3 Ways to Finding The Right Person for You 43

3 Ways to Finding The Right Person for You

Let’s admit it. Finding the right person for us is one of our life missions.

Living in denial doesn’t help. You may already be in a relationship where things aren’t going so well, or you never found Mr. right and are desperately trying to make others like you (which is a wrong approach).

Whatever your situation is, remember than you should never settle down for less than you deserve. There are some changes you can make in your life and mindset, starting today, to make sure you find the right partner and keep him.

Here’s how the journey to finding the right person begins:

1. Get clear about what you want, and what you don’t want.

Set your priorities straight for a start. But begin with what you don’t like in a potential partner.

It may be things that disappointed you in others in past relationships, the stuff you can make no compromise on, the way a person behaves that makes you feel inferior to him, or a habit that annoys you too much.

It’s better to get clear about these from the very beginning, so that you know what you’re looking for.

Once you eliminate the things you don’t want and are completely aware of them, what’s left will be the traits of a person you’d actually love to spend your life with.

Try to figure out why you don’t have a partner at this point. Be brutally honest with yourself. Analyze your strengths and weaknesses, what went wrong with people before, what feedback they gave you, etc.

It’s smart to know what to be careful with in the future and where to make changes.

2. Become your best self.

Before getting out there again and finding the right person for you, you must improve yourself so that you’re worth pursuing and can have a lot to offer.

You have all it takes to be loved by anyone, but you need to be more confident and trust yourself, to look and feel better, to develop some good habits, learn some new things and go after your life goals.

All that will make you disciplined, determined, stronger and more experienced, and you’ll become an interesting person that has a lot of awesome stuff to talk about.

3. Learn what a man/woman really wants.

It’s time to educate yourself a little in terms of relationships, psychology and love in general.

It’s worth taking the time to get to know a man’s/woman’s mind and dig deeper into what one wants from a potential partner, what they look for on a first date, what is a turn-off and what can make a person fall in love with you in a short period of time.

There are interesting conclusions you’ll come to if you read a bit on the topic.

Explore the mind of the opposite sex. Because in the beginning, when you two are still getting to know each other, it’s a game, really. You can use the right techniques, present yourself in the best way possible, hack body language, use the right words and speak in a certain way, to make sure finding the right person leads to keeping him too.

Of course, the best knowledge comes from experience. So don’t be afraid to put yourself out there, approach new people and see what works best.

In time, you’ll feel comfortable in your skin, will beat shyness and social anxiety, will know how to start a conversation and what topics to avoid the first few times. That makes finding the right person easier, and attracting him and making him pursue you is a consequence of the 3 steps above.

But that’s just the beginning. Start doing these today and look forward to welcoming your soulmate in your life soon.

Here are the next steps to finding and keeping a man and how to finally take your dating life to the next level.

So what will you start with today to make sure you’re becoming a better version of yourself, keeping your priorities straight, upgrading your game, and attracting new and awesome people in your life?

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What the Richest People in the World Have in Common 6

What the Richest People in the World Have in Common

Getting rich is something everyone dreams about.

For those facing financial hardships, getting rich seems the only way out to tide over shortage of money. For the bourgeoisie – the working class – getting rich conjures up visions of stuff they want to buy for luxury or higher social status. Millionaires also wish to get rich: they want to become billionaires and enter Forbes List of the world’s wealthiest people.

Unless you inherit a fortune or get lucky at lottery or sweepstakes, getting rich can be quite tough.

Yet, there are countless rags-to-riches stories around the world. Enterprises such as Amazon, KFC, Facebook or SpaceX have become runaway successes within a short span. The reason: their founders have several things in common, which is rare among other people.

Here we look at various traits that the world’s richest and most successful entrepreneurs have in common.

The Common Traits of The World’s Richest People

The Common Traits of The World's Richest People

1. Serving People.

“If your only goal is to become rich, you will never achieve it,” said John D. Rockefeller, who laid the foundation stone for America’s giant petroleum industry and his own enterprise, Standard Oil. The same adage holds good today.

Facebook, for example, was launched by Mark Zuckerberg and his roommate, Eduardo Saverin to allow Harvard University students to share profiles and pictures

There are countless such examples of ordinary people striking rich. However, they share one thing in common: serving people. The main objective of launching these enterprises was to make life easier or enjoyable for people rather than earning money.

2. Reading Books.

Microsoft founder Bill Gates, celebrity TV show host Oprah Winfrey, SpaceX and Tesla CEO Elon Musk, Berkshire-Hathaway CEO Warren Buffet and several other extremely rich people of the world have one more thing in common: they are avid readers.

Bill Gates reads at least 50 books every year – an average of nearly four and a half books per month.

Elon Musk owes his success at SpaceX, the project to open space tourism to his love for books and the knowledge he gained from them about rocketry. Oprah Winfrey attributes her success to dozens of books, including some 70 top titles she read on her way to success while Warren Buffet spends about 80 percent of his day reading books.

3. Long-Term Financial Strategies.

A report by CNBC states, all wealthy people depend upon long-term financial strategies rather than short-term gains. They utilized their earnings and savings to invest in safe stocks that would assure gains in the long run rather than indulging in risky trading that can offer high returns.

Such financial planning and decisions ensured they do not lose money. Further, they invested money in their enterprises without the hope of immediate returns.

These wealthy people first focused on building a brand, offering value for people to identify with the brand. And later, popularize the brand through word-of-mouth publicity, which is more effective than traditional advertising.

4. Never Say Die.

Yet another common character trait shared by the world’s richest people is, they are not quitters.

Like every other human on Earth, these wealthy folks also witnessed ups and downs in life. Some of these were so overwhelming most ordinary people would have called it quits and gone in search of easier ventures.

Brian Chesky, Joe Gebbia and Nathan Bleckharczyk, founders of Airbnb, the world’s largest hotels and accommodations aggregator were plagued with financial problems.


Heavily encumbered with debts, bankruptcy was staring at these entrepreneurs in the very eye. Yet, they did not budge. They innovated their service that made Airbnb the world leader in its field today.

Another excellent example is Colonel Harland Sanders, whose recipe for fried chicken was rejected as many as 1,009 times before it was accepted. Col. Sanders is the founder of global chain Kentucky Fried Chicken or KFC.

5. Accepting Criticism.

Most people flee from criticism of any sort. Rather than learning from negative comments arising out of their behavior or work, they take umbrage rather quickly. Yet, they do not bother to amend their behavior or work pattern.

All wealthy people, however, are different. They are willing to be criticized for introducing new ideas or thoughts.

Jeff Bezos, founder of Amazon, rightly says that those who will try and do something new must be willing to draw criticism.

Steve Jobs, founder, Apple, Inc. puts it in even stronger words: “If you want to make everyone happy, do not become a leader; sell ice cream instead.”

The success of Amazon and Apple proves their founders were right when it came to accepting criticism.

6. Out of The Box Thinking.

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Thinking outside of the ‘box’ or a typical mindset is often impossible for most people. Understandably, because everyone draws their mindset from factors and circumstances they are raised and educated in.

This mindset eventually becomes a formidable fetter for anyone wanting to become an entrepreneur. Generally, most people follow the flock and take professions they falsely believe as best suited for their skills. Others try to follow footsteps of their parents.

The wealthiest people in the world never followed flock or took lucrative professions of their parents.

Mark Zuckerberg’s father was a dentist and mom – a psychiatrist. Bill Gates’ dad was a banker father while his mother was a lawyer.

Despite coming from wealthy families, they chose to follow their passion rather than confine their thinking to the proverbial boxed mindset. Col. Sanders had lost his parents at a young age of six years and had to shoulder responsibilities of his siblings.

Other Examples of What The Wealthiest People Have in Common

As we can see, these qualities or personality traits are common to the world’s richest people. It sets them apart from others. Most of them launched small enterprises with the sole purpose of bettering the lives of people. Their products or services gained popularity because money was never their consideration. Widespread use of their technology, products, and services eventually led them to become wealthy.

These traits are not typical to the US or the western world, as one may mistakenly come to believe. A glance at some richest people in India and elsewhere also reveals, they share the same characteristics with their American counterparts. This amply proves that richest people around the world share something in common, regardless of where they live and flourish.

Another common trait that all rich people share in common is philanthropy.

Since childhood, they believe in giving back to the society and helping the underprivileged. They practiced charity when they were not so rich and continue to donate money for the betterment of the society even after becoming billionaires.

These richest people on the planet never waited to become wealthy. Instead, they were philanthropists since childhood – a trait most other people pathetically lack or try to foist upon themselves to gain popularity.

In Conclusion

It is not easy to become wealthy. Or everyone would become a millionaire. People who do make it to the top have a different way of thinking combined with an undying zest for learning new things and educating themselves.

They do not consider conventional learning at universities as the end of their education. Instead, they try and acquire new skills every day and find ways and means to become better humans rather than focusing on fattening their purses.

The world’s wealthiest people also share one common trait: they are not people pleasers, despite their generosity and willingness to serve the society. Because they know, trying to please everyone will get them nowhere and could mean possible failure.