Regular Life Will Never Make You Happy. Here’s Why (and What to Do About It)

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You know what regular life looks like pretty well.

It’s following the path society has planned for us, living by other people’s standards and trying to please everyone (Impossible!). It’s about seeking security and balance in ridiculous ways – by working a job we hate but which is considered a great option for us, by settling down for less than we deserve in terms of money, freedom, time, work, relationships and more.

Being average – if you ask me – is one of the hardest things to do and an awful way to live life.

But somehow hundreds of millions of people are great at it. Why? Because it’s easier and it’s what they know.

The alternative life – the one we’re meant to live and which is the only way for us to thrive, learn and grow – means dedicating years of your life to first unlearn what society has taught you and change your perception of wrong and right.

Then, you’ll need some more time to reclaim your freedom, design your ideal lifestyle, build a name for yourself and eventually a business. And all that with the sole purpose of being able to live on your own terms, becoming the best version of yourself, contributing to the world by doing your best work, and being a role model and helping others with their journey.

All this can take you to heights you never knew existed.

But all this is also the difficult way to choose, as it requires leaving your comfort zone, saying no to many, many things so that you can say yes to the few that actually matter, and adapting to change.

That’s hard. It takes a lot of time. And means standing against everyone else (society, friends, even loved ones – they will all try to talk you out of your goals and even make you believe you’re crazy and that what you want to achieve is impossible).

But saying no to regular life also means finding peace and joy in everyday life, leaving stress, expectations and rules behind. It means mastering the art of life one area at a time, by getting 1% better daily.

If you still think that ordinary life is the safer and better option and you’re alright living this way, here are some things that may change your opinion:

4 Reasons Why Regular Life Won’t Make You Happy

1. You’ll always wonder whether that’s all there is to life.

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The traditional path is made to seem like it’s all you need in your life to be happy and successful.

Have you even wondered if there’s something more to life than the mundane lifestyle? Have you imagined yourself living a better, freer and simpler life? Have you thought about who you’re supposed to be or whether or not you’re destined to achieve greatness in your own, unique way?

Questions like these don’t just die. They are inside of each of us. They are what’s telling us to explore, try things, get out there and take action.

If you ask a question like that once, you won’t really find peace and contentment unless you do something to find out the answer.

I believe we’re destined to have all the freedom and time, and yet choose to spend these in the most productive, successful and positive way possible.

But the daily life we know doesn’t give us any time or freedom. These are both taken from us the moment we say yes to a regular job. It takes the most active part of our days, and of our lives in general.

If you keep living this way, you’ll also keep asking yourself questions like that.

You’ll keep comparing yourself to the individuals who rejected conformity and are now living an extraordinary life.

That means you’ll have less time to appreciate and enjoy your current lifestyle. And that won’t make you happy.

2. You can’t find your true passions and talents if you live a regular life.

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Being average means being a part of the crowd, doing what’s expected from you and what others are doing. It also means never expanding your horizons, taking risks and challenging yourself.

But without giving different things a chance, how can you find what’s right for you and what you’re good at?

I believe that we have one or more passions in life – true callings, interests, hobbies, talents, things we deeply care about. And it’s our mission to define them and to follow them.

A happy life is one where a part of each day is dedicated to doing what you love.

But ordinary life won’t let you find it. Or if you do – if it’s obvious like your desire to paint or write – it won’t give you time to get better at it and to find a way to monetize it and turn it into your career.

You’ll be stopped from following your dreams in different ways:

  • it’s hard to make money from your art and the easier option you’re given is to have a degree in something else and just start a job in that field after that;
  • if it’s something extraordinary which not many people in the world have achieved (like making money while traveling and doing what you love from your laptop), then almost everyone around you will tell you it’s not worth it;
  • you need to really stop listening to others and do your own research, read and learn a lot, if you want to make a difference, become independent and do what you love for the rest of your life.

But it’s more possible than ever these days to monetize a passion through the Internet and its opportunities. The best thing is that whatever it is you’re dreaming about, someone out there has already found unconventional ways to achieve it and is now living a happy and peaceful life.

Sometimes the harder part is defining your passion. The problem comes because of the many distractions we live with. We aren’t given much time (due to other people, daily problems, tasks, technologies, social life, doing things we’re supposed to do, etc.) to be on our own and decide what we want our life to look like and what we can do about it today.

But your passion is already in front of you, you just remain blind for it. It’s in the things you enjoy doing, and also in those you care about so much that they make you cry and want to take action immediately.

Don’t take such signs for granted. They are your escape plan that will take you to a better life.

Related: How to Connect with Your Ultimate Purpose

3. You seek happiness in outer sources.

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Part of the big plan of the daily life we’re given, is to let us always strive for more and be sure that happiness will be found there.

Unfortunately, such things only make us more miserable.

The average person seeks happiness in:

  • other people (trying to find the perfect partner, or only feeling good when communicating with others);
  • material objects (buying new stuff, getting attached to them, not being able to let go of old belongings, always wanting the newest version of a product);
  • goals (you think a better position at work or a higher salary will solve your problems, that a better body or a bigger house will make you feel confident).

That’s a never-ending chasing of happiness.

But there’s another way to spend your days on this planet. Here’s how:

  • letting go of past and future and being in the present moment, mindful of what’s going on around you right now;
  • counting your blessings every morning;
  • accepting what you can’t change;
  • appreciating the people in your life and spending quality time with them;
  • choosing less over more;
  • getting rid of possessions instead of buying new ones;
  • loving who you are today but still doing something to get a little better tomorrow;
  • knowing that you yourself are enough and not needing another person to feel complete;
  • being able to say no to people and stuff if you don’t really need them.

These are just some of the differences between the two lifestyles I’m talking about.

4. You indulge in bad behaviors.

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Junk food, smoking, laziness, procrastination, negativity – all these are things you can find in the comfort zone of regular life.

But it’s also what society gives you – to always try to change these habits of yours and yet fail miserably, so that you can give thousands of dollars for courses, books or products on how to change them and improve yourself; so that you can feel exhausted daily and never take initiative and maybe create a profitable business or make a difference in the world.

A person who’s onto something in life, however, is one who has understood the importance of the things we do daily (our habits) and has taken the time to learn the psychology behind all that.

Check out How to Break Any Bad Habit

Our behavior can be changed over time and we can still save our future. But we first need to dig deep into our subconsciousness and realize what makes us seek comfort in such bad habits, why we struggle with changing them and what will actually happen when we take control of them.

It all starts by choosing one habit and making a step-by-step plan. Then, staying consistent and motivated so that you can see changes in your life.

Once you’ve replaced one bad habit with a good one, you can move onto the next. This way you can be a new version of yourself in a few years.

Unfortunately, the moment most people hear ‘few years’, they give up.

This post can go on forever, actually.

It’s a topic I’m passionate about as I believe in people’s potential and am sure everyone can do big things with their life. It’s just that they don’t realize how possible it is, don’t believe in themselves enough, and aren’t ready to dedicate what’s needed.

Who knows, maybe this post with open their eyes. That’s the best I can hope for and that’s why I wrote it.

What do you think about all that? Share your opinion on regular life and people’s potential in the comments below.

If you consider it inspiring or informative in any way, share it with your friends on social media using the buttons on the left. I’ll appreciate it. And maybe it will make someone take action today. :)

See also:

12 Steps to Building The Ideal Lifestyle
9 Things That Stop You from Achieving Your Goals
14 Facts About Life to Keep in Mind When Feeling Hopeless

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How I Gained 20K Pinterest Views in 1 Month: 8 Pinterest Tips for Bloggers

How I Gained 20K Pinterest Views in 1 Month: 5 Pinterest Tips for Bloggers

It wasn’t until less than 2 months ago that I started paying attention to Pinterest. It’s not just a social media site, it’s a search engine, a way to add a new traffic source to your blog and promote your products or services or make a ton of money through affiliate marketing. It’s also a place to form connections, build a brand and stand out with your content. In this article, I’ll share the Pinterest tips for bloggers I followed that helped me double my views and get to 20,000 Pinterest views in 30 days.

Why Bloggers Should Be Using Pinterest to Drive Traffic

Every blogger, new or experienced, should be on Pinterest, pinning and re-pinning content, engaging with others, joining group boards, following people, improving their profile, creating pins for all of their posts, and optimizing them for keywords.

I started doing my research recently and now follow some interesting bloggers whose Pinterest accounts get a million views a month, who bring hundreds of thousands of excited Pinners to their blog and then convert a big percentage of them into buyers thanks to a solid monetization strategy and sales funnel.

It’s great and it takes a ton of work. But Pinterest itself helps a lot. In fact, if you’ve been blogging for some time now and want to make money through affiliate marketing or sell your courses, for example, Pinterest is the place for you to do it.

You can even forget about all other social media channels (if you haven’t seen success with them so far). You can leave organic traffic from search engines as it is and stop worrying about it too much. And you can start creating content that Pinterest users will like, will click on and will then act upon. Because they are the Internet users that can help you grow your online business, whatever that is.

Of course, some niches perform really, really well. So if you’re in the Crafts and DIY niche, are a travel blogger or into personal finance or home decor, you can expect a ton of benefits. But anyone else can get a piece of the pie too. I now focus on blogging, online business and making money online. Although my site covers personal development and lifestyle design too, I give Pinners what they like.

How I Decided to Create a Pinterest Strategy and Stick to It

I recently took my first course – Making Sense of Affiliate Marketing. It’s by Michelle from Making Sense of Cents who earns over $50,000 a month through affiliate marketing.

In the course, she shares her exact strategies, how she writes reviews and tutorials, the exact steps she’s taken to earn over $300,000 from a single blog post, how she chooses an affiliate product, how to go about disclosure, how to promote affiliate products without being salesy but instead by building trust and being helpful to your readers, and much more.

There are many bonus materials in Making Sense of Affiliate Marketing too, including Pinterest Strategy – How To Receive Hundreds of Thousands Of Visitors From Pinterest a Month.

This opened my eyes for what I was missing till now.

I’m not really into social media and Facebook and Instagram, for instance, aren’t my thing. Not in personal life and not in business. But as a blogger, I knew there was one social media channel I should be utilizing to bring traffic to my blog, gain attention and monetize it when the right time for that comes.

I stopped seeking it though but this course and exploring what Michelle was doing on her blog Making Sense of Cents inspired me to start learning more about Pinterest.

I started doing my research and realized it could have a crazy impact on everyone’s blog traffic and sales.

Here’s some stats to show you why it’s so powerful before moving onto some Pinterest tips for bloggers:

Interesting Pinterest Facts & Stats

For a start, you can increase sales with Pinterest.

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It’s the 3rd most popular social media site among US adults. (source)

There are over 200 million monthly active users and they seem to be more engaged than on any other platform as they are ready to buy.

2 million people post pins every day.

There are more than 50 billion pins and 1 billion boards on Pinterest. (source)

Over 80% of pins are re-pins. (source)

People spend nearly 15 minutes per visit on Pinterest. (source)

How I Got 20,000 Pinterest Views in One Month

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That really happened, yes. It gives me hope that any amateur can do it as well. Especially with the Pinterest tips for bloggers I’m about to share below.

I’ve been blogging for years, had a Pinterest account and did pin most of my posts in the past (although the standard images I use for a blog post don’t work there and you need to create a Pinterest-friendly image for each). But anyone who’s starting out can achieve such results too.

In fact, it will be easier for them. I now need to go back to my 1700 articles at Let’s Reach Success, optimize them, add affiliate links naturally, create a beautiful graphic for Pinterest and pin it to a relevant board, then make a plan on how to re-pin it in the future.

That’s a ton of work but it doesn’t need to happen at once. Slowly, I will be giving Pinners a chance to be able to see all my content over on Pinterest and re-pin it if they like it.

In fact, that’s the very first thing you should do after creating a Pinterest profile and turning it into a business account (which is super easy). Without a business account, you won’t be able to see your analytics and have many other of the powerful features of Pinterest for bloggers and business owners.

Here’s how my Pinterest profile looks like now:

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I did many improvements to it. Pinterest is all about quality content that looks stunning and also keyword optimization so you can target the right people. Never forget to organize your boards, add featured ones, be consistent with the images you add, and also re-pin other people’s content. All this creates a great first impression.

Before getting to the best practices and Pinterest tips for bloggers and new business owners, let me share my best resources with you:

Make Your First Money Online Freelancing [Free Course] – I created a free course sharing my journey to making more than $4,000/month blogging. It all began with freelancing and you can use this course to follow the steps I took to become a freelancer with no experience and earn my first income online.

How to Start a Profitable Blog – This step-by-step guide to starting a blog is a must for everyone who wants to start earning online and become self-employed. Having your own blog is the first step to selling products, making money from affiliate marketing, building a name for yourself, getting traffic and monetizing that attention.

Blogging Resources – To build a powerful site that turns visitors into buyers and monetize it well, you will need the right tools. In my Blogging Resources page, I’ve gathered the best of the best and the exact tools I’ve used to grow Let’s Reach Success and be able to make a full-time living as a location independent freelance writer.

4 Ideas for Side Hustles – Check out 4 side hustles you can start on your own and no later than this weekend that can be your chance to achieve financial independence.

My Monthly Income Reports – If you’re curious how bloggers make a living online, check out my income reports. I publish these monthly and share all the numbers together with the lessons I learned and the new things I’m working on.

So, here are the exact things I did differently in the last 30 days to get to 20,000 Pinterest views.

8 Pinterest Tips for Bloggers to Help You Double Your Pinterest Views in a Month

If there’s one social media I’d recommend that will transform the way you bring traffic to your blog and make money online, it’s Pinterest. I recently doubled my Pinterest views and reached 20,000 a month after I got active on the site. In this post, I share my best Pinterest tips for bloggers: #pinteresttips #blogtraffic #pinterestviews

1. I improved my Pinterest profile.

Your Pinterest profile should be tailored towards the ideal users you’re targeting. Whoever that is (soon you’ll be able to see who’s interested in your content through your Analytics on Pinterest), make sure you appeal to them. But be authentic too, of course.

If you haven’t started a blog yet, do that first. Check out my quick tutorial How to Start a Profitable Blog: A Step-by-Step Guide for Serious Bloggers Only.

Then, go ahead and create a Pinterest profile, set up a business account and connect it to your WordPress site.

In my situation, however, I had to update my profile and fill in the gaps.

These Pinterest tips for bloggers will help you whether you’re a newbie or have been blogging and want to get Pinterest traffic now:

  • Add a good picture of yourself;
  • Have a good business name. Mine is Lidiya @ Let’s Reach Success;
  • Claim your website;
  • Check competitors and decide what strategy you want to have;
  • With each element, stay relevant to your main niche.

2. I created new Pinterest boards and organized them.

I had some random boards before and some of them aren’t relevant anymore, such as the one about The Let’s Reach Success Podcast which I’m not doing anymore. But I didn’t delete it as I would have lost old views. It’s okay to leave these old pins exist and know that board is placed at the bottom.

The most important thing is to create around 10 boards with the key categories you’re covering on your blog.

I didn’t do that at once as I was exploring what Pinterest had to offer and what others in my niche were doing.

Turns out, you shouldn’t name the boards in a unique way but should instead use ‘Blogging Tips, ‘Freelancing Tips’, ‘Work from Home Tips’, etc. That helps them get found on Pinterest and each clearly states what it’s about. These are actual boards I have now.

Immediately go ahead an create a ‘Best of [your blog]’ board and place it first when organizing them.

There you will add every pinnable image from your site that you want to be seen.

Don’t leave boards empty for a long time either. Go ahead and find other people’s pins that you’d like to include in them. Pin 10-15 beautiful images (that also lead to helpful pieces of content) so that your boards have something in them.

After a week or so, you’ll also have your pins in them and can choose the featured image of the board. Here’s how the boards I’ve placed on top of my profile look like:

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These Pinterest tips for bloggers are something I learned from experts during my research, which I’ve seen popular accounts on Pinterest do, and which I myself have found to work through experimenting. So, hopefully, you’ll just do this now instead of wasting time down the road.

3. Optimize your profile, board and pins.

SEO matters on Pinterest as much as it does on Google.

Here’s what I did to double my Pinterest views in a month:

  • Optimized my Pinterest About page;
  • Added SEO-rich descriptions to all my boards;
  • I fill the alt text on each image I pin from Let’s Reach Success with keywords;
  • Adding a few hashtags to the description is also a good idea.

4. I learned how to create beautiful images for Pinterest.

That’s how my pins look like now.

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The way I learned was by simply looking at what some of the most popular pins in a certain topic looked like.

Then, I began reading about it and realized the following is ALWAYS true when creating pins:

  • Vertical rather than horizontal;
  • Have text on it – the largest possible text, actually;
  • Each pin must solve a problem, inspire or educate;
  • The most effective and simplest way to brand yourself is to include your url somewhere in the pin;
  • There are mostly women on Pinterest so keep that in mind when choosing colors, images and text;
  • Images of faces don’t work well;
  • Images on the background must be beautiful (I just kept using the royalty-free I use for each article on Let’s Reach Success. They are from pexels.com and pixabay.com);
  • Prefer red and pink tones (It’s no coincidence that most of my pins now have pink. It wasn’t like that in the beginning.)

What hit me was that each blog with a ton of posts in its archives brings traffic from the top 10-20 articles (which are usually published a year or more ago). After checking what these are in my Google Analytics, I updated these and added Pinterest-friendly images to them first.

I’ve been missing out on traffic opportunities for long by not giving people a way to share that post on Pinterest (as they wouldn’t want to add a random image to one of their boards).

I now go back to old blog posts, update them, and create a visually-appealing Pinterest graphic using Canva (for free).

Something helpful I did the other day (as the point is to do Pinterest smarter not harder in the next few weeks and months) is to create a few templates.

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Head to Canva and you’ll see they have a ready-made Pinterest graphic image in the right size. From there, you can choose some of the great templates they are offering or create yours.

It’s worth taking the time to do that now (after exploring the best pins in your industry directly on Pinterest) to save hours in the next weeks. Now, I simply add a different image for the background, change the title and make other little adjustments.

That’s not only quick and easy but also means I will have brand consistency. You don’t want to confuse Pinners by using different combinations of colors every time.

5. I began using Pinterest to find new content and engaged with others.

To truly understand how powerful this social media site and search engine is, it’s important to use it yourself. All these Pinterest tips for bloggers won’t matter if you aren’t pinning, re-pinning, following and being followed (although that’s not an important metric), looking at other people’s Pinterest graphics and clicking them to read more.

That’s how I realized what titles work best. It’s often practical to have one title for a blog post optimized for a keyword, but to express it from another angle on your pin.

One great resource (and one of the biggest names in the Pinterest for business industry) is Simple Pin Media.

6. I began writing content for Pinterest.

I’m a content creator and I don’t think that’s going to change. So I’m interested in finding out what works best on Pinterest and giving people exactly that.

It’s the most genuine way to bring traffic to my blog and earn money through Pinterest. It also feels great to document the journey. This post is an example and it might do pretty well on Pinterest for years to come if seen by the right people. And it does share the story of how I gained 20K views on the platform in one month together with my best Pinterest tips for bloggers.

So once people click on the link of the pin, they will find a ton of value. That’s a great reason to re-pin something.

2 recent posts I wrote (which share a lot more than what the title says) are:

How I Made $375 wth One Article as a Freelance Writer on Clear Voice

How I Earned $250 from One Sponsored Post

Also, income reports do great there. And you can create as many pins as you want for one post, title them differently and add them to different boards.

Here’s the Pinterest image from my latest income report that gained attention and brought people to actually check out how I earned over $4,000/month from my blog and business.

Learn how I earned over $4,000 in one month blogging and freelancing from home. In this blog income report I also share the lessons, challenges, new goals and income streams, my favorite tools, and all important numbers. Check it out.

7. I joined my first group boards.

Group boards are a big thing. One of the best Pinterest tips for bloggers is to join a few and contribute to them with your best pins.

That’s also the quickest way to bring attention to your account and site and double your page views.

While you’re still with your few hundred monthly views on Pinterest, the chances of having a pin go viral aren’t big (although that’s possible only by having a great pin that’s optimized well). But if you share your images and content in front of the 10,000 followers of a group board, you get more exposure.

The ‘how to’ of joining group boards can happen in a few ways.

The way I did it is by checking out the group boards mentioned by bloggers when reading about their Pinterest strategies and tips. Then, if a group board is open for new members, you’ll see instructions in its description.

Usually, it’s to follow the board and its creator, after which you should email the person (email address is given in the board description) with your Pinterest url.

They might not approve you for many reasons. When they do, you can start pinning beautiful images according to the main topics of the board and re-pinning other people’s content.

Also, that’s a great place to get followers. Start following those participating in the group board. They will most likely follow you back.

I’m now the member of 4 nice group boards on anything related to blogging and online business. The latest one I was approved for has more than 20,000 followers.

8. I followed the Pinterest best practices for success.

All bloggers should follow the rules while being unique, helpful and creative over at Pinterest.

The best practices include:

  • Pinning at the right time;
  • Saving at least 10 pins a day to have consistent activity;
  • According to Pinterest, your first 5 pins each day are prioritized so make sure these are your own content and look great;
  • Save pins to relevant boards;
  • Give visitors of your site a way to pin your images.

This post definitely doesn’t cover all my Pinterest tips for bloggers and the little things I did to double my traffic. But I will be writing a lot more as I test new strategies, understand Pinterest marketing and how it works for businesses like mine, and see what others are doing to bring Pinterest traffic to their blogs.

But the 8 Pinterest tips for bloggers you just read about are sure to help you see an increase in your views. Good luck.

Don’t forget to follow me on Pinterest to see how things are progressing. And pin this post to spread the love and share the tips with others:

I recently doubled my Pinterest traffic in less than 30 days. Learn why you should be promoting your blog posts on Pinterest, and how I reached 20,000 monthly views there with my best Pinterest tips for bloggers: #pinterestmarketing #pinteresttips #pinterestforbloggers #pintereststrategies