Let Go of What You Cling To 132

Let Go of What You Cling To

This is a guest post by Jon Eborn.

We don’t really like to lose the things we love, do we? I sort of like clinging to things that make me smile. I clung to a lot of material possessions for years while my spiritual state grew weary, stale, and weak. Attaching your heart to things with a certain type of expectation can certainly set you up for struggle and disappointment.

Over the years I have learned that clinginess in any form comes from insecurity. We cling to our money because we fear losing it. We cling to our partners because we fear losing them. We cling to our social status because we fear being unimportant.

I’m sure you have heard the saying by Richard Bach, “If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t, they never were.”

What this means is letting go of attachments to people will set them free and it will set you free at the same time. Surrendering your personal expectations or demands will help you to live in a peaceful state of mind. It is when you clamp onto a person with expectations that you set yourself up for struggle and disappointment.

This is where meditation comes into play for me. If I make the time to meditate, I find clinginess and desires lessening. I find it easier to detach from people and things. I find my days are filled with more clarity, peace, and wisdom.

I love this quote by Thich Nhat Hanh:

“Letting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness. If, in our heart, we still cling to anything – anger, anxiety, or possessions – we cannot be free.”

Can we really let go of our insecurities, anxiety, people, and possessions? Can we really live each day with immense peace permeating our entire being?

I do believe we can and meditation and silence is key.

Take some time each day to just get quiet with yourself. You can do this when you wake up, sit out on the porch, find a cozy spot in your home, go into nature, or wherever you feel comfortable and it is quiet. Feeling comfortable with zero noise will suit you well. So many people find it difficult to just sit still for one minute and enjoy that minute of life. They are so busy thinking about the past and the future that the present escapes them.

Allot a certain amount of time each day for meditation. Start with 5 or 10 minutes and increase the time as you wish. During your time of meditation, focus on your inhale and exhale and completely relax your body. You want to slow down and gain control over your thought life. If a thought comes, acknowledge it and then release it.

As you grow in your meditation practice, you will feel less stressed and less inclined to attach or cling to people or things. You will feel peaceful and joyful just because you are alive and not because you have this or that.

Surrender the things that you cling to. Release the attachment. Live for the present moment and smile more often. Life is amazing and you can completely enjoy it!
-Jon Eborn

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Facts on Saturated Fat and How it Affects Women’s Health 12

Facts on Saturated Fat and How it Affects Women's Health

If you’re confused about what food are good for you today, but bad for you tomorrow, you’re not alone.

Take fat, for example. One day, all fats are bad. Then we’re told we need healthy fats. Another day, the perception of what’s considered ‘healthy’ fat is under scrutiny. Here’s the skinny on saturated fat.

The Truth About Saturated Fat

Just a few decades ago, fat was the enemy, especially saturated fat as found in butter and other animal-based food products. They’re the kind of fats that solidify at room temperature, which is due to their atomic makeup; the carbon cells are completely covered, or saturated, by the hydrogen cells.

Foods that contain saturated fats include:

– Red meat
– Eggs
– Cheese and other dairy products
– Poultry
– Pork
– Palm and coconut oil

Saturated fat was thought to cause high cholesterol and ailments like heart disease. However, new research has shown that a diet that includes saturated fat and reduces carbohydrates actually has the opposite effect, especially in women over the age of 50. This has led to the rise of low carb and paleo diets.

The benefits of saturated fat has been studied by researchers, dietitians and journalists like Nina Teicholz, whose book, The Big Fat Surprise, summarizes nine years of research on the subject of saturated fat and women’s health.

The conclusions reached by many who’ve viewed the data are that there is no conclusive evidence that saturated fat causes heart disease or obesity when eaten as part of a balanced diet. In fact, over the period between the first recommendations by the American Heart Association demonizing fat in 1961 and now, heart disease, obesity and related conditions have increased.

How Did Saturated Fat Become the Enemy?

The big turning point came after the release of the so-called “Seven Countries” study conducted by Ancel Keys. This research – and false conclusions – looked at diets around the world. Keys determined that the seven countries with the highest rate of heart disease also consumed the highest amounts of saturated fat.

What the study overlooked, and what turned out to be the real cause of adverse health effects, was that people in these countries also ate the highest amounts of processed carbohydrates and sugar. The problem was that Keys went in with a hypothesis about the correlation between fat consumption and heart disease, and rejected any findings that didn’t support his theories.

What’s it All Mean?

We’re not suggesting that fat doesn’t raise cholesterol, which is a contributing factor in heart disease. However, certain kinds of cholesterol are beneficial, even necessary, to good health.

Adding modest amounts of saturated fat and reducing sugar and refined carbohydrate consumption increases the HDL (good) cholesterol and lowers LDL (bad) cholesterol. The trick is to choose the right kinds of saturated fats, not deprivation.

Food With Beneficial Saturated Fat

The right levels of saturated fat in your diet allows you to enjoy eating again. Food tastes better and is more filling, which means less temptation to binge and less over-eating. Choose saturated fat from healthier foods like coconut oil instead of vegetable oil, and grass-fed beef over grain-fed.

If you’ve been depriving yourself and avoiding ‘real’ foods like red meat, cheese and butter, this is good news. The best diet for anyone is one that uses moderation without necessarily excluding entire food groups.