3 Ways to Finding The Right Person for You

3 Ways to Finding The Right Person for You

Let’s admit it. Finding the right person for us is one of our life missions.

Living in denial doesn’t help. You may already be in a relationship where things aren’t going so well, or you never found Mr. right and are desperately trying to make others like you (which is a wrong approach).

Whatever your situation is, remember than you should never settle down for less than you deserve. There are some changes you can make in your life and mindset, starting today, to make sure you find the right partner and keep him.

Here’s how the journey to finding the right person begins:

1. Get clear about what you want, and what you don’t want.

Set your priorities straight for a start. But begin with what you don’t like in a potential partner.

It may be things that disappointed you in others in past relationships, the stuff you can make no compromise on, the way a person behaves that makes you feel inferior to him, or a habit that annoys you too much.

It’s better to get clear about these from the very beginning, so that you know what you’re looking for.

Once you eliminate the things you don’t want and are completely aware of them, what’s left will be the traits of a person you’d actually love to spend your life with.

Try to figure out why you don’t have a partner at this point. Be brutally honest with yourself. Analyze your strengths and weaknesses, what went wrong with people before, what feedback they gave you, etc.

It’s smart to know what to be careful with in the future and where to make changes.

2. Become your best self.

Before getting out there again and finding the right person for you, you must improve yourself so that you’re worth pursuing and can have a lot to offer.

You have all it takes to be loved by anyone, but you need to be more confident and trust yourself, to look and feel better, to develop some good habits, learn some new things and go after your life goals.

All that will make you disciplined, determined, stronger and more experienced, and you’ll become an interesting person that has a lot of awesome stuff to talk about.

3. Learn what a man/woman really wants.

It’s time to educate yourself a little in terms of relationships, psychology and love in general.

It’s worth taking the time to get to know a man’s/woman’s mind and dig deeper into what one wants from a potential partner, what they look for on a first date, what is a turn-off and what can make a person fall in love with you in a short period of time.

There are interesting conclusions you’ll come to if you read a bit on the topic.

Explore the mind of the opposite sex. Because in the beginning, when you two are still getting to know each other, it’s a game, really. You can use the right techniques, present yourself in the best way possible, hack body language, use the right words and speak in a certain way, to make sure finding the right person leads to keeping him too.

Of course, the best knowledge comes from experience. So don’t be afraid to put yourself out there, approach new people and see what works best.

In time, you’ll feel comfortable in your skin, will beat shyness and social anxiety, will know how to start a conversation and what topics to avoid the first few times. That makes finding the right person easier, and attracting him and making him pursue you is a consequence of the 3 steps above.

But that’s just the beginning. Start doing these today and look forward to welcoming your soulmate in your life soon.

Here are the next steps to finding and keeping a man and how to finally take your dating life to the next level.

So what will you start with today to make sure you’re becoming a better version of yourself, keeping your priorities straight, upgrading your game, and attracting new and awesome people in your life?

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How to Look and Sound More Confident

How to Look and Sound More Confident

We associate confident people with success. But does confidence lead to success, or does success lead to confidence?

It’s a bit of a chicken and egg scenario. But there is plenty of evidence to suggest that working on your confidence levels will indeed boost your achievements in the workplace.

The thing about confidence is that it works two ways.

On the one hand, exude confidence and your clients and colleagues will have confidence in you – self-belief is very reassuring to others!

In fact, for better or worse, the mere appearance of confidence can be more likely to get you a promotion than your actual ability! When you think of some of the dubious phonies who’ve leapfrogged you in the past, it kinda makes sense, right?

And on the other hand, confidence builds confidence within yourself. When you adopt the look and the sound of the self-assured, you begin to feel bolder on the inside. You take risks and put yourself forward for opportunities you might otherwise not have. You begin to work with clear, bold strokes rather than inching ahead in half-measures.

Great – so how to create that feeling? Well, in the long-term, you can use cognitive behavioral therapy techniques to deal with the underlying causes of your indecisiveness and lack of confidence. But in the short run, getting the aforementioned look and sound of self-belief is a fairly simple matter of adjusting the way you speak, listen, and move.

If you’re particularly shy, try starting with your hands.

Keep them out of your pockets.

Burying your hands in your pockets instantly gives the (possibly correct) impression that you are nervous or uncertain.

And even the (hopefully incorrect) impression that you are dishonest or lazy. Keeping your palms open and faced upwards is a way of opening up to those around you and exuding trust.

Likewise, a firm handshake of around two-five seconds communicates warmth and self-assuredness. A limp handshake, on the other hand, might create the impression that you feel out of your depth. And an over-strong handshake always feels like the giver is trying to prove something!

The next steps are to work on your eye contact and the way that you intone your sentences.

This can be a bit much to think about when you’re struggling with what you actually want to say. Which is why it’s best to start with the other stuff first.

But take it one stage at a time and you can gradually build a confident manner that will start to perpetuate itself by making you feel strong on the inside. For a full guide to the remaining tweaks, you can make to get that feeling, run through this new infographic from Poundplace.

 

Build your confidence back up, and success will surely follow.

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