LRS 026: Overcoming Shyness and Social Anxiety 62

overcoming shyness and social anxiety - The Let's Reach Success Podcast

Overcoming shyness is something we all need to work on, one way or another. After all, life is all about communicating freely with others, being our best self and forming great relationships. And for that to happen, we’ll need to stop being shy and so anxious in public.

That’s the topic I chose for episode 26 of the Let’s Reach Success Podcast.

First, I’ll give you 3 great ways to get rid of being shy, they are kind of exercises and can be put into practice right away.

Then, I’ll share the 3 things that helped me deal with social anxiety and develop the right mindset to be able to talk to anyone and feel comfortable in my own skin.

In the end, you’ll hear a new section of the podcast that I’ll be including from now on. It’s super short and action-oriented.

Show Notes:

  • The one thing to learn that will turn your social life around [2:50]
  • What helped me the most when overcoming shyness [3:32]
  • How to leave your comfort zone and start living [5:29]
  • How to use the mirror to gain confidence [6:44]
  • What’s social anxiety and what it leads to [8:50]
  • Here’s why other people don’t think about you much and why that’s actually great [10:43]
  • The only type of approval you need [12:17]
  • How to change your attitude towards rejection and turn it into something positive [13:39]
  • Overcoming shyness: Action steps [15:15]


Action Steps:

  1. Look one person in the eyes for longer today.
  2. Do what feels uncomfortable – try something new, challenge yourself, do something you’re scared of.
  3. Give the mirror technique a try by saying positive affirmations out loud while looking at your reflection in the mirror.
  4. Realize that other people don’t think about you as much as you imagine and let go of the fear of being judged.
  5. Stop seeking approval and only do things that feel right and help you move forward in life.
  6. Change your attitude towards rejection – start seeing it as a good thing, as a way to know what’s not the right fit for you.


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What about your approach to overcoming shyness and social anxiety? What do you do to get over a shy personality and start communicating freely with anyone you meet?

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How I Finally Managed to Focus and Got to Work without Putting It Off

Here are the things that helped me find focus and finally get to work:

Tip #1 Write it down.

When I say write it down I mean that whatever you want to do on the day or even the night before for the following day. Simply write exactly down what you want to do/achieve. This simple tip alone is almost like flicking a switch in your brain to do it.

Simply writing down your goals and your plans not only makes you think about the goals and the steps that you need to do to achieve them. Sometimes this can be a great way to realize exactly what you want and get you thinking of things you perhaps hadn’t thought of prior.

Not only this but there have been countless studies done showing that writing something down with greatly improve the chances of it coming to fruition than not writing it down at all.

The great thing about this is that it can be literally applied to many areas of like. You can write down your long-term goals or you can write down what you plan to do for the next day.

I, personally, do it every night after I am long finished with my work for that day. I set aside 5-10 minutes for writing down what I want to do tomorrow. The act itself cements it in your brain.

This is also a great way to help with procrastination. It’s almost like holding yourself accountable for it which I will get into more in my next point.

Tip #2 Hold yourself accountable.

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Holding yourself accountable to an overall goal or target can be an excellent way to actually push yourself to that point where you get to work consistently.

For example, let’s say I want to lose some weight and be on a particular diet to achieve that goal. Telling your friends and family that you are doing it makes you more accountable than doing it alone.

Your friends/family will often follow up with you about your progress. This is a constant kick up your ass to keep working towards your goal. Also, doing things like posting it on Facebook or somewhere where people can engage with you and follow your progress is great.

Ideally, having an accountability partner would be the best option for this.

An accountability partner and you would usually be moving towards the same goal and would constantly encourage each other to get to work. Most importantly, you two will be accountable for your actions!

A great way to find such like-minded people is through social media. For example when I work on my blog FlipFlopsandAppleSauce, I have a artner that is also running a blog. We both set goals on how often we publish content to hold each other accountable. It works extremely well.

Tip #3 Don’t be focused on results.

Don’t put pressure on yourself if you aren’t achieving your goals as quickly as you want.

Let’s say you have an online business and you want to make $1000 a month in profit. Instead of focusing on how much money you are currently making, look at what steps you need to take to get to that $1000. The more of these you take, the sooner you will get there.

Tip #4 Concentrate on today.


Some people are always thinking of long-term objectives. That’s not a problem, but you should always try to break down your goals into smaller, easier steps. Then, dedicate each day to working towards completing these steps.

Not only does that make things simpler and easier to manage, but it also puts less stress and pressure on you in the long run and will undoubtedly save you lots of time.

Tip #5 Let it become a habit.

Once you get into a routine, doing some of the more tedious things won’t be as much of a problem. Because at the beginning, you had to make a more conscious effort to make them happen. But once something becomes a habit through use of constant repetition, it becomes 10 times easier to do it.

After doing something consistently for 20 days in a row, it will start to become a habit.

So, if you are doing something that you don’t enjoy 100% to work towards your goal, it would be a great idea to challenge yourself for 3 weeks. Make it a habit, because, beyond that initial 3 weeks, things should only become easier.

#Tip 6 Think goals, not hours.

Some people say ‘I want to work 5 hours on this today’. In my opinion, this is not a solid mentality to have.

People who work with that in mind tend to draw out what they are working out to achieve that time target, which usually isn’t helpful at all. Not only that, but it lowers overall productivity.

I like to set steps that I want to do on that exact day. I have a clearer target that isn’t limited or restricted by time in this case.

Also, once you have finished what you set out to do for that day, you feel a great sense of accomplishment. Which for me, is an amazing feeling that keeps me coming back for more!


David Gray is an entrepreneur that loves marketing. This “career” path allows him the freedom that he truly craves in his life.