The Comfort Zone Conundrum 56

The Comfort Zone Conundrum -

You’re familiar with what the comfort zone is. And whether you like it or not, you’ve created one for yourself.

If you haven’t, then you’re living in one that society has created for you and are in denial in addition to that.

It’s a lifestyle that requires less effort, you prefer things the easy way – although not always the right one or the one you prefer.
You work a job where you feel safe, you most probably have a circle of friends you’ve known for years and which don’t make you do or be anyone new or better.

In a nutshell, everything is familiar, the level of stress is low and you feel absolutely comfortable. Change scares you and you get depressed the moment something different happens which ruins all that comfort and security.

The Real Face of Comfort

There are a few things to keep in mind if you don’t want to live a life of illusion:

  • you won’t grow in that environment – it’s bad for you as it doesn’t engage your brain, you don’t improve yourself, you don’t learn new things or grow;
  • you’re actually not safe – you can still be fired at any moment, you can lose someone you love, your property or money can be taken away for a bunch of reasons. And then what?;
  • you’re average – the typical comfort zone is a psychological state, but it only lets you live an ordinary life, and nothing new or exciting will ever happen until you step out of it;
  • you’re not happy – whether you admit it or not, the happiness you think you have is also imaginary. You seek it in comfort, safety, material objects, etc. As long as you have these, you’ll be alright. But once something changes, you panic. You’re basically seeking happiness in external sources, and that never leads to anything good.

You can change that, of course. The power is in your hands and you can take back control of your life today by freeing yourself from the comfort zone you’ve created for yourself.

Related: How to Embrace Insecurity and Live The Life You Deserve

Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone

One of the simplest and best ways to do it is to try something new, to challenge yourself, face your fears or just do something you don’t feel like doing.

Any of these actions will give you a taste of freedom, adrenaline and contentment, and you’ll want more of it.

There’s a life of independence, success and personal and spiritual growth waiting for you out there.

Change is a permanent part of it, a learning process you’ll get used to. You just need to break free from the comfort zone by doing different things.

That’s how the most extraordinary individuals I often hear about have started. Or the famous people, the successful entrepreneurs, the world travelers, the artists. They all knew there was something more to life, and they all wanted to see it.

So I urge you to do the same. Only then can you unleash your true potential and start doing the things you love and are good at, and achieve big things in your life.

Related: The Quickest Guide to Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone

The Comfort Zone Conundrum and What to Do About It

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But there’s one paradox here.

The moment you let go of one type of comfort, you choose another. You create a new comfort zone for yourself – even if there’s excitement and adventure in it – and you secretly don’t want to leave it. Not going back to the old life, or anything ordinary, feels scary.

Here are some examples:

Someone’s been working a regular 9-to-5 job his whole life, but finally takes the decision to quit after having worked on something on the side for months. He then starts taking initiative, is consistent and motivated – and most importantly works hard and is a hustler – and takes it to the next level.

He creates a business, and soon start making a decent income.

After some more time he’s able to scale, to meet with partners and investors, to earn passive income and start new businesses.

So hard work and making money, closing deals and getting more clients – all these become the aspects of his new zone of comfort. Now he only feels okay when the business is going well, but often such people can’t sleep at night because of the many uncertainties of the entrepreneurial world.

Also, relationships (often even family) and many other key areas of life come secondary.

Often this person can’t spend a whole day without talking to his people and thinking of powerful strategies for growth, or analyzing his finances, or else. He wants more. And he’s in the trap of a new type of comfort.

Happiness again is not an option until some kind of balance is reached.

So, in such a case, how do you get out of the comfort zone?

Simple, by constantly getting back to reality, being aware of the fact that you’re feeling too comfortable, and getting out there again and facing more discomfort.

The Solution to the Comfort Zone Conundrum

Replace your current comfort zone with a better one (overeating and being lazy can be replaced with its opposite – eating clean and being addicted to going to the gym. In this case you’re saving yourself from the unhealthy lifestyle, but are getting into another type of comfort.) And then, once you feel comfortable there, know it’s time to try something new and different.

That’s how you’ll keep growing and evolving, and at the same time be able to enjoy your days and find meaning in them.

What do you think? What gives you comfort in your life? And what can you do to feel a bit of discomfort today?

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How I Finally Managed to Focus and Got to Work without Putting It Off 26

How I Finally Managed to Focus and Got to Work without Putting It Off

Here are the things that helped me find focus and finally get to work:

Tip #1 Write it down.

When I say write it down I mean that whatever you want to do on the day or even the night before for the following day. Simply write exactly down what you want to do/achieve. This simple tip alone is almost like flicking a switch in your brain to do it.

Simply writing down your goals and your plans not only makes you think about the goals and the steps that you need to do to achieve them. Sometimes this can be a great way to realize exactly what you want and get you thinking of things you perhaps hadn’t thought of prior.

Not only this but there have been countless studies done showing that writing something down with greatly improve the chances of it coming to fruition than not writing it down at all.

The great thing about this is that it can be literally applied to many areas of like. You can write down your long-term goals or you can write down what you plan to do for the next day.

I, personally, do it every night after I am long finished with my work for that day. I set aside 5-10 minutes for writing down what I want to do tomorrow. The act itself cements it in your brain.

This is also a great way to help with procrastination. It’s almost like holding yourself accountable for it which I will get into more in my next point.

Tip #2 Hold yourself accountable.

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Holding yourself accountable to an overall goal or target can be an excellent way to actually push yourself to that point where you get to work consistently.

For example, let’s say I want to lose some weight and be on a particular diet to achieve that goal. Telling your friends and family that you are doing it makes you more accountable than doing it alone.

Your friends/family will often follow up with you about your progress. This is a constant kick up your ass to keep working towards your goal. Also, doing things like posting it on Facebook or somewhere where people can engage with you and follow your progress is great.

Ideally, having an accountability partner would be the best option for this.

An accountability partner and you would usually be moving towards the same goal and would constantly encourage each other to get to work. Most importantly, you two will be accountable for your actions!

A great way to find such like-minded people is through social media. For example when I work on my blog FlipFlopsandAppleSauce, I have a artner that is also running a blog. We both set goals on how often we publish content to hold each other accountable. It works extremely well.

Tip #3 Don’t be focused on results.

Don’t put pressure on yourself if you aren’t achieving your goals as quickly as you want.

Let’s say you have an online business and you want to make $1000 a month in profit. Instead of focusing on how much money you are currently making, look at what steps you need to take to get to that $1000. The more of these you take, the sooner you will get there.

Tip #4 Concentrate on today.


Some people are always thinking of long-term objectives. That’s not a problem, but you should always try to break down your goals into smaller, easier steps. Then, dedicate each day to working towards completing these steps.

Not only does that make things simpler and easier to manage, but it also puts less stress and pressure on you in the long run and will undoubtedly save you lots of time.

Tip #5 Let it become a habit.

Once you get into a routine, doing some of the more tedious things won’t be as much of a problem. Because at the beginning, you had to make a more conscious effort to make them happen. But once something becomes a habit through use of constant repetition, it becomes 10 times easier to do it.

After doing something consistently for 20 days in a row, it will start to become a habit.

So, if you are doing something that you don’t enjoy 100% to work towards your goal, it would be a great idea to challenge yourself for 3 weeks. Make it a habit, because, beyond that initial 3 weeks, things should only become easier.

#Tip 6 Think goals, not hours.

Some people say ‘I want to work 5 hours on this today’. In my opinion, this is not a solid mentality to have.

People who work with that in mind tend to draw out what they are working out to achieve that time target, which usually isn’t helpful at all. Not only that, but it lowers overall productivity.

I like to set steps that I want to do on that exact day. I have a clearer target that isn’t limited or restricted by time in this case.

Also, once you have finished what you set out to do for that day, you feel a great sense of accomplishment. Which for me, is an amazing feeling that keeps me coming back for more!


David Gray is an entrepreneur that loves marketing. This “career” path allows him the freedom that he truly craves in his life.