What to Do When You Think You Aren’t Good Enough 37

What to Do When You Think You Aren't Good Enough

There are times in life when many outer factors will make you think that you aren’t good enough.

And that’s when you’ll need to gather all the self-esteem you have gained while working on yourself and make yourself believe that you are indeed good enough, remind yourself of the powers within and thus get motivated to take action.

Here are some examples:

Maybe on your last interview they told you that you’re not what they’re looking for. Or someone told you that you don’t answer his expectations. Even your friends and relatives always find a way to show you that you’re just not good enough.

Well, guess what? That is not true. And you can either get depressed and agree with people’s rejection, or prove them wrong.

The only person in this world who knows whether you’re good enough for something or not, is you. And when you think you are not, it’s simply because you’ve fallen under the control of your own limitations.

Why did they call you not good enough?

You may be referred to as “not good enough” for a few reasons:

  • Not motivated enough: You can fail at something or not even find the power to give it a go simply because you haven’t found your motivation. It is the momentum, the outer or inner impulse that can make you achieve anything you want. Once you find it and understand how to keep it and be constantly motivated, you will be even too good for most of the things you want in life.
  • A lack of belief in yourself: When people support you and believe in you, you can feel better and more confident, but nothing will even happen if you yourself don’t believe in your abilities.
  • No self-confidence: You can’t succeed if you’re not confident enough. Without this quality you can’t make people respect you and give you a chance.

So as you see all this can be fixed, learned or achieved. Once you understand why people called you so, you will have the chance to perform better next time.

What to do after that?

Here are the most important things you should do after you’ve been rejected or called “not good enough”:

  • Don’t believe them;
  • Take this as a challenge to prove them wrong;
  • Try to understand what you did wrong and why you didn’t answer their expectations;
  • Don’t let this get in your way and depress you or make you lose confidence;
  • Get motivated to improve your performance;
  • Try again.

Your powers are limitless.

Never forget how powerful you are. At this very moment you’ve got the chance to do whatever you want.

You can pursue a career in whichever field you’re interested and make a fortune; you can start training and eating clean and get the body of your dreams; you can study hard and take a degree in any subject; you can change the way you look and behave; you can devote your life to helping others; you can write a book or create something else and leave a legacy.

And you are good enough to do all of this. You only need to want it bad enough, to be ready to give time, effort and energy. To believe that you can get that, become that person and to work hard for it. To ignore all the distractions on the way and follow your path.

Then you can prove everyone wrong. But it’s important to do it for yourself, and your ultimate purpose. Not for the opinion of others.

So go out there. Show them who you are and what you got. Surprise them with your infinite determination and desire to succeed. Give your best and move forward while appreciating the moment and everything you have. Be thankful for that and make gratitude your momentum. Or in other words, show them you’re more than just good enough.

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How I Finally Managed to Focus and Got to Work without Putting It Off 19

How I Finally Managed to Focus and Got to Work without Putting It Off

Here are the things that helped me find focus and finally get to work:

Tip #1 Write it down.

When I say write it down I mean that whatever you want to do on the day or even the night before for the following day. Simply write exactly down what you want to do/achieve. This simple tip alone is almost like flicking a switch in your brain to do it.

Simply writing down your goals and your plans not only makes you think about the goals and the steps that you need to do to achieve them. Sometimes this can be a great way to realize exactly what you want and get you thinking of things you perhaps hadn’t thought of prior.

Not only this but there have been countless studies done showing that writing something down with greatly improve the chances of it coming to fruition than not writing it down at all.

The great thing about this is that it can be literally applied to many areas of like. You can write down your long-term goals or you can write down what you plan to do for the next day.

I, personally, do it every night after I am long finished with my work for that day. I set aside 5-10 minutes for writing down what I want to do tomorrow. The act itself cements it in your brain.

This is also a great way to help with procrastination. It’s almost like holding yourself accountable for it which I will get into more in my next point.

Tip #2 Hold yourself accountable.

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Holding yourself accountable to an overall goal or target can be an excellent way to actually push yourself to that point where you get to work consistently.

For example, let’s say I want to lose some weight and be on a particular diet to achieve that goal. Telling your friends and family that you are doing it makes you more accountable than doing it alone.

Your friends/family will often follow up with you about your progress. This is a constant kick up your ass to keep working towards your goal. Also, doing things like posting it on Facebook or somewhere where people can engage with you and follow your progress is great.

Ideally, having an accountability partner would be the best option for this.

An accountability partner and you would usually be moving towards the same goal and would constantly encourage each other to get to work. Most importantly, you two will be accountable for your actions!

A great way to find such like-minded people is through social media. For example when I work on my blog FlipFlopsandAppleSauce, I have a artner that is also running a blog. We both set goals on how often we publish content to hold each other accountable. It works extremely well.

Tip #3 Don’t be focused on results.

Don’t put pressure on yourself if you aren’t achieving your goals as quickly as you want.

Let’s say you have an online business and you want to make $1000 a month in profit. Instead of focusing on how much money you are currently making, look at what steps you need to take to get to that $1000. The more of these you take, the sooner you will get there.

Tip #4 Concentrate on today.

 

Some people are always thinking of long-term objectives. That’s not a problem, but you should always try to break down your goals into smaller, easier steps. Then, dedicate each day to working towards completing these steps.

Not only does that make things simpler and easier to manage, but it also puts less stress and pressure on you in the long run and will undoubtedly save you lots of time.

Tip #5 Let it become a habit.

Once you get into a routine, doing some of the more tedious things won’t be as much of a problem. Because at the beginning, you had to make a more conscious effort to make them happen. But once something becomes a habit through use of constant repetition, it becomes 10 times easier to do it.

After doing something consistently for 20 days in a row, it will start to become a habit.

So, if you are doing something that you don’t enjoy 100% to work towards your goal, it would be a great idea to challenge yourself for 3 weeks. Make it a habit, because, beyond that initial 3 weeks, things should only become easier.

#Tip 6 Think goals, not hours.

Some people say ‘I want to work 5 hours on this today’. In my opinion, this is not a solid mentality to have.

People who work with that in mind tend to draw out what they are working out to achieve that time target, which usually isn’t helpful at all. Not only that, but it lowers overall productivity.

I like to set steps that I want to do on that exact day. I have a clearer target that isn’t limited or restricted by time in this case.

Also, once you have finished what you set out to do for that day, you feel a great sense of accomplishment. Which for me, is an amazing feeling that keeps me coming back for more!

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David Gray is an entrepreneur that loves marketing. This “career” path allows him the freedom that he truly craves in his life.