If you’re not in a good relationship with yourself and don’t have a high opinion of yourself, you can’t really have a stable one with another person.
Why is that?
Maybe you don’t know how to appreciate and accept yourself for who you are. And instead focus only on your bad sides and criticize and judge yourself for what you’ve done before. And that eventually becomes your attitude toward others too.
Here’s how to fix it and have a high opinion of yourself instead:
8 Ways to Improve What You Think of Yourself
1. Know that you yourself are enough.
Some people are desperate in their desire to find a partner, to be loved, to receive attention. And their actions are desperate too. That’s why this never works out.
What you need to do instead, is realize that other people are just another outer source in which you’re seeking happiness and comfort. And they won’t really change anything until you make changes on the inside.
So understand that there’s no void inside you that needs to be filled and it’s not another person what you need the most.
It’s your own love, your own appreciation. Only then will you realize you’re worthy of being loved by others too.
2. Let go of mistakes.
Whatever bad you’ve done, it can’t be changed.
All your failures, on the other hand, are priceless lessons – they give you experience and now you know exactly what not to do again.
3. Admit your achievements.
Once you eliminate any thoughts connected to your past mistakes, it’s time to remind yourself of your successes. And they can be found in little things.
Remember all those times you showed strength and attitude, you helped someone, achieved something, had an impressive result, reached a milestone, etc.
Admit them. Don’t feel uncomfortable to share them with others.
Once you do this, your achievements will start to define who you are. Not your failures, as it was until now.
4. Start working out.
The transformation happens mainly on the inside, as it’s your mind that needs to understand how great of a person you are.
But physical change helps a lot too. Especially working out, as it has many other benefits and can help you increase self-esteem in no time.
It will make you feel good in your own skin, you’ll see yourself becoming stronger and making progress, you’ll look better and be proud of your hard work.
5. Remove toxic people from your life.
There are people in your life that make you feel bad about yourself all the time and prevent you from having a high opinion of yourself. You don’t need them.
Even if you’ve known them for a long time, don’t be afraid to put an end to that relationship and start respecting yourself more.
After all, if they only put you down, they don’t deserve to spend any time with you.
6. Appreciate yourself for who you are.
You’re a unique human being, have been through a lot, have many ideas and dreams, good qualities and potential.
See all that. Appreciate it. Thank for it.
7. Know you’re working on improving yourself.
Once you accept who you already are, allow yourself to set some goals and make improvements.
The fact that you’re doing something about your future, or to live healthy and look better, is enough to make you more confident and motivated to actually level up.
8. Do what you love.
If you’re spending your days doing stuff you don’t really enjoy, then you won’t be happy. And you’ll be blaming yourself for that.
Be it a job, completing daily tasks that you think are important or urgent, old habits, or else. If you hate any of these, you’ll live with a constant sense of discontent.
Everything can be changed. Don’t be afraid to act upon that. You deserve to spend every hour doing something you’re passionate about.
So take some time to figure out what it is you really want, to ask yourself some questions and analyze your situation.
Doing these 8 things isn’t something that happens in a day or two. It’s a process.
Take the decision to take back control of your life today. Realize how important you are and that your bright future is still out there waiting for you. That will motivate you to take a step every day and you’ll soon see yourself become who you’ve always wanted to be.
Which of these 8 ways for having a high opinion of yourself do you find familiar? How can you fix your relationship with yourself today?