV show host Oprah Winfrey, SpaceX and Tesla CEO Elon Musk, Berkshire-Hathaway CEO Warren Buffet and several other extremely rich people of the world have one more thing in common: they are avid readers.

Bill Gates reads at least 50 books every year – an average of nearly four and a half books per month.

Elon Musk owes his success at SpaceX, the project to open space tourism to his love for books and the knowledge he gained from them about rocketry. Oprah Winfrey attributes her success to dozens of books, including some 70 top titles she read on her way to success while Warren Buffet spends about 80 percent of his day reading books.

3. Long-Term Financial Strategies.

A report by CNBC states, all wealthy people depend upon long-term financial strategies rather than short-term gains. They utilized their earnings and savings to invest in safe stocks that would assure gains in the long run rather than indulging in risky trading that can offer high returns.

Such financial planning and decisions ensured they do not lose money. Further, they invested money in their enterprises without the hope of immediate returns.

These wealthy people first focused on building a brand, offering value for people to identify with the brand. And later, popularize the brand through word-of-mouth publicity, which is more effective than traditional advertising.

4. Never Say Die.

Yet another common character trait shared by the world’s richest people is, they are not quitters.

Like every other human on Earth, these wealthy folks also witnessed ups and downs in life. Some of these were so overwhelming most ordinary people would have called it quits and gone in search of easier ventures.

Brian Chesky, Joe Gebbia and Nathan Bleckharczyk, founders of Airbnb, the world’s largest hotels and accommodations aggregator were plagued with financial problems.

 

Heavily encumbered with debts, bankruptcy was staring at these entrepreneurs in the very eye. Yet, they did not budge. They innovated their service that made Airbnb the world leader in its field today.

Another excellent example is Colonel Harland Sanders, whose recipe for fried chicken was rejected as many as 1,009 times before it was accepted. Col. Sanders is the founder of global chain Kentucky Fried Chicken or KFC.

5. Accepting Criticism.

Most people flee from criticism of any sort. Rather than learning from negative comments arising out of their behavior or work, they take umbrage rather quickly. Yet, they do not bother to amend their behavior or work pattern.

All wealthy people, however, are different. They are willing to be criticized for introducing new ideas or thoughts.

Jeff Bezos, founder of Amazon, rightly says that those who will try and do something new must be willing to draw criticism.

Steve Jobs, founder, Apple, Inc. puts it in even stronger words: “If you want to make everyone happy, do not become a leader; sell ice cream instead.”

The success of Amazon and Apple proves their founders were right when it came to accepting criticism.

6. Out of The Box Thinking.

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Thinking outside of the ‘box’ or a typical mindset is often impossible for most people. Understandably, because everyone draws their mindset from factors and circumstances they are raised and educated in.

This mindset eventually becomes a formidable fetter for anyone wanting to become an entrepreneur. Generally, most people follow the flock and take professions they falsely believe as best suited for their skills. Others try to follow footsteps of their parents.

The wealthiest people in the world never followed flock or took lucrative professions of their parents.

Mark Zuckerberg’s father was a dentist and mom – a psychiatrist. Bill Gates’ dad was a banker father while his mother was a lawyer.

Despite coming from wealthy families, they chose to follow their passion rather than confine their thinking to the proverbial boxed mindset. Col. Sanders had lost his parents at a young age of six years and had to shoulder responsibilities of his siblings.

Other Examples of What The Wealthiest People Have in Common

As we can see, these qualities or personality traits are common to the world’s richest people. It sets them apart from others. Most of them launched small enterprises with the sole purpose of bettering the lives of people. Their products or services gained popularity because money was never their consideration. Widespread use of their technology, products, and services eventually led them to become wealthy.

These traits are not typical to the US or the western world, as one may mistakenly come to believe. A glance at some richest people in India and elsewhere also reveals, they share the same characteristics with their American counterparts. This amply proves that richest people around the world share something in common, regardless of where they live and flourish.

Another common trait that all rich people share in common is philanthropy.

Since childhood, they believe in giving back to the society and helping the underprivileged. They practiced charity when they were not so rich and continue to donate money for the betterment of the society even after becoming billionaires.

These richest people on the planet never waited to become wealthy. Instead, they were philanthropists since childhood – a trait most other people pathetically lack or try to foist upon themselves to gain popularity.

In Conclusion

It is not easy to become wealthy. Or everyone would become a millionaire. People who do make it to the top have a different way of thinking combined with an undying zest for learning new things and educating themselves.

They do not consider conventional learning at universities as the end of their education. Instead, they try and acquire new skills every day and find ways and means to become better humans rather than focusing on fattening their purses.

The world’s wealthiest people also share one common trait: they are not people pleasers, despite their generosity and willingness to serve the society. Because they know, trying to please everyone will get them nowhere and could mean possible failure.