The Comfort Zone Conundrum

The Comfort Zone Conundrum -

You’re familiar with what the comfort zone is. And whether you like it or not, you’ve created one for yourself.

If you haven’t, then you’re living in one that society has created for you and are in denial in addition to that.

It’s a lifestyle that requires less effort, you prefer things the easy way – although not always the right one or the one you prefer.
You work a job where you feel safe, you most probably have a circle of friends you’ve known for years and which don’t make you do or be anyone new or better.

In a nutshell, everything is familiar, the level of stress is low and you feel absolutely comfortable. Change scares you and you get depressed the moment something different happens which ruins all that comfort and security.

The Real Face of Comfort

There are a few things to keep in mind if you don’t want to live a life of illusion:

  • you won’t grow in that environment – it’s bad for you as it doesn’t engage your brain, you don’t improve yourself, you don’t learn new things or grow;
  • you’re actually not safe – you can still be fired at any moment, you can lose someone you love, your property or money can be taken away for a bunch of reasons. And then what?;
  • you’re average – the typical comfort zone is a psychological state, but it only lets you live an ordinary life, and nothing new or exciting will ever happen until you step out of it;
  • you’re not happy – whether you admit it or not, the happiness you think you have is also imaginary. You seek it in comfort, safety, material objects, etc. As long as you have these, you’ll be alright. But once something changes, you panic. You’re basically seeking happiness in external sources, and that never leads to anything good.

You can change that, of course. The power is in your hands and you can take back control of your life today by freeing yourself from the comfort zone you’ve created for yourself.

Related: How to Embrace Insecurity and Live The Life You Deserve

Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone

One of the simplest and best ways to do it is to try something new, to challenge yourself, face your fears or just do something you don’t feel like doing.

Any of these actions will give you a taste of freedom, adrenaline and contentment, and you’ll want more of it.

There’s a life of independence, success and personal and spiritual growth waiting for you out there.

Change is a permanent part of it, a learning process you’ll get used to. You just need to break free from the comfort zone by doing different things.

That’s how the most extraordinary individuals I often hear about have started. Or the famous people, the successful entrepreneurs, the world travelers, the artists. They all knew there was something more to life, and they all wanted to see it.

So I urge you to do the same. Only then can you unleash your true potential and start doing the things you love and are good at, and achieve big things in your life.

Related: The Quickest Guide to Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone

The Comfort Zone Conundrum and What to Do About It

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But there’s one paradox here.

The moment you let go of one type of comfort, you choose another. You create a new comfort zone for yourself – even if there’s excitement and adventure in it – and you secretly don’t want to leave it. Not going back to the old life, or anything ordinary, feels scary.

Here are some examples:

Someone’s been working a regular 9-to-5 job his whole life, but finally takes the decision to quit after having worked on something on the side for months. He then starts taking initiative, is consistent and motivated – and most importantly works hard and is a hustler – and takes it to the next level.

He creates a business, and soon start making a decent income.

After some more time he’s able to scale, to meet with partners and investors, to earn passive income and start new businesses.

So hard work and making money, closing deals and getting more clients – all these become the aspects of his new zone of comfort. Now he only feels okay when the business is going well, but often such people can’t sleep at night because of the many uncertainties of the entrepreneurial world.

Also, relationships (often even family) and many other key areas of life come secondary.

Often this person can’t spend a whole day without talking to his people and thinking of powerful strategies for growth, or analyzing his finances, or else. He wants more. And he’s in the trap of a new type of comfort.

Happiness again is not an option until some kind of balance is reached.

So, in such a case, how do you get out of the comfort zone?

Simple, by constantly getting back to reality, being aware of the fact that you’re feeling too comfortable, and getting out there again and facing more discomfort.

The Solution to the Comfort Zone Conundrum

Replace your current comfort zone with a better one (overeating and being lazy can be replaced with its opposite – eating clean and being addicted to going to the gym. In this case you’re saving yourself from the unhealthy lifestyle, but are getting into another type of comfort.) And then, once you feel comfortable there, know it’s time to try something new and different.

That’s how you’ll keep growing and evolving, and at the same time be able to enjoy your days and find meaning in them.

What do you think? What gives you comfort in your life? And what can you do to feel a bit of discomfort today?

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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