The Golden Rules for Defining Your Goals 90

The Golden Rules for Defining Your Goals

This is a guest post by Marie Nieves – a student and a blogger who loves unusual trips, gadgets, creative ideas, photography, interior and exterior design and more. You can find her on Facebook or follow her on Twitter and G+.

Without goals, and plans to reach them, you are like a ship that has set sail with no destination.
Fitzhugh Dodson

Have you ever thought about where you will be five, ten or even twenty years from now? Though it might sound silly to you to set goals you are not sure you can achieve, however, if you do not do that, you will find yourself wandering on the open sea, left at the mercy of the harsh winds.

A goal is much more than a dream that cannot come true. It is a destination for which you have to have a plan and a map. To prevent your life goal from becoming a distant dream, you will have to think carefully about defining it.

Make a List

This may be oddly similar to New Year’s resolutions, but it is something that will make the process of defining and achieving your goals much easier. Think about what you really want in life and what you can achieve if you put some effort into it.

What is the main ambition you have? What would be your biggest regret if left undone?

All of these things are goal destinations. Define them in one sentence and think about what should be done to get there.

Set a Timeframe

Some of these destinations will have a certain “shelf-life” which will depend on your age, finance, health and other circumstances. Because of that, it is crucial to set a timeframe for each of them, so you would not lose sight of what is important and when they can take place. One will have to happen the very next year, for instance, while some others can wait for five years or cannot even be implemented for the next ten years.

Know Your Stepping Stones

Stepping stones are the small sub-goals which will help you achieve a major one. They can be some sort of certificate, education, acquiring a new skill, moving to another city, etc. Define all the small actions that need to be done in order to make your ambitions achievable, write down each and every one of them, so you could keep track of your progress.

Reward Yourself

Keeping track of your progress is important because you need to be aware of every success – no matter how small and insignificant it may seem – it matters because it is telling you that you can do it. Every subgoal deserves an appropriate award, while every major goal should be appreciated even more and celebrated accordingly.

Living in the Present

Sometimes even the smallest daily problems and causes of stress can be sufficient for you to lose track of what really matters. Do not allow such interferences disturb your compass. Instead, find an efficient way of dealing with them.

That can be some hobby, sport, music or a spiritual retreat which will give you the opportunity to find deeper meaning of life and focus on achieving your goals. If you feel the need, you can even attend a personal counseling session to regain your inner balance.

Be Willing to Redefine

Once you set a goal (regardless of whether we are talking about short-term or long-term goals) you should stick to it and do your best to achieve it.

Still, if you find that, for some reason, there is no real chance to do things exactly as you have planned, then change the rules a bit. That does not mean you should entirely give up on your plans, but to change your perspective and search for different solutions. The important thing is to realize that it is not the end of the world when that happens.

Having goals and plans to achieve them is what separates successful people from the ones who are not. Do not allow your ambitions to remain unattainable dreams, because you did not have the courage to see where you stand and fight for where you want to be.

The inspiration for this post is a product of creative exchange of ideas with the professionals from Living Valley Health Retreat.

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What the Richest People in the World Have in Common 6

What the Richest People in the World Have in Common

Getting rich is something everyone dreams about.

For those facing financial hardships, getting rich seems the only way out to tide over shortage of money. For the bourgeoisie – the working class – getting rich conjures up visions of stuff they want to buy for luxury or higher social status. Millionaires also wish to get rich: they want to become billionaires and enter Forbes List of the world’s wealthiest people.

Unless you inherit a fortune or get lucky at lottery or sweepstakes, getting rich can be quite tough.

Yet, there are countless rags-to-riches stories around the world. Enterprises such as Amazon, KFC, Facebook or SpaceX have become runaway successes within a short span. The reason: their founders have several things in common, which is rare among other people.

Here we look at various traits that the world’s richest and most successful entrepreneurs have in common.

The Common Traits of The World’s Richest People

The Common Traits of The World's Richest People

1. Serving People.

“If your only goal is to become rich, you will never achieve it,” said John D. Rockefeller, who laid the foundation stone for America’s giant petroleum industry and his own enterprise, Standard Oil. The same adage holds good today.

Facebook, for example, was launched by Mark Zuckerberg and his roommate, Eduardo Saverin to allow Harvard University students to share profiles and pictures

There are countless such examples of ordinary people striking rich. However, they share one thing in common: serving people. The main objective of launching these enterprises was to make life easier or enjoyable for people rather than earning money.

2. Reading Books.

Microsoft founder Bill Gates, celebrity TV show host Oprah Winfrey, SpaceX and Tesla CEO Elon Musk, Berkshire-Hathaway CEO Warren Buffet and several other extremely rich people of the world have one more thing in common: they are avid readers.

Bill Gates reads at least 50 books every year – an average of nearly four and a half books per month.

Elon Musk owes his success at SpaceX, the project to open space tourism to his love for books and the knowledge he gained from them about rocketry. Oprah Winfrey attributes her success to dozens of books, including some 70 top titles she read on her way to success while Warren Buffet spends about 80 percent of his day reading books.

3. Long-Term Financial Strategies.

A report by CNBC states, all wealthy people depend upon long-term financial strategies rather than short-term gains. They utilized their earnings and savings to invest in safe stocks that would assure gains in the long run rather than indulging in risky trading that can offer high returns.

Such financial planning and decisions ensured they do not lose money. Further, they invested money in their enterprises without the hope of immediate returns.

These wealthy people first focused on building a brand, offering value for people to identify with the brand. And later, popularize the brand through word-of-mouth publicity, which is more effective than traditional advertising.

4. Never Say Die.

Yet another common character trait shared by the world’s richest people is, they are not quitters.

Like every other human on Earth, these wealthy folks also witnessed ups and downs in life. Some of these were so overwhelming most ordinary people would have called it quits and gone in search of easier ventures.

Brian Chesky, Joe Gebbia and Nathan Bleckharczyk, founders of Airbnb, the world’s largest hotels and accommodations aggregator were plagued with financial problems.


Heavily encumbered with debts, bankruptcy was staring at these entrepreneurs in the very eye. Yet, they did not budge. They innovated their service that made Airbnb the world leader in its field today.

Another excellent example is Colonel Harland Sanders, whose recipe for fried chicken was rejected as many as 1,009 times before it was accepted. Col. Sanders is the founder of global chain Kentucky Fried Chicken or KFC.

5. Accepting Criticism.

Most people flee from criticism of any sort. Rather than learning from negative comments arising out of their behavior or work, they take umbrage rather quickly. Yet, they do not bother to amend their behavior or work pattern.

All wealthy people, however, are different. They are willing to be criticized for introducing new ideas or thoughts.

Jeff Bezos, founder of Amazon, rightly says that those who will try and do something new must be willing to draw criticism.

Steve Jobs, founder, Apple, Inc. puts it in even stronger words: “If you want to make everyone happy, do not become a leader; sell ice cream instead.”

The success of Amazon and Apple proves their founders were right when it came to accepting criticism.

6. Out of The Box Thinking.

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Thinking outside of the ‘box’ or a typical mindset is often impossible for most people. Understandably, because everyone draws their mindset from factors and circumstances they are raised and educated in.

This mindset eventually becomes a formidable fetter for anyone wanting to become an entrepreneur. Generally, most people follow the flock and take professions they falsely believe as best suited for their skills. Others try to follow footsteps of their parents.

The wealthiest people in the world never followed flock or took lucrative professions of their parents.

Mark Zuckerberg’s father was a dentist and mom – a psychiatrist. Bill Gates’ dad was a banker father while his mother was a lawyer.

Despite coming from wealthy families, they chose to follow their passion rather than confine their thinking to the proverbial boxed mindset. Col. Sanders had lost his parents at a young age of six years and had to shoulder responsibilities of his siblings.

Other Examples of What The Wealthiest People Have in Common

As we can see, these qualities or personality traits are common to the world’s richest people. It sets them apart from others. Most of them launched small enterprises with the sole purpose of bettering the lives of people. Their products or services gained popularity because money was never their consideration. Widespread use of their technology, products, and services eventually led them to become wealthy.

These traits are not typical to the US or the western world, as one may mistakenly come to believe. A glance at some richest people in India and elsewhere also reveals, they share the same characteristics with their American counterparts. This amply proves that richest people around the world share something in common, regardless of where they live and flourish.

Another common trait that all rich people share in common is philanthropy.

Since childhood, they believe in giving back to the society and helping the underprivileged. They practiced charity when they were not so rich and continue to donate money for the betterment of the society even after becoming billionaires.

These richest people on the planet never waited to become wealthy. Instead, they were philanthropists since childhood – a trait most other people pathetically lack or try to foist upon themselves to gain popularity.

In Conclusion

It is not easy to become wealthy. Or everyone would become a millionaire. People who do make it to the top have a different way of thinking combined with an undying zest for learning new things and educating themselves.

They do not consider conventional learning at universities as the end of their education. Instead, they try and acquire new skills every day and find ways and means to become better humans rather than focusing on fattening their purses.

The world’s wealthiest people also share one common trait: they are not people pleasers, despite their generosity and willingness to serve the society. Because they know, trying to please everyone will get them nowhere and could mean possible failure.