How to Have a High Opinion of Yourself 182

How to Have a High Opinion of Yourself

If you’re not in a good relationship with yourself and don’t have a high opinion of yourself, you can’t really have a stable one with another person.

Why is that?

Maybe you don’t know how to appreciate and accept yourself for who you are. And instead focus only on your bad sides and criticize and judge yourself for what you’ve done before. And that eventually becomes your attitude toward others too.

Here’s how to fix it and have a high opinion of yourself instead:

8 Ways to Improve What You Think of Yourself

1. Know that you yourself are enough.

Some people are desperate in their desire to find a partner, to be loved, to receive attention. And their actions are desperate too. That’s why this never works out.

What you need to do instead, is realize that other people are just another outer source in which you’re seeking happiness and comfort. And they won’t really change anything until you make changes on the inside.

So understand that there’s no void inside you that needs to be filled and it’s not another person what you need the most.
It’s your own love, your own appreciation. Only then will you realize you’re worthy of being loved by others too.

2. Let go of mistakes.

Whatever bad you’ve done, it can’t be changed.
All your failures, on the other hand, are priceless lessons – they give you experience and now you know exactly what not to do again.

3. Admit your achievements.

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Once you eliminate any thoughts connected to your past mistakes, it’s time to remind yourself of your successes. And they can be found in little things.

Remember all those times you showed strength and attitude, you helped someone, achieved something, had an impressive result, reached a milestone, etc.

Admit them. Don’t feel uncomfortable to share them with others.
Once you do this, your achievements will start to define who you are. Not your failures, as it was until now.

4. Start working out.

The transformation happens mainly on the inside, as it’s your mind that needs to understand how great of a person you are.

But physical change helps a lot too. Especially working out, as it has many other benefits and can help you increase self-esteem in no time.
It will make you feel good in your own skin, you’ll see yourself becoming stronger and making progress, you’ll look better and be proud of your hard work.

5. Remove toxic people from your life.

There are people in your life that make you feel bad about yourself all the time and prevent you from having a high opinion of yourself. You don’t need them.
Even if you’ve known them for a long time, don’t be afraid to put an end to that relationship and start respecting yourself more.
After all, if they only put you down, they don’t deserve to spend any time with you.

6. Appreciate yourself for who you are.

You’re a unique human being, have been through a lot, have many ideas and dreams, good qualities and potential.
See all that. Appreciate it. Thank for it.

7. Know you’re working on improving yourself.

Once you accept who you already are, allow yourself to set some goals and make improvements.
The fact that you’re doing something about your future, or to live healthy and look better, is enough to make you more confident and motivated to actually level up.

8. Do what you love.

If you’re spending your days doing stuff you don’t really enjoy, then you won’t be happy. And you’ll be blaming yourself for that.

Be it a job, completing daily tasks that you think are important or urgent, old habits, or else. If you hate any of these, you’ll live with a constant sense of discontent.

Everything can be changed. Don’t be afraid to act upon that. You deserve to spend every hour doing something you’re passionate about.

So take some time to figure out what it is you really want, to ask yourself some questions and analyze your situation.

Doing these 8 things isn’t something that happens in a day or two. It’s a process.

Take the decision to take back control of your life today. Realize how important you are and that your bright future is still out there waiting for you. That will motivate you to take a step every day and you’ll soon see yourself become who you’ve always wanted to be.

Which of these 8 ways for having a high opinion of yourself do you find familiar? How can you fix your relationship with yourself today?

See also:
Don’t Judge Yourself Too Harshly
30 Things to Appreciate About Yourself
6 Ways Working Out Builds Fierce Confidence


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Going Minimalist in The Sharing Economy: Why It Makes Sense to Rent Our Belongings 14

Going Minimalist in The Sharing Economy: Why It Makes Sense to Rent Our Belongings

Last week, Jeremy Rifkin’s documentary “The Third Industrial Revolution: A New Sharing Economy” brought to public attention the importance that efficient sharing economies will have in coming years. The slowing of industrial productivity, coupled with the looming climate change crisis means that the game is up for the “take, make and dispose” model that we currently operate on.

This might seem a little inaccessible from the point of view of an individual. Most of us don’t have time to make lunch in the morning let alone contemplate changing economic models.

Yet the sharing economy is growing all around us, from Gumtree to Airbnb and most recently, stuff-sharing marketplaces like Fat Lama.

Born out of East-London in 2016, Fat Lama is a peer-to-peer rental platform where users can borrow items they need and rent out items that they don’t. It’s completely free to list items and operates out of your local area.

Put simply it’s a way for people to make money off their belongings and for others to gain access to equipment they might not otherwise be able to afford. However, the platform has the potential to become a lifestyle as much as a utility. Here are just a few of the benefits:

Saving The Environment

By 2022, the planet will have produced a staggering 50 million tonnes of e-waste.

This is by no means as harmless as it sounds. We are racing through computers, phones, cameras and cables at an alarming rate and worst of all, we recycle none of it.

By investing in the sharing economy and renting rather than buying, you can make a stance against the destructive and wasteful effects of linear consumerism.

To illustrate the paradigm, let’s take the example of a power drill, which, shockingly, is used for a grand total of 13 minutes on average in its life. It is a waste of money and is using up precious resources to buy such an item. Whereas if you rent from Fat Lama, the price of which is around $5 per day, you will end up saving yourself needless expenditure at no extra cost for the planet. This is not just true of drills, but Lawn Mowers, leaf blowers, cameras and projectors.

Go Local

One of the big downsides to living in an urban environment is the lack of community spirit. Cities can feel stiflingly disconnected and it is not uncommon for a resident to have never spoken to a single person on their street.

There has been efforts made to re-localize districts, with cafés bars and social hubs popping up in suburbs all over the world. However, if you are looking for something more personal, using Fat Lama puts you into contact with hundreds of locals living around you who often, given the circumstances, have the same interests as you do.

For instance, if you are looking to rent a surfboard or Kayak, chances are the owner will be an enthusiast as well. This could lead to at the very least a friendly interaction if not a friendship.

Save Money and The Planet

The other great strength of renting rather than buying that it will save you a packet.

The sharing economy is founded on the principle that limiting ownership reduces marginal costs because the cost of production storage etc. is mitigated from the equation.

To return to the power drill analogy, a low-end model will cost you around $100, which means that every minute of use is around just under $8. Unless your drill doubles up as a cocktail-maker, this seems like an enormous waste of money. In comparison, the average electric drill on Fat Lama will cost you less than $8; really it’s a no-brainer.

Make Some Moral Money

Aside from the obvious social benefits, you can turn your underused belongings into hard cash, with virtually no effort.

We have all made some questionable purchases. Whether it’s that DSLR you promised your parents you were going to use or that sound system that never get used because of you neighbours. Now they don’t have to be an ugly reminder of the lost money but active assets that can start paying for themselves. Often the money made from these items can far exceed their original price, with some users earning up to $5000 dollars a month, more than the minimum wage in any country.

These are just a few examples of the way in which renting can impact your life for the better.

Right now it’s the fastest growing sector but the possibilities are infinite. What I hope you take away from this is that being an ethical consumer doesn’t have to be a bleak future of Spartan self-control but rather a re-imagining of the way goods flow today. Clean consumerism is not a dream, it’s right in front of us.