The Ten Confidence Habits That Helped Me Increase Self-Esteem

the confidence habits that helped me increase self-esteem

Why is confidence such a big deal?

Well, for a start, without it you can’t really get out there, express your opinion, try new things, believe in yourself, approach new people, level up in life, dream big and begin living on your own terms.

But if you’re confident enough, nothing can stop you on your way to success.

We all need more self-esteem to go after our goals in life and to believe in our abilities to such an extent, that we can aim higher and try harder.

I improved my confidence a lot in the last 2 or so years. It happened because of a few little things I started to do repeatedly. That’s why I call them confidence habits and believe they are the reason I feel so okay with myself now that rejection doesn’t bother me and no one can really make me feel bad about myself.

Here they are:

My Best Confidence Habits

1. Being alright with my weaknesses.

Let’s be honest, we all have them.

It’s just impossible to be good at everything. And that’s perfectly fine. But if it bothers you so much that you constantly focus on your bad sides and the things you can’t do in life, then you won’t see progress or feel good any time soon.

What you need to do is accept your flaws and weaknesses. Let them be. Stop trying to be perfect and improve them. You’re just not meant to be good at them.

2. Focusing on my strengths.

Instead, concentrate on what you can do and are good at. And do more of it.

You’ll see results faster and will feel accomplished and that will make you have a higher opinion of yourself.

3. Accepting compliments.

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Some time ago I didn’t accept them. I just wasn’t feeling comfortable when someone gave me a compliment. Which is a sign that I didn’t believe it, had a low self-esteem, and by not receiving the compliment I was showing that to the other person.

But now that I’m aware of the things I’m good at and focus solely on them, I do accept compliments. It’s not that I feel proud or anything, but I simply say thank you and do my best to believe the other person and consider that what he says may be true even if I haven’t thought about it.

That’s a great confidence habit and an easy one to develop. Try it.

4. Setting goals and trying to achieve them.

Nothing can boost your confidence as much as knowing you’re doing your best and going after what you want in life. And other people have nothing to do with that.

In fact, once you set goals and follow the steps daily, you don’t even need to share that with others. But be sure that they will notice your determination and self-reliance and will respect you more.

5. Knowing that everyone can reach greatness.

We’re all capable of much more than we realize. There’s potential and strength inside each of us. And we already have all it takes to reach the top of a career, master a skill, or be lifestyle designers and create the ideal life for ourselves.

The only limitations are the ones we set to ourselves. And that’s such a comforting thought. It means that no matter how insecure we are or how many times we’ve failed, we can simply forget that and try new ways to become successful. Eventually we’ll succeed, simply because that’s what we’re destined to do.

You’ve got potential. Use it.

6. Confidence affirmations.

A super simple and fast solution to gaining self-esteem is to repeat to yourself confidence affirmations.

7. Living life on my own terms.

Becoming financially and emotionally independent is a great way to feel comfortable in your skin and not let anyone put you down anymore.

Now that I’m self-employed, working on becoming location independent, and doing other things to create my ideal lifestyle, I feel much more confident and it’s a rare case for something to bring me down.

8. Becoming independent.

As a result of what I just mentioned, I also take responsibility for everything that happens in my life instead of blaming others, and don’t really rely on anyone else.

9. Not needing another person to feel complete.

I’ve come to some important realizations about my life and myself, have defined what I want and don’t want and feel good about myself.

That lets me be okay with who I am and know that happiness is an inner state. That’s why I don’t depend on a relationship to fill any void inside me as many people do.

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10. Admitting my accomplishments.

I think we should all talk openly about our past successes. Not to brag, but to analyze them, accept them and not to be ashamed to share them with others.

So these are the changes I’ve made in my mindset and the confidence habits I’ve developed over the past 2 years that helped me gain self-esteem.

What do you think? What other tricks for being more confident are you familiar with? And which of these confidence habits are you willing to develop first?

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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