What to Do When You Think You Aren’t Good Enough

What to Do When You Think You Aren't Good Enough

There are times in life when many outer factors will make you think that you aren’t good enough.

And that’s when you’ll need to gather all the self-esteem you have gained while working on yourself and make yourself believe that you are indeed good enough, remind yourself of the powers within and thus get motivated to take action.

Here are some examples:

Maybe on your last interview they told you that you’re not what they’re looking for. Or someone told you that you don’t answer his expectations. Even your friends and relatives always find a way to show you that you’re just not good enough.

Well, guess what? That is not true. And you can either get depressed and agree with people’s rejection, or prove them wrong.

The only person in this world who knows whether you’re good enough for something or not, is you. And when you think you are not, it’s simply because you’ve fallen under the control of your own limitations.

Why did they call you not good enough?

You may be referred to as “not good enough” for a few reasons:

  • Not motivated enough: You can fail at something or not even find the power to give it a go simply because you haven’t found your motivation. It is the momentum, the outer or inner impulse that can make you achieve anything you want. Once you find it and understand how to keep it and be constantly motivated, you will be even too good for most of the things you want in life.
  • A lack of belief in yourself: When people support you and believe in you, you can feel better and more confident, but nothing will even happen if you yourself don’t believe in your abilities.
  • No self-confidence: You can’t succeed if you’re not confident enough. Without this quality you can’t make people respect you and give you a chance.

So as you see all this can be fixed, learned or achieved. Once you understand why people called you so, you will have the chance to perform better next time.

What to do after that?

Here are the most important things you should do after you’ve been rejected or called “not good enough”:

  • Don’t believe them;
  • Take this as a challenge to prove them wrong;
  • Try to understand what you did wrong and why you didn’t answer their expectations;
  • Don’t let this get in your way and depress you or make you lose confidence;
  • Get motivated to improve your performance;
  • Try again.

Your powers are limitless.

Never forget how powerful you are. At this very moment you’ve got the chance to do whatever you want.

You can pursue a career in whichever field you’re interested and make a fortune; you can start training and eating clean and get the body of your dreams; you can study hard and take a degree in any subject; you can change the way you look and behave; you can devote your life to helping others; you can write a book or create something else and leave a legacy.

And you are good enough to do all of this. You only need to want it bad enough, to be ready to give time, effort and energy. To believe that you can get that, become that person and to work hard for it. To ignore all the distractions on the way and follow your path.

Then you can prove everyone wrong. But it’s important to do it for yourself, and your ultimate purpose. Not for the opinion of others.

So go out there. Show them who you are and what you got. Surprise them with your infinite determination and desire to succeed. Give your best and move forward while appreciating the moment and everything you have. Be thankful for that and make gratitude your momentum. Or in other words, show them you’re more than just good enough.

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from TheWaystoWealth.com

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called GenYWealth.com (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea GenYwealth.com was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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